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Ubunja you are needed here o.

Nawa for all these Nollywood scripts o.

Booked

Ekiseme:
Cold

Is that all you gat?

I keep telling people to live dia livez as it pleases them and don't let anyone outsmart u into something u don't have clear understanding about because for very decision u make, itz has itz own effectz whether good or bad..

someone will surely die in this case. is either the girl kills the boy, or the boy kills the girl. sorry to her sha

ReinaFarine:
I've read the whole thing thrice and I'm still speechless... Taking vengeance on the guy and his new gal all sounds cool and ish.. But I believe in karma.
To me, the more time she spends in court cases, and police statements and ish will be more unnecessary conversations and meeting with said cultist. As hard as it is the best vengeance she can do is move on and be a better person without him. It is hard, she gave him her a big part of him she will never get back, but that's done. Right now, she should focus that energy she wants to use in ruining him on building herself.. The time she should have spent planning on the best way to hurt him should be converted to how she can make herself better. All the help she might need (navy guy, friends, money spent for cult proceedings, living in fear of retaliation from his 'brotherhood') she should use on herself.

He has had enough of her. He no longer deserves her tears or smile, a space in her head, her beautiful calculative mind or even the tiniest attention from her. He is a guy she used to know.. Stooping so low to tart dragging court settlement and arguments with the good for nothing, woman-beating, lazy, trashy piece of shit excuse of a wannabe 'cultist' is way above her right now.. She's more than him and his bimbo so called 'Ride-or-die' bitch of new piece of tramp...

Ignore both of them.. If possible, change environment, he was a lesson, you've learnt something. You are the author of your own happiness, don't kill yourself trying to please a man.. Find joy in yourself. Make yourself proud. Be the woman the The Prince of England will sell his soul to be her partner. Be the woman every man dreams of being with. Concentrate on your studies.. Start planning your own personal business(career).
It is hard, yes.
Have the picture of the woman you admire and live everyday trying to become her. You'll be too busy being successful to remember your juvenile love mistakes.

The whole oath thing is dead if you believe that.

And little girls like the tramp living on his watery alcohol and drugs ridden semen are all attention seeking whores. Ignore her.
Think of the kind of snub Meghan Markle will give her and live your life as if she doesn't exist. Only respond through the cops never personally if she still approach and threatens you unprovoked.

Though I highly suggest change your vicinity..

#GirlPower.
#Whatdoesn'tkillyoumakesyoustronger.
#PinkPride

Good advice.

@op direct your so called friend to read this piece. That's all she needs

What should I do now?

Sorry. D deed has been done, just look forward to life and what u can achieve from it. Living in ur past will prevent u 4rm progressing. Once again sorry.

Eyah... Ara mi de bumo aso

Karma is always there to repay. Sometimes when things happens like this it's all for our own good. Though very painful, she should try and move on.

JULIE1925:



So cults really exist in Nigeria, eehn?

the event took place in Paris ....
not Nigeria

Olosho

Go naked and place a curse on him calling heaven for revenge.them leave the rest. Then pray for your own husband.this kind guy no dey last .

nicanony:
Nairalanders, your advice is needed. Had to open a new account to post this for a friend who is currently in a mess.

LONG POST ALERT!!!

She dated her ex-fiance for 9years during which a lot of things happened.

She happens to be one of those cool-headed naive girls. He had carnal knowledge of her when she was 17 without her consent (assumed rape). She told no one out of fear, stigma and condemnation. The guy came back begging that he loves her & would like to marry her in future and since the deed was done, they should just start dating. After much pleading, she agreed to date him (Her biggest mistake). She noticed the guy use some slang when talking with his friends but felt it was normal guys stuff & didnt know what it meant and moreover after they started dating he disassociated himself from them. He brought out the idea of them making a blood oath to keep d relationship solid & to marry each other which after much persuasion they did it. Unknowingly to her, the guy was a cultist.

While they were in the uni, she got pregnant twice & wanted to keep d baby but the guy insisted on a D&C cos he wasnt ready to father a child as @then so he took her to d hospital to get it done. After graduation, his attitude changed and he started flirting with other girls, dated 2 known ones and always came back begging. My friend loved him & took him back despite his excesses. Suitors started coming, d guy started hitting her, gives death threat to any man who he perceives is asking her out via phone/message & threatens her. To the extent, he threatened a Captain (Navy man), the man wrote a statement that her ex was a cultist & ordered his men to teach him a big lesson but d girl pleaded on his behalf. She had to call our friend whose father was a soldier, he intervened & the captain later dropped d case after much pleading. He later stopped the hitting & threats on her after she stood her ground on one of those occasions but said he was never breaking the oath that must get married.

She got a fair job, supported him financially cos he couldnt get a good job after graduation. He proposed & marriage plans kicked off, she spent all her savings 4 d plans and getting him a good house for dem wen dey eventually get married. N.B: She didnt stay in d house. Both families had met and all that was left was to get the formal marriage done. They started having issues & d quarrels became much, so she decided to give him some space for 3months which they both agreed to. After 3months, she returned & found out d guy was dating someone else who he camped in his house. The guy said he has moved on since d girl gave him space & dat he loves d new girl & wants to marry her and all he wants is to break the oath they did when they were young, that they were never meant to be. They met with a pastor who broke the oath for them. The new lady even went as far as threatening her never to call her ex-fiancé line again if not she will see what will happen. She recorded d call & told her sister. After the call, she noticed she has been falling ill off & on, she thought it was normal until her mind went back to the threat call.

She was devastated and almost committed suicide if not for d intervention of a friend of ours. After the suicide attempt, she told us everything (her close friends), we also found out her ex-fiancé was a suspected cultist. During the suicide attempt, she was rushed to the hospital cos she fainted (before now, she sometimes complain of lower abdominal pain). Several tests & scan were carried out on her & it was detected that her womb was okay but are fallopian tubes were blocked due to infection after the D&C which means she has a very slim chance of ever conceiving unless through IVF. Since then, she hasn't been herself. We told her to let go but she keeps insisting on paying her ex in his own coin becos she can't lose all.

These are d steps she intends taking:

1) She wants to report the guy to SARS as a suspected cultist for him to be indicted (There are evidences that he has given 3men death threats who approached her marriage(including the Navy man who wrote a statement of him being a cultist). She approached the Navy man recently who is now a Vice admiral and he said he is willing to give her any assistance needed.
2) Reporting a threat to life case in SARS/any police station on the new girlfriend so she should sign an undertaken cos we heard she is into diabolical stuffs (hearsay) and there is an evidence (the threat call she made).

OR

1) She wants to make a report to d army barracks on him owing her money (she was a military student) i.e the money she spent during the end days of deir relationship (house rent, money he borrowed etc) running close to N800K. He would be made to sign an undertaken (undertaken will be drafted by a lawyer) stating that the money must be paid, he would also pay for the treatment needed to flush the blocked fallopian tubes and pay for any other damages. All almost running to the tune of N1.5M.
2) Reporting a threat to life case in SARS/any police station on the new girlfriend so she should sign an undertaken cos we heard she is into diabolical stuffs (hearsay) and there is an evidence (the threat call she made).

ARE HER PLANS REALISTIC?? WHAT OTHER ADVICE CAN BE GIVEN TO HER??

live and let live..

build you life back.. a better mN awaits you..
just as hvwastes your time.. those 9years will be wastes in his life without him knowing...

just pray for him. and see God doing wonders for you...

God may forgive you

koolg:
Olosho

Aye Buru, the father of Gunwa. Gunwa the father of Jumong aka Juwon who begat Yuri.
Summary, the world's wicked!

the Lord is your strength,just move on, you will hurt the more if you go on with your revenge plans. see your experience as a blessing.

koolg:
Olosho

You did not read raped at seventeen abi your brain is paining you...
Abi it is her spending in his house rent and feeding that implies she wants to exchange her body for his miserly pennies?

Unless the act is actually commited , threatening to harm someone is not a major crime at least , not a capital offense and he'd probably recieve a slap on the wrist, write an undertaking and be freed within a few days


Since this is a revenge mission, i have nothing to say , this is you or your friend's side of the story


I can not come and use my hand to type what will put me in trouble

LukeSkywalker78:
Make I book space

nicanony:
Nairalanders, your advice is needed. Had to open a new account to post this for a friend who is currently in a mess.

LONG POST ALERT!!!

She dated her ex-fiance for 9years during which a lot of things happened.

She happens to be one of those cool-headed naive girls. He had carnal knowledge of her when she was 17 without her consent (assumed rape). She told no one out of fear, stigma and condemnation. The guy came back begging that he loves her & would like to marry her in future and since the deed was done, they should just start dating. After much pleading, she agreed to date him (Her biggest mistake). She noticed the guy use some slang when talking with his friends but felt it was normal guys stuff & didnt know what it meant and moreover after they started dating he disassociated himself from them. He brought out the idea of them making a blood oath to keep d relationship solid & to marry each other which after much persuasion they did it. Unknowingly to her, the guy was a cultist.

While they were in the uni, she got pregnant twice & wanted to keep d baby but the guy insisted on a D&C cos he wasnt ready to father a child as @then so he took her to d hospital to get it done. After graduation, his attitude changed and he started flirting with other girls, dated 2 known ones and always came back begging. My friend loved him & took him back despite his excesses. Suitors started coming, d guy started hitting her, gives death threat to any man who he perceives is asking her out via phone/message & threatens her. To the extent, he threatened a Captain (Navy man), the man wrote a statement that her ex was a cultist & ordered his men to teach him a big lesson but d girl pleaded on his behalf. She had to call our friend whose father was a soldier, he intervened & the captain later dropped d case after much pleading. He later stopped the hitting & threats on her after she stood her ground on one of those occasions but said he was never breaking the oath that must get married.

She got a fair job, supported him financially cos he couldnt get a good job after graduation. He proposed & marriage plans kicked off, she spent all her savings 4 d plans and getting him a good house for dem wen dey eventually get married. N.B: She didnt stay in d house. Both families had met and all that was left was to get the formal marriage done. They started having issues & d quarrels became much, so she decided to give him some space for 3months which they both agreed to. After 3months, she returned & found out d guy was dating someone else who he camped in his house. The guy said he has moved on since d girl gave him space & dat he loves d new girl & wants to marry her and all he wants is to break the oath they did when they were young, that they were never meant to be. They met with a pastor who broke the oath for them. The new lady even went as far as threatening her never to call her ex-fiancé line again if not she will see what will happen. She recorded d call & told her sister. After the call, she noticed she has been falling ill off & on, she thought it was normal until her mind went back to the threat call.

She was devastated and almost committed suicide if not for d intervention of a friend of ours. After the suicide attempt, she told us everything (her close friends), we also found out her ex-fiancé was a suspected cultist. During the suicide attempt, she was rushed to the hospital cos she fainted (before now, she sometimes complain of lower abdominal pain). Several tests & scan were carried out on her & it was detected that her womb was okay but are fallopian tubes were blocked due to infection after the D&C which means she has a very slim chance of ever conceiving unless through IVF. Since then, she hasn't been herself. We told her to let go but she keeps insisting on paying her ex in his own coin becos she can't lose all.

These are d steps she intends taking:

1) She wants to report the guy to SARS as a suspected cultist for him to be indicted (There are evidences that he has given 3men death threats who approached her marriage(including the Navy man who wrote a statement of him being a cultist). She approached the Navy man recently who is now a Vice admiral and he said he is willing to give her any assistance needed.
2) Reporting a threat to life case in SARS/any police station on the new girlfriend so she should sign an undertaken cos we heard she is into diabolical stuffs (hearsay) and there is an evidence (the threat call she made).

OR

1) She wants to make a report to d army barracks on him owing her money (she was a military student) i.e the money she spent during the end days of deir relationship (house rent, money he borrowed etc) running close to N800K. He would be made to sign an undertaken (undertaken will be drafted by a lawyer) stating that the money must be paid, he would also pay for the treatment needed to flush the blocked fallopian tubes and pay for any other damages. All almost running to the tune of N1.5M.
2) Reporting a threat to life case in SARS/any police station on the new girlfriend so she should sign an undertaken cos we heard she is into diabolical stuffs (hearsay) and there is an evidence (the threat call she made).

ARE HER PLANS REALISTIC?? WHAT OTHER ADVICE CAN BE GIVEN TO HER??

I support her to do all that and even more. If you need further assistance/advice, reach out to me.

Women are funny creatures...

They punish good men and embrace demons with open arms.

Such a pathetic story...

Whats necessary is to make a complaint to the police so that both her ex n his new babe will sign an undertaking not to harm her that being said she should count her losses n move on.... Its even better for her not to end up with this type of guy than marring him n later divorcing him or dying by beatings. She should take care of her health and pray for her own man.

Let her move the hell on! Na now she know say d guy na cultist? Wasn't she dating him for years, even expecting marriage?

She can also sue her ex for breach of contract for marriage.

CastedAyo:
See una life

No na. I just booked space to think of what to advice the poor girl. Check my comment now.

I never knew females were this active on nairaland! See them commenting anyhow!! That's by the way tho....



Well in as much as d so called guy has bleeped up big time n all, i just feel karma shld do the magic! But dt ur friend sef, is she all innocent?? Bcs d way u jus painted only d guy black all trough...hmmm

LESSONS WELL LEARNT, ADVICE!!! MOVE ON - MOVE ON - MOVE ON

GOD JUST DELIVERED YOU FROM UNSEEN SITUATION, MOVE ON AND GET CLOSE TO GOD. HE WILL WIPE AWAY YOUR TEARS.
Isaiah 3 ----- It SHALL BE WELL WITH THE RIGHTEOUS -----

I won't advice you waste another minute of your life on that guy (after 9 SOLID YEARS) if he has moved on then better do same..unless he wakes up someday to threaten you again...As per the fallen sick,cant you pray,you need deliverance too...and as for blocked fallopian tubes;pray,when you find a man that wants to marry you,don't hide it from him,if its blocked tube then IVF is a good option (expensive though)....Let me lay emphasis on the fact that you need to get ur deliverance from whatsoever spiritual bondage you put yourself in....And this is lesson to US all

Spectraz:
No na. I just booked space to think of what to advice the poor girl. Check my comment now.

OK seen

chronique:
I support her to do all that and even more.
If you need further assistance/advice, reach out to me.

Why?

nicanony:
Nairalanders, your advice is needed. Had to open a new account to post this for a friend who is currently in a mess.

LONG POST ALERT!!!

She dated her ex-fiance for 9years during which a lot of things happened.

She happens to be one of those cool-headed naive girls. He had carnal knowledge of her when she was 17 without her consent (assumed rape). She told no one out of fear, stigma and condemnation. The guy came back begging that he loves her & would like to marry her in future and since the deed was done, they should just start dating. After much pleading, she agreed to date him (Her biggest mistake). She noticed the guy use some slang when talking with his friends but felt it was normal guys stuff & didnt know what it meant and moreover after they started dating he disassociated himself from them. He brought out the idea of them making a blood oath to keep d relationship solid & to marry each other which after much persuasion they did it. Unknowingly to her, the guy was a cultist.

While they were in the uni, she got pregnant twice & wanted to keep d baby but the guy insisted on a D&C cos he wasnt ready to father a child as @then so he took her to d hospital to get it done. After graduation, his attitude changed and he started flirting with other girls, dated 2 known ones and always came back begging. My friend loved him & took him back despite his excesses. Suitors started coming, d guy started hitting her, gives death threat to any man who he perceives is asking her out via phone/message & threatens her. To the extent, he threatened a Captain (Navy man), the man wrote a statement that her ex was a cultist & ordered his men to teach him a big lesson but d girl pleaded on his behalf. She had to call our friend whose father was a soldier, he intervened & the captain later dropped d case after much pleading. He later stopped the hitting & threats on her after she stood her ground on one of those occasions but said he was never breaking the oath that must get married.

She got a fair job, supported him financially cos he couldnt get a good job after graduation. He proposed & marriage plans kicked off, she spent all her savings 4 d plans and getting him a good house for dem wen dey eventually get married. N.B: She didnt stay in d house. Both families had met and all that was left was to get the formal marriage done. They started having issues & d quarrels became much, so she decided to give him some space for 3months which they both agreed to. After 3months, she returned & found out d guy was dating someone else who he camped in his house. The guy said he has moved on since d girl gave him space & dat he loves d new girl & wants to marry her and all he wants is to break the oath they did when they were young, that they were never meant to be. They met with a pastor who broke the oath for them. The new lady even went as far as threatening her never to call her ex-fiancé line again if not she will see what will happen. She recorded d call & told her sister. After the call, she noticed she has been falling ill off & on, she thought it was normal until her mind went back to the threat call.

She was devastated and almost committed suicide if not for d intervention of a friend of ours. After the suicide attempt, she told us everything (her close friends), we also found out her ex-fiancé was a suspected cultist. During the suicide attempt, she was rushed to the hospital cos she fainted (before now, she sometimes complain of lower abdominal pain). Several tests & scan were carried out on her & it was detected that her womb was okay but are fallopian tubes were blocked due to infection after the D&C which means she has a very slim chance of ever conceiving unless through IVF. Since then, she hasn't been herself. We told her to let go but she keeps insisting on paying her ex in his own coin becos she can't lose all.

These are d steps she intends taking:

1) She wants to report the guy to SARS as a suspected cultist for him to be indicted (There are evidences that he has given 3men death threats who approached her marriage(including the Navy man who wrote a statement of him being a cultist). She approached the Navy man recently who is now a Vice admiral and he said he is willing to give her any assistance needed.
2) Reporting a threat to life case in SARS/any police station on the new girlfriend so she should sign an undertaken cos we heard she is into diabolical stuffs (hearsay) and there is an evidence (the threat call she made).

OR

1) She wants to make a report to d army barracks on him owing her money (she was a military student) i.e the money she spent during the end days of deir relationship (house rent, money he borrowed etc) running close to N800K. He would be made to sign an undertaken (undertaken will be drafted by a lawyer) stating that the money must be paid, he would also pay for the treatment needed to flush the blocked fallopian tubes and pay for any other damages. All almost running to the tune of N1.5M.
2) Reporting a threat to life case in SARS/any police station on the new girlfriend so she should sign an undertaken cos we heard she is into diabolical stuffs (hearsay) and there is an evidence (the threat call she made).

ARE HER PLANS REALISTIC?? WHAT OTHER ADVICE CAN BE GIVEN TO HER??

Fair.

I don't believe in locking him up

He must repair her fallopian tube and pay her damages.

She's must better off without him.

To she must learn to let go if she's looking for a marriage mate. If you look despondent and desperate, it's a massive turn off to guys and it attract opportunistic heartbreakers.

Let her smile. She should start jogging and exercising as it helps to boost your moods and makes you much happier.

A happy smile, generous and happy personality is inviting to the right men.

When I say generous, I mean there's more joy in giving than in receiving. Those who want to be happy realise that (Acts 20:35). Find a cause that is worthy that she can devote herself to. It will take her mind off her own pain.

I derive joy by preaching. It's one of my ways of giving, this time, time. I am a Witness (www.jw.org)

I hope she finds the right guy.