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Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by adetayo234: 12:10pm On Oct 20, 2017
prestigiouslady:
Prayer is right but let her understand she can step out of the room to the parlour to do her prayers..
Tell her you appreciate her putting the family in her prayers but you need rest as the sleepless night causes you to perform less at work, let her know the risks involved if you don't perform your tasks effectively and efficiently at work..

I as a person do not believe in casting and binding, my Bible tells me if a man's way pleases the Lord, even his enemies will be at peace with him, that's my personal belief, might not work for your wife. If that's the way she can deal with the "metaphysical", let her be, you really can't change anything about that in a day, its a gradual process

Tell her to tune it down,cos doing the same thing might be chasing you away from her
Sit her down and communicate, wisdom is profitable to direct

You should start believing in casting and binding Ó. You forgot the story of Daniel, whose blessing was delayed by prince of Persia? Wasn't the ways of Daniel pleasing to the Lord? Do you know how many years poor Daniel had to pray before the blessing came? Maybe his prayers would have been answered earlier if he had casted and binded.

Please wake up from your spiritual immaturity and knowledge -deficiency; start casting and binding today!
Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by prestigiouslady: 12:18pm On Oct 20, 2017
adetayo234:


You should start believing in casting and binding Ó. You forgot the story of Daniel, whose blessing was delayed by prince of Persia? Wasn't the ways of Daniel pleasing to the Lord? Do you know how many years poor Daniel had to pray before the blessing came? Maybe his prayers would have been answered earlier if he had casted and binded.

Please wake up from your spiritual immaturity and knowledge -deficiency; start casting and binding today!

That I don't believe in casting and binding, or in speaking in tongues doesn't make less of a Christian and doesn't make spiritually immature.
And to correct you, I ain't knowledge deficient.

I know what I believe and I hold on steadfastly to it and it has helped and brought me thus far.
She knows what works for her, but it will be unfair if she uses her own prayers to disturb another's peace of mind

To each his own.

Thank you.

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Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by salt1: 12:19pm On Oct 20, 2017
adetayo234:


You should start believing in casting and binding Ó. You forgot the story of Daniel, whose blessing was delayed by prince of Persia? Wasn't the ways of Daniel pleasing to the Lord? Do you know how many years poor Daniel had to pray before the blessing came? Maybe his prayers would have been answered earlier if he had casted and binded.

Please wake up from your spiritual immaturity and knowledge -deficiency; start casting and binding today!

What a weird understanding of Scripture! You paint God as one puny idol whom you have to command and arm twist into answering your prayers.
How about prayers being answered in God's own good time and in keeping with HIS plan for each individual life?

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Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by adetayo234: 12:19pm On Oct 20, 2017
prestigiouslady:


That I don't believe in casting and binding, or in speaking in tongues doesn't make less of a Christian and doesn't make spiritually immature.
And to correct you, I ain't knowledge deficient.

I know what I believe and I hold on steadfastly to it and it has helped and brought me thus far.

To each his own.

Thank you.

Still, the kingdom of God suffers violence, and the violent takes it by force.
Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by Chigorkizz(m): 12:27pm On Oct 20, 2017
This Is Strong O.
Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by carsy(f): 12:28pm On Oct 20, 2017
bender:
Guy let me analyse what you are going through. Let me assume she attends a deliverance church like mfm, chosen etc. Now when a person prays such deliverance prayers as she does, it deals with foundational issues such as witchcraftry, idolatry etc and In d process such powers fight back especially n d hours of 12-,3am and the attacks occur mostly through dreams n some even manifest In form of marks on the body. Now since u r married and are now one , when she wakes up to pray, if u fthe spouse is not praying too or is weak spiritually, those powers she is dealing with will attack you the spouse...,.. The good thing is this battle is not forever as she persists in prayers with time those powers leave her case n the prayers then help to strengthen her spiritual life.
So my advice to u is this, u shld be grateful she is a prayerful wife (and one way to notice the effect of those prayers is to checokout the growth in her physical life like career etc and her spiritual life), instead of fighting her why not guide her especially in her spiritual life, join her to pray when she wakes up maybe during the weekends and help her redirect her prayers aright.she needs u as a spiritual head. For more info you can PM me

she shd pray nd neglect her marriage? haba.. she's being too spiritual. too much of evrytng isn't good.
Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by thunderbabs: 12:31pm On Oct 20, 2017
Yoruba's will call ur type of wife "iyawo Oran"

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Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by prestigiouslady: 12:34pm On Oct 20, 2017
adetayo234:


Still, the kingdom of God suffers violence, and the violent takes it by force.
Violence in form of noise and disturbance
violence at the detriment of her own home and making the spouse irritated?

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Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by adetayo234: 12:35pm On Oct 20, 2017
salt1:


What a weird understanding of Scripture! You paint God as one puny idol whom you have to command and arm twist into answering your prayers.
How about prayers being answered in God's own good time and in keeping with HIS plan for each individual life?

Check Isaiah 45:11, where God said we should command him.

Do you remember a scripture that said "every tongue that rise in judgement against me, I shall condemn?" That should tell you that the Kingdom of God suffers violence and you need to be violent to take it.

Buroda, please let your understanding and mindset about God be guided by the scriptures and not by what you think with your human reasoning
Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by rekeson: 12:37pm On Oct 20, 2017
Your marital problem require an Orthodox but very practical solution.

Here is what you do, before bedtime, engage her in vigorous love making. As in serve it to her so had that she will be totally gassed out.

Then allow her to sleep. Trust me bro, she will only move her body when it is morning.

That is how I handle troublesome babes. I believe this solution will definitely work for you. Thank me later....

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Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by colins100: 12:40pm On Oct 20, 2017
my question to u sir is

Didn't u knw all these befor you married her,i mean her kind of prayer,her core belives,were u not fully aware,was u marriage arranged,y are u complaining now wen

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Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by adetayo234: 12:40pm On Oct 20, 2017
prestigiouslady:

Violence in form of noise and disturbance
violence at the detriment of her own home and making the spouse irritated?

I'm not referring to the post. I'm referring to your understanding about casting and binding.

You need to cast and bind for sure, but that doesn't mean you should disturb everybody with your prayers. Prayers should be communication between you and your creator. It's all about wisdom.

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Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by fowlyansh181(m): 12:42pm On Oct 20, 2017
wrongchoice:
I opened this new account to narrate my ordeal on how my marriage got to a near collapse now. i want people to learn from my experience, so, i will be getting different topics on this account how we got to this stage.

We stay in a room and parlor. I work in private firm and she works in a private secondary school as a teacher. We are blessed with a child.
When we got married 3 years ago, we used to pray together at least every morning and night but latter I had to stop praying with her for the following reasons;

1..Her prayer is mostly about attacking people most especially people that are close to me both male and female. Sometimes she would pray so that some will have accident ,some to run mad and all those kind of prayers . Even my boss at work inclusive for making me to stay beyond working hours sometimes .This irritates me a lot and so much against my belive on how to pray.

2..She curse more than a winch though under the seal of Jesus name and blood. This doesn’t make her different from a wicked herbalist in my own view.

3..And lastly, I later stopped praying with her when She would always wake up around 12 am to pray and fire till around 3 am .she will wake up again around 5 am preparing for the office.

4…Sometimes she would talk from 12am till 4am. I will wake up and sleep and still wake again to find her still talking on irrelevant.
She can do this for days. I do enjoy my sleep at best if she starts by 3 or 4. I have told her the effects of this on me.it always make me inactive in the office. It got to a stage I was not feeling fine without any physical sign. I had to go to the hospital for test and nothing was diagnosed. I knew I needed rest . Meanwhile, I am a kind of person that love thanking God for who I am and I love interceding for people around.
I told her and warned her to limit the hours so that I can have a good rest but she won’t listen instead she took it to another level each day. She was doing it as if I was against Christ or have a devil in me she wants to chase away with prayer.
Due to this, I later started having nightmares on almost on daily bases. I later started sleeping in the sitting room. Sometimes she would come and start singing and praying again. She forced me to tell a family friend and they told her the effects it may have on me again. So she stopped coming to the sitting room to pray again.

Funny enough, I am always sleeping fine in the sitting room and its now 6 months and I am enjoying it . To make it worst our bedroom is like a shrine to me now. I only enter, change my cloth after bath or change to house ware after work then retire to the sitting room till the following morning. In the last 6 months I don’t think I have spent up to five mints in the bedroom.
This is just one out of 100 things happing in my home which I will be sharing one after the other here for people to learn most especially people that want to marry. Presently, the home is about finally collapsing.

Next is write will be on the two major things I learnt from my marriage .


i am not saying you are poor OP, or mean it as an insult or anything, but poverty or atleast not having enough is what's affecting this marriage. If the house was big enough there wouldn't be a need for all this nor you even noticing how she prays , neither would she disturb your peace , also you would work and be so busy you hardly even have time for her shenanigans. If she had quite a lot on her plate to handle and not just being a private school teacher , she would have been exposed to realize some of her actions are quite childish. I am not saying what she is doing is right at all neither am I cursing you out or saying you are poor . But I do know for a fact , talking and talking would change nothing as maybe she has less activities to occupy her time and neither are you firm to make her understand she is being crazy .. if that's all she does and she doesn't take her madness outside then I would advice just ignore her and tolerate her . Na she go tire .. or best get a divorce ..
Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by prestigiouslady: 12:44pm On Oct 20, 2017
adetayo234:


I'm not referring to the post. I'm referring to your understanding about casting and binding.

You need to cast and bind for sure, but that doesn't mean you should disturb everybody with your prayers. Prayers should be communication between you and your creator. It's all about wisdom.


If my own form of communicating with my father is through my silent ways, good. Everyone knows how he deals with his own God

Peace
Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by adetayo234: 12:46pm On Oct 20, 2017
prestigiouslady:



If my own form of communicating with my father is through my silent ways, good. Everyone knows how he deals with his own God

Peace

It's like you were too emotionally blinded to read and understand what I wrote, right?
Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by Kaslyni: 12:46pm On Oct 20, 2017
adetayo234:


You should start believing in casting and binding Ó. You forgot the story of Daniel, whose blessing was delayed by prince of Persia? Wasn't the ways of Daniel pleasing to the Lord? Do you know how many years poor Daniel had to pray before the blessing came? Maybe his prayers would have been answered earlier if he had casted and binded.

Please wake up from your spiritual immaturity and knowledge -deficiency; start casting and binding today!
Ahahahaa... I like you my friend!

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Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by YelloweWest: 12:46pm On Oct 20, 2017
wrongchoice:
I opened this new account to narrate my ordeal on how my marriage got to a near collapse now. i want people to learn from my experience, so, i will be getting different topics on this account how we got to this stage.

We stay in a room and parlor. I work in private firm and she works in a private secondary school as a teacher. We are blessed with a child.
When we got married 3 years ago, we used to pray together at least every morning and night but latter I had to stop praying with her for the following reasons;

1..Her prayer is mostly about attacking people most especially people that are close to me both male and female. Sometimes she would pray so that some will have accident ,some to run mad and all those kind of prayers . Even my boss at work inclusive for making me to stay beyond working hours sometimes .This irritates me a lot and so much against my belive on how to pray.

2..She curse more than a winch though under the seal of Jesus name and blood. This doesn’t make her different from a wicked herbalist in my own view.

3..And lastly, I later stopped praying with her when She would always wake up around 12 am to pray and fire till around 3 am .she will wake up again around 5 am preparing for the office.

4…Sometimes she would talk from 12am till 4am. I will wake up and sleep and still wake again to find her still talking on irrelevant.
She can do this for days. I do enjoy my sleep at best if she starts by 3 or 4. I have told her the effects of this on me.it always make me inactive in the office. It got to a stage I was not feeling fine without any physical sign. I had to go to the hospital for test and nothing was diagnosed. I knew I needed rest . Meanwhile, I am a kind of person that love thanking God for who I am and I love interceding for people around.
I told her and warned her to limit the hours so that I can have a good rest but she won’t listen instead she took it to another level each day. She was doing it as if I was against Christ or have a devil in me she wants to chase away with prayer.
Due to this, I later started having nightmares on almost on daily bases. I later started sleeping in the sitting room. Sometimes she would come and start singing and praying again. She forced me to tell a family friend and they told her the effects it may have on me again. So she stopped coming to the sitting room to pray again.

Funny enough, I am always sleeping fine in the sitting room and its now 6 months and I am enjoying it . To make it worst our bedroom is like a shrine to me now. I only enter, change my cloth after bath or change to house ware after work then retire to the sitting room till the following morning. In the last 6 months I don’t think I have spent up to five mints in the bedroom.
This is just one out of 100 things happing in my home which I will be sharing one after the other here for people to learn most especially people that want to marry. Presently, the home is about finally collapsing.

Next is write will be on the two major things I learnt from my marriage .


Just when u think you've heard it all about marriage...
Lol.

Your matter pass me bros. But keep the stories coming. So others can learn.

If what you are saying is true then the devil is using your wife not God. Prayer to God cannot scatter a marriage.

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Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by eceemon(m): 12:46pm On Oct 20, 2017
My humble advice for you instead of you washing your cloths in the public...

Seek for counselling from your Rev. Or pastor or wherever you worship, as well as sit down with this woman and have a real time for both parties to express their self freely with out misunderstanding each other, express what you feel is wrong...

Also remind her of the sweet side of hers that made you fall in love and choose to spend the rest of your life with her...

Also try politely teach her how to pray, watch whom she's associating with...

Lastly, Seek advice from your papa,mama and pray...

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Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by YelloweWest: 12:53pm On Oct 20, 2017
Newboss:
Are you for real? undecided

I hope you get a wife like that and try what you just typed.
Yes he is for real!!

When men cheat what advise do u guys give?
Cool better. Dress better. Appreciate him. Love him etc...

So guy show love to ur wife even when she may be wrong. After all she is praying for him! angry

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Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by lastempero: 12:53pm On Oct 20, 2017
What I will tell you milght not go down well with you but I must say it.take her to psychiatric hospital.
Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by kendraloops(f): 12:59pm On Oct 20, 2017
You just described my MIL. Everyone was worried too till she was taken to a mental hospital and was diagnosed with some illness. She's been in drugs since then, though she's not perfect now but it's much more better than when it all started.

hers was even worse than your wife's. so much wahala, I can't type all.....

take her to a psychiatrist. she'll resist you strongly and fight with all her power, but just do it. don't involve anyone o especially her church people, that'll much worse. if she refuses to take her drugs, codedly slip them into a cup of tea for her. don't let her know o.

but I must tell you, it's not easy at all. I dey salute my FIL. the man goes through a lot. please if you know you don't have the strength for it, find ya square root cos it's a really long journey.

good luck brother.

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Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by Newboss(m): 1:01pm On Oct 20, 2017
YelloweWest:

Yes he is for real!!

When men cheat what advise do u guys give?
Cool better. Dress better. Appreciate him. Love him etc...

So guy show love to ur wife even when she may be wrong. After all she is praying for him! angry
I hope you marry a man who is a chronic cheat so that you can apply what you outlined above to him
Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by nikky2012(f): 1:03pm On Oct 20, 2017
My mum is a member of mfm, Who truly forget after prayer there is a marriage to care for , my mum frustrated my dad to his grave, the poor man died last week and she became a happy widow. Bros be wise n shine ur eyes

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Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by redsun(m): 1:04pm On Oct 20, 2017
Was it an arranged marriage? Did your pastor impose her on you? You should have known what you are getting into,her mindset,during courtship.

Birds of the same feathers flocks together.
Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by nikky2012(f): 1:06pm On Oct 20, 2017
My mum is a member of mfm, Who truly forget after prayer there is a marriage to care for , my mum frustrated my dad to his grave, the poor man died last week and she became a happy widow. Bros be wise n shine ur eyes.coz my dad once told me she needs to go for a brain test

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Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by salt1: 1:06pm On Oct 20, 2017
adetayo234:


Check Isaiah 45:11, where God said we should command him.

Do you remember a scripture that said "every tongue that rise in judgement against me, I shall condemn?" That should tell you that the Kingdom of God suffers violence and you need to be violent to take it.

Buroda, please let your understanding and mindset about God be guided by the scriptures and not by what you think with your human reasoning

Don't pick verses in isolation. No Scripture is of private interpretation. Every tongue that rises against you in judgment you shall condemn is the heritage of the servants of the Lord who are living to please Him, not those railing abuses at imaginary enemies.
The kingdom of God is taken by violence: those who want it will pay ANY price, including martyrdom to attain it.
If you continue with this casting and binding of imaginary enemies, you may end up a psychiatric case like op's wife.
I'm taking time to write this, not so much for you whose pastor's interpretation of the Bible must be very rigid, but for some others who may benefit from a Christianity that is devoid of fanaticism and eccentricity

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Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by YelloweWest: 1:06pm On Oct 20, 2017
Newboss:
I hope you marry a man who is a chronic cheat so that you can apply what you outlined above to him
Hahahaha. I'm already married to a good man. cheesy.

Give it own advise for cheating husband and nagging wife.

Stop wishing doom on others!
Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by nikky2012(f): 1:07pm On Oct 20, 2017
My mum is a member of mfm, Who truly forget after prayer there is a marriage to care for , my mum frustrated my dad to his grave, the poor man died last week and she became a happy widow. Bros be wise n shine ur eyes.coz my dad once told me she needs to go for a brain test lipsrsealed

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Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by luckydion(m): 1:07pm On Oct 20, 2017
GIVE ATTENTION TO YOUR WIFE AS HUSBAND AND STOP COMPLAINING... SHE HAS TO FIGHT WITH THE ONLY WEAPON SHE HAS....

SOMETHING LED TO THIS... IF NOTHING HAPPENED PRAYER POINTS WON'T BE SO..........

DUTY OF A HUSBAND

1 SEX
2. PROVIDER
3. ADVICE/CANCELLING (AS, HUSBAND, ADVOCATE, HER SPIRITUAL LEADER, PROTECTOR, TEACHER ETC) If u as husband fails in any of these then, your wife seeks help outside, which may share the love she has for you.

many to talk about these but time is not a friend... best of luck

4. LEADER BOTH PHYSICAL AND SPIRITUAL (be your wife prayer warrior, boast her faith... let her have confidence in you, trust you)
Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by adetayo234: 1:12pm On Oct 20, 2017
salt1:


Don't pick verses in isolation. No Scripture is of private interpretation. Every tongue that rises against you in judgment you shall condemn is the heritage of the servants of the Lord who are living to please Him, not those railing abuses at imaginary enemies.
The kingdom of God is taken by violence: those who want it will pay ANY price, including martyrdom to attain it.
If you continue with this casting and binding of imaginary enemies, you may end up a psychiatric case like op's wife.
I'm taking time to write this, not so much for you whose pastor's interpretation of the Bible must be very rigid, but for some others who may benefit from a Christianity that is devoid of fanaticism and eccentricity

You are having very strong problem with simple understanding. The origin of this discuss is that you said humans can't command God, and I've given you Bible verses that showed God wants humans to command him. Please don't infect me with your spirit of confusion.
Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by luckydion(m): 1:16pm On Oct 20, 2017
adetayo234:


You are having very strong problem with simple understanding. The origin of this discuss is that you said humans can't command God, and I've given you Bible verses that showed God wants humans to command him. Please don't infect me with your spirit of confusion.



ya... you can command God concerning His SOn.. and His word (Isa.45:11)
Re: How My Wife Has Been Terrorizing Me Spiritually And The Effects On Us by Nobody: 1:17pm On Oct 20, 2017
With the right person we make positive changes for the progress of all

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