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kennysam91:
My sis I can't say u should liv d person dat u love bt d trust. There is dat d guy Dd n ned u again since last year, u sick Dd nt look Avta u den wat u still waiting 4, time is going my sis oo

Daniel2289:
I read your post quiet well. But Let's look at the other side of the coin. DO YOU REALLY HAVE ANGER ISSUES

CorGier:
1- She got upset, angrily picked up her bag and left his house.

2- She came back, picked offence again and told him not to call her ever again.

3- She broke her phone in anger.

4- She got so restless she had to pop sleeping pills. Heck, she even OD'd.

Conclusion: All that points to actions of an angry black woman - if you ask me.

Gofwane:
Don't you know how to type well??
I swear, not even my sister in primary two will type this kind garbage of a comment.

prettydani:
Hi guys. This is my first post here and I want to be as sincere as possible...

Sometime in December last year, I was sick, having series of chest pain. So my boyfriend of over a year called me and told me about a party in his company and they were told to come with their spouses, girlfriends, fiances. Although we've been talking about it, so I came over to his house irrespective of how I was feeling. Just so he wouldn't feel left out in the party. So I took my drugs and was trying to rest a bit on the bed. The next thing he said was "my friend is coming and I want you to make her up. " note : I'm not even a makeup artist. So I was like " I can't. You know I'm not feeling well, I don't even know how to make myself up for the party that evening" he got angry and refused to talk to me. I was surprised. I ignored him initially then went to the kitchen to fix something to eat. Then I overheard him on the phone talking to a friend of mine that he would send her a number that she should take the girl to a makeup artist around and do her makeup. So I came out from the kitchen and was like " baby let me join na, you know I'm not feeling well "... He got angry and was like after embarrassing him and refusing to make up his friend that I should leave him alone.

I tried talking to him he just stood up and went to the bathroom. So I took my bag and left. When I got to the junction, I wasnt at peace with myself. I needed to know if it's cos of makeup that he's so angry or I did something else without knowing. So I went back and he'd locked the gate. I knocked for a while before he opened the door. So I told him we needed to talk, I was trying to talk to him but he was snubbing me and moving around the house. I was like do you want me to leave, he said yes that would be better. I told him if I leave, he shouldn't call me again, He said that's not a problem and deleted my number in my presence. I got angry and even broke my phone. I told him so because of another lady you want to throw away all that we've been through. With tears in my eyes... He didn't care. Just wanted me to leave ... I left his house in tears and he never called me back. I got home hurt, couldn't sleep was thinking, my mum asked why I didn't go for the party again I told her It was cancelled. That night I took sleeping pills regardless of the fact that I was on other medications...

It knocked me out and I found myself in the hospital the next morning. My mom called my supposed boyfriend, he came there and after that he never called, texted to know if I've been there or discharged...

It's been over a month and he hasn't called. My mum invited him over for Christmas he didn't come.
I tried talking to him yesterday and told me that he wasn't interested that I have anger issues I need to fix my self that he can't deal with me....

I need advice here. Cos I'm finding it difficult to move on. Cos even my pastors and family are aware of our relationship.

kennysam91:
But she come back to him 2 settle tin with him dat 1 is normal 2 every one, we guy 2 we nd 2 tak tin easy 2

CHESTER48:
I think he never loved u with his heart.i think u should move on. My gf has anger issue. Seriously, but I never broke up. My gf is even worst, she says she breaks up with me anytime she is angry. She has broken up with me more than 20 times. And will always come bk to beg. Since I noticed that was the way she is, I always forgave her. Infact I will use it to taunt her sometimes, anytime we quarell I will be the one to tell her to break up, and since then she stopped saying it. Though she even cheat on me with another guy, and I found out she slept with him 3 times. I got angry, and made her suffer for it. Which I won't mention. But I still forgave her. I'm giving her a final trial. Nobody is perfect. Relationships is not easy. There are ups and down. So that's why I always try to control and still forgive. I've once cheat too. I can't say I'm perfect,.I try to make mine work, I put all the effort. But if I see it's not working, atleast I know I tried and it not mine.

Newboss:
Continue giving her trial until you open your eyes in the other side of the universe! I wonder why people defend their foolishness! You seem like someone with some form of obsession or low self esteem! Jeez! Nobody is perfect, you should say that about the lady that killed her husband!

Open your eyes and run!

fatymore:
Lols. Guy was looking for a simple mistake to dump you

prettydani:
Hi guys. This is my first post here and I want to be as sincere as possible...

Sometime in December last year, I was sick, having series of chest pain. So my boyfriend of over a year called me and told me about a party in his company and they were told to come with their spouses, girlfriends, fiances. Although we've been talking about it, so I came over to his house irrespective of how I was feeling. Just so he wouldn't feel left out in the party. So I took my drugs and was trying to rest a bit on the bed. The next thing he said was "my friend is coming and I want you to make her up. " note : I'm not even a makeup artist. So I was like " I can't. You know I'm not feeling well, I don't even know how to make myself up for the party that evening" he got angry and refused to talk to me. I was surprised. I ignored him initially then went to the kitchen to fix something to eat. Then I overheard him on the phone talking to a friend of mine that he would send her a number that she should take the girl to a makeup artist around and do her makeup. So I came out from the kitchen and was like " baby let me join na, you know I'm not feeling well "... He got angry and was like after embarrassing him and refusing to make up his friend that I should leave him alone.

I tried talking to him he just stood up and went to the bathroom. So I took my bag and left. When I got to the junction, I wasnt at peace with myself. I needed to know if it's cos of makeup that he's so angry or I did something else without knowing. So I went back and he'd locked the gate. I knocked for a while before he opened the door. So I told him we needed to talk, I was trying to talk to him but he was snubbing me and moving around the house. I was like do you want me to leave, he said yes that would be better. I told him if I leave, he shouldn't call me again, He said that's not a problem and deleted my number in my presence. I got angry and even broke my phone. I told him so because of another lady you want to throw away all that we've been through. With tears in my eyes... He didn't care. Just wanted me to leave ... I left his house in tears and he never called me back. I got home hurt, couldn't sleep was thinking, my mum asked why I didn't go for the party again I told her It was cancelled. That night I took sleeping pills regardless of the fact that I was on other medications...

It knocked me out and I found myself in the hospital the next morning. My mom called my supposed boyfriend, he came there and after that he never called, texted to know if I've been there or discharged...

It's been over a month and he hasn't called. My mum invited him over for Christmas he didn't come.
I tried talking to him yesterday and told me that he wasn't interested that I have anger issues I need to fix my self that he can't deal with me....

I need advice here. Cos I'm finding it difficult to move on. Cos even my pastors and family are aware of our relationship.

prettydani:
Hi guys. This is my first post here and I want to be as sincere as possible...

Sometime in December last year, I was sick, having series of chest pain. So my boyfriend of over a year called me and told me about a party in his company and they were told to come with their spouses, girlfriends, fiances. Although we've been talking about it, so I came over to his house irrespective of how I was feeling. Just so he wouldn't feel left out in the party. So I took my drugs and was trying to rest a bit on the bed. The next thing he said was "my friend is coming and I want you to make her up. " note : I'm not even a makeup artist. So I was like " I can't. You know I'm not feeling well, I don't even know how to make myself up for the party that evening" he got angry and refused to talk to me. I was surprised. I ignored him initially then went to the kitchen to fix something to eat. Then I overheard him on the phone talking to a friend of mine that he would send her a number that she should take the girl to a makeup artist around and do her makeup. So I came out from the kitchen and was like " baby let me join na, you know I'm not feeling well "... He got angry and was like after embarrassing him and refusing to make up his friend that I should leave him alone.

I tried talking to him he just stood up and went to the bathroom. So I took my bag and left. When I got to the junction, I wasnt at peace with myself. I needed to know if it's cos of makeup that he's so angry or I did something else without knowing. So I went back and he'd locked the gate. I knocked for a while before he opened the door. So I told him we needed to talk, I was trying to talk to him but he was snubbing me and moving around the house. I was like do you want me to leave, he said yes that would be better. I told him if I leave, he shouldn't call me again, He said that's not a problem and deleted my number in my presence. I got angry and even broke my phone. I told him so because of another lady you want to throw away all that we've been through. With tears in my eyes... He didn't care. Just wanted me to leave ... I left his house in tears and he never called me back. I got home hurt, couldn't sleep was thinking, my mum asked why I didn't go for the party again I told her It was cancelled. That night I took sleeping pills regardless of the fact that I was on other medications...

It knocked me out and I found myself in the hospital the next morning. My mom called my supposed boyfriend, he came there and after that he never called, texted to know if I've been there or discharged...

It's been over a month and he hasn't called. My mum invited him over for Christmas he didn't come.
I tried talking to him yesterday and told me that he wasn't interested that I have anger issues I need to fix my self that he can't deal with me....

I need advice here. Cos I'm finding it difficult to move on. Cos even my pastors and family are aware of our relationship.

MDGsVISIBLE:
HellO Prettydani..
Well,I really need to commend you for your sincere expression of what happened and been Your first Post, it deserves attention and it shows you can as well be in tune with the reality of my Observation.
Now understand that Man is a Logical being.
He invited his friend to his House when you were around NB Not in your absence or you overheard, did you give that a thought? it was a way of telling her directly that He's already in relationship with You & that You are a such a simple ,kind hearted lady to meet. Conclusively, He's proud to showcase You. He told her to come on the basis that You can make her Up..? & Your NO says a lot about the arrangement.
> YOUR RESPONCE
'You know I'm not feeling well, I don't even know how to make myself up for the party that evening"
You were not feeling too well but you got the strength to fix something to eat at the Kitchen..? Making someOne up does not take much strength....Don't you think She would have been of help to make You up too. You broke the Chain by Saying NO.
> He even called your frienD to take her to a make-up artist around to make up for your embarrassment. ........He got angry and was like after embarrassing him and refusing to make up his friend that I should leave him alone~ Do you know that alone can reduce his morale at the said Company.
> He called your friend to show He's more mature handling issue. What if he has stepped out to take lady to a make-up artist himself? You will be more Jealous & angered.
>
> So You took Your bag and Left. Again, that was an error, what of the party you came for? You mean weeks of Planning & discussion of the said event will just go like that after all you have been through togethe[/b]r .He kept wondering that you didn’t even realized your embarrassement to him.
>[b] You left and you were not at peace with yourself, that was your conscience trying to save the day for you,the only way to establish that peace was to say YOU are SORRY and that would have solved the equation, but You went back asking Questions. Do you want to leave me..? & Yu expect him to say No..? If you leave, he should not call you again & he affirmed that. Though might be emotionally painful but you sowed a bitter seed with that statement, he got to his sense that you don’t even need him anymore, he doesn't want to get tempted to call You again & acted based On your Statement.
[b[b]]You got angry and even broke your phone.[/b] [/b]Wao! If that was a plate in your hand, you might as well break it. Am Sorry to say You do have anger issues.

Woman is an EMOTIONAL BEING , from his reactions you thought it was because of the lady..? Nope, it was based on the reasons above. NB it’s very hard for a man as a logical being to communicate in details.
He told You that he wasn't interested that [b]You have anger issues and you need to fix yourself [/b]that he can't deal with me....
He really do have you in mind but he has a fear he cannot cope with his observation of anger in you.. Am glad you are a Christian, do you know what that can do to a home from biblical perspective..?.  First step- How do you get to fix yourself…. What measures have you been taken...?Get BooKs, Messages, with Prayer, Forgive Others, Learning to be a Companion + 4 Simple tips of courtesy like SORRY.  The second step will surely bring you together more happily

You such a wonderful and sincere lady, you deserve a second Chance..

prettydani:
Thanks for your advice.
First of all, I told him quietly that I couldn't, I was sick for crying out loud. Me coming over Sef wasn't easy. Just that I didn't want him to feel left out. Secondly it was a couples thing, why invite another lady that I don't even know.
Thirdly, he refused to talk to me again cos I told him I couldn't make the girl up ( I'm not even a makeup artist).
I tried talking to him but he was snubbing me. You don't expect me to go out with someone that wasn't even talking to me.
Fourthly , I came back to at least make peace with him and see if I did something else that was getting him angry. All the while he was snubbing me. Not even giving me a listening ear.

Finally, everyone has their limits to which they can tolerate things. I've never in my life gotten angry to the point of breaking things. Besides breaking the phone wasn't intentional.

He was the one that was angry with me in the first place.

biacan:
when I said don't date boys you won't they won't listen that's what you get from all this p*** guys.... better break up with him and go find yourself a responsible man to date