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Recently, marriages seem not to be fun the way it is supposed to be because:

1. Youths these days rush into relationships because of sex and they indulge in it a lot. Sex is exclusive for married couples, anything outside that is a sin. So why build your relationship on sin. When the foundation of a marriage is full of fornication and abortion how can it stand?

2. Youths spend most time of the relationship doing what couples should be doing. For the girls, why move into your boyfriend's house? Most times, girls move in and cohabit with their boyfriends engaging in sex every day and night. Give your body some respect, you will move in with him and have all the sex when you are legally married, so why the rush. When you offer your body so freely to him, how will he cherish you after the wedding? He has enjoyed all the berry, in fact in marriage he begins to get tired and want something else, that where the idea of side chic comes in. Make him yearn for you, and when he does, he should do the proper thing.

3. Most guys spend so much money on their girlfriends. You take her shopping, to the movies, to trips etc. Even though I won't totally condemn this, taking her out once in a while is good, but guess what?
It's your wife that deserves all these pampering. Take your newly wed wife out every weekend, spend time together, catch fun and watch your marriage blossom. When you spend on your wife, there's return on investment , good food, good sex, your children are well taken care of. A girlfriend can leave at any time and all the niceties that your wife should have enjoyed is wasted.

4. Most youths in a relationship don't spend time talking about the future they should be building. They spend time clubbing, hanging out, engaging in premarital sex, attending parties. As a man, you need to have a vision for the future, how you want to raise your kids, how to provide for your family, how to take care of your household.
Then you ask yourself who can share this vision with me, that's when you search for a partner (wife), and so the two of you spend time discussing how to materialize this future. Successful marriages are built on careful planning before the wedding day.

5. Being ready! Now most boys think having the finances means they are ready for marriage, that's wrong! Look here, you have to be mentally ready, psychologically, financially and most importantly, spiritually because you will be the spiritual head of the home. How will you be spiritually ready when you are soaked in sexual sin with your girlfriend? The man should be ready to lead his home spiritually, he should also take all the responsibilities that comes with being the man of the house. He should be ready to listen to complaints and resolve it, he should be good at conflict resolution and a very good listener.

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ibkkk:
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ibkkk:
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OP marry a virgin and have peace of mind.
don't be decieved marry a virgin.

habsydiamond:
true talk...e enter my akinyemi body.

Thanks bro I appreciate your comment and I'm glad I was able to minister to you.

feelgoodInc:
OP marry a virgin and have peace of mind.

don't be decieved marry a virgin.

I pray for God to send one my way. It's only by God's special grace and mercy to meet a virgin these days.

I came here to see a genuine reasons... all I see is preaching....


your reasons are too shallow op

This is what we need. Good one.

Offpoint:
I came here to see a genuine reasons... all I see is preaching....


your reasons are too shallow op

Hahaha... Life is simple, I don't give people complicated and complex advice to make a big deal out of a simple issue.

There's nothing really to look forward to in marriage these days, everything is done before the wedding day that's why the marriage is boring.

Jekonmor:
This is what we need. Good one.

Thank you. I appreciate your comment.

Boltzman:
Hahaha... Life is simple, I don't give people complicated and complex advice to make a big deal out of a simple issue.

There's nothing really to look forward to in marriage these days, everything is done before the wedding day that's why the marriage is boring.

I don't see any of your point as the reasons why marriages don't last.
I don't see submissiveness in your point
I don't see "workaholics"
I don't see "sexual satisfaction"
I don't see "lack of understanding between partners"
and so many more...
I don't see any of the above in your list...

Offpoint:
I don't see any of your point as the reasons why marriages don't last.
I don't see submissiveness in your point
I don't see "workaholics"
I don't see "sexual satisfaction"
I don't see "lack of understanding between partners"
and so many more...
I don't see any of the above in your list...

It's not a list like you said, I just raised some salient points, you can add yours. Cheers

Boltzman:
It's not a list like you said, I just raised some salient points, you can add yours. Cheers

you should have raised the most important points. peace brother

Especially when you marry for marrying sake and not for love.

Offpoint:
you should have raised the most important points. peace brother

It's funny how you have concluded that my points are not important, wow!

I gave a generally summary. When I said plan the future, that alone is a lot. It covers all the points you raised, going back to itemize every example is pointless.

The point I raised are very important! Don't spend your dating period in premarital sex, marriage won't work. Simple!

Boltzman:
It's funny how you have concluded that my points are not important, wow!

I gave a generally summary. When I said plan the future, that alone is a lot. It covers all the points you raised, going back to itemize every example is pointless.

The point I raised are very important! Don't spend your dating period in premarital sex, marriage won't work. Simple!

so those who don't their marriages last forever right?
I'm too weak to argue abeg...

Boltzman:
There's nothing really to look forward to in marriage these days, everything is done before the wedding day that's why the marriage is boring.

To an extent I agree with you

Offpoint:
so those who don't their marriages last forever right?
I'm too weak to argue abeg...

I see where you are coming from, don't worry.

Angy55:
To an extent I agree with you

Thank you.

Boltzman:
Thanks bro I appreciate your comment and I'm glad I was able to minister to you.

am happy that I got something from Ur post as way. Thanks too bro

habsydiamond:
am happy that I got something from Ur post as way. Thanks too bro

You are welcome

it all depends on the kind of girl u marry. its a 50/50 luck thing to get an OK wife cos no good wife these days. a girl that will make life miserable for husband will make life miserable even if she got no pvssy talk less of virgin.

mistel:
it all depends on the kind of girl u marry. its a 50/50 luck thing to get an OK wife cos no good wife these days. a girl that will make life miserable for husband will make life miserable even if she got no pvssy talk less of virgin.

It's very easy to detect these kinds of girls if one doesn't engage in pre marital sex.

Premarital sex beclouds a good sense of judgement.

My bro u try but apart from your no 5,non of those things u wrote here are the reasons why marriages don't last these days.

JONNYSPUTE:
My bro u try but apart from your no 5,non of those things u wrote here are the reasons why marriages don't last these days.

My emphasis wasn't on marriage lasting but on marriage being fun. A lot of peeps are married but there's no fun in the marriage.

Boltzman:
My emphasis wasn't on marriage lasting but on marriage being fun. A lot of peeps are married but there's no fun in the marriage.

. Now I get u. Thanks bro

JONNYSPUTE:
. Now I get u. Thanks bro

You are welcome