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Hello Nairalanders am currently in a relationship though the girl has secondary school education, she has not done her tertiary education yet, her junior sister just gained admission recently which she has been pestering me to give her money for her acceptance fee which have done a little bit for, her school fees is still there which I know she will ask me again, Later this morning that what about her own education and I said we will discuss it when we see. And currently am running my masters which is gulping money.
And my Mum and Dad has warned me against dating someone who is not educated up to tertiary institution and currently I don't have all the money she will be asking for and nobody is ready to help how would explain to her in such a way she will understand. Though she is into hairdressing which she is making little money out of it.

if you truly love her you can help.... Why are they depending on you, are they orphans?

This new year?

You need to tread gently

Must she go full time? she can still keep up her hairdressing business and get education to what ever level. you are still dependent on your parent for your education, so definately you can't carry their bills, kindly make it clear. no need of trying to impress and in this modern era coupled with your level of education, thinking your parent can decide who you settle down with is pitiable.

How did you present yourself to them that made them to see you as their ATM?

Let her know your capabilities

njideoby:
How did you present yourself to them that made them to see you as their ATM?

Exactly!!!!

The difference between a healthy relationship and unhealthy one is that while the former requires goodness to retain, maintain and sustain, the latter requires either being servile or subjugable to retain, maintain and sustain.

@OP

Be wise! You owe her goodness not an servility. I wonder how most of you do find peace around opportunists.

dont do it.
once she graduates she wont see you as her level and will instead look for someone better than you.
im always amazed that guys read of such stories daily buy somehow in their mind they think their gal is special and wont play her like that.they dont know gals do this not coz they are cruel or wanna hurt you. gals always crave high status men by instinct..you bring her to your level she will crave someone better than you.
its how when you help a fat chick lose weight.once she gets a sexy trim figure she is leaving you. she is seeking a 6pack dude.

Use your brain bro. Don't let anybody to use u.

njideoby:
How did you present yourself to them that made them to see you as their ATM?

you put it so perfectly.

Keep giving o. Shebi you get money mint for house.