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Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by tommynico(m): 4:04pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
tossie101:Na who you be wey you no go fit marry Yoruba, your mates wey marry dem nko, you beta pass them?.........you beta carry that your smelly ass and move off before you pollute the air. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by tosyne2much(m): 4:05pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
dingbang:Especially when they are coming up with ridiculous reasons |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by tosyne2much(m): 4:06pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
Positivepoint:Are there no people who have no family members but are married? 1 Like |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by tommynico(m): 4:06pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
Nobodys:Yoruba gals are dirty, agreed. Igbo gals are a public domain......you con dey ask if it was necessary?......what model of brain are you using? 1 Like |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by DebateNigeria: 4:06pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
Amhappy: Looks like you you've had a bad experience (or maybe someone close to you). People marry from the same village or clan and all these still happen. Just pray to meet a good partner that God has sent to you, your missing ribs. All these talk about family support will be bull crap. I have seen at least two successful families who married without parental consent (one of the couples have been married for 33 years and both their parents are dead but they still live happily. They share their story to encourage love. They didn't talk to their parents for 15 years). The fact that someone is your father or mother doesn't mean he truly loves you or mean well for you, otherwise fathers won't take their daughters, parents won't sell their children or even use them for rituals. My dear, it is their life, let them make that decision. They have more years on earth than their parents. 2 Likes |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by Originalsly: 4:07pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
Be not unequally yoked..... what will happen when one cooks what is taboo for the other?....under whose customs will the children be raised? ... these major problems will still be there even if your ehmmm.... friend goes ahead and marry without the blessings of the parents. |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by tossie101(f): 4:08pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
Amhappy: My dear asin ee.. this is a story for another day. U have said it all. Cant marry outside my tribe biko. In situations like this. The ladiea suffers d most. 6 Likes |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by Horlufemi(m): 4:09pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
blackbeau1: even bigots? |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by blackbeau1(f): 4:10pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
Dutchey:they'll forgive you, yes but they'll never forgive your partner . They'll always accuse him or her of influencing you to do the wrong thing 2 Likes |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by Icon79(m): 4:10pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
A while back, a friend of mine wanted to marry a beautiful Yoruba girl but her parents adamantly refused because "he's Igbo". Fast forward to today: The nice Igbo man is very happily married with 3 kids while the Yoruba babe is still very single and heading towards 40. O pari stopthecycle: 5 Likes |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by tossie101(f): 4:11pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
tommynico: If e pain u go and die. U people are too tribalist and dirty. Same way u dnt allow ur daughters marry igbo same way i wont marrt a Yoruba. BE U THE LAST MAN ON EARTH. 9 Likes |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by blackbeau1(f): 4:12pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
Horlufemi:bigots or not, you need your parents blessings . Marriage isn't a joke. It's not bf/gf. 1 Like |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by Nobodys(f): 4:14pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
tommynico:u look mature so act it... Who agreed dat yoruba girls are dirty?? What has dirtiness got to do with tribe and what has being a slut have to do with a tribe . Must we all be tribalistic We are educated for Godsake...later when whites start calling us names, we shout racist up and down and we arent better off with our unnecessary tribalism... 5 Likes |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by tossie101(f): 4:15pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
blackbeau1:Exactly 3 Likes |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by Adaumunocha(f): 4:15pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
Family support and blessings are important in a marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by bentlywills(m): 4:15pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
tosyne2much: Bro is not a thing of grown up man, Family is a strong Union they can make or break you p-square is a case study Some family tek that too serious 1 Like |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by Nobody: 4:16pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
Love is meant to be enjoyed, not endured.. I believe they'll not want you both to live with regret for life.. There's a way you'll tell them, call your church elders into this... #justsaying |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by Newboss(m): 4:20pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
Just get her pregnant. That's the best solution. |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by Nword22: 4:22pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
j1mmy: The question here is who will be so senseless in Igboland to give his daughter to useless tribes that are not Igbo, I don't see any reasonable family doing that only the outcast. 4 Likes |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by Nword22: 4:23pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
BigPappi: Prostitution things, Igbos say NO 2 Likes |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by Nword22: 4:24pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
thunderbabs: Which muslim? Are you drunk, nothing like Muslim Igbo. |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by Nword22: 4:25pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
Bruno3000: Apes are even mistaken, God forbid. |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by salt1: 4:25pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
There is already a problem if both parents are refusing. Women don't ever forget or get over this initial rejection. She will continue to feel vulnerable and insecure knowing the man's family didn't want her. Men usually cope better. I know an Igbo man/Yoruba woman marriage of 21years. On the outside, you can rank them as happy but even with four children, the woman is still feeling unwanted and a perpetual stranger. She makes her children feel so too. It gets worse when they have the smallest normal marital misunderstanding. These things can be complex but love is never enough. |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by Nword22: 4:26pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
Olabestonic001: Lies from pit of hell. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by Sleyanya1(m): 4:26pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
OP, I understand totally. Firstly both the lady the guy must Love themselves and be sure to a great extent about the love ( not infactuation, lust or the wrong kind) Secondly they must put God first cuz I wanna believe they're Christians. ... Lastly they must penetrate the Hearts of their parents by convincing every other part of their family members (siblings esp.). My elder and only sis got married to a Yoruba guy. I logically without sentiments convinced my mum ( ma father had no ish about it) and made her understand that there are only good and bad people everywhere even within the Igbos. If it's about the distance in terms of region, just pray for your son in law to be good, have the money and live long. Distance is always settled with enough money ( that's why we have airplanes). Today, everyone is happy. I've two nephews with Yoruba names I like damilola et Ayo. My In-law no dey carry me play cuz he learnt of how I stood for his case. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by Nword22: 4:28pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
Nazeren: Bro, nothing like igbo slut, even when they try they won't bang your tribe, in other note both your old and young ladies are sluts in dirty land. 2 Likes |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by Slymonster(m): 4:29pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
Very funny..When a man beat his wife of the same tribe,they blame the man or even sometimes his family but when it's a different tribe marriage.They blame the tribe...This is how nigerians reason... You can be in the same tribe and suffer a lot and also be in different tribe and suffer too.Just allow God lead you and make sure your love is always there.When a man is ready for marriage,you need to have this mentality that it is your marriage and not our marriage.Same thing goes,it is my wife and not our wife or husband.Have that mentality,you can conquer any devil. 4 Likes |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by PAGAN9JA(m): 4:29pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
TruePass: sekem: well said brother. tribe brings unity, family values, cultural upbringing and gives the children an identity. marriage is not just about the union of two.people but of two.families. its not mere dating. its also easier to adjust considering the similar mentality when it comes to food, socio political views , customs, LANGUAGE, etc religion is different from tribe. tribe predates religion. it is like human species. people should thing about their future. 6 Likes |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by slam7000(m): 4:31pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
tommynico: Post by Nazeren: Tribe matters to me. Can never marry an igbo shiit. @tommynico, Did you see this post? What is your view? 1 Like |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by PAGAN9JA(m): 4:32pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
pcguru1: thata his personal choice. none of your business. dont be a typical leftist although he shouldnt have insulted the Igbos. |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by ikemesit4477: 4:32pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
ALOWONLE419:see where una mentality has landed you people, That is why majority Muslim of ladies are always dash out just to leave her father's house, imagine a poor farmer getting married to 10 wives! 1 Like |
Re: How To Convince Parents That Tribe Doesn't Matter In Marriage? by slam7000(m): 4:33pm On Oct 17, 2017 |
Bruno3000: You look like the "very annoying set of homosapiens" too?? May God purge and help your diseased mind. 1 Like |
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