Laveda:
A lady has taken to her twitter page to share her rape experience with a guy she visited at night. She said she was introduced to the guy through her friend they planned a meetup, which she agreed to go, and on getting there, so many things took place.

Read below.

http://orjisblog.com.ng/2017/11/26/lady-recounts-experience-with-a-nigerian-man-unilagolodo/

To cut this your story short you're the cause of your own problem in fact you enjoyed the whole episode of love he gave to you. these will teach you to lesson to stick to your boyfriend and stop bleeping around NONSENSE

This kind rapé story, hmmm! I don't understand o.

I know No means No, but the No in this case, ayam not seeing clearly , anybody know why?

makydebbie:
Exactly! He said he'll want to have sex. See ehn, Ishi. Let's drop emotions and argue logically. How can you lead a guy to the point of head.
They were cuddling too, if she was serious about the no sex, she would have cautioned the guy immediately when cuddling started. But no! She opened her legs for head! Ahn an!

Ahn ahn, debbie I don't get you. When did 'platonic' mean 'I want to have sex'? Nothing in that screenshot indicates that.

Strictly platonic means it would be strictly on a friendship level with no intimacy whatsoever. She didn't lead him on. The he-goat was the one who started harassing her before forcing himself on her

LadyGoddiva:
I cannot even believe the comments I’m reading here. Like are you fuckiñg shitting me?? Even from fellow ladies too?
Things is, Nigerians are too close minded and backward thinking. A lot of things can constitute as rape. It’s not only when a random guy abducts you and forcefully has sex with you while you scream and fight back can be considered as rape. The basic thing that defines rape is CONSENT! Whether she was wearing only her panties in the man’s bed, even if she was twerking naked for him, as long as she said NO, then he had no right to try and perform any sexual activities on her.
And since when did agreeing to cuddle him automatically imply consent to have sex with him? He even went on to give her orals and strip her. Thing is, even if she may not have fought back, bottom line is, she didn’t want sex to happen. And he went on and did what he wanted anyway. That’s a more subtle kind of rape.
Nigerians really need reonrientation of their mindset when it comes to the issue of rape. I’m seeing a lot of bs comments like “why would she go to a guy’s house when it’s not her boyfriend” and “why would she wear only shorts in his bed and why would she sleep on the Same bed with him?” The thing is, irrespective of the circumstance surrounding the story, she didn’t give her consent and the man had sex with her against her wish. It wasn’t consensual sex thus, it can be classified as rape. Too bad she’s just speaking up now.

I'm sorry, but wtf are you looking for staying overnight in some dudes place? Sharing bed and cuddling?

What is it with Nigerian chicks and their stupid games?

I blame the stupid guy for not kicking her out immediately she started that nonsense.

sweetcocoa:
This kind rapé story, hmmm! I don't understand o.

I know No means No, but the No in this case, ayam not seeing clearly , anybody know why?

The "headies and cuddling" involved...

That unilag babe must be a very funny babe. She doesn't have shame at all or is she actually possessed? My God!!! How could she bring such to d public domain? Everything she has narrated showed that she approves of it. What is consenting to curdling? Someone u aren't intimate with should curdle you? She even waited for her short to be pulled off, she collected blue job? Abeggi make she go sleep n stop to disgrace herself.


Which kind WiFi she dey find self!!!

I’m telling you, I was so mortified by the comments that I read here and on Instablog that I just had to unfollow that page. What shocks me most is that even women who are supposed to relate with the victim and speak up in her support were also insulting her. I mean sometimes we do stupid things without necessarily thinking of the morbid outcomes, and that girl didn’t deserve to be slept with against her consent irrespective of the circumstances surrounding her story.
The lesson I’ve learnt from all these is that the average Nigerian man is an entitled, perverted animal that has no form of self control whatsoever. It is well. And it’s too bad that women have also been brainwashed into believing that if she ever gets raped, it’s totally her fault for flaunting her self before these uncontrollable animals who have no self control. Once again, it is well.

Ishilove:
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The animal above you has 506 likes for his idiotic comment. That shows you the mindset of the average Nigerian youth

The lady was very naive to have spent the night with the man but that's no excuse for rape

Ishilove:

Ahn ahn, debbie I don't get you. When did 'platonic' mean 'I want to have sex'? Nothing in that screenshot indicates that.

Strictly platonic means it would be strictly on a friendship level with no intimacy whatsoever. She didn't lead him on. The he-goat was the one who started harassing her before forcing himself on her

Ishi abeg. Cuddling is platonic? Sharing same bed? Staying overnight at his place?

You want platonic, then you maintain boundaries.

This is the ridiculous way Nigerian girls just like behaving. If the guy had done nothing, this same girl would probably have been calling him liver less.

LadyGoddiva:
I cannot even believe the comments I’m reading here. Like are you fuckiñg shitting me?? Even from fellow ladies too?
Things is, Nigerians are too close minded and backward thinking. A lot of things can constitute as rape. It’s not only when a random guy abducts you and forcefully has sex with you while you scream and fight back can be considered as rape. The basic thing that defines rape is CONSENT! Whether she was wearing only her panties in the man’s bed, even if she was twerking naked for him, as long as she said NO, then he had no right to try and perform any sexual activities on her.
And since when did agreeing to cuddle him automatically imply consent to have sex with him? He even went on to give her orals and strip her. Thing is, even if she may not have fought back, bottom line is, she didn’t want sex to happen. And he went on and did what he wanted anyway. That’s a more subtle kind of rape.
Nigerians really need reonrientation of their mindset when it comes to the issue of rape. I’m seeing a lot of bs comments like “why would she go to a guy’s house when it’s not her boyfriend” and “why would she wear only shorts in his bed and why would she sleep on the Same bed with him?” The thing is, irrespective of the circumstance surrounding the story, she didn’t give her consent and the man had sex with her against her wish. It wasn’t consensual sex thus, it can be classified as rape. Too bad she’s just speaking up now.

I don't need to be educated on rapé(not that you were referring to me) just saying, I know what rapé is, ergo, you have no business as a woman, cuddling with a man you have no intention of sleeping with, especially knowing he wants to sleep with you, especially again, since he is not your boyfriend.

You let him touch you and give you oral? How the Bleep does a rapist give oral well enough to lubricate the vagina and easily slid in, without having to tie your hands/spread your leg, tying it to a pole? What does she mean by, he touched her, she left the bed, he apologised, she came back, removed shots bla bla bla?

Abeg this girl is a hoe, story looks fake anyways. When I see a rapé victim, I know.

Blackhawk01:


The "headies and cuddling" involved...

Oh! That, I see.

Papiikush:


If you are looking for men with self control don't sleep in my house go and sleep in your pastor's house.

So the pastor forgot his dongoyaro at the pulpit abi?

The pastor go be like..

Like I said before, sometimes we do stupid things without expecting the terrible outcome. Since Nigerian men here have proven to be wild animals with no iota of self control, then we have no choice but to guard ourselves against them

Safiaa:
Thats understandable. His actions are not justifiable whatsoever. He did have sex without her consent which is rape. That doesnt dispute that as women we need to take responsibility for ourselves. Not everybody has morals and principles, and not everybody thinks like us. Understand that. If you put yourself in such a dangerous/sexual environment please don't act dumbfounded when things don't go to your plans. As young adults we need to act with caution and protect ourselves first. Especially as women. They're certain things you just don't do, I'm sorry. Nobody is to be trusted 100% in this world. Simple.

Ishilove:

Ahn ahn, debbie I don't get you. When did 'platonic' mean 'I want to have sex'? Nothing in that screenshot indicates that.

Strictly platonic means it would be strictly on a friendship level with no intimacy whatsoever. She didn't lead him on. The he-goat was the one who started harassing her before forcing himself on her

I go soon vex drop vn to explain myself better.


What I'm saying is, if the guy subtly expose his tendencies by mentioning sex, you should know the person you're dealing with. You should know that, he has other plans for you. From there, whatever decision you make, you should face the consequences. She was darn lucky that she saw the light.


My dear, if a guy is giving you head, you can use your legs to attack! Have you ever heard of rape when the guy would give the girl head? She couldn't scream?


She was meeting this guy for the first time, now I'm going to deliberately ignore the fact that she has a boyfriend. If I'm going to meet a guy for the first time, apart from eatery, I can go to his house. But spending the night with a stranger is a no no. If you read without emotions clouding your reasoning, you'll see she went there because of free WiFi and also, the guy is obviously loaded. If he was broke, do you think she'll bother herself?


The guy was wrong! I said that in my post, but she led him on. We should face the consequences of our actions.

Ishilove:

Ahn ahn, debbie I don't get you. When did 'platonic' mean 'I want to have sex'? Nothing in that screenshot indicates that.

Strictly platonic means it would be strictly on a friendship level with no intimacy whatsoever. She didn't lead him on. The he-goat was the one who started harassing her before forcing himself on her

Stay there and be deceiving yourself. Cuddling is not intimate with a man you know wants to fvck you, weh done ma o, I see you.

LadyGoddiva:
Like I said before, sometimes we do stupid things without expecting the terrible outcome. Since Nigerian men here have proven to be wild animals with no iota of self control, then we have no choice but to guard ourselves against them

I find it quite odd you see nothing wrong with her excesses and how she sort of enabled the whole situation....ignoring the fact she also had a bf....

LadyGoddiva:
I cannot even believe the comments I’m reading here. Like are you fuckiñg shitting me?? Even from fellow ladies too?
Things is, Nigerians are too close minded and backward thinking. A lot of things can constitute as rape. It’s not only when a random guy abducts you and forcefully has sex with you while you scream and fight back can be considered as rape. The basic thing that defines rape is CONSENT! Whether she was wearing only her panties in the man’s bed, even if she was twerking naked for him, as long as she said NO, then he had no right to try and perform any sexual activities on her.
And since when did agreeing to cuddle him automatically imply consent to have sex with him? He even went on to give her orals and strip her. Thing is, even if she may not have fought back, bottom line is, she didn’t want sex to happen. And he went on and did what he wanted anyway. That’s a more subtle kind of rape.
Nigerians really need reonrientation of their mindset when it comes to the issue of rape. I’m seeing a lot of bs comments like “why would she go to a guy’s house when it’s not her boyfriend” and “why would she wear only shorts in his bed and why would she sleep on the Same bed with him?” The thing is, irrespective of the circumstance surrounding the story, she didn’t give her consent and the man had sex with her against her wish. It wasn’t consensual sex thus, it can be classified as rape. Too bad she’s just speaking up now.

Unfortunately, the issue of consent is now her word against his. It's going to be difficult to determine she indeed said "No" or only became overcome with guilt after the fact.

We've only heard one side of the story, but even this side does not do the lady any favours. A good defense lawyer would make this young lady look so bad and cheap in a courtroom, that she would want to creep under a rock and never come out. She hasn't done herself a whole lot of good with the choices she made.

As for guys who rape, you are less than a man. NO means NO, no matter what. How can you even enjoy sex with an unwilling partner?

sweetcocoa:
Stay there and be deceiving yourself. Cuddling is not intimate with a man you know wants to fvck you, weh done ma o, I see you.

Madam i tire for our today women o...must they tease the men and claim self control? Any way na the men wey allow them.....i for don chase am comot...

sweetcocoa:
I don't need to be educated on rapé(not that you were referring to me) just saying, I know what rapé is, ergo, you have no business as a woman, cuddling with a man you have no intention of sleeping with, especially knowing he wants to sleep with you, especially again, since he is not your boyfriend.

You let him touch you and give you oral? How the Bleep does a rapist give oral well enough to lubricate the vagina and easily slid in, without having to tie your hands/spread your leg, tying it to a pole? What does she mean by, he touched her, she left the bed, he apologised, she came back, removed shots bla bla bla?

Abeg this girl is a hoe, story looks fake anyways. When I see a rapé victim, I know.

No mind am.
It's either she wanted it, or she's the biggest idiot the world has ever seen.

Papiikush:
Slut!

A guy who is not your boyfriend, what in the world were you doing in his house overnight?

Forget the whole rape brouhaha...she is trying to play the victim card here because all I read is about a one night stand gone wrong.

Wait... How in the world will someone rape you with oral again?

I mean he was licking your pussý comfortably and you couldn't do anything? Ha aye mi!!!!

If a guy can be so comfortable to the extent he goes down on you, removes your panties and use his tongue to wipe your pussý clean without you breaking his neck with your laps, then you are a slut

I need to start telling these Unilag girls I have free WIFI maybe they'll come and spend the night in my apartment too. Awon olosho gbogbo

Forget self control, bìtch if you come to my apartment and you running around in your bumshort I'll fück that pussý.

If you are looking for men with self control don't sleep in my house go and sleep in your pastor's house.

God bless you

Xda59:


When real men talk, na once we dey know because we dey always talk am as e be. I also get a strong hard on reading the story and I swear, i will fůck her too if i were in the guy's shoes. For the babe to open toto make the guy suck show say she set herself up for the guy to fůck her and at the same time she wants to retain her good girl status so that she won't be seen as a cheap fůck. We have dealt with many of them in the past. If a girl says she is coming over to your house to pass the night (whether na wifi she wan use abi na plate she wan wash) the truth is, she wants you to fůck her period.

Baba may your days be long,no mind the coded shewe,be like say the guy no give her money na hin make her wan cast the homeboy,na money she been dey expect when my guy kon dey preach her love,or.maybe because the guy na blogger so she dey fear make hin no use her as case study.which ever way the fvck don digest tay tay,so make she move on abeg make I see table who dey top EPL

Laveda:


I get you, but going by what you just said. All men are potential rãpists.

I understand she's got her blames for going to a stranger's house at night and even agreeing to spend te night and not go with her friend or a trusted person, slept close to him on one bed and received hëad.

But we can't deny the fact that sex without consent is rape, as as she didn't accept to it, then it's rape.

I understand a woman's No is No but then again:what exactly is 'consent'? Let's say w'r both about to get down. I'm busy touching those sensitive spots on ur body,right now u'r heading to cloud9 almost tearing off all my shirt's buttons. I try to stop ur hands from doing the inevitable yet it happens anyway. I Finally get u n a k e d and on the bed still kissing and caressing those soft sensitive spots while I remain calm still in my briefs. All of a sudden,I quit touching u,I withdraw my hands and say :Do u feel like having sex today?. I don't even need to ask what you'll do cos it's obvious. You'll have mixed feelings of anger and pleasure,wanting to pounce on me like an angry bear cos at that point in time that question will sound so stupid and irrelevant. I hope u understood the point I came from and see the necessity of the reevaluation and definition of the term 'consent'.

LadyGoddiva:
I cannot even believe the comments I’m reading here. Like are you fuckiñg shitting me?? Even from fellow ladies too?
Things is, Nigerians are too close minded and backward thinking. A lot of things can constitute as rape. It’s not only when a random guy abducts you and forcefully has sex with you while you scream and fight back can be considered as rape. The basic thing that defines rape is CONSENT! Whether she was wearing only her panties in the man’s bed, even if she was twerking naked for him, as long as she said NO, then he had no right to try and perform any sexual activities on her.
And since when did agreeing to cuddle him automatically imply consent to have sex with him? He even went on to give her orals and strip her. Thing is, even if she may not have fought back, bottom line is, she didn’t want sex to happen. And he went on and did what he wanted anyway. That’s a more subtle kind of rape.
Nigerians really need reonrientation of their mindset when it comes to the issue of rape. I’m seeing a lot of bs comments like “why would she go to a guy’s house when it’s not her boyfriend” and “why would she wear only shorts in his bed and why would she sleep on the Same bed with him?” The thing is, irrespective of the circumstance surrounding the story, she didn’t give her consent and the man had sex with her against her wish. It wasn’t consensual sex thus, it can be classified as rape. Too bad she’s just speaking up now.

Come n twerk in my house. I'll Bleep that your pu $$¥ dry, by the Special Grace of God.

Papiikush:
Slut!

A guy who is not your boyfriend, what in the world were you doing in his house overnight?

Forget the whole rape brouhaha...she is trying to play the victim card here because all I read is about a one night stand gone wrong.

Wait... How in the world will someone rape you with oral again?

I mean he was licking your pussý comfortably and you couldn't do anything? Ha aye mi!!!!

If a guy can be so comfortable to the extent he goes down on you, removes your panties and use his tongue to wipe your pussý clean without you breaking his neck with your laps, then you are a slut

I need to start telling these Unilag girls I have free WIFI maybe they'll come and spend the night in my apartment too. Awon olosho gbogbo

Forget self control, bìtch if you come to my apartment and you running around in your bumshort I'll fück that pussý.

If you are looking for men with self control don't sleep in my house go and sleep in your pastor's house.

guy .... Kai. I'm speechless. very epic. u r a genius.

Papiikush:
Slut!

A guy who is not your boyfriend, what in the world were you doing in his house overnight?

Forget the whole rape brouhaha...she is trying to play the victim card here because all I read is about a one night stand gone wrong.

Wait... How in the world will someone rape you with oral again?

I mean he was licking your pussý comfortably and you couldn't do anything? Ha aye mi!!!!

If a guy can be so comfortable to the extent he goes down on you, removes your panties and use his tongue to wipe your pussý clean without you breaking his neck with your laps, then you are a slut

I need to start telling these Unilag girls I have free WIFI maybe they'll come and spend the night in my apartment too. Awon olosho gbogbo

Forget self control, bìtch if you come to my apartment and you running around in your bumshort I'll fück that pussý.

If you are looking for men with self control don't sleep in my house go and sleep in your pastor's house.

No mind the eeediot.

makydebbie:
I go soon vex drop vn to explain myself better.


What I'm saying is, if the guy subtly expose his tendencies by mentioning sex, you should know the person you're dealing with. You should know that, he has other plans for you. From there, whatever decision you make, you should face the consequences. She was darn lucky that she saw the light.


My dear, if a guy is giving you head, you can use your legs to attack! Have you ever heard of rape when the guy would give the girl head? She couldn't scream?


She was meeting this guy for the first time, now I'm going to deliberately ignore the fact that she has a boyfriend. If I'm going to meet a guy for the first time, apart from eatery, I can go to his house. But spending the night with a stranger is a no no. If you read without emotions clouding your reasoning, you'll see she went there because of free WiFi and also, the guy is obviously loaded. If he was broke, do you think she'll bother herself?


The guy was wrong! I said that in my post, but she led him on. We should face the consequences of our actions.

No I don't agree with you that she led him on, which is why I opined that she was naive to have agreed to spend the night with him on the same bed and not expect at least some form of approach.

My anger is the guy did not stop when she asked him to stop.

You have a point though. How the thing graduate from oral to rape dey baffle me

[quote author=ronaldbecky post=62737231][/quote] thanks

sweetcocoa:
Stay there and be deceiving yourself. Cuddling is not intimate with a man you know wants to fvck you, weh done ma o, I see you.

It's still no excuse for rape

FACT: More than 50% of women develop what I would call After Sex Remorse.

And of that number about half of them would falsely cry rape!



O pari

Please don’t bring God into your perverse and debauched talk. You even look like a potential rapist, the type that should be locked up for life. Animal! I only hope you don’t get to experience the joy of having a sister or daughter raped.

arofemites:


Come n twerk in my house. I'll Bleep that your pu $$¥ dry, by the Special Grace of God.

LadyGoddiva:
Like I said before, sometimes we do stupid things without expecting the terrible outcome. Since Nigerian men here have proven to be wild animals with no iota of self control, then we have no choice but to guard ourselves against them

Wow. Now you are just being uncharitable. Rape happens everywhere across the globe. You should check the global stats. I don't think Nigerian men are the ones committing those crimes all over the world.

LadyGoddiva:
I’m telling you, I was so mortified by the comments that I read here and on Instablog that I just had to unfollow that page. What shocks me most is that even women who are supposed to relate with the victim and speak up in her support were also insulting her. I mean sometimes we do stupid things without necessarily thinking of the morbid outcomes, and that girl didn’t deserve to be slept with against her consent irrespective of the circumstances surrounding her story.
The lesson I’ve learnt from all these is that the average Nigerian man is an entitled, perverted animal that has no form of self control whatsoever. It is well. And it’s too bad that women have also been brainwashed into believing that if she ever gets raped, it’s totally her fault for flaunting her self before these uncontrollable animals who have no self control. Once again, it is well.

Truth is you are right if she actually didn't consent to sex. But the way most mindsets are skewed in this country ehh she'll find no semblance of pity or understanding from the lot of youths.

It was morally wrong for her to have slept in a guy's house she didn't want to have sex with or allow him cuddle hher and for flimsy reasons like a slice of Domino's or some mofvckn WiFi. But I guess most of dem females don't care a flick. I mean if I find myself in that situatn with my hatred for rape, my religion or even the resultant wahala from the ish, it still might not have stopped me, seeing the way your female folks appear and relate nowadays.

Yet again a case of blackmail cannot be ruled out here. As it is his word against hers and seeing the time she decided to come out its going to be real difficult nailing the said "olodo".

It really shows the decadence in our society tho. For example if a sis of our broda with the 2billion likes were to be the girl involved in this. I guess he'll not be dancing to the tune he has chosen now.


Guy's tho if you really need it that bad there are so many options
A ho
Masturbation
intimacy gadgets

Ishilove:

No I don't agree with you that she led him on, which is why I opined that she was naive to have agreed to spend the night with him on the same bed and not expect at least some form of approach.

My anger is the guy did not stop when she asked him to stop.

You have a point though. How the thing graduate from oral to rape dey baffle me

You know sometimes we ladies do this "hard to get" thing. We would want and enjoy what is going on but we would still show some physical form of reluctance..

Maybe the guy saw it that way. Come on, you say you no want but you still dey bed, I dey lick pussy you dey moan, I press bress you complain small but you still remain for bed, I con remove pant and you dey look me... Phew! This girl is a wh0re. You let another nigga cuddle you meanwhile you're not single, you let him give you head, you even slept on his bed.

Glad you see where I'm coming from..