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blackbeau1:
Simple but bitter truth. And if for any reason you are bent on dating her, then let her know from the start you can't afford to take care of her at that level. Lay your cards on the table. Don't try to be who you aren't .

Hahahha.. This naija na funny country.. In this part of the world, a man finances a woman.. Hahahhahahah.. And yet, women still come around and scream equality..

Until naija ladies grow to be matured, financially responsible and competent, I don't respect most of them. My chick currently, I run all her bill. Just very few ladies in this part of the world actually used their head and made legal money. Majority simply live on guys and be forming slaw queens..

The type of world we are building in nigeria is craxy. If u av money as a lady and a guy who doesn't av money approaches u, if u are okay with him, go ahead and date him. U can make him a better person financially. For hell sake, there is nothing wrong with that.

My Canadian friend, her bf has been out of job for a long time and she has been financing the bills but never felt bad about it. They still love and go on vacation. They are currently on X'mas vacation now.

U can still date a broke guy as a lady and still keep ur financial life high if u really earn ur money by working hard. Just that in this part of the world, many ladies earn their money thru divks and many are placed on monthly and shopping salary by their male lover..

Until this stops, ladies would still be regarded as sex beings by many men. Bitter truth.

Princedapace:
Hahahha.. This naija na funny country.. In this part of the world, a man finances a woman.. Hahahhahahah.. And yet, women still come around and scream equality..

Until naija ladies grow to be matured, financially responsible and competent, I don't respect most of them. My chick currently, I run all her bill. Just very few ladies in this part of the world actually used their head and made legal money. Majority simply live on guys and be forming slaw queens..

The type of world we are building in nigeria is craxy. If u av money as a lady and a guy who doesn't av money approaches u, if u are okay with him, go ahead and date him. U can make him a better person financially. For hell sake, there is nothing wrong with that.

My Canadian friend, her bf has been out of job for a long time and she has been financing the bills but never felt bad about it. They still love and go on vacation. They are currently on X'mas vacation now.

U can still date a broke guy as a lady and still keep ur financial life high if u really earn ur money by working hard. Just that in this part of the world, many ladies earn their money thru divks and many are placed on monthly and shopping salary by their male lover..

Until this stops, ladies would still be regarded as sex beings by many men. Bitter truth.

well said

Macgreat:
Thumbs up.


Op, guess what? There are many women like this woman here. Who are not puffed up.

Some ladies, na only Degree dey Swell their head not to talk of having more money.

I remember a certain couple - the woman has BSC while the Man had HND. Come and see the way the woman will be talking down on the man based on this.

Some women are just senseless and lake basic brain cell containing sense.

like all the women in your family and daughters from your loins. ode

makky555:
Ehen... Bill Gates I greet you oo

Greetings acknowledged.
And returned with added respect.

gurunlocker:
Lol... I answered you based on the lady post...

Haha. I hail.

Greatzeus:
Reverse Psychology?
Do you mean " They are all too expensive for me"?

Lol. My own car does not have a reverse gear o

thesicilian:
Greetings acknowledged.
And returned with added respect.

Tainku

9jaDoc:
You misread the OP: she is saying men should date women whose lifestyles they can finance

That's hilarious. So how was she 'maintaining' her lifestyle before the guy came along? In an ideal setting, a reasonable guy should ensure he has a steady income before getting into a serious relationship that could lead to marriage. No matter how much you collect from mummy and daddy, you'll never be a true man until you sweat for your money. Having struggled to eke out an honest living, seek a girl that is reasonably close to your financial worth. If you're earning 100k make sure you date someone also working and earning at least 60k, someone who would be able to plan with you. The truth is if you date a daddy's girl that is still collecting offering money or date one of these artisans/underemployed girls working as salesgirls and such, they'd drain your finances and zeal to move further in life. Although the truth is, love is illogical. Despite everything I fell in love with a girl that was an unemployed ex-corper when we met. She was still collecting handouts from her parents and obviously still thought life is all about going to mummy's kitchen and eating her food when you're hungry. Its difficult for someone to appreciate the value of money when they didn't work for it. There's nothing wrong with buying expensive makeup, wearing designer clothes/shoes and using iPhone as a girl, just buy it with your money you sweated for. When you make it a habit of buying stuff like that with money you sourced from your daddy or different men, it gives you a wrong attitude to life and work. As a guy, even if you want a housewife or housegirlfriend that will just fold her arms while you cater for her existence, make sure its a girl that has worked before, someone who'll appreciate your efforts, not some spoiled brat that will think money grows on trees. At my level, I can only date a girl who earns at least 100k, just a little above half my salary, but at least she'll be going to work everyday and will have a first hand experience of how money is made. Love is blind but marriage has great eye sight, make sure you don't end up with a parasite that will just suck you dry, go for someone that can encourage you to be disciplined and make sacrifices to invest for a better future, not these owo ni koko girls that don't care if you're into armed robbery so far you bring the cash

UBGG:
I blame the stupid men who enable the lifestyles of broke, lazy women who do not know what it means to legitimately and morally earn a dime.

Its a shame that I'm surprised when I come across Nigerian ladies like you that have common sense. I should be able to take it for granted that the average Naija girl should have common sense, it shouldn't shock me. Its pathetic

9jaDoc:
Everyone is different. What if the lady is like me, I like a man at slight disadvantage, a bit shy

Don't take this the wrong way, is it so that u can have a sort of leverage or security? Or a sense of dominance?

9jaDoc:
Blame tradition and nature. How many times do u hear "househusband", you only hear "housewife"

Tradition and nature also dictate men should treat their wives like glorified slaves while she worships them. Maybe more men should allow tradition and nature to take its course, because obviously the average Naija girl has the mentality that there's no need for her to struggle to make something of her life since she can use fine face and big bumbum to get a guy that will be spending money on her. Sometimes I wonder why parents bother to send their daughters to school. Its just a waste of time and money, when you graduate and start investing in makeup and skimpy clothes so you can get a guy to buy Gucci shoes and Brazilian hair for you

PreciousBro:
I don't think men or any one is capable of designing another's thought pattern hence stirring their ways. Men/Males are altruistic beings, and by evolution primordially or instinctively inclined to entice,lure,woo,protect and provide for the Women/Females, as seen in all male beings-demonstrative act habitat,be it Man or Animal .

The natural zeal or inclination to respond to an exuding innate characteristics that are manly is remotely propelled by nobility, manly-pride ,however, a good woman knows it is out of Courtesy not an obligation. Unlike the many entitled ones harbouring expectations and dependence. The problem is not Men, men must try their best to abide by nature's command, our Women got greedy that's all.

Word !


Comment of the decade. Nice one !

9jaDoc:
My husband is less educated and makes less money but he is perfect for me

May God almighty continue to bless you.

Toks2008:
Makes sense.

There are sweeter,fresher and virtuous ladies of your class to date.

Leave the high class lady alone but if you must date them,just be patient until they are in their late 30s...by that time,they will even pray for an agbero.

Too much sauce

Saintsammurai:
If that is the case, then most of these slay Queens online, Hawking their bodies for sex and money, will go broke, which in turn make many ladies poor..
The rich guys that patronized them will have to go for their class, leaving the average slay Queens in poverty..
90% of wealth ladies have all over the world were acquired as a result of their relationship with one rich man and the other..
In truth, dating and relationship should never be based on money or class..

when two people love each other, they should build trust and love together irrespective of their social class..

WORD !

9jaDoc:
My husband is less educated and makes less money but he is perfect for me

so we still have woman like this for this world....may God bless u and Ur husband....

9jaDoc:
My husband is less educated and makes less money but he is perfect for me

Exactly, that's what I like to say to that Jezebel to speak for herself only.

MrSavage:
Are the guys to be blamed for tagging ladies as beign materialistic or are the girls actually materialistic.

Im dating a girl who is materialistic
She blows money on everything that trends.(her money/her fathers money).
When ever she is broke she becomes depressed .

HeyCorleone:
Like a quote I read today
"men go broke trying to prove they are not broke to women who are broke".
Most of these rich looking ladies we see on the road are being maintained by some man or the other. In other words, women, on their own, are poor.
And I can't quite wrap my head around what the OP is saying. So does it mean that a woman's job is to spend while the man's is to provide?! Is that the only thing women are built for? To spend? Is that why guys enter a relationship? To maintain someone's lifestyle.
These days it seems I'm becoming a little misogynistic, but with the many rubbish I see from females on social media, you just have to hate them.

You are not alone

majekdom2:
Must a man be responsible for a lady's material needs

my brother the tin taya me

funmisticqueen:
like all the women in your family and daughters from your loins. ode

funmi, hope you are good. ?

UBGG:
I blame the stupid men who enable the lifestyles of broke, lazy women who do not know what it means to legitimately and morally earn a dime.

Prostitution is the oldest trade & will always remain till Jesus comes, so lazy women will always exist

9jaDoc:
Point is that is the only reason they spend on women. If you remove hope for pre-marital sex or touchy-feely most men won't spend a dime. Ask yourself this: Why don't they feel compelled to spend on fellow men, no matter how much they like them?

So your less educated and less financially stable husband only approached you for sex or touchey-feely. He saw you as a rag to wipe his semen on and pay off. Or maybe your husband is the only saint in Nigeria. You're funny

Macgreat:
funmi, hope you are good. ?

i'm cool. How r u

RoyalBlak007:
Cc everfaithfulgod

[color=#F5A215]Great [/color]

Thank you Sir. Will forever be grateful Sir
Cc mariinee Thank you for having me in mind.
I am sorry for the late response. I'm just coming online

IAMSASHY:
it won't b dat easy bc it's ur heart dat wl first accept her even b4 ur brain begin 2 realize her financial status

sensible post!

everfaithfulGod:
Thank you Sir. Will forever be grateful Sir
Thank you for having me in mind.
I am sorry for the late response. I'm just coming online

you can't mail him your number, and it's out here?

everfaithfulGod:
Thank you Sir. Will forever be grateful Sir
Cc mariinee Thank you for having me in mind.
07062569972 I am sorry for the late response. I'm just coming online

God bless you too Ma'am

[color=#F5A215] How're the kids,hope they are well? [/color]

9jaDoc:
My husband is less educated and makes less money but he is perfect for me

Perhaps you are simply hypogamous?...

RoyalBlak007:
God bless you too Ma'am

[color=#F5A215] How're the kids,hope they are well? [/color]

Yes sir. They sent their greetings