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supersystemsnig:
Lol. Don't play reserve psychology on me, it won't work. Turn the spot light on yourself. If i ask her out, what's the problem? Am i not a man, or isn't she a lady? Deal with your hateful self first and stop being a pant.

Think before you respond, i have unlimited power, internet, and i've got time

supersystemsnig:
If i could, i'll have it. May God push us to the place of stability, peace and comfort. I'm an hustler and won't honestly know. I can't argue against anyone's views, but i also believe the lady has a right to her choice and should not come under any form of attack.

mrphysics:
Everyone have the right to what they believe. I just responded because the topic was a question. I was in the office and it was all lunch time.

God has already placed us in His plan. He mustn't think for us.

She has the right to what she believes but shouldn't complain when most people she met isn't in tandem with what she believes. If she complains, then people can complain too. I am not a cyber bully, I don't insult people, I only air my view over issues.

the truth which you have failed to establish is that there is no basis for wanting a no sex relationship. I don't care what people believe before they get married, I can go for a no sex if I choose. It's all my choice. What I care is the reason for taking such stand. If he can't convince us, but rather wants us to think out her reasons, then we might just be speculating and assuming.

Sex is nothing and the least a lady can offer me. If someone thinks it's the ultimate, then she is valueless and worthless

mrphysics:
Everyone have the right to what they believe. I just responded because the topic was a question. I was in the office and it was all lunch time.

God has already placed us in His plan. He mustn't think for us.

She has the right to what she believes but shouldn't complain when most people she met isn't in tandem with what she believes. If she complains, then people can complain too. I am not a cyber bully, I don't insult people, I only air my view over issues.

the truth which you have failed to establish is that there is no basis for wanting a no sex relationship. I don't care what people believe before they get married, I can go for a no sex if I choose. It's all my choice. What I care is the reason for taking such stand. If he can't convince us, but rather wants us to think out her reasons, then we might just be speculating and assuming.

Sex is nothing and the least a lady can offer me. If someone thinks it's the ultimate, then she is valueless and worthless

durasome:
you sure gonna make a perfect partner but just don't let peers destroy what you are cause am sensing a good material wife in you,may our good Lord help bring your desired partner to your way.

supersystemsnig:
Good luck. Abeg i dey hustle, bye

supersystemsnig:
So how are you re-balancing hustle and relationships at the moment? How is it working for you?

KOPT55:
My brother, I hope you still remember that thing they say about "empty barrels" and how they like noise.

The motherfucka just proved how true that saying is.

Vutseck:
cc KOPT55

U see your friend


in all his posts he had always remind those who care to listing how he has been hustling as if every other persons are jobless

his motives are yet to be known but I sense he is still an amateur who is just trying his luck
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mrphysics:
I am working and earning well. Secondly, I am freelancing too and earning well. For now, I am kind of stable and pray to always be. Currently, I find it hard getting a good lady. Relocated to Abuja of recent and since then, I haven't had time for relationships. Heard every lady here in Abuja wants to milk one out. Lol. I have also gotten so many offers from old time friends. You know when people know you are balanced, feeding yourself with no problem, living on your own with a comfortable apartment, they want to associate with you. Lol. It's natural for ladies to do so. Some of these advances is what I am much careful dealing with. They are also other back end reasons which are personal to me.

For now, I stay in my room, comfortable and thanking God for thus far He has brought me, and I am sure God will do more.

poik:
In as much as I am celibate and would have no business with a woman's body until the nuptials are tied, that shouldn't be the only attraction in the mix. I look out for character, compatibility, and life ideals. I will try my best by Gods grace not to be in the bandwagon of men who contribute to ladies' body count, but what I need is more than sex and its affiliate things, even though its equally important. Sex won't train my kids and instil good values in them, for example

supersystemsnig:
I share the same experience. We were handed down the doctrine of hustle at all cost and leave relationship completely out of it. We became cold and isolated, especially by working in front of a PC, trying to know the next trend and tap into the flow...looking back, i feel, it was right, but cultivating a friendship/relationship alongside hustle was better....After many years, the coldness just left my heart... but it took time...

I hope we get it right

and concerning the lady, you guys are spot on, some relationships could start as a no-sex from the start, but if intimacy is built, the buyer would wanna know what he's buying sometimes...At times if trust is established, it could yield different results. Different strokes for different folks, let people fix issues based on what works best for them. I don't even think i qualify to give anyone a relationship pep-talk...it's not my strongest area

poik:
In as much as I am celibate and would have no business with a woman's body until the nuptials are tied, that shouldn't be the only attraction in the mix. I look out for character, compatibility, and life ideals. I will try my best by Gods grace not to be in the bandwagon of men who contribute to ladies' body count, but what I need is more than sex and its affiliate things, even though its equally important. Sex won't train my kids and instil good values in them, for example

mrphysics:
Lol. You are already giving it the best shot.

The above narration was rightly said. We were all forced to forget relationship and look for money. Now, the money is just trickling in and the need for relationship is rising. The once you like will want to deceive you, and play with your emotions. Most times it seems like its a waste of time building emotional trust with ladies. This days, I do not see myself to even have the strength to engage in that, so I just try to enjoy my money by myself, while praying that the ones that will love genuinely will come.

I don't buy into a no sex relationship especially when the lady raises it up from the beginning. Why would such a thing come to her mind is there is no reason behind it. First she may be trying to hide her virginity or sexual relationships. Second, she might not be healthy to indulge in it. If sex builds up a relationship, so why would she want us to keep it away. Don't get me wrong, my point is that for her to have raised it and emphasized on it, then something is behind it. Trust me, its not religious reasons

mrphysics:
This ladies will increase their body count behind you. If she must do it, then you are the one she should do it with not pretend to be holy beside you and turn a prostitute behind you.

Seems like you are still below 25 bro. Its time you wake up to the reality on ground and don't want to fall a victim

flowers4me:
Hello Fellow N'landers'

Do people still subscribe to the idea of "abstinence from pre-marital intimacy" in relationships, these days?

In the last couple of years i've met potential suitors who walked, soon as they learnt pre-marital intimacy won't be on offer.

I'm tired of this trend, i need to meet people of like mind...are they still out there?

IamProdigy:
My dear such people still exist...

Who actually have it mind..but may later yield...but the truth is when you hold on to nothing..you die for nothing....

Something must back your conviction.

Agreed people are facing loads of problem in their sexual lives..in marriages

But the question is....
People wanna taste a car that can still break down in future.(impotency)

A car that can be stolen in future (infidelity)

Have you not tasted garri, and not bought it....??
So how many people will taste ...and keep tasting....

From the Christian angle.

marriage is God's plan for man...he should lead you into it...not sex leading you into it...

That some one is a Pro in bed....doesn't mean your marriage will last a year!


There is dignity and safety in waiting, when the marriage doesn't work its easier to part!

And you part with no scar!

supersystemsnig:
Well said. Sex is like a commodity to me one can buy at a market. It depends on the individual's choice. If a lady is a virgin, there's no problem in a no-sex relationship at the start, as both parties build emotional bond, it will be tested.

Asper personal relationship and romance, let's see what happens. It's harder than hustle itself. Just wanna look past it...But been a very selective person, it sometimes make it difficult to connect with people. I'm too sure, like me you won't connect with just about any lady...I think it's important to attain some level of success though, or see it closely and keep/start/build a relationship. It helps keep things in perspective. To think i turned down quit a few ladies before now.. Above all, love is key jare, we need ladies with passion and love not the ones that'll strip one of peace. May God help us.

mrphysics:
Well, I tend to have a very high taste for ladies. My needs and requirement is smart and technical anyway. Lol. Because I am not sex starved or in a haste to be in a relationship, I can stay comfortably without one just like I am. Not that I don't have people that supply food as at when due, you know what I mean. I understood the purpose of life at a very tender age. Because of that, I have grown to be mentally and emotionally stable that I know what I want at every point in time.

That being said, a lady can't use that Phrase no sex till marriage as a pillar in a relationship that I am involved. That sentence is a weak one and only works for men that don't want to be sincere.

Like I said before, the formular now is more money. Sex can be bought. I might decide to spend money on even a classic lady and sleep with her. Everything is about money this days. Just dispense the money and you have almost any lady of any class this days

supersystemsnig:
Interesting. I kinda relate with you in many ways. i.e. I have a crazy taste, tag me with 1000 ladies and i may not find more than 12 attractive. Anyways, the future is key and we ought to start beginning processes into that future. I aint sex-starved as
well, many times, i go months without even thinking about it, damn the hustle bro... Anyways, we should not ignore our needs, and pay attention to our lives..Life is short...

As for me, i can't dream of myself paying for sex, or having random chicks, abeg....Don't want holyspirit trouble...Trying to top my anointing not to drain it...Let's hope we get it right.I agree at money can connect one with right about " seemingly interested " classy chic, not even one follows this mantra of money, but attaining some success, attending conferences etc would be a big boost to any working class guy...Damn, i int through with hustling yet...Sit in front of a PC over 12 hours daily...Sucks...Can't wait to have a life...

bellong:
It doesn't matter if you are a virgin or not, you have the right to say no to pre-marital sex. It also gives you the opportunity to eliminate unserious suitors.

However, your decision should be done in good faith, either as a result of a new conviction or repentance and shouldn't be a way to "con" men.

poik:
In as much as I am celibate and would have no business with a woman's body until the nuptials are tied, that shouldn't be the only attraction in the mix. I look out for character, compatibility, and life ideals. I will try my best by Gods grace not to be in the bandwagon of men who contribute to ladies' body count, but what I need is more than sex and its affiliate things, even though its equally important. Sex won't train my kids and instil good values in them, for example

IamProdigy:
My dear such people still exist...

Who actually have it mind..but may later yield...but the truth is when you hold on to nothing..you die for nothing....

Something must back your conviction.

Agreed people are facing loads of problem in their sexual lives..in marriages

But the question is....
People wanna taste a car that can still break down in future.(impotency)

A car that can be stolen in future (infidelity)

Have you not tasted garri, and not bought it....??
So how many people will taste ...and keep tasting....

From the Christian angle.

marriage is God's plan for man...he should lead you into it...not sex leading you into it...

That some one is a Pro in bed....doesn't mean your marriage will last a year!


There is dignity and safety in waiting, when the marriage doesn't work its easier to part!

And you part with no scar!

Daeylar:
Nice

flowers4me
Please ignore all the people that came to your thread attacking your choice,
The question of the thread is simple, are there still men like the one you want, it's a yes or no question,
You didn't ask anyone to come here to try and change your views or to preach sermons to you about the good or bad of abstinence., I wonder why people can't respect themselves on this nairaland. If they know that they can't add any thing relating to your specific topic they should move ahead

flowers4me:
Thank you Sir, very well spoken.

mrphysics:
Well, I tend to have a very high taste for ladies. My needs and requirement is smart and technical anyway. Lol. Because I am not sex starved or in a haste to be in a relationship, I can stay comfortably without one just like I am. Not that I don't have people that supply food as at when due, you know what I mean. I understood the purpose of life at a very tender age. Because of that, I have grown to be mentally and emotionally stable that I know what I want at every point in time.

That being said, a lady can't use that Phrase no sex till marriage as a pillar in a relationship that I am involved. That sentence is a weak one and only works for men that don't want to be sincere.

Like I said before, the formular now is more money. Sex can be bought. I might decide to spend money on even a classic lady and sleep with her. Everything is about money this days. Just dispense the money and you have almost any lady of any class this days