Empiree:
Nice. I won't say. I'd refer you find out yourself

It's now getting interesting.
perhaps,you're unknowingly putting my innate 'secret service' skills to test...
You'll get my mention soon for your answer...trust me!

loshybab:

I smell some northern flavour in you

am I right?

Lol sure, yar arewa...

Ssthorm:

Lol sure, yar arewa...

I knew it...
Sannun ki.....Hausa or fulani?

Mofpearl:
Found this to be very comprehensive. Posting because it might help someone else.

100 PRE MARITAL QUESTIONS

What is your concept of marriage?
Have you been married before?
Are you married now?
What are you expectations of marriage?
What are your goals in life? (long and short term)
Identify three things that you want to accomplish in the near future.
Identify three things that you want to accomplish, long term.
Why have you chosen me/other person as a potential spouse?

What is the role of religion in your life now?
Are you a spiritual person?
What is your understanding of an Islamic marriage?
What are you expecting of your spouse, religiously?
What is your relationship between yourself and the Muslims community in your area?
Are you volunteering in any Islamic activities?

What can you offer your zawj (spouse), spiritually?
What is the role of the husband?
What is the role of the wife?
Do you want to practice polygamy?
What is your relationship with your family?
What do you expect your relationship with the family of your spouse to be?
What do you expect your spouses relationship with your family to be?
Is there anyone in your family living with you now?
Are you planning to have anyone in your family live with you in the future?

If, for any reason, my relationship with your family turns sour, what should be done?
Who are your friends? (Identify at least three.)
How did you get to know them?
Why are they your friends?
What do you like most about them?
What will your relationship with them after marriage be?

Do you have friends of the opposite sex?
What is the level of your relationship with them now?
What will be the level of your relationship with them after marriage?
What type of relationship do you want your spouse to have with your friends?
What are the things that you do in your free time?
Do you love to have guests in your home for entertainment?
What are you expecting from your spouse when your friends come to the house?
What is your opinion of speaking other languages in home that I do not understand? (with friends or family)

Do you travel?
How do you spend your vacations?
How do you think your spouse should spend vacations?
Do you read?
What do you read?
After marriage, do you think that you are one to express romantic feelings verbally?
After marriage, do you think that you want to express affection in public?
How do you express your admiration for someone that you know now?
How do you express your feelings to someone who has done a favor for you?
Do you like to write your feelings?

If you wrong someone, how do you apologize?
If someone has wronged you, how do you want (s)he to apologize to you?
How much time passes before you can forgive someone?
How do you make important and less important decisions in your life?
Do you use foul language at home? In public? With family?
Do your friends use foul language?
Does your family use foul language?

How do you express anger?
How do you expect your spouse to express anger?
What do you do when you are angry?
When do you think it is appropriate to initiate mediation in marriage?
When there is a dispute in your marriage, religious or otherwise, how should the conflict get resolved?
Define mental, verbal, emotional and physical abuse.
What would you do if you felt that you had been abused?
Who would you call for assistance if you were being abused?
Do you suffer from any chronic disease or condition?
Are you willing to take a physical exam by a physician before marriage?
What is your understanding of proper health and nutrition?
How do you support your own health and nutrition?

What is you definition of wealth?
How do you spend money?
How do you save money?
How do you think that your use of money will change after marriage?
Do you have any debts now? If so, how are you making progress to eliminate them?
Do you use credit cards?
Do you support the idea of taking loans to buy a new home?
What are you expecting from your spouse financially?
What is your financial responsibility in the marriage?
Do you support the idea of a working wife?
If so, how do you think a dual-income family should manage funds?
Do you currently use a budget to manage your finances?
Who are the people to whom you are financially responsible?
Do you support the idea of utilizing baby sitters and/or maids?
Do you want to have children? If not, how come?
To the best of your understanding, are you able to have children?
Do you want to have children in the first two years of marriage? If not, when?
Do you believe in abortion?
Do you have children now?
What is your relationship with your children now?
What is your relationship with their other parent?
What relationship do you expect your spouse to have with your children and their parent?

What is the best method(s) of raising children?
What is the best method(s) of disciplining children?
How were you raised?
How were you disciplined?
Do you believe in spanking children? Under what circumstances?
Do you believe in public school for your children?
Do you believe in Islamic school for your children?
Do you believe in home schooling for your children?
What type of relationship should your children have with non-Muslim classmates/friends?
Would you send your children to visit their extended family if they lived in another state or country?
What type of relationship do you want your children to have with all their grandparents?
If there are members of my family that are not Muslim, that are of different race or culture, what type of relationship do you want to have with them?

...............
Modified to include my own questions
Asides family relatives, do you have non-mahram contacts on your phone? If you do who are they?
Do you watch movies?
Do you listen to music?
How do you spend your weekend- do you invite friends over every weekend(if you do who will cook for them) or spend time with family?
Are you a gamer? If you are, how many hours a day do you spend playing video games?
Do you smoke or drink alcohol?
Do you have a problem with eating outside?
How important is food to you?
How do you think couples should make their decisions? Should they both discuss it together or does the head make the decision and wife follows?
If you and your spouse were to have a fight, who would you talk to?
Do you get up for Fajr?
Do you have a problem moving to a different country or state?

After all the asking questions- find out where suitor lives and ask people in the neighborhood about them. It's unfortunate but people lie about themselves during proposal.

^^^That's a conversation I will like to have with my future spouse..... well said

loshybab:

I knew it...
Sannun ki.....Hausa or fulani?

Both

Ssthorm:

Both

which one is your dad? coz I'm guessing your dad is one and your mum is the other.

loshybab:

which one is your dad? coz I'm guessing your dad is one and your mum is the other.

Haba.. uve not heard of hausa-fulani bfre?

Ssthorm:


Haba.. uve not heard of hausa-fulani bfre?

Like seriously!
yarwa na! there is nothing like hausa-fulani,it's either you hausa or fulani coz they are two different ethnic entities.

If your dad is Hausa and ur mum fulani, you're hausa but just not a full-blooded one and vice-versa.

It's like when a product of a marriage btw hausa and Yoruba claims to be a 'hausa-yoruba',where is the sense in that?


Bottom line is you're either a fulani or hausa!
so,which one are you princess?

Ssthorm:


.

Assalamu alaikum Doc. I see you're an abusite, yeah?

Usernamesucks:

Assalamu alaikum Doc. I see you're an abusite, yeah?

Hmnn.. lol. Wat infos hav u collated?

Ssthorm:


Hmnn.. lol. Wat infos hav u collated?

Nothing at all. Just the obvious: hausa-fulani, medical student, ABU and a passionate muslimah.

I used to be an ABUSITE.

Usernamesucks:


Nothing at all. Just the obvious: hausa-fulani, medical student, ABU and a passionate muslimah.

I used to be an ABUSITE.

Lol..cool ya i am. A.B.U

Ssthorm:


Lol..cool ya i am. A.B.U

Cool. In baki damu ba, ina son muyi magana amma ba a nan ba.

Usernamesucks:


Cool. In baki damu ba, ina son muyi magana amma ba a nan ba.

Ok

Bikudiratillahi... I will be doing Akhidu nikkah in a week time. It is still all looking like a dream tho, but i just have my mind made up already. My only fear is having wifey change over night to a stranger i never know. That thought alone scare the shit outta me.
May Allah grants all the seeking Brothers and Sisters their heart desires.

Curiouscat:
Bikudiratillahi... I will be doing Akhidu nikkah in a week time. It is still all looking like a dream tho, but i just have my mind made up already. My only fear is having wifey change over night to a stranger i never know. That thought alone scare the shit outta me.
May Allah grants all the seeking Brothers and Sisters their heart desires.

aameen.

You are not alone in your fear. May Allaah make you coolness of each other eyes.

Baraka lahu fih.

WHO AGREES WITH HER?




*THIS WAS ESTABLISHED BY MRS MARTHA DE PURENEZ, WHO DIED AT THE AGE OF 104, AND SHE SPENT 82 YEARS IN MARRIAGE, AND SHE SAID THIS.*



"I know that young ladies will never agree with me, but whoever will implement this shall be the happiest of all and shall make a nice home; unless otherwise."



ITEMS


1. The husband is always right



2. The husband is always the master of the family even if he has no job and NO MONEY



3. The wife must ask for permission from the husband before going to bed if the husband isn't yet in bed, as well as before turning her face away from him on the bed. The husband is still the master and has full control on all the operations even in bed



4. If there is a quarrel with the husband and then a visitor comes, the wife should smile as if nothing happened



5. Anytime the wife thinks she is right in a matter, she should refer herself to Article number 1



6. A good wife must go to bed in her nightdress with no panties or bra, (except during your monthly flow, which he must know about) to allow the husband access to her at any time he feels like (NOTE: *All women should note that this is a man's greatest desire in marriage* - especially if he loves the woman)



7. A woman MUST NEVER refuse her husband's romance expect on the grounds of health and prayers. *Even in such cases she must POLITELY and LOVINGLY explain to him*



8. When the husband is shouting, the wife keeps quiet and that is the time to apologize for whatever has upset him. (NOTE: *Apologizing to him after you have shouted back and insulted him DOES NOT WORK!)*



10. The wife should always seek the husband's permission before making any decision except where he has previously granted you the permission on that particular issue








10. A wife should always excuse the husband to the children if he comes home late.


11. Even on a personal matter a wife waits for her husband with her ideas but must take those of her husband when he is back home


12. The wife must never use work in the day as excuse to deny him at night. Let him be the one to say, "Oh, you must be tired after all the stress of the day!" It is best that way.


13. The wife never goes to sit down in her husband's office unless in an urgent case or an emergency. A good husband too will not come and sit in your office.


14. A good wife does not embark on any kind of expenses without consulting the husband *even if it is your own money*. A good husband too will not control your money.


15. The best way to settle misunderstandings is in the bedroom. If a misunderstanding lingers and he does not make a move in bed, *a good wife should make the move*


16. The wife never refuses to prepare his meals, even if he is refusing to eat due to annoyance. *When he has refused 2 meals, prepare his favorite, with tempting treats*


17. The wife has no orders to give to her husband, but she receives orders from him


18. *The wife must always respect the husband*. Next to freedom of access to his wife's body, this is a man's most important concern


19. The wife has to control her jealousy and never show it in public


20. The good wife pays visits to her parents as well as to her in-laws *only* with the permission of the husband. And under normal circumstances, accompanied by the husband


21. A good wife never entertains guests in her home without the husband's knowledge and consent. *Not even your own relations*.

22. NEVER ENTERTAIN *ANY MALE GUEST* WITHOUT HIS KNOWLEDGE. *Not even his own blood brother* He may not talk or complain about some, but be sure he has counted it against you.


23. The wife *never* goes out anywhere without permission from her husband


*NB:* My dear fellow woman, I want you to know that *THE POWER OF A GOOD WIFE IS IN HER WEAKNESS*. Please, as stupid as this may sound to you, use it and watch your husband become your lover once again. This is my secret recipe for a happy marriage and full control of my home. *I did all the above and I was the one running the home; NOT MY HUSBAND!* His love and respect for me was second to none. And I know that's why God has also granted us long life to enjoy each other the more.

Also forward this to your female friends, *especially the married ones*, this will help them a lot.
#Copied

Amin. Thanks Bro. Jazakumullahi akhira.

Adebayolove:
aameen.

You are not alone in your fear. May Allaah make you coolness of each other eyes.

Baraka lahu fih.

Empiree:
WHO AGREES WITH HER?




*THIS WAS ESTABLISHED BY MRS MARTHA DE PURENEZ, WHO DIED AT THE AGE OF 104, AND SHE SPENT 82 YEARS IN MARRIAGE, AND SHE SAID THIS.*



"I know that young ladies will never agree with me, but whoever will implement this shall be the happiest of all and shall make a nice home; unless otherwise."



ITEMS


1. The husband is always right



2. The husband is always the master of the family even if he has no job and NO MONEY



3. The wife must ask for permission from the husband before going to bed if the husband isn't yet in bed, as well as before turning her face away from him on the bed. The husband is still the master and has full control on all the operations even in bed



4. If there is a quarrel with the husband and then a visitor comes, the wife should smile as if nothing happened



5. Anytime the wife thinks she is right in a matter, she should refer herself to Article number 1



6. A good wife must go to bed in her nightdress with no panties or bra, (except during your monthly flow, which he must know about) to allow the husband access to her at any time he feels like (NOTE: *All women should note that this is a man's greatest desire in marriage* - especially if he loves the woman)



7. A woman MUST NEVER refuse her husband's romance expect on the grounds of health and prayers. *Even in such cases she must POLITELY and LOVINGLY explain to him*



8. When the husband is shouting, the wife keeps quiet and that is the time to apologize for whatever has upset him. (NOTE: *Apologizing to him after you have shouted back and insulted him DOES NOT WORK!)*



10. The wife should always seek the husband's permission before making any decision except where he has previously granted you the permission on that particular issue








10. A wife should always excuse the husband to the children if he comes home late.


11. Even on a personal matter a wife waits for her husband with her ideas but must take those of her husband when he is back home


12. The wife must never use work in the day as excuse to deny him at night. Let him be the one to say, "Oh, you must be tired after all the stress of the day!" It is best that way.


13. The wife never goes to sit down in her husband's office unless in an urgent case or an emergency. A good husband too will not come and sit in your office.


14. A good wife does not embark on any kind of expenses without consulting the husband *even if it is your own money*. A good husband too will not control your money.


15. The best way to settle misunderstandings is in the bedroom. If a misunderstanding lingers and he does not make a move in bed, *a good wife should make the move*


16. The wife never refuses to prepare his meals, even if he is refusing to eat due to annoyance. *When he has refused 2 meals, prepare his favorite, with tempting treats*


17. The wife has no orders to give to her husband, but she receives orders from him


18. *The wife must always respect the husband*. Next to freedom of access to his wife's body, this is a man's most important concern


19. The wife has to control her jealousy and never show it in public


20. The good wife pays visits to her parents as well as to her in-laws *only* with the permission of the husband. And under normal circumstances, accompanied by the husband


21. A good wife never entertains guests in her home without the husband's knowledge and consent. *Not even your own relations*.

22. NEVER ENTERTAIN *ANY MALE GUEST* WITHOUT HIS KNOWLEDGE. *Not even his own blood brother* He may not talk or complain about some, but be sure he has counted it against you.


23. The wife *never* goes out anywhere without permission from her husband


*NB:* My dear fellow woman, I want you to know that *THE POWER OF A GOOD WIFE IS IN HER WEAKNESS*. Please, as stupid as this may sound to you, use it and watch your husband become your lover once again. This is my secret recipe for a happy marriage and full control of my home. *I did all the above and I was the one running the home; NOT MY HUSBAND!* His love and respect for me was second to none. And I know that's why God has also granted us long life to enjoy each other the more.

Also forward this to your female friends, *especially the married ones*, this will help them a lot.
#Copied

D point on here is trying to stay "married"... wud u hav a woman remain unhappy cux she wants to stay married?

Ssthorm:



D point on here is trying to stay "married"... wud u hav a woman remain unhappy cux she wants to stay married?

How will a woman remain unhappy becoz she want to make the marry worthwhile and always please her husband?

Hello...

Curiouscat:
Bikudiratillahi... I will be doing Akhidu nikkah in a week time. It is still all looking like a dream tho, but i just have my mind made up already. My only fear is having wifey change over night to a stranger i never know. That thought alone scare the shit outta me.
May Allah grants all the seeking Brothers and Sisters their heart desires.

I am sure she had that fear too so it's a two way street. go in with a clean heart. may Allah bless the union.

Amin. Thanks for stopping by to drop those words.

deeyor:


I am sure she had that fear too so it's a two way street. go in with a clean heart. may Allah bless the union.

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aril:


How will a woman remain unhappy becoz she want to make the marry worthwhile and always please her husband?

Nevermind if u dnt get it. Its all good.

There is a question which I want u to put more light to it .

My question is ,

Today on my way back from work I decided to pray solatu ishaa .

There was a man who was laying on the floor inside the mosjid , though the people thought he was sleeping until a man went to woke him up for the solaa .
Subhan Allah
He notice that the man is about to die ,
People were wondering about what has happened to him .
They don't know his father , mother, siblings or any of his relative .
As time goes on the people abandoned the man who was about to die and pray the solaatu ishaa .
My question is was this right or wrong coz later on after the ishaa it was about 5 minutes after they announced to the people to help the man who was about to die .

Pls is this right ?
Salaam aleikum

jimohmustapha502:
There is a question which I want u to put more light to it .

My question is ,

Today on my way back from work I decided to pray solatu ishaa .

There was a man who was laying on the floor inside the mosjid , though the people thought he was sleeping until a man went to woke him up for the solaa .
Subhan Allah
He notice that the man is about to die ,
People were wondering about what has happened to him .
They don't know his father , mother, siblings or any of his relative .
As time goes on the people abandoned the man who was about to die and pray the solaatu ishaa .
My question is was this right or wrong coz later on after the ishaa it was about 5 minutes after they announced to the people to help the man who was about to die .

Pls is this right ?
Salaam aleikum

They are very wrong if your narration is true. Did he later die?. And how did you know he was about to die?. Or he might be sick with stomach bug etc?. Either way, someone in a pain like that needs medical attention and should have been attended to before solat commenced or they should have appointed people to take him to nearby care center while salat is on. They should never abandoned him

Empiree:
They are very wrong if your narration is true. Did he later die?. And how did you know he was about to die?. Or he might be sick with stomach bug etc?. Either way, someone in a pain like that needs medical attention and should have been attended to before solat commenced or they
should have appointed people to take him to nearby care center while salat is on. They should never abandoned him

After we finish prayer nobody stand up to take him to the hospital . It was later on about five minutes when I leave the mosjid I was hearing the imam saying let's contribute money for this man live .
I don't know if he later died.

jimohmustapha502:



After we finish prayer nobody stand up to take him to the hospital . It was later on about five minutes when I leave the mosjid I was hearing the imam saying let's contribute money for this man live .
I don't know if he later died.

this is very bad. You don't wait till after you finished salah to help in an emergency. Seems Imam is not vast in figh.

Empiree:
this is very bad. You don't wait till after you finished salah to help in an emergency. Seems Imam is not vast in figh.

K tanx

The solah should not be abandoned for that still. What they could have done is for the imam to appoint some set of people to take care of that while he leads others for solah. Allah knows best

Even during salah, if someone collapses, shariah says people next to him (at least 2 people) should break salah and attend to the victim. This is how important life is.

There are instance where in sujud for instance, someone suffers heart attack or at point of death. We may not know bcuz we understand some people stay long in sujud until salah is finish. That's a different case.

But in this case where salah was yet to start, he should have been attended to right away. These things we learned at ile keu. They are parts of basic knowledge of figh.