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stagger:
This is why I hate Nigerian girls with a passion. Go to Scandinavia and see how their women treat their men. They give you everything, no strings attached. What man will not give such a woman half of his kingdom if not all of it?

Daeylar:
So sweet
Lol, all right, I will take your word

supersystemsnig:
My brother, I celebrate your wisdom...Nice one...Excellent

majekoam:
These Discussion always make me so sad. They just smell of Ignorance. Its good to discuss to help enlighten people but why must it always end in a MAN vs WOMAN argument. Can everyone just grow up and discuss the topic. WHICH IS FINANCIAL. Well since the topic has expanded let me fall in aswell.

EVERYBODY IS DIFFERENT. EVERY MARRIAGE IS DIFFERENT. That is for everyone.

If as a man you find an attitude detestable then dont go out/marry such a woman. There are clear red flags. She has either been cheated on before and has been left high and dry or she has seen a family member maltreated or this is her upbringing...or possibly many other options. It is up to us men to take the lead and communicate our likes and dislikes to the women and love them out of such attitudes. Then there is no reason, once you have spoken it, and treat her with love that she should have such an attitude. Once a woman feels loved and secure there is nothing she cannot do!!

Whether you like it or not as men or women the world isnt fair. Women get alot of s*** thrown at them for being women and there is some inequality (especially in Africa), but it really pisses me off that MANY WOMEN fail to acknowledge the inequality that men face because of what they have been subjected too. Its like saying all men are the same. Have you met all men?

When a male and a female friend meet up and they decide to go for lunch, societal and cultural norms dictate that men should pay. When a man cheats on a woman, a woman is usually able to express herself to her friends. If its the other way round it is seen as a taboo...all of a sudden if you discuss it you are not a "Real Man". You know how many times I hear "You're a Man. Deal with it".. No woman in this forum cant tell me that if their man f***** up and he said you are a woman deal with it, that they would agree. For where....

Also cut this "Real Men" Nonsense. So real men don't have issues. A "Real Man" will do this, that and the other.... Are you God? Do you know what will happen tomorrow. You havent seen Rich People go broke. As a rule any man/woman that starts a conversation with "Real men/Real" has lost my respect already.


I agree with feminism to the point that everyone deserves to be equal and it needs to be addressed but this world isnt perfect and there must always be some give and take....otherwise wait till Jesus comes back.

As for women I have mentioned why some may have this attitude (selfishness in finance) but believe me it will not work. Humans were made for fellowship and companionship. That means selflessness. If you dont believe me go to your family and ask for who is the most selfish person in the family and look how they end. Even with all the money in the world selfish people never end happy. I once heard that the devils trilogy it "Me, Myself and I" Anyone unwilling to share/ selfish has evil tendencies. It is just a matter of time. Greed, Pride, Selfishness are characteristics of who? The father of lies... Ladies if you married someone and you cannot share all that you are (I believe it even says something like that in the marriage vows), then you are not a WIFE and you didn't marry for love. It will cause problems and the truth will find you out just like it does for men with impure intentions.

A good marriage is the most unselfish sacrifice one can ever make. Marriage is sacrifice. THERE IS NO EGO!!. Once you have that marriage is sweet. All these conversations about his money or her money goes to show the extent to which many people here are not even close to being ready for marriage. GROW UP AND MATURE....stop thinking like a child because you are getting in your own way.

Go read books on marriage. Talk to people that have been married for decades. Improve yourselves. Write down what you are looking for in a man or a woman. Don't punish the next person for what the last person is. ENDURE (two people that werent raised in the same home will clash but will adjust over time). Finding the right spouse is THE MOST IMPORTANT DECISION IN YOUR LIFE AFTER GIVING YOUR LIFE TO CHRIST.

Take your time.
Take your time.
Take your time.

Maybe some might agree with my points and some may not (you can voice it) but i just felt the need to write.

AlmiqhteeAllah:
I'll try and ask people at home then. They must know what kind of magic I perform while asleep.

Whether one invites discord or not, she would still spoil the party anyways. She IS discord.

The night was sweet.

majekoam:
I believe that its not so complicated. Women should be treated exactly the same as men, given the same rights especially in the workplace and also in the household. I have no disagreement with that. My point is that for that to be the case there are some societal norms that would have to be changed. Will many women agree to such.

Every action has a reaction...

supersystemsnig:
I'm coming for you...You will see...Me wash plate abi? Very soon you will mention panties and bra...

AlmiqhteeAllah:
So, in this case, he's no longer the head in the traditional sense of the word. They're partners acting with a common goal and trying to figure out what works TOGETHER.

When you look at Islam, you'll realise the more reason why I have the tendency to attack that traditional mentality. Islam has very absurd rules for "submissive" women. It's grotesque.

EgunMogaji:
She’s really not like that.

Probably just Nairaland chest puffing. I hope.

Blueberrie:
Haha feminism is quite good for society. I just think most women and men misunderstand what it even advocates for.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Why would I keep money for myself when there are needs in the house and my husband can not provide them alone?
If we are both working, it should be for the good of all in the family. You don't look away when the children are out from school or when you need to pay some bills in the house simply because you are wife knowing fully well that your husband can't do all that alone.
You don't need to have a joint account to do this. You just need to understand what family means. It's not a one man business. The man should also be able to share in other chores when the wife can't and not wait for the wife while things go wrong in the house.

ijeoma28:
my dear ask older couples especially the women I guess you will never want to operate a joint account when married especially if you marry a wicked and cunning man. my grandfather warned against it.

inosend:
Women and selfishmess are intertwined.

SalC:
Trust you with our money? You be bank?

Blueberrie:
Too long to explain haha. If you have time watch Chimamanda's videos on feminism, or read her book on "we should all be feminists" or her excerpt on "How to raise your daughter a feminist". She explains it so well and only someone suffering fron weird issues would disagree with her points.

makydebbie:
Yea and it brews mistrust

Daeylar:
Yes na

Don't you want your wife to have clean undies

supersystemsnig:
Holy ghost thunder...

supersystemsnig:
Damn! are you single?

Daeylar:
Ask, so they can tell you the truth

Good to know

MISSCONGENIALITY:
LOL

Daeylar:
Is that what you will use to wash? lol

supersystemsnig:
Very true @ partners. More like stakeholders

AlmiqhteeAllah:
Yep. Partners, lovers, confidants, friends, siblings - two in one in everyway.

IamLEGEND1:
Wrong. My money is mine. Her money is mine as well.

uk10:
I did not say i'm a bank ,am just saying she should be able to contribute to the marriage,is that so hard for women to do

stagger:
This is why I hate Nigerian girls with a passion. Go to Scandinavia and see how their women treat their men. They give you everything, no strings attached. What man will not give such a woman half of his kingdom if not all of it?

supersystemsnig:
The feminist don't want this, they want more than this. We don't know what to do with them..

SalC:
The last time I checked, they do.

supersystemsnig:
Oya na. Don't be shy...