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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Nobody: 5:28am On Jan 24, 2018
DaddyKross:
Sorry, The Tunde guy might turn out to be a good person after all.

Forget about James

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by redangel2017: 5:34am On Jan 24, 2018
Mother is on ur neck to get married.. Is that an excuse to marry who u dnt love?.. Yea u er 30 nd so what??.. True love stands the test of time.. Follow ur heart nd be whre u feel u will be happy for the rest of ur life.. angry

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by adanny01(m): 5:39am On Jan 24, 2018
missjo:
This is the story of a man who chose to be a gentleman and is on the verge of losing the woman he loves to another man.

Here's how the story went and still goes:
Caesar will be 30years old in May 2018. At about this same time in January last year, he ran into the woman who would cause him to love like he has never loved before. Her name is Sara.
Caesar and Sara both attended the same secondary school, but they never spoke back then. This was until they were added to a WhatsApp group made up of Alumni from their graduating set.

Caesar joined the group much later than Sara did and at first he didn't take notice of her much. Although he always saw comments made by Sara and found them intriguing, he didn't make any move towards her instead he focused on flirting with some of the other ladies in the group whom he used to speak to back in secondary school. This went on until Sara started developing a crush on the mysterious alumni who always seemed to have the right words to flirt with and she didn't hide it. She called out to him and being the attention lover Caesar is, he responded and asked her for a photo so he can know he was talking to.
Both of them developed a friendship that was mainly built on flirting and counter-flirting until they decided to chat each other up privately. Caesar told Sara outrightly that he liked her and wanted to have a relationship with her but she turned him down because according to her, she was already in a serious relationship.

Caesar was also in a relationship too, but once he and Sara started talking, she was all he could think about. This not withstanding, he wasn't ready to keep chasing a girl who said she was dating when he knew deep down that he was also dating even though she never asked.
He stopped chatting to her privately for about 5months and they only exchanged pleasantries during debates in the WhatsApp group. By July 2017, Caesar had started having issues in his relationship but he still didn't know how to go about telling Sara to just leave her boyfriend and be with him. Over the next few months, they would exchange private messages and act like friends. This was until November 2017 when Sara admitted to Caesar that her relationship was hitting the rocks .

She said her boyfriend had been talking about marriage since they started dating in January and was supposed to have rented a flat that would herald the beginning of their union only for her to find out that he renewed his rent for another year in his single room bachelor pad without informing her. Not to mention the fact that they were constantly fighting and arguing. On hearing all this, Caeser finally saw a way in and he took it without hesitation.
He started being persistent and made sure he let her know how he has felt for the past 11months.

Fast forward to January 2018, Sara has seriously fallen in love with Caesar even though she has not officially broken up with her boyfriend of one year who all of a sudden has started making plans to visit her family for the 'first knocking' (Introduction). The problem is, Sara is not interested in marrying him anymore as all she wants to do is to be with Caesar.
She invited Caeser over to her city and to her surprise he leaves a promise ring with her the night before he leaves and tells her that the ring is a promise from him showing that he is ready to take the plunge head deep and make her his wife. Meanwhile, her boyfriend of one year has not proposed or given her any ring. All he does is to say he is doing the introduction in February like he is suddenly in a hurry.

Now this is the reason why he is suddenly in a hurry. Caesar, Sara and her boyfriend are all Alumni in the same WhatsApp group. The boyfriend and Caesar are actually friends although not too close and Caeser only found out who this mystery boyfriend is after he visited Sara and she told him. She was told by the boyfriend to keep their relationship a secret from all old classmates before then but because he is suspecting that Sara and Caeser are seriously talking, he wants to rush and be the one who married her.

Sara's mum has given her an ultimatum to get married this year because she will also be 30 and according to her mum, she must get married this year. Caeser however may not be ready to marry her this year because he needs to sort out some things, which is why he gave her the promise ring (he actually attached the ring to her necklace so that she will always have it dangling on her neck and close to her heart).
They are both in love and have always been, and Sara blames Caeser for not being persistent last year. She blames him for letting her stay with her boyfriend till now even when she never really loved him.

Now her mum has told her that she must marry her boyfriend regardless of the love she feels for Caeser.
Both Caeser and Sara have both shed tears as they spoke tonight over the usual video call they share every night. Sara wants to be with Caeser for the rest of her life, but her mum is on her neck and this has left her broken because she does not feel any love for her boyfriend, she never did..she only dated him because she was single and he was the one who was persistent as at January last year while Caeser gave up too easy even when he was the one she really wanted.

Please you guys, ladies, ogas & madams, what do you think is the appropriate solution to this very delicate matter. I need your help and input please cry cry

Very simple, stick to your guns.

However, am only worried that you and Caeser may be practical strangers to take the plunge.

What other stuff does Caeser need to take care off that he has to sort out before plunging?

No rush this thing, regret no easy to live with and divorce is messy.
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by lastmessenger: 6:05am On Jan 24, 2018
And you think by abandoning your former boyfriend to the new guy Caesar your problem is solved and your relationship is bound to succeed? My dear Sara relationship is work and does not grow organically. As soon as you begin dating the Caesar guy,will you realise that he also has his own fault and same way he will find something faulty about you.And by the way don't even think that feelings you have for Caesar guy will always be there to make you feel good.One day the feelings will go and you will be faced with reality.
This is my counsel to you,meet your former boyfriend, explain to him your crisis and ask for the way forward.I perceive you guys may find a solution to the problem and quickly make amendment. Don't trust feelings that can easily pass away.Relationship is work and for it to grow,the two will have to constantly make effort to make it work.

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Gkay1(m): 6:08am On Jan 24, 2018
is too long ooooooooooooooooo
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by godofuck231: 6:19am On Jan 24, 2018
heendrix:
I would comment when I have the summary embarassed
My mind de pain me, I think say na only me de feel the weight of the text box matismo
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by missyadorable(f): 6:21am On Jan 24, 2018
Sara better marries her guy who is ready.
Women don't need to love a man,they marry who is ready.
What if Caesar is just fooling her? just wants to eat the cake he didn't eat way back in high school and dump her for a much younger lady?

30 year old men don't marry 30 year old ladies.They go for much younger babes.

Sara should be able to separate reality from fairy tales.

She is a woman and will be at the losing end at the end of it all.

Who love epp?

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by IkpuMmadu: 6:21am On Jan 24, 2018
Stop this love this love thing ....Love isn't the main stuff needed in marriage Biko
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Rejoice5000(f): 6:25am On Jan 24, 2018
Atimes devil comes in many ways@post the lady need to search herself ad know wat she really want in a future partner cos according to wat i read above both are firting words ad they enjoy it maybe thats wat attached the two of them together ad not love,ad suddenly she dislike her former guy ad follow who gave her a promise ring? I laugh in China.@30 u beta know wat u want. Just see ur excuse that ur former guy is living in a one room apartment ad that same guy is coming for marriage while ur new guy gave u a PROMISE RING.ITS OK
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by PSTEMMA1960(m): 6:28am On Jan 24, 2018
Threebear:
This sounds like fiction, a badly written one at that.
grin
Threebear:
This sounds like fiction, a badly written one at that.
can't u jst pretend for once?
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Yakzo(m): 6:28am On Jan 24, 2018
If he had rented that apartment, she'll have taken that as a sign of his seriousness even if he goes broke. Be patient with your first lover
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by dingbang(m): 6:30am On Jan 24, 2018
Caesar has this flirty character and may likely cheat on Sara if both of them gets married...

I think Sara should resolve her issues with her old boyfriend.

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by imagineTHAT: 6:36am On Jan 24, 2018
missjo:
This is the story of a man who chose to be a gentleman and is on the verge of losing the woman he loves to another man.

Here's how the story went and still goes:
Caesar will be 30years old in May 2018. At about this same time in January last year, he ran into the woman who would cause him to love like he has never loved before. Her name is Sara.
Caesar and Sara both attended the same secondary school, but they never spoke back then. This was until they were added to a WhatsApp group made up of Alumni from their graduating set.

Caesar joined the group much later than Sara did and at first he didn't take notice of her much. Although he always saw comments made by Sara and found them intriguing, he didn't make any move towards her instead he focused on flirting with some of the other ladies in the group whom he used to speak to back in secondary school. This went on until Sara started developing a crush on the mysterious alumni who always seemed to have the right words to flirt with and she didn't hide it. She called out to him and being the attention lover Caesar is, he responded and asked her for a photo so he can know he was talking to.
Both of them developed a friendship that was mainly built on flirting and counter-flirting until they decided to chat each other up privately. Caesar told Sara outrightly that he liked her and wanted to have a relationship with her but she turned him down because according to her, she was already in a serious relationship.

Caesar was also in a relationship too, but once he and Sara started talking, she was all he could think about. This not withstanding, he wasn't ready to keep chasing a girl who said she was dating when he knew deep down that he was also dating even though she never asked.
He stopped chatting to her privately for about 5months and they only exchanged pleasantries during debates in the WhatsApp group. By July 2017, Caesar had started having issues in his relationship but he still didn't know how to go about telling Sara to just leave her boyfriend and be with him. Over the next few months, they would exchange private messages and act like friends. This was until November 2017 when Sara admitted to Caesar that her relationship was hitting the rocks .

She said her boyfriend had been talking about marriage since they started dating in January and was supposed to have rented a flat that would herald the beginning of their union only for her to find out that he renewed his rent for another year in his single room bachelor pad without informing her. Not to mention the fact that they were constantly fighting and arguing. On hearing all this, Caeser finally saw a way in and he took it without hesitation.
He started being persistent and made sure he let her know how he has felt for the past 11months.

Fast forward to January 2018, Sara has seriously fallen in love with Caesar even though she has not officially broken up with her boyfriend of one year who all of a sudden has started making plans to visit her family for the 'first knocking' (Introduction). The problem is, Sara is not interested in marrying him anymore as all she wants to do is to be with Caesar.
She invited Caeser over to her city and to her surprise he leaves a promise ring with her the night before he leaves and tells her that the ring is a promise from him showing that he is ready to take the plunge head deep and make her his wife. Meanwhile, her boyfriend of one year has not proposed or given her any ring. All he does is to say he is doing the introduction in February like he is suddenly in a hurry.

Now this is the reason why he is suddenly in a hurry. Caesar, Sara and her boyfriend are all Alumni in the same WhatsApp group. The boyfriend and Caesar are actually friends although not too close and Caeser only found out who this mystery boyfriend is after he visited Sara and she told him. She was told by the boyfriend to keep their relationship a secret from all old classmates before then but because he is suspecting that Sara and Caeser are seriously talking, he wants to rush and be the one who married her.

Sara's mum has given her an ultimatum to get married this year because she will also be 30 and according to her mum, she must get married this year. Caeser however may not be ready to marry her this year because he needs to sort out some things, which is why he gave her the promise ring (he actually attached the ring to her necklace so that she will always have it dangling on her neck and close to her heart).
They are both in love and have always been, and Sara blames Caeser for not being persistent last year. She blames him for letting her stay with her boyfriend till now even when she never really loved him.

Now her mum has told her that she must marry her boyfriend regardless of the love she feels for Caeser.
Both Caeser and Sara have both shed tears as they spoke tonight over the usual video call they share every night. Sara wants to be with Caeser for the rest of her life, but her mum is on her neck and this has left

her broken because she does not feel any love for her boyfriend, she never did..she only dated him because she was single and he was the one who was persistent as at January last year while Caeser gave up too easy even when he was the one she really wanted.

Please you guys, ladies, ogas & madams, what do you think is the appropriate solution to this very delicate matter. I need your help and input please cry cry


Rubbish! how is this relevant to the greater good?! rubbish...
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by shakurkings(m): 6:39am On Jan 24, 2018
Why do I have this feeling I'm also in this WhatsApp group. Everything (asides the names) looks in place. De javu?
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Theboss100(m): 6:48am On Jan 24, 2018
At the age of 30 and above, most ladies tend to depreciate in beauty and looks. Why be with ur bf when u know u don't love him? Oh I remember, he is living in a single room while the other has his own apartment. Most ladies find it difficult to start life from the scratch.
My advice....... I would suggest you give ur bf a chance to prove himself worthy by next month. Remember if u miss this two persons especially ur first love, u may suddenly become a married woman to a widower. Not ur portion, right? Then act like an adult u are.
Good luck
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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by ogaontop(m): 6:56am On Jan 24, 2018
Pray about it, and God will reveal the right person to you!
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Nobody: 6:58am On Jan 24, 2018
undecided undecided undecided
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by IkemChris(m): 7:03am On Jan 24, 2018
Telemondo story >: grin
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by ignatiuschinedu(m): 7:03am On Jan 24, 2018
Bae stop dis Yu movie stunt okay.....we all know Yu nt getting marry to d said guy cuz of love Bt cuz age is not longer on Yu side. Better marry dis said guy before Yu become a liability to Yu parents.
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by 8stargeneral: 7:18am On Jan 24, 2018
Is dis happened in Nollywood or Bollywood grin grin
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Nobody: 7:19am On Jan 24, 2018
AreaFada2:
Follow your heart.

E sure me say you no read that story grin
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Eke445: 7:28am On Jan 24, 2018
Stand by your conscience
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by prevailer247(f): 7:31am On Jan 24, 2018
Promise ring?... O pari! Heartbreak loading...
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Jimbadly: 7:32am On Jan 24, 2018
The girl na idiot, plain and simple.

At 30 you never get sense. undecided You want to take a plunge with a man you barely know just because he says he loves you. You're already having the hots for him when you don't really know his true intentions. He will fvck you and dump you, that's what he'll do.
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by mabea: 7:36am On Jan 24, 2018
blackbeau1:
Promise ring? I laugh in Latin. It's like she has not been disappointed before or she believes she is in a Hollywood movie. Anyways, I'm all for marrying for love tho it seems to me she fell out of love with her bf because she had someone waiting on the sideline. It depends on what her priority is and if she'll be able to take heartbreak. If her priority is marriage , then she should stay with her bf. But if she's wiling to wait for love and also live with the probability that he could decide at the end of the day not to marry her, she should go with caesar.
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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by people4rmVillag: 7:38am On Jan 24, 2018
noona:
Blaaaaaaaaah!!
Wetin dey worry u na?
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Stycon(m): 7:39am On Jan 24, 2018
How many parts is this movie please
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by OlufemiWhit(m): 7:51am On Jan 24, 2018
See as e be like literature story...... undecided
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Rogerz007(m): 7:59am On Jan 24, 2018
Story for the gods... Yimu
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by tellmemore15: 8:01am On Jan 24, 2018
Sara, its a difficult and confusing situation you've found yourself, I must confess I was in the same shoe when i wanted to take a wife.

My advice is this; If you ever found any thing (affection) to hold unto in your present bf, something good you admire and you believe you can start with him in his small way, just marry him. because once a lady passes 35 years, true love disappears and all you want is a man you can just cope with who would take away your shame.( you know this is Africa).

ceasa on the other hand might just be an infatuation, just like the Buhari Nigerians clamored for and called him "the president we never had", they sympathized with him and put him there only to discover the monster in him, he killed them daily and silenced their voice.
Sorry to have brought politics into your matter but you have to be very sure of the intent of Ceasa and of your own emotions before you go with him. life for a man is not the same for a lady.

you can still take the bold step for "love sake" but you need to think it through and be sure.

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