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How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by Hammergirl: 8:03pm On May 02
Hi, I'm in love with an osu but my family forbids it. How do I convince them to allow me to marry him?

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by Xscape1993(m): 8:05pm On May 02
What is even osu in this 21 century? I laugh in my local dialect ooo.

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by CanadaOrBust: 8:07pm On May 02
Nothing like Osu again in Igbo land. Na only you and your family wahala be that.
This is a good opportunity to take a righteous stand for once in your life

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by heniford2: 8:10pm On May 02
Hammergirl:
Hi, I'm in love with an osu but my family forbids it. How do I convince them to allow me to marry him?
give her belly case close but bear it in mind you will be an outcaste by culture your village will separate from you even ur immediate family i have seen it happen believe me you will regret it because after love comes bitterness

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by Hammergirl: 8:11pm On May 02
CanadaOrBust:
Nothing like Osu again in Igbo land. Na only you and your family wahala be that.
This is a good opportunity to take a righteous stand for once in your life

Alright thanks

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by Mutemenot(m): 8:16pm On May 02
heniford2:
give her belly case close but bear it in mind you will be an outcaste by culture your village will separate from you even ur immediate family i have seen it happen believe me you will regret it because after love comes bitterness

Bitter truth

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by ictjobber: 8:16pm On May 02
Hammergirl:
Hi, I'm in love with an osu but my family forbids it. How do I convince them to allow me to marry him?

Threaten to cut them off financially... This will only work if you've been helping them out in the past tho

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by Nobody: 8:19pm On May 02
Hammergirl:
Hi, I'm in love with an osu but my family forbids it. How do I convince them to allow me to marry him?

I just pity Igbo ladies that would be rendered single for life cos of these negative traditions.

Same "Osu" guy will marry a beautiful and educated woman from another tribe or another country without issues or problems.

Marriage should be a personal thing, marry who you love, simple! If you like, use your marital life to please your kinsmen and displease yourself, na your life ooo.

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by brownemmanuel43(m): 8:20pm On May 02
My dear, this case strong ohhhhhhh, forget about what people are saying 21 century bla bla
This is africa not western world, and your family are still alive, this kind thing can only work when u are the only one alive
Forget about love, when the stage change that's when u will understand that family first ohhhhh

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by CanadaOrBust: 9:20pm On May 02
Hammergirl:


Alright thanks

U r welcome dear. Have a happy married life. That’s what counts

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by LilMissFavvy(f): 9:27pm On May 02
Igbos and backward*ness, what is osu, in this modern era. Even their women are oppressed and not allowed to share in family inheritance. That is why Igbo women are usually the one who die in abusive marriages, because they will not be welcomed back home. It's so surprising things like this still exists. Igbos need to wake up.

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by mutter(f): 9:33pm On May 02
The challange with such decisions is that ultimately the children inherit the consequences of your decision.
So think about it.
Depends on how much value you lay on your position in the igbo community.

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by SweetCunt97(f): 9:38pm On May 02
Hammergirl:


Alright thanks
Better dont thank anyone.

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by tellwisdom: 11:51pm On May 02
Hammergirl:
Hi, I'm in love with an osu but my family forbids it. How do I convince them to allow me to marry him?

Be very careful with these kids telling you 21st century and modern day. Tradition is tradition.

If you do otherwise, just make sure you don’t step your foot anywhere close to your village.

You see these ones talking like they know anything about life; they will be no where to be found when spiritual problem starts, and you will have no option than to carry your cross alone out of sheer negligence.

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by meobizy(f): 12:27am On May 03
Lol. The Osu tradition can never die, no matter how these Igbos claim otherwise. It’s one of those things in life.

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by JeffreyJunior: 2:03am On May 03
You never cross 30years be that. Families of some of us dey pray mek we even carry goat come house say we wan marry am. cheesy

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by Hammergirl: 3:25am On May 03
Your contributions are very much appreciated. Thanks and have a great week ahead.
Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by Richy4(m): 5:17am On May 03
<<<<Is Christianity existing in 21st century?..... yes
<<<<Has Outcast been abolished?.... Yes
<<<<So what's the problem?.....Systematic segregation and stigmatization....

I feel really bad that good looking men/women would be branded/ painted to an unidentified colour because of some long aged tradition that does nothing but tarnish images....

If you are sure that you don't need your family for anything in this lifetime for any kind of support especially Financially, then you can go ahead and marry him... but If you do, and still marry him, then depression will set in infuture because of how they will act toward you especially when kids starts rolling out... They might not want to come for child dedication.. and if they do, they will be acting like visitors and will not be free... due to ignorance....

If you are sure that you can walk on the street of your community especially during xmas with your kids who came to visit grandma without fear that someone will make derogatory statement like( she is X the daughter of Mazi ABC that married an Osu) then you can go ahead...

I don't know when this will stop... But in churches in Igbo like Protestant churches in early 2000, I am aware that they preach against it... but when it's time to get married, the Priests/Pastors do not marry Osu to show an example to the people...

If your love is stronger than all these stigmatization, then you can go ahead... But I have to let you know that stigmatization about cast system is real.... It's gonna be like Megan and Harry... but the difference is that it's the same colour that were carrying out the nonsense,....

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by xperiencelove(m): 7:20am On May 03
This happened to my friend. Your family will never approve or bless the union.
You can go ahead by marring her but expect no family member and after the wedding, don't also expect them to pick your call even your mother.

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by Fiscus105: 7:29am On May 03
tellwisdom:


Be very careful with these kids telling you 21st century and modern day. Tradition is tradition.

If you do otherwise, just make sure you don’t step your foot anywhere close to your village.

You see these ones talking like they know anything about life; they will be no where to be found when spiritual problem starts, and you will have no option than to carry your cross alone out of sheer negligence.


talking as if staying at home benefited them ( is Igbo gives females inheritances?) and as if, familiarize with village people is not giving them morer problems?

marriage & religion are personal , use them to please urself and not others.

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by WorldRichest: 8:40am On May 03
brownemmanuel43:
My dear, this case strong ohhhhhhh, forget about what people are saying 21 century bla bla
This is africa not western world, and your family are still alive, this kind thing can only work when u are the only one alive
Forget about love, when the stage change that's when u will understand that family first ohhhhh

Another Eastern Almajari spotted.

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by brownemmanuel43(m): 1:10pm On May 03
WorldRichest:


Another Eastern Almajari spotted.
Lolsssssss, all this ones wey dey used free data up and down

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by Hed0nist: 1:51pm On May 03
Even you sef. Will you allow your family member to marry Pepper? grin

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by Joel3(m): 4:11pm On May 03
why must Igbo marries another igbo? the igbo is one funny tribe that accuse the hausa fulani for not mixing with other tribe or give their daughter to other tribe. but the igbos do the worst.

if you are osu or whatever you shouldn't even bother marrying an igbo. go to the South south and find a partner. there are many igbo already doing that.

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by RSVP: 7:42pm On May 03
Joel3:
why must Igbo marries another igbo? the igbo is one funny tribe that accuse the hausa fulani for not mixing with other tribe or give their daughter to other tribe. but the igbos do the worst.

if you are osu or whatever you shouldn't even bother marrying an igbo. go to the South south and find a partner. there are many igbo already doing that.


Please pardon my ignorance.

What is the meaning of "Osu"?

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by Joel3(m): 8:17pm On May 03
RSVP:



Please pardon my ignorance.

What is the meaning of "Osu"?
a descendants of an outcast.

The Osu caste system is an ancient practice in Igboland that discourages social interaction and marriage with a group of persons called Osu. Osus are dedicated to the deities of Igboland; they are considered as inferior beings and are usually discriminated against.

In ancient time osu can only marry themselves and live in an enclave.

it's more like a fowl that was thrown to the river and it becomes a river property. and people get scared of the fowl either to take it or stole it as it's seen as river goddess property.

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by RSVP: 1:40am On May 04
Joel3:
a descendants of an outcast.

The Osu caste system is an ancient practice in Igboland that discourages social interaction and marriage with a group of persons called Osu. Osus are dedicated to the deities of Igboland; they are considered as inferior beings and are usually discriminated against.

In ancient osu can only marry themselves and live in an enclave.

it's more like a foul that was thrown to the river and it becomes a river property. and people get scared of the foul either to take it or stole it as it's seen as river goddess property.


Hmmm now i understand .
Thanks to you and google smiley

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by Vision101(m): 1:41am On May 04
This osu thing is nonsense. You eat together, Bleep together, lick yourselves, sometimes abort the pregnancy and the osu goddess will not do anything. Only when it's time for marriage that the goddess will surface.

What type of cast is that. When you were dating the young man might be giving your parents and relations osu money and they will be using and nothing happened to them.

Talk to your brothers and sisters that are enlightened. Once they support you, go for court wedding.

Husband scarce oooooo. I done tell you finish!!!

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by Throwback: 11:47am On May 04
You mean,your Igbo family are not Christians but still traditionalists to bother about something called Osu?

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Re: How Do I Convince My Family To Allow Me Marry An Osu by Lamitamata: 11:47am On May 04
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