My friend is a masters degree holder from UK university and he owns a supermarket and bakery in Ikeja. He wants to marry an illiterate lady. This lady did not complete secondary school. She is a hairdresser.

My friend introduced the lady to his parents for marriage and his parents rejected her. They told him they will never support his decision to get married to the lady. That the lady is below his class. My friend has asked me for an advice on the issue and I think I support his parents' decision. I believe the lady must have charmed him.

What advice do you think I should give him?

But where is lalasticlala sef

guy no be charm, the gal sabi f*ck wella na so I nearly marry sickler becos she dey f*ck like p*rnstar

So because she dropped out of school, she doesn't have the capability to love and be loved right? No educated individual should love an illiterate because their kinda love stinks right? and all illiterate feelings should be suppressed towards an educated individual..

What is wrong with some people Biko.. Op, so in all these, your friend's feelings does not matter to you but his status and class right?

I don't usually say sh!ts like this but both u and that guy's parent needs deliverance from the spirit of social climbing . ..

Not fair to jump into the conclusion of using juju. She could have been a lady whose character and ways pleased the guy.
BTW it isn't fair to judge and discriminate people based on academical achievements.

Charm indeed.

When man loves his babe/wife, they will say it's charm.
World people that can't see good thing and pass.

What is wrong with even a professor marrying a mama put or pepper seller.

What matters is the love and respect that exist between these two people and nothing else.

BTW who told you she cannot make it big as a hair stylist and add value to the man's life,ehn.

What his parents and you want is for him to go for all these slay queens in Instagram and Facebook living fake life and end up the marriage within a year or worse killed.

Please allow the man to follow his heart and give him the support he needs from you as a friend or else you are his foe

Richy4:
So because she dropped out of school, she doesn't have the capability to love and be loved right?

What is wrong with some people BIKO.. Op, So how your friend feels does not matter to you but his status and class is much more important right... ?

I don't usually say sh!ts like this but both you and that guy's parent needs deliverance from the spirit of social climbing ..

Nope, they don't need deliverance. They're right in every sense of it 'cause they're seeking for the best for their son and friend. Let's stop for once and reason without being sentimental. I wouldn't spend money on my son just to come back and pick a crude woman who'd add no values to his life beside child bearing for a wife.

Note, Love is never enough to keep a marriage going. The major reason for the rise in divorce rate is 'cause of incompatibility. This two have absolutely nothing in common.

I don't think your friend was charmed. who knows it might be true love. where was it written that uneducated people don't make good spouses? so many lazy slay queens around. he saw those ones before he decided to go for the hairdresser. His happiness is what counts. what is the essence of having a trophy wife that people hail you for but you are living a terrible life indoors?

I understand the parents stance, every parents want the best for their child. if your friend can prove she's the one he wants, they should allow him irrespective of the girl's educational status.

kimbraa:
Nope, they don't need deliverance. They're right in every sense of it 'cause they're seeking for the best for their son and friend. Let's stop for once and reason without being sentimental. I wouldn't spend money on my son just to come back and pick a crude woman who'd add no values to his life beside child bearing for a wife.

Haba! Babe!
It's his choice naw!
He definitely saw something in her that he places above education. It's not like she is being forced on him, it's his choice.

kimbraa:
Nope, they don't need deliverance. They're right in every sense of it 'cause they're seeking for the best for their son and friend. Let's stop for once and reason without being sentimental. I wouldn't spend money on my son just to come back and pick a crude woman who'd add no values to his life beside child bearing for a wife.

Did you sit down,typed this comment and posted here?

Just asking because i can't believe what you posted here sha!

kimbraa:
Nope, they don't need deliverance. They're right in every sense of it 'cause they're seeking for the best for their son and friend. Let's stop for once and reason without being sentimental. I wouldn't spend money on my son just to come back and pick a crude woman who'd add no values to his life beside child bearing for a wife.

Did u read the part that says she's a hair dresser? It's not as if she has nothing doing... Does it mean that the illiterates has no right to love? The fact that she didn't study further does not make her a total write off

kimbraa:
Nope, they don't need deliverance. They're right in every sense of it 'cause they're seeking for the best for their son and friend. Let's stop for once and reason without being sentimental. I wouldn't spend money on my son just to come back and pick a crude woman who'd add no values to his life beside child bearing for a wife.

we know that the fact that one went to school does not necessarily makes one wise, intelligent and contributive. so many women whether educated or not can only contribute their womb in a marriage. we also know that there some women who although not educated,have helped build their husband's lives. there isn't one side to the coin. education is beyond four walls of the classroom.

I just feel sorry for the lady in question...so cos she's uneducated makes her useless right...or did the guy not see educated girls b4 deciding its the lady she wants?
If you are worried cos the lady is rude or disrespectful that's understandable but objecting cos she's uneducated shows you and his parents doesn't even have the CLASS you are talking about...

Keneking:
But where is lalasticlala sef

Why are you aiways looking for lalasticlala Call him nah

He is a masters degree holder but he runs supermarket and bakery. Does your friend use his degrees? Does he have another job which he got with his scholarly credentials?
Your friend is probably satisfied with any lady that is into business since he is running businesses as well.

elektra:
He is a masters degree holder but he runs supermarket and bakery. Does your friend use his degrees? Does he have another job which he got with his scholarly credentials?
Your friend is probably satisfied with any lady that is into business since he is running businesses as well.

Is getting a job with a Master's degree better than running a firm of your own with the knowledge gotten from a Master's programme?

Just asking..

Acidosis:


Is getting a job with a Master's degree better than running a firm of your own with the knowledge gotten from a Master's programme?

Just asking..

I have no idea. I’ve never been on both sides of the divide.
I asked because his certificate was not absolutely required for him to run his business, So he does not mind his wife having none.

Maybe its ur friend whos charmed this lady sef... afterall all this abroadians often like unexposed women they can control..
On another note, Madam Alakija has no uni degree and was infact a tailor until she hit the jackpot.
I have seen girls wt masters from the UK who are clueless so whilst having educational qualifications is good, it doesnt necessarily mean you are educated.
Your friend may have graduated with a 3rd class and a Pass in his Bsc and Msc so pls dont think hes doing anyone a favour by marrying them

edoman2016:
My friend is a master masters degree holder from {a} UK university and he owns a supermarket and bakery in Ikeja. He wants to marry an illiterate lady. This lady did not complete secondary school. She is an a hairdresser.

My friend introduced the lady to his parents for marriage and his parents rejected her. They told him they will never support his decision to get married to the lady. That the lady is below his class. My friend has asked me for an advice on the issue and I think I support his parents' decision. I believe the lady must have charm charmed him.

This is what happens when you try to deride another person for not having an education.

You should try your hand at hair-dressing, although I have a feeling you'll have a hard time of it on your own without first getting educated on how to go about it by someone who's knowledgeable...maybe just the person you're here tagging as illiterate.


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I can understand his parents' resistance, they have a stake in their son's life. You on the other hand, I don't understand your grouse with the matter.

kimbraa:
Nope, they don't need deliverance. They're right in every sense of it 'cause they're seeking for the best for their son and friend. Let's stop for once and reason without being sentimental. I wouldn't spend money on my son just to come back and pick a crude woman who'd add no values to his life beside child bearing for a wife.

What is your definition of value?

So many educated young ladies roaming about town and looking for whom to bear their burdens all in the name of marriage. No sense of how to go about empowering themselves, yet they claim to have value.
Here's a woman who's not formally educated, yet has the common sense to earn her own money, pay her bills and yet you claim she has no value.
Who is more valueless?
Is it the educated slay mama contributing nada to better her life or anybody's, waiting for a prince she thinks she deserves because she managed to sort and finish university/polythechnic or the one with a job, schooled in the university of life who understands the importance of making a living and doing something with her life?

Your friend get mind oo. What I can observe

1) Your friend is from a very home ( Doing master's degree in UK is not beans oo, financially speaking)
2) His parents are classy people and probably have only rich and classy people as friends.
3) Your friend can afford not to use his certs to work, he set up businesses. I believe he didn't raise the money for the business all by himself.
4) The Lady is not on the same level with the Guy Financially, educationally and societal rating.

. I believe his his parents most likely see her as some gold digger who wants to use him to be "secured for life"
. His parents have every right to think that way.

Advice : He should improve her her up b4 marrying her. After marriage, very few people improve themselves. He should strive to see her get a good education first. He can marry her after she secures admission.

ASecondChance:
Your friend get mind oo. What I can observe

1) Your friend is from a very home ( Doing master's degree in UK is not beans oo, financially speaking)
2) His parents are classy people and probably have only rich and classy people as friends.
3) Your friend can afford not to use his certs to work, he set up businesses. I believe he didn't raise the money for the business all by himself.
4) The Lady is not on the same level with the Guy Financially, educationally and societal rating.

. I believe his his parents most likely see her as some gold digger who wants to use him to be "secured for life"
. His parents have every right to think that way.

Advice : He should improve her her up b4 marrying her. After marriage, very few people improve themselves. He should strive to see her get a good education first. He can marry her after she secures admission.

If you don't mind, can you be a little bit specific about how you want her to be improved

hatchy:
Did you sit down,typed this comment and posted here?

Just asking because i can't believe what you posted here sha!

Yes, I did. Those of you attaching sentiments to what the op has said, would you marry an illiterate?.

eyinjuege:



Whar is your definition of value?

So many educated young ladies roaming about town and looking for whom to bear their burdens all in the name of marriage. No sense of how to go about empowering themselves, yet they claim to have value.
Here's a woman who's not formally educated, yet has the common sense to earn her own money, pay her bills and yet you claim she has no value.
Who is more valueless?
Is it the educated slay mama contributing nada to better her life or anybody's, waiting for a prince she thinks she deserves because she managed to sort and finish university/polythechnic or the one with a job, schooled in the university of life who understands the importance of making a living and doing something with her life?

Simple question, would you marry an illiterate?. The individuals in love here are of two different social stratas going by how much his parents have invested in him, and I see absolutely nothing wrong in their decision 'cause they have his best interest at heart and wouldn't want him to make the wrong choices. A crude woman has little or nothing to offer a man aside giving birth...fact! Everyone eventually goes through the school of life so I don't get your point.

pocohantas:


Haba! Babe!
It's his choice naw!
He definitely saw something in her that he places above education. It's not like she is being forced on him, it's his choice.

Yes, it's his choice but he may be blinded by that thing called love.

kimbraa:
Yes, I did. Those of you attaching sentiments to what the op has said, would you marry an illiterate?.

Yes I will.
Are you one? Because me sef don dey put eye for you tay tay!

kimbraa:
Simple question, would you marry an illiterate?. The individuals in love here are of two different social stratas going by how much his parents have invested in him, and I see absolutely nothing wrong in their decision 'cause they have his best interest at heart and wouldn't watch him to make the wrong choices. A crude woman has little or nothing to offer a man aside giving birth...fact! Everyone eventually goes through the school of life so I don't get your point.

Though this is your own opinion, and I have to respect it.. but it is so disheartening that you can condone to separate two people in love because of social status and class.. that is discrimination..

So how they feel does not matter to you.. even if she was a well behaved girl,.. even when she learned a trade and was gainfully employed, it is secondary to u as long as she didn't go to school, she didn't measure up..

I can't tell u how to think dear but your line of argument made me kinda speechless ... It's like those things I used to see in Nigerian movies acted by Pete Edoche, Ramsey Noah and Stephanie..

hatchy:
Yes I will.
Are you one? Because me sef don dey eye you tay tay.

No.
Actually, I've a family friend who happens to be a young widow, she works in shell and somehow got entangled to a married man she's currently dating. Her supposed boyfriend is married to an illiterate. Based on what I was told, the lady could barely read while the guy is educated and into sales of oil tools. When it comes to business, instead of discussing problems or prospects with his wife, he does with the shell lady he's dating 'cause she has ideas of his line of business and if he needs to make investments he does discuss his prospects with her, why? 'cause he has a wife that could contribute nothing to what he wants. Now, they have three kids together but her husband has never gone to a public function with her but he does with his widow girlfriend even to the point of lying to his wife that he was travelling out of the country with his kids but ended spending two weeks in the widows house with his kids who're grown and are aware that their father is dating the lady they're with. I'm not mistaken when I said the only thing crude women are good for is child bearing. Anyone who argues that is on his own.

Richy4:


Though this is your own opinion, and I have to respect it.. but it is so disheartening that you can condone to separate two people in love because of social status and class.. that is discrimination..

So how they feel does not matter to you.. even if she was a well behaved girl,.. even when she learned a trade and was gainfully employed, it is secondary to u as long as she didn't go to school, she didn't measure up..

I can't tell u how to think dear but your line of argument is disheartening... It's like those things I used to see in Nigerian movies acted by Pete Edoche, Ramsey Noah and Stephanie..

I respect yours too, and I care less if the woman is well groomed but provided she's an illiterate? She's a No! No!! To me, and should look for love elsewhere. Probably, within her class.

kimbraa:
I respect yours too, and I care less if the woman is well groomed but provided she's an illiterate? She's a No! No!! To me, and should look for love elsewhere. Probably, within her class.

One last question.. So assuming that op's friend were to be your brother, you would prefer him miserable with an educated wife to getting married to his true love right?

Richy4:


One last question.. So assuming that op's friend were to be your brother, you would prefer him miserable with an educated wife to getting married to his true love right?

None of my brothers would pick an illiterate for a wife. That's a known fact. Last time I checked, there are well groomed literates also.