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sexybbstar:
This story reminds me of a guy that refused to ask me out because he was in 100l and i was in sss1.Now, I'm outta school and he's still in 500L(LAUTECH) ,he wants me now but kolewerk.Mi o r'aye.Though if he asked me out then,i would not accept because i was scared of the opposite sex.

oya make me Graduate ask u out.

I sense u're Uniosun Alumi

sexybbstar:
This story reminds me of a guy that refused to ask me out because he was in 100l and i was in sss1.Now, I'm outta school and he's still in 500L(LAUTECH) ,he wants me now but kolewerk.Mi o r'aye.Though if he asked me out then,i would not accept because i was scared of the opposite sex.

oya make me Graduate ask u out.

I sense u're Uniosun Alumni

tosyne2much:
As an intending graduate considering to settle down shortly after school, it's not advisable you even date a girl in 200l let alone a girl that is still in the league of seeking admission into the university. It will make more sense for you to look for a lady with similar ideology.. Reason being that these ladies are usually not reliable, they are easily swayed and are susceptible to little temptations, so forget about this "marry her and let her further her education", things do not really work out as easy as we think

The truth is better they say

I think you are right. A girl that just finished secondary school is obviously still a teenager. Though dating a teenager is not wrong, but when you get serious and start thinking of marrying them, you'll certainly face one problem that is common among teenagers and even girls in their early 20. Their problem is Lack of commitment. I am speaking from experience because I've dated teenagers twice in my life.
Just like the Op is secretly admiring her, she might also be secretly admiring him and look forward to dating him. But once you start dating her and commit yourself to her, she won't commit herself to you and won't do much to keep the relationship going. She will start mingling with others guys once she got admission and will Sometimes forget that you still exist. They don't care how you feel about their lack of commitment. This is exactly what I am facing now with the teenage girl I'm dating. She loves me but she just can't commit herself to the relationship. She wants to mingle with the wrong guys who have nothing good to add to her life. This also, is a general problem with our young girls. They will see a good guy they love, but just can't commit to him while they are still young. It's only when they are very close to 30 that they'll wake up and start committing themselves to relationships.
You may date a teenager but don't commit yourself too much to such relationship if you don't want disappointment or heart break.

gentlegenius:
Hmmm...

Abi wetin you think egbon?

tosyne2much:
Abi wetin you think egbon?

Egbon??
I just edited what I wrote earlier... Refresh and check again.

gentlegenius:
I think you are right. A girl that just finished secondary school is obviously still a teenager. Though dating a teenager is not wrong, but when you get serious and start thinking of marrying them, you'll certainly face one problem that is common among teenagers and even girls in their early 20. Their problem is Lack of commitment. I am speaking from experience because I've dated teenagers twice in my life.
Just like the Op is secretly admiring her, she might also be secretly admiring him and look forward to dating him. But once you start dating her and commit yourself to her, she won't commit herself to you and won't do much to keep the relationship going. She will start mingling with others guys once she got admission and will Sometimes forget that you still exist. They don't care how you feel about their lack of commitment. This is exactly what I am facing now with the teenage girl I'm dating. She loves me but she just can't commit herself to the relationship. She wants to mingle with the wrong guys who have nothing good to add to her life. This also, is a general problem with our young girls. They will see a good guy they love, but just can't commit to him while they are still young. It's only when they are very close to 30 that they'll wake up and start committing themselves to relationships.

You may date a teenager but don't commit yourself too much to such relationship if you don't want disappointment or heart break.

My brother you have said it all.. Case closed!

Don't put high hopes on ladies that are still very young especially when you're looking for aife partner (teenagers and ladies in their early twenties) otherwise, they will starve you of commitment and you will be disappointed

Undergraduates are unstable.

Be ready for a story that touch.

LalasticSeun:
You want to marry an undergraduate girl
....thought you said you studied medicine, unfortunately you don't sound like a literate

una reali think becus u hav a fone u cn say nonsense to anyone? D guy is seeking advice and u r saying he doesnt sound literate... Do u think u r better than undergraduate gals? Or what makes d gal less of a woman? Becus shes an undergraduate

gentlegenius:
I think you are right. A girl that just finished secondary school is obviously still a teenager. Though dating a teenager is not wrong, but when you get serious and start thinking of marrying them, you'll certainly face one problem that is common among teenagers and even girls in their early 20. Their problem is Lack of commitment. I am speaking from experience because I've dated teenagers twice in my life.
Just like the Op is secretly admiring her, she might also be secretly admiring him and look forward to dating him. But once you start dating her and commit yourself to her, she won't commit herself to you and won't do much to keep the relationship going. She will start mingling with others guys once she got admission and will Sometimes forget that you still exist. They don't care how you feel about their lack of commitment. This is exactly what I am facing now with the teenage girl I'm dating. She loves me but she just can't commit herself to the relationship. She wants to mingle with the wrong guys who have nothing good to add to her life. This also, is a general problem with our young girls. They will see a good guy they love, but just can't commit to him while they are still young. It's only when they are very close to 30 that they'll wake up and start committing themselves to relationships.
You may date a teenager but don't commit yourself too much to such relationship if you don't want disappointment or heart break.

young gals dont commit?? Dis is ridiculous,.. How many teeagers have you dated to come up with this, just 2... I pity any guy dat yield to dat ur advice...

Stellie:
young gals dont commit?? Dis is ridiculous,.. How many teeagers have you dated to come up with this, just 2... I pity any guy dat yield to dat ur advice...

Babe... Though I've only officially dated 2 teenagers, I have also had so many experiences with them. I know lots of people who dated teenage girls with plans to marry them after their teenage age only to be disappointed at the end. I even heard a story how my aunty dated a very good and caring guy in her secondary school days. The guy wanted to marry her when she finish school. He was even paying her school fees and provides everything she needed to be comfortable. He cared so much about her but my aunty just stupidly refused to commit herself to the relationship, she keeps frustrating the guy to the extent he had to leave her alone. Today the guy is a multi millionaire, happily married while my aunty is still struggling to survive with her 2 kids after running away from an army man she married who was a severe wife batterer. She now lives a life of hopelessness and regret.
The fact that teenagers lack commitment in a relationship is not something we should debate. There are clear reasons why they can't commit: 1. They simply don't know what they want from life and Sometimes, don't even know what is good for them. 2. They often makes lots of mistakes just as the saying goes "Youth is the time for mistakes while old age is the time for regrets". 3. Inexperience and fear of the unknown. 4. They want to explore life and do what other young girls are doing. 5. They are afraid of marrying early. 6. They don't fear losing a potential suitor because they believe they are still young and still have time to meet better suitors.

These are true fact that can't be denied.

Kayus4real:
I met this girl through my friend recently. She's my friend's cousin. She's calm, cool and beautiful. She finished her secondary school education this year and she's awaiting her admission in to the university. I told my friend that I like her. My friend without informing me told her mum about my interest in her. The mum was glad about the news. She however called and asked me if I really like her as I claim. I replied yes I do. Her mum however gave me the go ahead to ask her out. Now the problem is that... I am in my final year in the medical school. And I'll be considering marriage as soon as I am done. I'm thinking I could meet another girl later who probably would be done with her studies and marry. I love this girl so much that I don't want to lose her in the end. Should I tell the girl about my love her or not? I need your advice nairalanders...

U want to taste her nunu abi

Kayus4real:
I met this girl through my friend recently. She's my friend's cousin. She's calm, cool and beautiful. She finished her secondary school education this year and she's awaiting her admission in to the university. I told my friend that I like her. My friend without informing me told her mum about my interest in her. The mum was glad about the news. She however called and asked me if I really like her as I claim. I replied yes I do. Her mum however gave me the go ahead to ask her out. Now the problem is that... I am in my final year in the medical school. And I'll be considering marriage as soon as I am done. I'm thinking I could meet another girl later who probably would be done with her studies and marry. I love this girl so much that I don't want to lose her in the end. Should I tell the girl about my love her or not? I need your advice nairalanders...

My young man,let me advice you sincerely.
You are having an illusion not love.The lady in question and the mum doesn't know you
.l guess the mum is saying yes on hearing you are a Medical Student in Final year.lt is normal because an average parent especially mum needs protection of her girls(not 6packs protection) rather cash n resource person's pack.Where is their father?l hope his voice counts?Ur parents can't spend all this long time for you to graduate and you end up putting them again and yourself waiting for her to graduate.Lol(ru a waiter!).
Now what is that benefit u can derive from her after marriage apart from she is "pretty looking",and nothing more that u know.D more reason I called it an "illusion".Ur are not even sure of her love and submission to you.Pls my final advice is for you to move on with your studies and graduate,then move on to secure house job.Along the line you will SURELY meet ladies that will add value to you and love u for "who they know u are and not for what you are".My little advice!Thank me after 4years.

Ur thoughts towards her evil..bringing her to an unexpected end