₦airaland Forum

CEEcey:


A husband that depends on his wife's money is a disgrace to men

My money is mine alone and I can only decide to give him if he asks

Besides isn't he suppose to be the head of the family
His money is ours.

CEEcey:


A husband that depends on his wife's money is a disgrace to men

My money is mine alone and I can only decide to give him if he asks

Besides isn't he suppose to be the head of the family
His money is ours.

Tahra:
That'd be selfish,his money is his,mine's mine.Joint account is a no-no.

CEEcey:


A husband that depends on his wife's money is a disgrace to men

My money is mine alone and I can only decide to give him if he asks

Besides isn't he suppose to be the head of the family
His money is ours.

kilokeys:
Reason I broke up with an ex.. Like. Wtf.. She can't even tell me how much she earns.. Says it's not my business. But she knows mine.

CEEcey:


A husband that depends on his wife's money is a disgrace to men

My money is mine alone and I can only decide to give him if he asks

Besides isn't he suppose to be the head of the family
His money is ours.

supersystemsnig:
So, his money is ours, and yours remains yours.. But what would you be doing with your money since he'll be taking care of your needs and that of the family?

uk10:
I don't have a problem with her taking my money or saying my money is ours,as long she remains submissive ,as in VERY SUBMISSIVE.I know the feminist will come for me,I'm waiting.

poseidon12:
Probably be using it to take care of her boyfriend. A lot of Nigerians do not understand what marriage is.

positivetaught:
my own simple system is this, since we have agreed to get married n build a family together for our own benefit then we must be willing n prepared to work n sacrifice towards the success of the Union through this method, myself n my wife would each contributes 70% of our earnings to a family account to which we are both signatories, 30% would be retained for our individual needs,the problem is most men during courtship either out of fear,lack of confidence, or ego fails to be frank with women only to lament after marriage,women enjoys the benefit n success of children much more than the fathers I simply can't even understand this insatiable greed of women,some would argue is the responsibility of the man to provide for his household but would refused that a woman is supposed to completely submissive to her husband.

banmee:
I agree with you on this. If she depends on you for everything she has no choice but to be submissive. If she want's equal rights, she must be ready for equal responsibilities. Personally, When i was single i never liked submissive women. Sooner than later you'll get tired of them. No fire. Just bland.

olaboy1:
That was the the best decision of your life. When you ask a woman what do you look for in a man, she throws out this endless list with caring and kindness somewhere in the middle. Now are you women saying men don't deserve caring and kindness also.

Guys if your wife or about to be wife is working and earning a salary, she MUST financially contribute to the upkeep of the family in the economy of today. When I was around 17yrs old or so, I questioned my mum with so much anger on why we don't get to see her salary at the end of month; I watched my dad tender his pay check and my mum would bring out a paper to do list for the month, I cringed at that one sided marriage set up and promised myself when I grow to get married I will never put myself up for this kind of arrangement...better not to be married.

If my salary can afford rent for the family in Igando whilst me and my wife work in Ikoyi, is it not sensible that wifey support the family so we could afford a place closer to the Island. And if she is not spending her salary on the family, then what exactly will she spend it on assuming she is earning between 150-350k.

I also believe if the woman puts her salary on the table for the family, then I consider that gesture as been invested in the relationship or marriage. I am so sick of the emotional blackmail that a woman would help me with house chores,,,wtf, what effing house chore when today it's very inexpensive to acquire a washing machine, dish washer, vacuum machine etc.

If I earn 200k and my wife earns 150k, she must provide 40% of our family expenditures, if she can't do that then let her take her bags and go back to her parents, because I'm sure she would pay her own bills when she lives alone anyway.

If I make 500k and my wife earns 50k then I don't need to ask her a dime, it's that simple.

uk10:
I don't have a problem with her taking my money or saying my money is ours,as long she remains submissive ,as in VERY SUBMISSIVE.I know the feminist will come for me,I'm waiting.

kilokeys:
Reason I broke up with an ex.. Like. Wtf.. She can't even tell me how much she earns.. Says it's not my business. But she knows mine.

ToZaraWithaZ:
Head of the family? What a joke! Soul mates is what it is called; you're partners - you met each other, loved each other enough to settle down together, then it is up to you as adults to come to agreements and decide on whatever works for you. There's no head since no gender is instrinsically inferior.

In the home, the one who is better at something should head that department. Marriage is not a Master-Slave institution, but one established on LOVE, FAITHFULNESS and TRUST, involving people who understand the meaning of what it is they're venturing into.

Where did you read it in my post that men should be the "head" of the family?

CEEcey:


A husband that depends on his wife's money is a disgrace to men

My money is mine alone and I can only decide to give him if he asks

Besides isn't he suppose to be the head of the family
His money is ours.

CEEcey:


A husband that depends on his wife's money is a disgrace to men

My money is mine alone and I can only decide to give him if he asks

Besides isn't he suppose to be the head of the family
His money is ours.

Jomesh20:
I guess 'dependency' doesn't apply here since he's working too and earning basic salary. Relationship in marriage should be a symbiotic one. I can remember well, in my family (3 children) before the demise of my mum, my dad takes care of our school bills (uniform, tuition fees, books etc) while my mom takes care of the feeding thereby alleviating the pressure on both of them. If you decide your money is yours alone, and only if you decide otherwise, then I think he should address matters of the family alone without consulting you except he feels like since you stated he's the head of the family. Autocracy should be the day then.

Sike:
NO. HER MONEY IS MINE. MY MONEY IS MINE. I OWN EVERYTHING. I OWN HER.

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Blueberrie:
No way! I have no idea where such a selfish attitude comes from. A marriage is a partnership, a union..hence everything within it belongs to both the couple..there's no room for being selfish anymore in marriage. That's why if youre not ready to be self-sacrificial then u shouldnt marry in the first place.

awa:
Sensitive conversation and like most things discussed in Nairaland, I am only responsible for my personal opinion.
Dudes don't propose to any lady that comes here to tell us my money and his are ours.... Otherwise na APC one chance you go enter. I don talk my own

chiraqDemon:
Me too. Can't even imagine.

Rukkydelta:
His money is his, my money is mine
And according to the Bible a husband is the head of the home. So he should be ready to take responsibility financial and I will also assist in arrears I can.He can take 70% of his financial responsibility while I do take 30%
We can open a joint in which I donate 30% monthly and he donates 70% that we can use for the family expenditure