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IAMSASHY:
U tried to make it work bt he wsnt interested, tank God u hv moved on, beta offer coming ur way soonest.

I swear it, sometimes we try so hard to fix what can't be fixed, to make a relationship work, if its me, at a point, I just get tired and move on.

you really have got alot of time to waste on a toothless monkey..who does that,,??nawa

sekxy:
you really have got alot of time to waste on a toothless monkey..who does that,,??nawa

U no easy morning dear
Can't the girl get a life too
Jheez who wants one guy staying at home seff in my space 24/7 na ...

Lalas247:
U no easy morning dear
Can't the girl get a life too
Jheez who wants one guy staying at home seff in my space 24/7 na ...

lol,goodmorning to you dear, instead of some of our girls to invest the time they waste on those fake ass niqurs on something more profitable,they will chose to whine their life out.
..it's obvious the guy is not into her,he has been playing mind game with her..

dingbang:
One question...


What's making you to keep holding on?

Honestly am amazed too.

Op u really have patience to allow unserious guy into your life. My dear u don't need this emotional stress.
Quit the relationship already and be with someone who truly loves companionship.

Not this merry go round game.

U really try.

Three weeks with this drama?
I don waka, no time 2 waste time.


Op call it off already.

alexialin:
Honestly am amazed too.

Op u really have patience to allow unserious guy into your life. My dear u don't need this emotional stress.
Quit the relationship already and be with someone who truly loves companionship.

Not this merry go round game.

U really try.

Three weeks with this drama?
I don waka, no time 2 waste time.


Op call it off already.

I just think she is blinded by the fact that the guy is made already... To me, I think the guy doesn't even like her. Like she is just forcing herself on him

dingbang:
I just think she is blinded by the fact that the guy is made already... To me, I think the guy doesn't even like her. Like she is just forcing herself on him

You are right o

Made and handsome.

Av seen such type before. Immediately I notice some traits like this, with arrogance here and there.
Quickly I shift gear, can't waste my freaking time on such type of men.

Nah am bigger than that.
Pure waste of time and resources.

She should quickly cut him off from her mind and heart.
No use.

pcguru1:
Lol I thought women were looking for Career driven and ambitious men. I think OP should move on there are guys looking for her kind all the best.

I for one want a driven person, dnt get it twisted, this is a different situation, u can't be in a relationship and you have never ever had time even once to spend with ur partner! Makes no sense. Someone already said it, women thrive on attention. But all the points u made the first time in the first post are valid.

sekxy:
lol,goodmorning to you dear, instead of some of our girls to invest the time they waste on those fake ass niqurs on something more profitable,they will chose to whine their life out.
..it's obvious the guy is not into her,he has been playing mind game with her..

Does she sound like she doesn't have a life, I think the story is detailed enough to get the picture, its not about whining, some people cannot really understand a situation except they are in it or have experienced it.

dingbang:
I just think she is blinded by the fact that the guy is made already... To me, I think the guy doesn't even like her. Like she is just forcing herself on him

What part of her post makes u think she is blinded by he is made, infact what part of the post said he is made? She spends her own money, she said so.

Fabsis:
First phase of a seeming relationship with this guy, he works in IT yes they go home as late as 9-10pm daily, but even from the first week of the relationship I had to go visit him at his office which is just a stone throw from mine. The weekend meeting/date we were to have didn't happen because he said he was ill. He never set up a proper date, I know where he works, he never knew mine.

Every weekend became quarrels, because all he would say is I do plan for us to see, I wish to, I want to, It is my intention... words and words but no action, the only times we see are the 5 - 10 minutes when I stop by his workplace and he comes out and spares a moment because he is busy. I send him a facebook friend request, he does not respond for up to 2 weeks even though I keep telling him to accept the request.

Then I throw tantrums and say I will walk because I cannot imagine how a guy cannot meet me or make time, then he promises he will not go to work on a certain day I can come to his place, oh yeah I don't know his place either. I am always ready to create the time if it means us moving forward, so I am ready on the said day, its already a bit funny its his place he is saying I come, which means its still me going to him not him coming to me or we both meeting somewhere, but I still tag along. He pushes the meeting hour on the said day ahead he said he did not go to work, he keeps pushing the hour ahead till he says he is at a meeting maybe I will meet him after the meeting, @5pm day is almost over and he says why don't I come by his office? I simply ignore him, and I go home so dissapointed, let down and hurt. I tell him later (we mostly talk through chat) that I do not wish for him to contact me again, I do not want to be rude, but what he did that day tore me inside. So he kept trying to message I just block him, and try to get over it.

He did not call or maybe even try to locate me and explain, I expected that maybe he would do so since he always says he cares but not by actions. Over the next 3months once or twice he tries to chat I brush him off. He never physically knew where I live either.

On a certain evening he says goodevening, I respond, we start talking again, says I have been ruthless, that he wishes I understand how demanding their work is, even their bosses have problems with their wives. I say okay fine he is forgiven but in my mind I have no intention of continuing, he then keeps chatting asking me things like what have I eaten, I then tell him I uncomfortable with those questions I do not wish to waste my time or that of another person, I make it clear I am searching for a true and meaningful connection with someone which I can grow. He then says lets redifine everything and claims he wants a true relationship... I give in again, I tell him clearly no matter how busy u have to create time even if once a week, we have to spend time together. he agrees, all this talk on phone.

First saturday of second phase when we are supposed to meet , he claims he is coming to my office, calls me at 4 or thereabts that his office car he drives broke down, so I shd please come by his office, I laugh and say that is history repeating itself, so its me that shd come again and meet him, I say I am heading home, cuz I was at work too, He calls me and rants abt how truthful he is, I shd understand, he wants to make things right this time, he really had a car break down,
I dnt want to be evil, so I go to him. we talk abit, he lets me in on his life and plans etc.

next few weeks, same ish, same me complaining, weekends come and go, its either he is sick or goes to work sunday, one excuse or the other, there was sallah break he traveled all through the days of the break, suffice to say in all the months I have still known this dude he never made time for us, only genuine thing abt him is we chat through the day, tells me where he is whats up with him when he gets home etc. One weekened he says his cousin is traveling to France and the guy wants him and his siblings around, IF he finishes at that visit ontime we will see, so seeing is always tied around a condition, and it still wnt even happen.

2months into second phase, I still dnt know physical location of his house and now I change jobs so he never got to know my office which was closer to him. I tell myself this isnt still working ... ontop of that he goes almost incommunicado for a week anddznt respond to messages, when he comes back, says he had some family issues that shook him which he could not share... That sort of breaks the bond however small left which I had to him.

Other funny traits he has, even when I said my salary wasnt paid on time and I dont have credit or I am so broke, he never helps out, now before anyone attacks saying girls like money, no I spend my own money, and almost everytime I visited him I would buy him something, He has never bought me anything, or spent a naira for me, not even during the first phase when had my birthday, he did not even see me that day either.

So are my demands too high? At this stage I am not even remembering he exists after he pulled the something happened to him that he cant share move, since I am not that much a part of his life... I am happy to be able to forget him naturally but I still respond to his hellos, I dnt want to be bitter and angry like the first time I want to treat him like an old friend.

When one is searching for love, this can be some of the humiliating experiences. Please your thoughts, and no insults people.

hmmmn, my dear your are the real definition of patience o. seriously, you tried. but obviously, the guy is not into you at all. I think he has someone he spends his time with because the truth is, if someone loves you, he will create time to be with you. don't worry. someone better who deserves you 100% will come soon. #hugs#

Brightgem:
What part of her post makes u think she is blinded by he is made, infact what part of the post said he is made? She spends her own money, she said so.

so why is she now complaining why isn't he giving her money instead, u forgot to see that part didn't u?

sekxy:
lol,goodmorning to you dear, instead of some of our girls to invest the time they waste on those fake ass niqurs on something more profitable,they will chose to whine their life out.
..it's obvious the guy is not into her,he has been playing mind game with her..

Yes he isn't interested if he was he would have made time even if it's for .. a quickie

dingbang:
so why is she now complaining why isn't he giving her money instead, u forgot to see that part didn't u?

Bros the post is showing her concern for his lack of time for them, this one ur bringing is changing everything and the topic. The issue of him not spending a naira her way came much later, as one of the red flags. You also make it sound like she went toasting him, mind u he returned by himself after the for time she shut him out.

why is she complaining you ask, this topic is why u are typing and replied, the replies will also give others in similar situation an answer as well as help OP too be firm with her decision.

Lalas247:
Yes he isn't interested if he was he would have made time even if it's for .. a quickie

hahahahah

I'm surprised op and everyone else has not read between the lines in her story.Dude is very married or lives with a woman.That's why he is never available on weekends.He can't allow her come to his house.He is only available during office hours. I also think his wife or live in lover works close by too so he can't really be free to go to her office to see her.
Op u like the guy and you want something serious with him. He is taken.Sorry.Move on my dear

FitnessDoctor:
Of course,

Does brightgem have a real name?

Yessur. If u follow my posts, the health ones u'll fine the name. #smiles

Loving eyes can never see

That guy must be a fine handsome man for you to like him so much like this...He is enjoying your attention and maybe he is married

Those who claim to love you will always fix time to be with you irrespective of their busy schedule.

Evaberry:
if you can't cope with a man you let him go.

The both of you want different things. you want attention while he's too focused on his life to give that to u

Although most people in tech are usually busy and work alot but truth is no matter his schedule if he truly wants u he will make out time for you.

he will call you, hang out with you on weekends and treat you like the princess you are.

fvcking gay ass loving niggie

eva-ass-loving-berry