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xendra:
exactly missali, this is what you get in the end, dumb comments from retards

Olosho.

Blackfyre:
Over one million naira at a betting promo and you think he has made it?....

If you know what it truly means, you will be praying for that dude. Serious prayer for that matter....

Btw, if you know what's good for you, you will use that opportunity to cut him off. It's a blessing in disguise.

Op... If you are wise and not stupid like most girls are you will heed this advice for your good because should he have such opportunity again..he will leave you because he doesn't really love you. You can deceive yourself if you want. That why when money came he found other girls to spend on rather than you who has stood by him.

Cladez:
Money that Alabi would still collect back is that one money.

NOTE: only punters would understand the statement above

most people who win such monies will spend them recklessly after which they will become frustrated.
The guy's troubles just started.

Sorry girl,

Both males and females go through things like this. Some get damaged, some were lucky to find a safe landing. We are humans and this is what we do.

The earth never stops rotating no matter whose heart get broken. Enjoy the show.

jabberjawz:
From a greater percentage of comments I see here...some guys in nairaland could best be described as pathetic irritating lowlife's.....they hardly read and comprehend simple English......swift to hurl insults at someone for being simply open.....so full of negativity........just a reflection of how pathetic the country is.......must you diss someone to drive ur point?

I am disappointed in some of the comments I read here. This generation is doomed.



At op, I do not see any reasons why you should continue keeping in touch with him. You were with him through thick and thin and at the first sight of money he dumped you. Count your losses and move on.

My2cents

Edonojie007:
I Am Not Surprise At This Comment;oloshos Dont Struggle With Guys,you Pay As You Go.

don't blame me, I'm either a fast learner or your mother is a good teacher

debayun:
Poverty is not a thing of financial status but of mindset so if you say guys of poor mindset then I agree

Depend on where you are seeing it from
Foundation of poverty start with finance... That will change your mindset

Missali:
Some of them live very sadistic lives and what keeps them going is to come online and show everyone they lack simple courtesy. He/she/it really is a b1tch.

Thirdly,you Are Still Hurt Right Now.
Note: Sad People Or Angry People Dont Make Good Advice.

what did you stand there for?

for him to do that to you shows it is only pussy you bring to the table.you heard the news from people you did not bother to confirm from him na you are ranting.you got what you wanted that is the real truth take it or leave it no offense.

Too many stories on nairaland I'm tired

xendra:
don't blame me, I'm either a fast learner or your mother is a good teacher

You Are Not Making Sense. My Mum Struggled With My Dad.
You Are Just A Feministic Hoe; I Pity You.
Repent!! What Would Hate For Men Profit You- Yet,You Still Sell To Them Your Yansh.

mikolo80:
stop ranting. If guy not loyal it means it's only kpekus you bring to the table. Sorry.

Leave the girl to be crying foul.

Your guy left you when he hit jackpot and you don't think you're the problem?! Smh

Missali:
One of the qualities men look out out for in a woman is the ability for her to stay true by him during trying times and a woman who cannot do that is termed a non wife material and slay Queen at best and at worst, a gold digger.
It is believed that when a woman supports her man and he comes to, in turn he will respect her and share responsibilities as he should but often times, this is not the case.

Many at times we have heard experiences from family, friends, colleagues or even gone through it.
Here's mine: I had this boyfriend that was struggling in every sense of the word. We kept on despite his financial shortcomings and I would travel a long distance to see him knowing fully well that the trip expenses and all that came with it were on me. I did not hesitate to oblige favours that I could give and ensured I went out with him during his jobs just to give that moral support.

Things seemed to be going on well until the day I was sitting with some friends and one of them asked how I was enjoying with my boyfriend. I responded with a light laugh and he asked "now that your guy has made it, what is the way forward?"

Me: Made it how?
Guy: Your guy hit over one million in that online betting promo.
Me: Yes yes, it's not easy... Such an unexpected favour at a time like this.

I pretended to be aware and happy but I wasn't myself till the end of the day. Everybody knew the good news except me.
One week, two weeks, one month passed and I got no call from my estranged boyfriend to even tell me what had happened. I refused to call too.

I heard news about how he had become the man about town, declaring free drinks for people he met at our street bars, dashing money to those who came to celebrate with him etc. Whenever someone who knew us sighted me they asked, "are you not M's girlfriend?" and I mumbled any answer that came to mind.
Months later I got a call from him begging to see Me. After many refusals, I decided we meet. He went on his knees apologising, saying he knew I was aware of all that had happened but was too ashamed to contact me. He went on about how he rented an apartment for one girl, was giving out money with reckless abandon, purchased an expensive mobile phone which he ended up selling at an abysmally low price (due to hardship) and how he was popping bottles at bars et al.

The length and breadth of the story was that the money was all gone. The business idea we had brainstormed he made no use of the money to invest. All his friends and girlfriends had left him for good and he felt lonely, he remembered the one who stood by him sincerely.

At the moment he had not a penny, with an empty stomach and looking for a way to get a small job. I could tell he was miserable from his looks alone. If only he had the right company who would have advised him at such a critical time, he'd never have had to go hungry again. I took him to a restaurant and we had a nice meal. He called me a good girl, a loving friend, a confidant blah blah blah.

Ladies, they will come at you with twisted words tell you they want a good woman, a patient woman, a supportive woman etc. Some will even tell you that they can never respect a woman who does not struggle with them. Do not fall for it. Most times, what they want is someone to take their excesses while they move on to cast their net elsewhere. For tens of stories about men who stick by their women when the going got smooth, there are hundreds of untold stories about men who looked the other way.

Playing the supportive role is the case of it may work and it may not. It is not stated anywhere that after standing by him and he leaves for another woman, he will be mobbed. You will simply be remembered as 'the one who once was', that's all.

It is a case of driving into a place with the words "cars parked at owner's risk." Nobody will tell you not to park your car but you hold yourself liable should anything happen to it. Hence, stand by your man at owner's risk.

Staying with a poor or broke guy with the mindset that he should not forget you when he makes it is greatly flawed.

Stay with a guy because you want him and you want to stay with him...if you don't want him please leave him but never stay with a broke guy because you hope he will make it one day and never think you are doing a broke guy a favor by staying with him.

The hardship in Nigeria has made many ladies see dating a broke guy as an investment that should yield profits if he eventually makes it.

You were dating a poor man. Not of cash but of mentality.

Men complain. Women complain.

The honest reality is no one is better than the other.

So I don't know why the OP is sounding like women are saints who get played. Guys get played as well so fvck is your point?

I pity people who take relationships serious. If you like don't learn to live on your own. Be looking for man to gum body with.

Missali:
Neither, what I mean is that men clamour for women who would stick with them through thick and thin without eventually playing out their roles when it comes down to it.

This same guys comes online to rant about women who ain't loyal and all that as if, they are.

You ladies should be wiser and you can only get wiser by following and sticking to the best moral laws and practice.

I don't see anything called future in a gambler and it likes, unless your man is not 100% dependent on it for a living and he devotes less time to it, perhaps once a month.

If you know your man is exhibiting wrongs morals, it's your duty to push him straight or else the relationship is not going to work except you are of like minds. So be it, you deserve it.

You should stand by a hustling man with a high moral standard.

I've seen ladies who choose this path, so it works.

Let's clear this up. If want you mean by standing by him is making sacrifices for him, helping him massively to succeed then you have a point but if you feel you deserve a medal for simply him cos he is broke and possibly still adding no value to him aside sleeping with him and still collecting out of the little he has then you are not serious, something you could be doing to five guys at same time and waiting for them to blow and lay claims. show us proofs of the sacrifices you made and the inconvenient commitments you made in a bid to help him succeed. sleeping with a man isn't standing by him.

Eyah, so touching, hope you forgave him, and did you took him as he came begging for forgiveness?

Missali:
One of the qualities men look out out for in a woman is the ability for her to stay true by him during trying times and a woman who cannot do that is termed a non wife material and slay Queen at best and at worst, a gold digger.
It is believed that when a woman supports her man and he comes to, in turn he will respect her and share responsibilities as he should but often times, this is not the case.

Many at times we have heard experiences from family, friends, colleagues or even gone through it.
Here's mine: I had this boyfriend that was struggling in every sense of the word. We kept on despite his financial shortcomings and I would travel a long distance to see him knowing fully well that the trip expenses and all that came with it were on me. I did not hesitate to oblige favours that I could give and ensured I went out with him during his jobs just to give that moral support.

Things seemed to be going on well until the day I was sitting with some friends and one of them asked how I was enjoying with my boyfriend. I responded with a light laugh and he asked "now that your guy has made it, what is the way forward?"

Me: Made it how?
Guy: Your guy hit over one million in that online betting promo.
Me: Yes yes, it's not easy... Such an unexpected favour at a time like this.

I pretended to be aware and happy but I wasn't myself till the end of the day. Everybody knew the good news except me.
One week, two weeks, one month passed and I got no call from my estranged boyfriend to even tell me what had happened. I refused to call too.

I heard news about how he had become the man about town, declaring free drinks for people he met at our street bars, dashing money to those who came to celebrate with him etc. Whenever someone who knew us sighted me they asked, "are you not M's girlfriend?" and I mumbled any answer that came to mind.
Months later I got a call from him begging to see Me. After many refusals, I decided we meet. He went on his knees apologising, saying he knew I was aware of all that had happened but was too ashamed to contact me. He went on about how he rented an apartment for one girl, was giving out money with reckless abandon, purchased an expensive mobile phone which he ended up selling at an abysmally low price (due to hardship) and how he was popping bottles at bars et al.

The length and breadth of the story was that the money was all gone. The business idea we had brainstormed he made no use of the money to invest. All his friends and girlfriends had left him for good and he felt lonely, he remembered the one who stood by him sincerely.

At the moment he had not a penny, with an empty stomach and looking for a way to get a small job. I could tell he was miserable from his looks alone. If only he had the right company who would have advised him at such a critical time, he'd never have had to go hungry again. I took him to a restaurant and we had a nice meal. He called me a good girl, a loving friend, a confidant blah blah blah.

Ladies, they will come at you with twisted words tell you they want a good woman, a patient woman, a supportive woman etc. Some will even tell you that they can never respect a woman who does not struggle with them. Do not fall for it. Most times, what they want is someone to take their excesses while they move on to cast their net elsewhere. For tens of stories about men who stick by their women when the going got smooth, there are hundreds of untold stories about men who looked the other way.

Playing the supportive role is the case of it may work and it may not. It is not stated anywhere that after standing by him and he leaves for another woman, he will be mobbed. You will simply be remembered as 'the one who once was', that's all.

It is a case of driving into a place with the words "cars parked at owner's risk." Nobody will tell you not to park your car but you hold yourself liable should anything happen to it. Hence, stand by your man at owner's risk.

is this a fiction or your true life story?

I will say only guys that have not seen real money or that has been living in poverty behave like that. Money comes and go, 1m is nothing in this present economy. And i need to point out that, this is not about guys, these happens with girls too.

Whew! Na today? I think the matrix is really simple to understand. If you must date a broke guy, date the one with potential, class and good exposure. It is important he considers you a partner with these attributes as well. This is because when anyone(male/female) moves up a ladder, it is only natural for him/her to acquire things/friends/companies within the new status. Hence the reason it is important to pitch one's tent with a guy with an innate class, not the one that buys class with money.


I can imagine the tasteless dude's desire to be seen as arrived when in fact he was still in transit. Count your luck biko...a lot of husbands do that to their wives these days.

Missali:
I believed that a wise person has the ability to make use of funds wisely if given the opportunity, I thought wrong.
It's indeed a blessing.

he was not wise either.

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Missali:
One of the qualities men look out out for in a woman is the ability for her to stay true by him during trying times and a woman who cannot do that is termed a non wife material and slay Queen at best and at worst, a gold digger.
It is believed that when a woman supports her man and he comes to, in turn he will respect her and share responsibilities as he should but often times, this is not the case.

Many at times we have heard experiences from family, friends, colleagues or even gone through it.
Here's mine: I had this boyfriend that was struggling in every sense of the word. We kept on despite his financial shortcomings and I would travel a long distance to see him knowing fully well that the trip expenses and all that came with it were on me. I did not hesitate to oblige favours that I could give and ensured I went out with him during his jobs just to give that moral support.

Things seemed to be going on well until the day I was sitting with some friends and one of them asked how I was enjoying with my boyfriend. I responded with a light laugh and he asked "now that your guy has made it, what is the way forward?"

Me: Made it how?
Guy: Your guy hit over one million in that online betting promo.
Me: Yes yes, it's not easy... Such an unexpected favour at a time like this.

I pretended to be aware and happy but I wasn't myself till the end of the day. Everybody knew the good news except me.
One week, two weeks, one month passed and I got no call from my estranged boyfriend to even tell me what had happened. I refused to call too.

I heard news about how he had become the man about town, declaring free drinks for people he met at our street bars, dashing money to those who came to celebrate with him etc. Whenever someone who knew us sighted me they asked, "are you not M's girlfriend?" and I mumbled any answer that came to mind.
Months later I got a call from him begging to see Me. After many refusals, I decided we meet. He went on his knees apologising, saying he knew I was aware of all that had happened but was too ashamed to contact me. He went on about how he rented an apartment for one girl, was giving out money with reckless abandon, purchased an expensive mobile phone which he ended up selling at an abysmally low price (due to hardship) and how he was popping bottles at bars et al.

The length and breadth of the story was that the money was all gone. The business idea we had brainstormed he made no use of the money to invest. All his friends and girlfriends had left him for good and he felt lonely, he remembered the one who stood by him sincerely.

At the moment he had not a penny, with an empty stomach and looking for a way to get a small job. I could tell he was miserable from his looks alone. If only he had the right company who would have advised him at such a critical time, he'd never have had to go hungry again. I took him to a restaurant and we had a nice meal. He called me a good girl, a loving friend, a confidant blah blah blah.

Ladies, they will come at you with twisted words tell you they want a good woman, a patient woman, a supportive woman etc. Some will even tell you that they can never respect a woman who does not struggle with them. Do not fall for it. Most times, what they want is someone to take their excesses while they move on to cast their net elsewhere. For tens of stories about men who stick by their women when the going got smooth, there are hundreds of untold stories about men who looked the other way.

Playing the supportive role is the case of it may work and it may not. It is not stated anywhere that after standing by him and he leaves for another woman, he will be mobbed. You will simply be remembered as 'the one who once was', that's all.

It is a case of driving into a place with the words "cars parked at owner's risk." Nobody will tell you not to park your car but you hold yourself liable should anything happen to it. Hence, stand by your man at owner's risk.

don't generalize from particular to general.
I had a girl who supported me financially and otherwise when it was hard for me.
On getting a job,some girls were all over me as they want to associate with a senior staff but i told them the same thing.
That i have a girlfriend and that i have collected list according to tradition,one told me that i am not man enough,i laughed at their definition of man.
This xmas,for the first time i was able to give her money to do her hair.
YOU MET AN INGRATE BUT PLEASE STOP GENERALIZING.
SOME LADIES HAVE A SOFT SPOT FOR BAD BOYS AND WHEN A SCORPION DOES WHAT IT KNOWS HOW TO DO,THE VICTIM WILL NOW ROPE IN ALL THE MEN.
LET THIS STOP IN 2017

makydebbie:
Lemme read.

Awwn sister this is sad. I believe it's a blessing in disguise, imagine if it was your money that was squandered that way..?

The fact that it worked for couple A doesn't mean it'll work for couple B. Some guys are worth the risk, while some ain't.

You are right!

The ultimate question is to know those that are worth the risk and those that ain't. Same applies to the female folks too.

My dear you should go for thanksgiving, Sara or give sacrifice; depending on your religious belief. Your head has saved you. Thank God for your life. God used this situation as a teaser for you to know who this guy really is. He is a low life and a loser. He will forever remain poor and it’s not a curse. You can see how he thinks and how he manages money. Now that he has tasted the good life he may enter something criminal to maintain it. It’s better you stay far from him so you don’t become a victim of money ritual.

If you marry this type, you will never get out of poverty because he will use your money for useless things that he cannot account for. For the sake of your future generations just run away. If he contacts you again, send him curses and tell him thunder will fire him if he does not delete your number. Nonsense.

Missali:
I believed that a wise person has the ability to make use of funds wisely if given the opportunity, I thought wrong.
It's indeed a blessing.

THOSE WHO HAVE WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE GOOD USE OF THAT MONEY WILL NEVER WIN IT.
IF YOU WIN THAT MONEY,AFTER SPENDING IT,YOUR CASE IS SORRY.

If this really happened and he left u and lavished the money on ladies and drinks, then got broke and remembered he has someone like u, sorry buh u ain't in his long term plan. Just take a walk.

God is goodGod is goodGod is good

Blackfyre:
I just noticed you completed the story, funny how it proves my earlier submission. He used the money on another woman and all that nonsense. Proceeds from betting never amounts to anything good.

Just move on and enjoy your life. Doesn't mean you won't see a good guy who would appreciate and remain faithful to you though. Just take note of the cues you missed and learn from it.

Sure.