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missyQween:
Lol...Are you matchmaking?

Empiree:
nope, but we can start from here. mclatunji and sissie are

missyQween:
Lol...What makes you think I am ready to be matched make...

Empiree:
cus we never know. There can be "accidental love" here. Thought his comment was recent. Didnt know it was far back as '04

Amoto94:
I would love to get married soon in sha Allāh. Wife must be an athari in creed hope to find one here or elsewhere

missyQween:
Are you an Ebira ? just asking because of your name

Amoto94:
Yes I am

missyQween:
Can you speak?

Amoto94:
Yes I can speak

missyQween:
Okay then...I am from there too

Amoto94:
Yes I am

Demmzy15:
Moo oh!!! I hope I got it right!

Amoto94:
Can you speak the language?

missyQween:
Yeah

EmmGee:
Wa alaikum salaam.
The pet issue is a no no.. i can't think of an animal that i could use as such.
I like cats (or i think i do) i look at cat pictures and admire them. But honestly they freak me out.
Birds? I like them, i like them too but not to the level of making it a pet.
I HATE dogs, plus they're haram.

Anyway i think if i find a girl i truly love, i won't get "tired" of her.
Plus, with the roommate ish. I found a solution.

Mofpearl:
Found this to be very comprehensive. Posting because it might help someone else.

100 PRE MARITAL QUESTIONS

What is your concept of marriage?
Have you been married before?
Are you married now?
What are you expectations of marriage?
What are your goals in life? (long and short term)
Identify three things that you want to accomplish in the near future.
Identify three things that you want to accomplish, long term.
Why have you chosen me/other person as a potential spouse?

What is the role of religion in your life now?
Are you a spiritual person?
What is your understanding of an Islamic marriage?
What are you expecting of your spouse, religiously?
What is your relationship between yourself and the Muslims community in your area?
Are you volunteering in any Islamic activities?

What can you offer your zawj (spouse), spiritually?
What is the role of the husband?
What is the role of the wife?
Do you want to practice polygamy?
What is your relationship with your family?
What do you expect your relationship with the family of your spouse to be?
What do you expect your spouses relationship with your family to be?
Is there anyone in your family living with you now?
Are you planning to have anyone in your family live with you in the future?

If, for any reason, my relationship with your family turns sour, what should be done?
Who are your friends? (Identify at least three.)
How did you get to know them?
Why are they your friends?
What do you like most about them?
What will your relationship with them after marriage be?

Do you have friends of the opposite sex?
What is the level of your relationship with them now?
What will be the level of your relationship with them after marriage?
What type of relationship do you want your spouse to have with your friends?
What are the things that you do in your free time?
Do you love to have guests in your home for entertainment?
What are you expecting from your spouse when your friends come to the house?
What is your opinion of speaking other languages in home that I do not understand? (with friends or family)

Do you travel?
How do you spend your vacations?
How do you think your spouse should spend vacations?
Do you read?
What do you read?
After marriage, do you think that you are one to express romantic feelings verbally?
After marriage, do you think that you want to express affection in public?
How do you express your admiration for someone that you know now?
How do you express your feelings to someone who has done a favor for you?
Do you like to write your feelings?

If you wrong someone, how do you apologize?
If someone has wronged you, how do you want (s)he to apologize to you?
How much time passes before you can forgive someone?
How do you make important and less important decisions in your life?
Do you use foul language at home? In public? With family?
Do your friends use foul language?
Does your family use foul language?

How do you express anger?
How do you expect your spouse to express anger?
What do you do when you are angry?
When do you think it is appropriate to initiate mediation in marriage?
When there is a dispute in your marriage, religious or otherwise, how should the conflict get resolved?
Define mental, verbal, emotional and physical abuse.
What would you do if you felt that you had been abused?
Who would you call for assistance if you were being abused?
Do you suffer from any chronic disease or condition?
Are you willing to take a physical exam by a physician before marriage?
What is your understanding of proper health and nutrition?
How do you support your own health and nutrition?

What is you definition of wealth?
How do you spend money?
How do you save money?
How do you think that your use of money will change after marriage?
Do you have any debts now? If so, how are you making progress to eliminate them?
Do you use credit cards?
Do you support the idea of taking loans to buy a new home?
What are you expecting from your spouse financially?
What is your financial responsibility in the marriage?
Do you support the idea of a working wife?
If so, how do you think a dual-income family should manage funds?
Do you currently use a budget to manage your finances?
Who are the people to whom you are financially responsible?
Do you support the idea of utilizing baby sitters and/or maids?
Do you want to have children? If not, how come?
To the best of your understanding, are you able to have children?
Do you want to have children in the first two years of marriage? If not, when?
Do you believe in abortion?
Do you have children now?
What is your relationship with your children now?
What is your relationship with their other parent?
What relationship do you expect your spouse to have with your children and their parent?

What is the best method(s) of raising children?
What is the best method(s) of disciplining children?
How were you raised?
How were you disciplined?
Do you believe in spanking children? Under what circumstances?
Do you believe in public school for your children?
Do you believe in Islamic school for your children?
Do you believe in home schooling for your children?
What type of relationship should your children have with non-Muslim classmates/friends?
Would you send your children to visit their extended family if they lived in another state or country?
What type of relationship do you want your children to have with all their grandparents?
If there are members of my family that are not Muslim, that are of different race or culture, what type of relationship do you want to have with them?

...............
Modified to include my own questions
Asides family relatives, do you have non-mahram contacts on your phone? If you do who are they?
Do you watch movies?
Do you listen to music?
How do you spend your weekend- do you invite friends over every weekend(if you do who will cook for them) or spend time with family?
Are you a gamer? If you are, how many hours a day do you spend playing video games?
Do you smoke or drink alcohol?
Do you have a problem with eating outside?
How important is food to you?
How do you think couples should make their decisions? Should they both discuss it together or does the head make the decision and wife follows?
If you and your spouse were to have a fight, who would you talk to?
Do you get up for Fajr?
Do you have a problem moving to a different country or state?

After all the asking questions- find out where suitor lives and ask people in the neighborhood about them. It's unfortunate but people lie about themselves during proposal.

Mofpearl:
Found this to be very comprehensive. Posting because it might help someone else.

100 PRE MARITAL QUESTIONS

What is your concept of marriage?
Have you been married before?
Are you married now?
What are you expectations of marriage?
What are your goals in life? (long and short term)
Identify three things that you want to accomplish in the near future.
Identify three things that you want to accomplish, long term.
Why have you chosen me/other person as a potential spouse?

What is the role of religion in your life now?
Are you a spiritual person?
What is your understanding of an Islamic marriage?
What are you expecting of your spouse, religiously?
What is your relationship between yourself and the Muslims community in your area?
Are you volunteering in any Islamic activities?

What can you offer your zawj (spouse), spiritually?
What is the role of the husband?
What is the role of the wife?
Do you want to practice polygamy?
What is your relationship with your family?
What do you expect your relationship with the family of your spouse to be?
What do you expect your spouses relationship with your family to be?
Is there anyone in your family living with you now?
Are you planning to have anyone in your family live with you in the future?

If, for any reason, my relationship with your family turns sour, what should be done?
Who are your friends? (Identify at least three.)
How did you get to know them?
Why are they your friends?
What do you like most about them?
What will your relationship with them after marriage be?

Do you have friends of the opposite sex?
What is the level of your relationship with them now?
What will be the level of your relationship with them after marriage?
What type of relationship do you want your spouse to have with your friends?
What are the things that you do in your free time?
Do you love to have guests in your home for entertainment?
What are you expecting from your spouse when your friends come to the house?
What is your opinion of speaking other languages in home that I do not understand? (with friends or family)

Do you travel?
How do you spend your vacations?
How do you think your spouse should spend vacations?
Do you read?
What do you read?
After marriage, do you think that you are one to express romantic feelings verbally?
After marriage, do you think that you want to express affection in public?
How do you express your admiration for someone that you know now?
How do you express your feelings to someone who has done a favor for you?
Do you like to write your feelings?

If you wrong someone, how do you apologize?
If someone has wronged you, how do you want (s)he to apologize to you?
How much time passes before you can forgive someone?
How do you make important and less important decisions in your life?
Do you use foul language at home? In public? With family?
Do your friends use foul language?
Does your family use foul language?

How do you express anger?
How do you expect your spouse to express anger?
What do you do when you are angry?
When do you think it is appropriate to initiate mediation in marriage?
When there is a dispute in your marriage, religious or otherwise, how should the conflict get resolved?
Define mental, verbal, emotional and physical abuse.
What would you do if you felt that you had been abused?
Who would you call for assistance if you were being abused?
Do you suffer from any chronic disease or condition?
Are you willing to take a physical exam by a physician before marriage?
What is your understanding of proper health and nutrition?
How do you support your own health and nutrition?

What is you definition of wealth?
How do you spend money?
How do you save money?
How do you think that your use of money will change after marriage?
Do you have any debts now? If so, how are you making progress to eliminate them?
Do you use credit cards?
Do you support the idea of taking loans to buy a new home?
What are you expecting from your spouse financially?
What is your financial responsibility in the marriage?
Do you support the idea of a working wife?
If so, how do you think a dual-income family should manage funds?
Do you currently use a budget to manage your finances?
Who are the people to whom you are financially responsible?
Do you support the idea of utilizing baby sitters and/or maids?
Do you want to have children? If not, how come?
To the best of your understanding, are you able to have children?
Do you want to have children in the first two years of marriage? If not, when?
Do you believe in abortion?
Do you have children now?
What is your relationship with your children now?
What is your relationship with their other parent?
What relationship do you expect your spouse to have with your children and their parent?

What is the best method(s) of raising children?
What is the best method(s) of disciplining children?
How were you raised?
How were you disciplined?
Do you believe in spanking children? Under what circumstances?
Do you believe in public school for your children?
Do you believe in Islamic school for your children?
Do you believe in home schooling for your children?
What type of relationship should your children have with non-Muslim classmates/friends?
Would you send your children to visit their extended family if they lived in another state or country?
What type of relationship do you want your children to have with all their grandparents?
If there are members of my family that are not Muslim, that are of different race or culture, what type of relationship do you want to have with them?

...............
Modified to include my own questions
Asides family relatives, do you have non-mahram contacts on your phone? If you do who are they?
Do you watch movies?
Do you listen to music?
How do you spend your weekend- do you invite friends over every weekend(if you do who will cook for them) or spend time with family?
Are you a gamer? If you are, how many hours a day do you spend playing video games?
Do you smoke or drink alcohol?
Do you have a problem with eating outside?
How important is food to you?
How do you think couples should make their decisions? Should they both discuss it together or does the head make the decision and wife follows?
If you and your spouse were to have a fight, who would you talk to?
Do you get up for Fajr?
Do you have a problem moving to a different country or state?

After all the asking questions- find out where suitor lives and ask people in the neighborhood about them. It's unfortunate but people lie about themselves during proposal.

Empiree:
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loshybab:
I never knew the Islam section of this forum is this awesome, to say the least.So many inspiring and mind-blowing posts from brothers and sisters alike.







JazakumuLlah khayran!

Ssthorm:
Let me drop this here...

Empiree:
you trouble maker
I saw your post in the other thread too bothering the brothers. Chai, how do you live with yourself

Ssthorm:
Lol.. y'all keep bothering us too much ne kawai... it gets tiring at times.

Empiree:
both sides are guilty

Empiree:
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Empiree:
Welcome Aboard. wa iyyakum

Ssthorm:
Lol.. y'all keep bothering us too much ne kawai... it gets tiring at times.

loshybab:
I presume you're a sister...
washeere hajia #thumbUp