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ugoswaggz:
Are u really asking that question bro?
Because ur a perv just like most guys, we clamour for any faceless thing answering a female name

I remember "2go" days when i used to get free rechange card just for changing my room name to a fmale name ���

U know we're alike i also challenge my mind, cough out thought provoking theories and use old vocabularies from the old greek dictionary at the sight of girls just to impress them and i always did.
I actually made a first class not because i dreamt of it but because this "insecurity" i had about girls losing interest in me or getting bored with me, just like ur average dog acts, out of fear-aggression...so ur not alone bro don't sweat

bro you are one crazy dude

Yes, I use to do that during my 2go days too. I use have a dictionary beside me back then, so that I don't make spelling mistakes, but I am have passed that stage now.

I don't make comments or do anything to impress ladies anymore because of the experience I had while in school.

sunshineG:
bro you are one crazy dude

Yes, I use to do that during my 2go days too. I use have a dictionary beside me back then, so that I don't make spelling mistakes, but I am have passed that stage now.

I don't make comments or do anything to impress ladies anymore because of the experience I had while in school.

Also me too I don't try to impress ladies, more like they compete to impress me now.

Well do u wanna share the experience, do u want to share?

Sholaqe:
everyone keeps talking about wanting a partner who is intelligent. Please if you belong to this category of people who want intelligent partners, what's your definition of this intelligence? like how do you determine if someone's intelligent or not

you pretty

ugoswaggz:
Also me too I don't try to impress ladies, more like they compete to impress me now.

Well do u wanna share the experience, do u want to share?

I was a very diligent student in university so I helped people a lot with assignment and co...there was this particular lady that I stressed my self for...... we had a group project in our final year.. I requested she be in my group in order to impress her.... I went out of my way studying hard and doing everything to get a very good grade for our group...


The result came out and our group did well...I sent her a friend request on Facebook and she refused to accept...I tried getting her number but she gave excuses ..I tried doing everything possible but she refused...the most painful thing she did was refusing to take pictures with me during our graduation

Right from there I told my self no one is worth it...I will not go out of my way to impress a lady ever again...

sunshineG:
I was a very diligent student in university so I helped people a lot with assignment and co...there was this particular lady that I stressed my self for...... we had a group project in our final year.. I requested she be in my group in order to impress her.... I went out of my way studying hard and doing everything to get a very good grade for our group...


The result came out and our group did well...I sent her a friend request on Facebook and she refused to accept...I tried getting her number but she gave excuses ..I tried doing everything possible but she refused...the most painful thing she did was refusing to take pictures with me during our graduation

Right from there I told my self no one is worth it...I will not go out of my way to impress a lady ever again...

Awww what a sad story there! But here bro look at the bright side u are a big part of her success story!
Anyway let me analyze the issue critically...first off u should know every lady has specific preference in men, for some it isn't just brains, i mean look at it from her angle (don't be selfish) she may have come from a very poor home thus is her family's sole hope glory, so knows where she is coming from, what she wants and her critical needs or even desire, needs! intelligence isn't just in the top of her priorities.
That being said, suffice it to also say girls at ur level, age, grade whatsoever are not meant for u, why do u think ladies ur age are already married with kids? this is like a lesson u know from ur elder bro at age 16 when he is busy banging ur 16 yr old fmale friend, i had to use that illustration, pardon the pon

Also note that this girl in question may have so much respect for u not to get into all that trouble with u, yes! This may sound absurd but its true ask some ladies, infact i have severally had such experiences myself. Am not trying to give a reason to justify ur grief or whatsoever am not ur therapist but u may also look at it this way, she may not even have deserved u! Have u thought of that?

Look bro, am an author and an essayist so i could go on and on extensively but bottom line is, never let anyone change who u are unless ofcuz for better, have u ever heard the saying "whoever controls ur decision, controls ur destiny"? Yea! So trick ur mind, suppress that truma experience turned perception/philosophy, and move on...there are billions of women on this planet that would die to accept ur fb request if u work hard and become a success, so bro it all culminates at u being a better u, let ur story be told by others, so God bless ur hustle ��

Intelligent in all ramifications. Being able to converse well, have ideas about recent developments (useful ones, not bobrisky kinda issues), academics and making good decisions. Btw, can't be with someone who can't help the kids with their assignments, you cannor be waiting for me every time

TheControversy:
Intelligence can be contextual. Academic intelligence or intelligence in terms of Rationality and logical thinking. Some academically intelligent people are not rational and can make poor life decisions or may simply be very difficult to reason with (over sabi ). On the other hand some rational people are not academically inclined but can reason and handle situations logically. They may also posses a wealth of knowledge and wisdom in certain areas.

So it depends.

True. And I think I fall into the second category.

sunshineG:
I was a very diligent student in university so I helped people a lot with assignment and co...there was this particular lady that I stressed my self for...... we had a group project in our final year.. I requested she be in my group in order to impress her.... I went out of my way studying hard and doing everything to get a very good grade for our group...


The result came out and our group did well...I sent her a friend request on Facebook and she refused to accept...I tried getting her number but she gave excuses ..I tried doing everything possible but she refused...the most painful thing she did was refusing to take pictures with me during our graduation

Right from there I told my self no one is worth it...I will not go out of my way to impress a lady ever again...

chai! Very touching & sad but sweet

ugoswaggz:
Awww what a sad story there! But here bro look at the bright side u are a big part of her success story!
Anyway let me analyze the issue critically...first off u should know every lady has specific preference in men, for some it isn't just brains, i mean look at it from her angle (don't be selfish) she may have come from a very poor home thus is her family's sole hope glory, so knows where she is coming from, what she wants and her critical needs or even desire, needs! intelligence isn't just in the top of her priorities.
That being said, suffice it to also say girls at ur level, age, grade whatsoever are not meant for u, why do u think ladies ur age are already married with kids? this is like a lesson u know from ur elder bro at age 16 when he is busy banging ur 16 yr old fmale friend, i had to use that illustration, pardon the pon

Also note that this girl in question may have so much respect for u not to get into all that trouble with u, yes! This may sound absurd but its true ask some ladies, infact i have severally had such experiences myself. Am not trying to give a reason to justify ur grief or whatsoever am not ur therapist but u may also look at it this way, she may not even have deserved u! Have u thought of that?

Look bro, am an author and an essayist so i could go on and on extensively but bottom line is, never let anyone change who u are unless ofcuz for better, have u ever heard the saying "whoever controls ur decision, controls ur destiny"? Yea! So trick ur mind, suppress that truma experience turned perception/philosophy, and move on...there billions on women on this planet that would die to accept ur fb request if u work hard and become a success, so bro it all culminates at u being a better u, let ur story be told by others, so God bless ur hustle ��

Exactly @the last paragraph

sunshineG:
I was a very diligent student in university so I helped people a lot with assignment and co...there was this particular lady that I stressed my self for...... we had a group project in our final year.. I requested she be in my group in order to impress her.... I went out of my way studying hard and doing everything to get a very good grade for our group...


The result came out and our group did well...I sent her a friend request on Facebook and she refused to accept...I tried getting her number but she gave excuses ..I tried doing everything possible but she refused...the most painful thing she did was refusing to take pictures with me during our graduation

Right from there I told my self no one is worth it...I will not go out of my way to impress a lady ever again...

bro, dat was because u relied 2 much on ur intelligence, intelligence most time shud b and added asset to ur personality,, she already knew u were intelligent, dats y she agreed to do d project wit u and also was hoping there is more to u dan just intelligence/Nerd, N u failed to show her d other side of u.

Sholaqe:
everyone keeps talking about wanting a partner who is intelligent. Please if you belong to this category of people who want intelligent partners, what's your definition of this intelligence? like how do you determine if someone's intelligent or not

I think you have posed a great question. Definitions of intelligence include quick thinking, deep knowledge of a number of areas of life, wit, humour and mental speed, among others.

I'd say that it can be looked at a number of ways, but in brief here are some of the categories that said people may fall into:

- Superficial intelligence: In my own experiences, many ladies I've spoken to from different backgrounds and different views on life, tend to be attracted to a guy being articulate/knowing how to speak 'well', and knowing one or two token facts, or pretending to be a deep-thinker. On the latter, almost all girls I know have rarely seen through this facade

- Worldly knowledge: This can appear in many different forms, and it may be someone demonstrating pretty useless facts like when the British Empire began colonising countries etc., or when the federal reserve started. Once he or she starts using big grammar like "the ideological tilt was permeable, thus avoiding contemporaneous ambiguity", or "unrelenting peregrination pursuant to peripatetic philosophy", this is enough to have their bf/gf salivating

- common sense: I personally think it is a minority of people who truly appreciate this; if there were more that were appreciative of this, many front page posts would no longer appear there. In any case, it's someone who is mostly rationale, not quick to anger, resolving arguments/disagreements amicably, being solution-oriented etc. when one receives a setback in life.


I hope the above helps give you an idea of what people mean by 'intelligence'. The truth is that many seeking 'intelligence' in a bf/gf, are unable to recognise it when it is staring them in the face. It's up to you OP to select what form(s) of intelligence you truly appreciate.

purem:

Your signature sir. It's Humility and not Humbleness.

Augustap:
Intelligent in all ramifications. Being able to converse well, have ideas about recent developments (useful ones, not bobrisky kinda issues), academics and making good decisions. Btw, can't be with someone who can't help the kids with their assignments, you cannor be waiting for me every time

hmm I like this. Though Most ladies are just dumb.. The ones that are not dumb are becoming philosophical.

Raintaker:
Your signature sir.
It's Humility and not Humbleness.

Tanks

jericco1:
hmm I like this. Though Most ladies are just dumb.. The ones that are not dumb are becoming philosophical.

Lol...i think being philosophical depends on the situation at hand... You cannot be philosophical just because you want to buy bread

Amakavula:
Don't be decieved, no lady wants an intelligent guy, just someone who acts like it. most Intelligent guys aren't like what you get on prison break or kel xy.

Nailed it.

TheControversy:
Intelligence can be contextual. Academic intelligence or intelligence in terms of Rationality and logical thinking. Some academically intelligent people are not rational and can make poor life decisions or may simply be very difficult to reason with (over sabi ). On the other hand some rational people are not academically inclined but can reason and handle situations logically. They may also posses a wealth of knowledge and wisdom in certain areas.

So it depends.

#Fact

Augustap:
Lol...i think being philosophical depends on the situation at hand... You cannot be philosophical just because you want to buy bread

lol you're right, I believe you to be the philosophical type, don't make things too difficult for guys o.

jericco1:
lol you're right, I believe you to be the philosophical type, don't make things too difficult for guys o.

Don't worry, i dont bite

Now you know the OP is not intelligent.

Augustap:
Intelligent in all ramifications. Being able to converse well, have ideas about recent developments (useful ones, not bobrisky kinda issues), academics and making good decisions. Btw, can't be with someone who can't help the kids with their assignments, you cannor be waiting for me every time

Smart girl.

Really, it has a bit less to do with raw intelligence for me, and more to do with being philosophical.

When I say i want an intelligent girl, i am looking for someone who likes to think things through, has interesting opinions, can make & counter a logical argument.

I'm not so interested in her CGPA although a girl bring home F's would be extremely undesirable.

BenShammer:
More often than not when people say intelligent they actually mean witty. I sometimes find it tedious maintaining prolonged conversations with people (especially ladies) because majority of Nigerians limit themselves to reading textbooks, religious/motivational/history books or newspapers. That's for the people that read at all. These days my conversations revolve around "have you eaten" and "what did you eat" to avoid being called a weirdo.

I can relate with that. Alot times I keep mute because chances of striking a witty conversation is next to zero with some of these ladies.

Its always women who are yapping on about "intelligence". Men want a pretty face and a nice body. Women on the other hand seek for intelligence ,coz intelligence=good grades=good qualifications=good job=good salary=good lifestyle="what all women want".
To see women don't give a crap about the "intelligence" they claim to seek,u must see how a gal who looks for an intelligent guy will never spend even 1 sentence asking the guy about The Theory of Relativity or How Electrons work.
They want intelligent men coz that's where the dollars will come from. Its an investment.

Women claim to look for intelligence but u should see the kind of guys that impregnate them! Useless idiots covered in tattoos with a prison record and jeans that sag to the knees.its hilarious!!! If women really sought intelligence teachers and nerds would be swimming in pun*ni. We all know geniuses are virgins...so...

ubunja:
Its always women who are yapping on about "intelligence". Men want a pretty face and a nice body. Women on the other hand seek for intelligence ,coz intelligence=good grades=good qualifications=good job=good salary=good lifestyle="what all women want".
To see women don't give a crap about the "intelligence" they claim to seek,u must see how a gal who looks for an intelligent guy will never spend even 1 sentence asking the guy about The Theory of Relativity or How Electrons work.
They want intelligent men coz that's where the dollars will come from. Its an investment.

nailed it!!!!
Intelligence = better prospects = more cheddas. It's all about the cheddas....