Adamrealman78:
She can't change. I saw this attitude long ago,but thought pure love and affection could reform her.if I continue in the relationship, she would ruin me into debt.

Ariel20:


See how you are confidently believing him like you are in his heart. Have you heard the wife's side of the story to make any sound judgement?

A man that doesn't think it is wrong to make a public ridicule of his wife.. Is that one a man?

A man that has only painted his wife as the wicked and never changing sinner yet h is the saint.. Is that one a man?

I bet if she was your sister, you would not like such wicked treatment meted out to her.

One can easily decipher that the op is just a liar & an immature fellow

The thing pain am sey the lady get foresight. Shior

graciously2013:
Majority of the comments here are from people that are not married, I doubt if the op truly love his wife, from your write I see a lot of lies there and is clear that you've been cheating on her over there in Abuja. If you make a women feel insecure she will do everything on her own without consulting you. Do you truly marry her or you guys are cohabitating? If truly you love and respect her you wouldn't have the gut to take another lady you even called her your new wife. No matter the medical conditions of your woman she needs your help to pull through not torture. And from your write you are a saint while she is a sinner. In marriage it takes two to tango.

sweetlaw:


My thoughts exactly. Women are wiser now, no more slow thinking and mumu begging and trying to salvage what cannot be repaired.

I feel he has been cheating and d wife found out.

AAgain Mr. Man, if u have been cheating and ur side chic could not get pregnant for u, it proofs u are d barren one and not ur wife.

Brugo:


Lol. Cos she collected her money back (probably with interest) and her husband doesn't realise it. No stress, no argument but she has made her profit. Simple. I respect that.

uzuede4:
You already have a woman you're sleeping with. Does she know about that? Why are you complaining about her building a house and not telling you, when you are cheating on her. The Bible at 1 Corintians13:7 says love bears all things and endures all things.
Your action shows you are not fai[b]thful. Keep your family out of your marriage. Marriage is not all about children. Children come and go, two of you will remain. Have you carr[/b]ied out a check on yourself, before hastly accusing your wife of not giving you children. Most infertility issues lie with men.
Africa has stereotyped us into believing we must have children when married, while it is not supposed to be so. Even with the number of children in Africa, we are not inproving and developing. The earlier we improve our thinking abilities the better for us. Everything in life is not about marriage and children.
You are married but have plans b-z already. That shows you know what you are doing and need someone to put the blame on. I'm sure you will still come back to tell us your second woman has not bore your a child. When Africa starts respecting women, things will get better.

9ja083:


If that is the only case she has, believe me! It's simple to handle. It's just to take her to the right Dr and case close.

majekdom2:
what is judging. Stop using this word unnecessarily pls.

madridguy:
Divorce is not the answer sir.

petiteee:
he was in Lagos before he lost his job and got another one at Abuja. Did u read the part where he said he asked his wife to relocate and that he would restock the shop but she declined? I don't think so

janvier27:
Hmm. Op, you make some of us look like saints or complete fools. I think its more of the childlessness. Your mind is made up. Show some empathy in carrying it out. She could have been your sister or child. In your new marriage, manage your expectations. Best wishes.

paix:
Women, you can never know them. There was a man who rented a house close to 10 years not knowing that the house actually belonged to the wife.

Vyolet:
Imagine o, all these men know is to see that a woman suffers and loses in everything.
She has been married to you for 6years,no child, you went ahead to marry another woman which your wife is aware of,as well as all your other escapades all in a bid to father a child, now you expect her to carry you along in all her plans as who exactly? She moved on faster than you and doesn't want to be left behind. It will be her fault when she loses her marriage with no child nor any asset to compensate for the years she wasted with you. African women are getting wiser, the world does not revolve around men alone.

A piece of advice, check again to be sure you are not the one with infertility problem, once you new wife says she is pregnant, be sure to do a DNA test after the delivery.

Efewestern:


Sir I admire your courage and perseverance, even after knowing she couldn't conceive easily you still kept your vows, trying everything to make her happy, why she on the other hand was living her life just for herself, that's selfishness bro.

@ bolded, am naturally not a religious person, I'd burst her bubble if she tries using that as a tools for controlling me.

What's up with your new wify, hope you are treating her right? ,

Na man you be.

Adamrealman78:
ladies like you are the problem, you assume that things are worst than they seem. My parents kicked against our wedding, I stood my ground and kept my vow.after feeling used ,I decided to move on.I didn't fight her. So what's the big issue?

FloraEC:


To be honest, I don't blame your wife. I wonder how many times you've called her barren maybe telling her, her tubes are blocked and she can't release an egg that's why she's not ovulating e.t.c

The magic you supposed to do is for her to undergo an operation to remove the uterine fibroid, tubal flushing or taking drugs for it and also taking drugs that aids ovulation. Did you do that?

And now you're trying to be all emotional, all of a sudden you remembered your parents warned you cos she borrowed herself sense to build a house since you and your family members obviously don't love her or accept her. Now you trying to blame her, calling her sorts of names so you'll garner sympathy.
I wish you the best with the girl you've already slept with and wants to marry, may she karashika your life very well.


Shalom

frozen70:

You dont know the poster from Adams, you were attacking him instead of the advice he needed.
He wasn't bracing that he maintains two homes he is just telling us the sacrifice he made for their comfort, though he wouldn't have said he has never beaten the wife that's not what a man should be proud of.
Yes its wrong for a wife to set up a building with out the knowledge of the husbands, but like the husband said that probably she is sensing danger because she is yet to give birth. I think the man should notify the wife family his intention to get separated or divorce their daughter ,it might not be easy but it's one of the way out.

adamrealman2016:
instead of learning from my experience people are there abusing each other.many Nigerians would never reach their full mental potential with this myopic mindset

desreek9:
I read all ur posts and it's obvious u dont need advise, u just want justification, i wish you and her well

madridguy:
Divorce is not the answer sir.

Adamrealman78:
,her test results show, blocked fallopian tubes, uterine fibroids and no ovulation.. What magic do you expect I do?

sugah:

You sounded learned in your other posts until now. Ever heard of IVF? In fact a simple myomectomy would have solved all the issues cos the tubal blockage might be as a result of the fiborids.
You can proudly post those cos its her challenges, if it were your swimmers that were weak or nonexistent she would have stuck by you.

Anyways, goodluck to all 3 of you.

Adamrealman78:
I am a worthless sinner, not claiming to be a saint, but the affection that I show my wife in the 6yrs of marriage has been outstanding, my parents don't communicate with me, my siblings see me as been jazzed by her,at a time told me I was in an unviable relationship, I went with that same wife to the siblings wedding, had a lot of convincing to do cause they said it to her face. I still declared my love for her.asides her being a Christian, she lost faith in God ,saying why should God allow her to go through this, my remarks are,Is there ANYTHING God can't do.I am a living testimony to two miracles which I would share after God does this! I am short of words but after all my travails,God shall take all Glory. I pray for peace that surpasses human comprehension in all your lives.God bless you all.

GrammarCheck:


You should be more supportive. I married in 2009, I had multiple cysts, no ovulation as well. I ran from pillar to post. Did all sorts of treatment. Finally, after 5 years my husband said STOP! Let's just STOP and enjoy our lives. My mother in law said STOP, let go and let God. I had a support system that made me feel not having a baby is not the end of the world. Doctors said I should come for IVF, they saw one blocked tube. Hubby said no. Infact, he took me abroad for a long awaited honeymoon, after 5yrs. I came back pregnant, even he wasnt expecting it. He said it was too sudden. Can you imagine After delivery, got pregnant with another baby the following month. My two deliveries were 10months interval. With no ovulation.

My husband refused to touch me after the 2nd pregnancy. Said I was a magnet. Took counselling for him to finally come close. He has been begging me not to get pregnant again, but I want twins
With no ovulation.

As I am, I get a period once in 6mths, without intervention. I only know I'm pregnant because I start vomiting. Because there is no period to say 'I missed my period'.

My point is... Be patient, and work with your woman. Who said God cannot turn around a situation? You have given up on your wife, and that is not Godly.

Can two work together except they agree? You need to put away the strange woman and work with your wife. You have only been married 6 years. There is a lifetime ahead of you. These are just bumps along the way.

If I tell you the one my husband did to me. I asked him to inspect a property. He said it was good, he liked the area, it is something he has been looking for. As a the doting wife, I gave him the money to help me buy it. He bought it in his name. The world has not ended. I was angry, but he has my mumu button.

As we are, I have used sense to collect back the money over time. I never said, give me back my money. But for everything I send a budget for, I inflate the cost. Even money for the schoolchool fees, diapers and food. I am shopping for another property which I will buy in my name. I will tell him, for info purposes only. This life is wisdom. So I should have divorced him because he played a fast one on me?

When I confronted him, he said I am a woman, I should be submissive. Ok, in submission, no problem, we will meet on the bed at night, where he cannot say no to my demands.

Adamrealman78:
,her test results show, blocked fallopian tubes, uterine fibroids and no ovulation.. What magic do you expect I do?

olisehcom:


You've been cheating on her all this time....and she knows.......she hasn't given u a child.......your family don't like her......



I don't blame her at all

Adamrealman78:
Last Saturday, I was in my house with my wife and got a call from my girlfriend that she wanted to see me for bleeps.I was startled that she wanted to come to my home. We usually had fun at a guest house,my head ran thousand thoughts, I decided to take her to my friends apartment in my compound upstairs with the room window facing my apartment. My wife was home, I played with her and gisted and told her I was going out.I called my gf and told her to proceed to my friends place .I tactically went upstairs and laid prey.when the babe arrived. I was Hot as a horse.I discharged my friend and gave my gf head.she was screaming, daddy which my wife incidentally calls me,I had to cover her mouth when she started calling my name!.mogbe,had to move to the living room and gave her a bleep she would never forget in a jiffy. She was shaking so much I had to give her a shower.I didn't know I was looking for more trouble. In the shower, I bleeped her twice again and she gave me head in a running shower, I was thinking that she would be uncomfortable with water running into her nose while her mouth was busy, so I turned of the shower, she told me to switch the tap on, ok after 50min I told her to rest.she felt hungry and I gave her money for lunch.and quietly went down to my house, as I got in my wife was like you went out for five hours,close the curtains and come to bed, yepa!after 6rounds.ok I proceeded to give my wife head too and bleeped her.as soon as she fell asleep, I just picked my clothes and went to my gf house.in matter of minutes. We were in each other arms kissing. I told her to cool down and give me time,that I had just done home service. We laughed and spent time talking till I went home.