The only way to keep unserious men away is by denying them s e.x and money.

Ishilove:

You said plenty

wetin I talk? Oya carry you mouth explain o, pikin of God.

[quote author=flowers4me post=60986577]Hello Fellow N'landers'

Do people still subscribe to the idea of "abstinence from pre-marital intimacy" in relationships, these days?

In the last couple of years i've met potential suitors who walked, soon as they learnt pre-marital intimacy won't be on offer.

I'm tired of this trend, i need to meet people of like mind...are they still out there?

flowers4me:


Okay, thanks. i have met men online and offline who dont agree, even in the churches.

Then regarding the 'hiding stuff ish', nothing is being hidden, the decision is in a bid to lookout for one's self in order not to become damaged goods to the deserving man after falling prey to professional samplers fronting to be suitors.

It's the impression a lot of guys have and you can't blame them because nowadays young girls have gone distances even their mothers may not have reached.
What is important is to hold on and let the relationship grow so you know what the man is about.
There are like minded men anyway.Don't worry about what many guys think.Just pray that which is for you surfaces.

flowers4me:


Please send them a link to this post, thanks.

Lol...one is speaking to you now.

thorpido:
It's the impression a lot of guys have and you can't blame them because nowadays young girls have gone distances even their mothers may not have reached.
What is important is to hold on and let the relationship grow so you know what the man is about.
There are like minded men anyway.Don't worry about what many guys think.Just pray that which is for you surfaces.

Alright. Thanks a bunch !

Daviddson:
Lol...one is speaking to you now.

Oh, okay...are you single and searching?

sisisioge:
Oh, you see a good size 40 leather shoes that promised durability, comfort and affordability. Baby, you a perfect size 40. Thank God! It should fit...You took it home a happy person.

On your first wear, it didn't quite fit well but you told yourself it's leather, it's one of a kind, you will grown into each other Whew! cos now you've got tons of blisters to show for your bravo. May God help us shop for the best fit... hallelujah

I didn't kuku say anything, I just said check your shoes wella

......To each his/her own. Live your life how it pleases you, but dont attempt to ridicule others' on how they live their's.

flowers4me:


Oh, okay...are you single and searching?

Single, but not actively searching

domexydomen1:


You'll meet them soon enough... But before then, weigh your risks.

I can tell you the risk is higher abstaining... Its like gambling a big odd. What are the chances?

Yea, its risky but life itself is a huge risk, thanks.

Daviddson:
Single, but not actively searching

Okay.

Acidosis:
The only way to keep unserious men away is by denying them s e.x and money.

Lol, noted with thanks.

tunde82seidat:

My dear ,most men r scumbags o..m subscibing to same n dats because v not had it before.Now I almost compromised in my last relationship not knowing d idiot was already married.it pays to zip up jare

Wowzer ! married lady ?!! God saved you.

Yea it sure pays...keep it up !

Acidosis:
The only way to keep unserious men away is by denying them s e.x and money.

You just summarized a whole lot about the male species.

Flowersforme you will find just what you are looking for, its just a matter of time and yeah men with no sex policy are abound everywhere don't be deceived. Since you have made that decision stand by it, don't let any one feel you are making a mistake.

that moment a young chap sheepishly agrees in no sex before marriage


eventually discovers they aren't sexually compatible after he must have finalized all marital formalities


regrets and frustrations sets in


I doubt if a civilized fellow can fall for it


on a second thought, an impotent man will welcome no sex before marriage with an open arms since it will help cover his weaknesses.
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flowers4me:


......To each his/her own. Live your life how it pleases you, but dont attempt to ridicule others' on how they live their's.

Surely darling... surely.

flowers4me:
Hello Fellow N'landers'

Do people still subscribe to the idea of "abstinence from pre-marital intimacy" in relationships, these days?

In the last couple of years i've met potential suitors who walked, soon as they learnt pre-marital intimacy won't be on offer.

I'm tired of this trend, i need to meet people of like mind...are they still out there?

That was what I prayed for and I got it by God's grace. I decided I was going to involve myself in sexual activity after my graduation from the university but as God would have it, got born again in 2011- knowing God and having the feeling that even kissing is a sin. Because if you do remedials, you must do degree. #teamabstenancetillmarriage#

flowers4me:
Hello Fellow N'landers'

Do people still subscribe to the idea of "abstinence from pre-marital intimacy" in relationships, these days?

In the last couple of years i've met potential suitors who walked, soon as they learnt pre-marital intimacy won't be on offer.

I'm tired of this trend, i need to meet people of like mind...are they still out there?

Yes, ma'am. There are who go for no-sex until marriage. They may have had sex before and come to the realization that it's worth to wait until marriage. They harbour no fear or pretence of o hide anything whatever. You may be meeting this kind of people if you habour the fear of not meeting such men. It is your fears that is attracting them into your reality.

Let go of all fears. But I think sincerity is very important. If you find someone who says he's not in support of no-sex, do not be quick to dismiss such. They posses a good virtue of sincerity which is very rare. You may gently let them understand what they stand to gain by waiting and staying free of fleshy lust at this time.

If you insist on getting a man who is for no-sex until marriage, I suggest you make friends with guys here online who have the same view. Humility is our safest guild in everything. It is not a taboo to first extend hand of friendly invitation to anybody you feel comfortable with and hope to form a good bonding. Let go of pride and the fear of rejection. Remember the word sincerity.

Be open and wiling to communicate. Openness is very important. Do not restrict yourself by self-limiting rules. If someone rejects my advances I don't feel perturbed as long as my motives towards them are completely pure. It means we are not meant to be together. Anyway, I wish to have a friend who's for no-sex until marriage. Smiles.

Have a wonderful evening. Thanks.

damesilver:


Yes, ma'am. There are who go for no-sex until marriage. They may have had sex before and come to the realization that it's worth to wait until marriage. They harbour no fear or pretence of o hide anything whatever. You may be meeting this kind of people if you habour the fear of not meeting such men. It is your fears that is attracting them into your reality.

Let go of all fears. But I think sincerity is very important. If you find someone who says he's not in support of no-sex, do not be quick to dismiss such. They posses a good virtue of sincerity which is very rare. You may gently let them understand what they stand to gain by waiting and staying free of fleshy lust at this time.

If you insist on getting a man who is for no-sex until marriage, I suggest you make friends with guys here online who have the same view. Humility is our safest guild in everything. It is not a taboo to first extend hand of friendly invitation to anybody you feel comfortable with and hope to form a good bonding. Let go of pride and the fear of rejection. Remember the word sincerity.

Be open and wiling to communicate. Openness is very important. Do not restrict yourself by self-limiting rules. If someone rejects my advances I don't feel perturbed as long as my motives towards them are completely pure. It means we are not meant to be together. Anyway, I wish to have a friend who's for no-sex until marriage. Smiles.

Have a wonderful evening. Thanks.

Wow !!
Points are noted with thanks, Sir.
Do have a wonderful evening too.

Owiii:

That was what I prayed for and I got it by God's grace. I decided I was going to involve myself in sexual activity after my graduation from the university but as God would have it, got born again in 2011- knowing God and having the feeling that even kissing is a sin. Because if you do remedials, you must do degree. #teamabstenancetillmarriage#

OMG ! finally a success story...this is re-assuringly cool, thanks dude.

I believe there are, may be rare though...

Yes poster, they are everywhere. Is just that they are quiet cause it isn't in vogue.

Even if the lady is a non-virgin and tells a guy no to premarital sex, doesn't she have right to say no?

@ OP, there are ooo... But they ain't many and they keep it to themselves. I know some sha...

Vutseck:


even the most expensive car ever made (2018 model) must be test driven before the final payment are made

It is an insult to liken a human being to a car, is your mother a car, was her punna test driven and sampled by your father several times before purchase? Nonsense

flowers4me:


OMG ! finally a success story...this is re-assuringly cool, thanks dude.

Its not been easy but I give all glory to God. Its all about having the spirit of God and the fear of God. I live alone in Lagos so you could imagine and my girlfriend is in Benue. If I fornicate in my room, no one is seeing me but God is aware that I am a fornicator. Let the spirit of God lead and direct us.

Truth is, society makes such men feel inferior and weakling and so they prefer not to talk about it .
We still have male virgins out there .

flowers4me:
Hello Fellow N'landers'

Do people still subscribe to the idea of "abstinence from pre-marital intimacy" in relationships, these days?

In the last couple of years i've met potential suitors who walked, soon as they learnt pre-marital intimacy won't be on offer.

I'm tired of this trend, i need to meet people of like mind...are they still out there?

Yea there still are.... but not so many share this ideology. Some very spiritual folks I know still have this ideology,however folks who don't do so are mostly for obvious reasons of uncertainty and deceit from the other party.

flowers4me:
Hello Fellow N'landers'

Do people still subscribe to the idea of "abstinence from pre-marital intimacy" in relationships, these days?

In the last couple of years i've met potential suitors who walked, soon as they learnt pre-marital intimacy won't be on offer.

I'm tired of this trend, i need to meet people of like mind...are they still out there?

Yea there still are.... but not so many share this ideology. Some very spiritual folks I know still have this ideology,however folks who don't do so are mostly for obvious reasons of fear of uncertainty and deceit from the other party.

Pidgin2:


It is an insult to liken a human being to a car, is your mother a car, was her punna test driven and sampled by your father several times before purchase? Nonsense

unfortunately I wasn't a witness to my parent initial hook up

by the way, when is the right time to ascertain if intending couple are sexually compatible

answer; before or after tying the Knot ?
.

Vutseck:


unfortunately I wasn't a witness to my parent initial hook up

by the way, when is the right time to ascertain if intending couple are sexually compatible

answer; before or after tying the Knot ?
.

If they are physically attracted to each other, there's no need to check for compatibility as things will flow as it should after marriage. Will you ask a lady who isn't physically attractive to you for her hand in marriage?

Pidgin2:



If they are physically attracted to each other, there's no need to check for compatibility as things will flow as it should after marriage. Will you ask a lady who isn't physically attractive to you for her hand in marriage?

physical out look can be very deceitfully my dear


one of my guys dumped a very beautiful lady that we thought something was wrong with him

when probed, he intimated to some of us that her under is nothing to write home about as a result of her tender skin cus even prostitutes still have griping puna


most people who insists on abstinence before marriage who aren't a virgin have something to hide
.
.

Vutseck:


physical out look can be very deceitfully my dear


one of my guys dumped a very beautiful lady that we thought something was wrong with him

when probed, he intimate to some of us that her under is nothing to write home about as a result of her tender skin cus even prostitutes still have griping puna


most people who insists on abstinence before marriage who aren't a virgin have something to hide
.
.

Sooth yourself but likening a female to car is like doing the same to your mother. Who knows "maybe your dad tested the engine several times before settling"how does this sound to you? To each his own