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I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by missjo(f): 11:15pm On Jan 23, 2018
This is the story of a man who chose to be a gentleman and is on the verge of losing the woman he loves to another man.

Here's how the story went and still goes:
Caesar will be 30years old in May 2018. At about this same time in January last year, he ran into the woman who would cause him to love like he has never loved before. Her name is Sara.
Caesar and Sara both attended the same secondary school, but they never spoke back then. This was until they were added to a WhatsApp group made up of Alumni from their graduating set.

Caesar joined the group much later than Sara did and at first he didn't take notice of her much. Although he always saw comments made by Sara and found them intriguing, he didn't make any move towards her instead he focused on flirting with some of the other ladies in the group whom he used to speak to back in secondary school. This went on until Sara started developing a crush on the mysterious alumni who always seemed to have the right words to flirt with and she didn't hide it. She called out to him and being the attention lover Caesar is, he responded and asked her for a photo so he can know he was talking to.
Both of them developed a friendship that was mainly built on flirting and counter-flirting until they decided to chat each other up privately. Caesar told Sara outrightly that he liked her and wanted to have a relationship with her but she turned him down because according to her, she was already in a serious relationship.

Caesar was also in a relationship too, but once he and Sara started talking, she was all he could think about. This not withstanding, he wasn't ready to keep chasing a girl who said she was dating when he knew deep down that he was also dating even though she never asked.
He stopped chatting to her privately for about 5months and they only exchanged pleasantries during debates in the WhatsApp group. By July 2017, Caesar had started having issues in his relationship but he still didn't know how to go about telling Sara to just leave her boyfriend and be with him. Over the next few months, they would exchange private messages and act like friends. This was until November 2017 when Sara admitted to Caesar that her relationship was hitting the rocks .

She said her boyfriend had been talking about marriage since they started dating in January and was supposed to have rented a flat that would herald the beginning of their union only for her to find out that he renewed his rent for another year in his single room bachelor pad without informing her. Not to mention the fact that they were constantly fighting and arguing. On hearing all this, Caeser finally saw a way in and he took it without hesitation.
He started being persistent and made sure he let her know how he has felt for the past 11months.

Fast forward to January 2018, Sara has seriously fallen in love with Caesar even though she has not officially broken up with her boyfriend of one year who all of a sudden has started making plans to visit her family for the 'first knocking' (Introduction). The problem is, Sara is not interested in marrying him anymore as all she wants to do is to be with Caesar.
She invited Caeser over to her city and to her surprise he leaves a promise ring with her the night before he leaves and tells her that the ring is a promise from him showing that he is ready to take the plunge head deep and make her his wife. Meanwhile, her boyfriend of one year has not proposed or given her any ring. All he does is to say he is doing the introduction in February like he is suddenly in a hurry.

Now this is the reason why he is suddenly in a hurry. Caesar, Sara and her boyfriend are all Alumni in the same WhatsApp group. The boyfriend and Caesar are actually friends although not too close and Caeser only found out who this mystery boyfriend is after he visited Sara and she told him. She was told by the boyfriend to keep their relationship a secret from all old classmates before then but because he is suspecting that Sara and Caeser are seriously talking, he wants to rush and be the one who married her.

Sara's mum has given her an ultimatum to get married this year because she will also be 30 and according to her mum, she must get married this year. Caeser however may not be ready to marry her this year because he needs to sort out some things, which is why he gave her the promise ring (he actually attached the ring to her necklace so that she will always have it dangling on her neck and close to her heart).
They are both in love and have always been, and Sara blames Caeser for not being persistent last year. She blames him for letting her stay with her boyfriend till now even when she never really loved him.

Now her mum has told her that she must marry her boyfriend regardless of the love she feels for Caeser.
Both Caeser and Sara have both shed tears as they spoke tonight over the usual video call they share every night. Sara wants to be with Caeser for the rest of her life, but her mum is on her neck and this has left her broken because she does not feel any love for her boyfriend, she never did..she only dated him because she was single and he was the one who was persistent as at January last year while Caeser gave up too easy even when he was the one she really wanted.

Please you guys, ladies, ogas & madams, what do you think is the appropriate solution to this very delicate matter. I need your help and input please cry cry

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by heendrix(m): 11:43pm On Jan 23, 2018
I would comment when I have the summary embarassed

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by herraph: 12:08am On Jan 24, 2018
Smh

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by itsik(m): 12:09am On Jan 24, 2018
Wow. So bad
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Holla007(m): 12:09am On Jan 24, 2018
hmmmm
Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Threebear(m): 12:10am On Jan 24, 2018
This sounds like fiction, a badly written one at that.

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by ozome15(m): 12:10am On Jan 24, 2018
If her mum is so interested in d said boyfriend let her marry him and she marry whom her heart and love is with. End of story. Na so I see am!

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Nobody: 12:10am On Jan 24, 2018
Next time, try and make it short.

People are too preoccupied to read long epistles like this

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Cletus77(m): 12:10am On Jan 24, 2018
Using "I'm", makes it sound like a true life story

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by onyx1470(m): 12:11am On Jan 24, 2018
someone please summarise this bull shit...

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by AreaFada2: 12:11am On Jan 24, 2018
Follow your heart.

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by imstrong1: 12:12am On Jan 24, 2018
Here to read comments from nairaland seasoned relationship experts

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by chino4(m): 12:12am On Jan 24, 2018
So u want to do your mums bidding

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by chronique(m): 12:12am On Jan 24, 2018
What's the point getting married when you don't dig the person? There are issues that do not need advice and this is one of them.

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by DaddyKross: 12:13am On Jan 24, 2018
Sorry, The Tunde guy might turn out to be a good person after all.

Forget about James

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Allylic(f): 12:13am On Jan 24, 2018
Let her follow her heart..

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by BluntBoy(m): 12:14am On Jan 24, 2018
Crappy, distasteful. Jamariwolf4, what is your take

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by blackbeau1(f): 12:17am On Jan 24, 2018
Promise ring? I laugh in Latin. It's like she has not been disappointed before or she believes she is in a Hollywood movie. Anyways, I'm all for marrying for love tho it seems to me she fell out of love with her bf because she had someone waiting on the sideline. It depends on what her priority is and if she'll be able to take heartbreak. If her priority is marriage , then she should stay with her bf. But if she's wiling to wait for love and also live with the probability that he could decide at the end of the day not to marry her, she should go with caesar.

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by condralbedez: 12:17am On Jan 24, 2018
Who are you in the drama.... Caesar or Sara?I will comment when you give the full gist. Meanwhile I like your D.P

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Arian11(m): 12:22am On Jan 24, 2018
i booked space to read and then comment but abeg na ugo c ugo ? summary abeg.

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by Pavore9: 12:27am On Jan 24, 2018
Yawns.....

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by ham334488: 12:29am On Jan 24, 2018
Allylic:
Let her follow her heart..

Abi oooo

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by ipobarecriminals: 12:29am On Jan 24, 2018
sad so long a story.

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by talk2hb1(m): 12:29am On Jan 24, 2018
Okay Noted!

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by barineh(m): 12:30am On Jan 24, 2018
If I want to read a novel I would go down my street and buy one. All this one na long story

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by TrollTrap: 12:30am On Jan 24, 2018
This is like something out of a telenovela... embarassed

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by noona(f): 12:30am On Jan 24, 2018
Blaaaaaaaaah!!

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by gabinogem(m): 12:31am On Jan 24, 2018
Why do most ladies delve into relationships they actually don't dig

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by LesbianBoy(m): 12:31am On Jan 24, 2018
Why do ladies that don't talk to a guy back then in school suddenly starts talking to the guy when they meet outside. What changed? grin grin

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Re: I'm About Losing The Man I Love And Being Pressured To Marry The One I Never Did by dumodust(m): 12:32am On Jan 24, 2018
topsy turvy story... seems like they need a party to resolve the imbroglio grin
lesson: you cant always have want you want, it may actually be God taking sweet poison away from you

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