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You are a cheat and u will never stop. The best tin to do is to quit the rship if not the next time we will hear about u maybe ur obituary cos u will never stop cheating and that will infuriate her the more.

nams77:
I don't want to be reading my Sunday newspaper sometime in the future and read something like this-"Man stabbed to death in his sleep by jealous wife"


Or man burnt to death in his sleep by jealous wife.


The case of the Abuja killer house wife comes to mind

OR

Man bath by acid by his wife

coolh3ad:
Sacred Brotherhood code??. So one of the codes is to fight a Lady back?. Are you for real?. What happens to walking out immediately and avoiding the "breaking of nose"..It's not about playing the "gentleman" role.. Two wrongs don't make a right......

hw can a woman be dat heartless carrying weapons to beat his bf who jst stood looking at her...

so women re nw untouchable? dey do anything to a man nd go scott free..

crismark:
hw can a woman be dat heartless carrying weapons to beat his bf who jst stood looking at her...

so women re nw untouchable? dey do anything to a man nd go scott free..

I understand. She did wrong. But why don't you just walk away to avoid more violence. If she carry weapon, you sef carry weapon or hit her hard or there is bloodshed that leads to one of you dying (God forbid), wetin you go talk. People or Police no dey hear "na him/she first start"...why not think of the outcome of an action before taking the action......It has always worked for me. When a lady starts with her gra gra, I walk away. Find somewhere to go to. Na she go finally call dey beg after sometime (if she is at fault)....Then I talk sense into her head and we settle and that's all...

coolh3ad:
I understand. She did wrong. But why don't you just walk away to avoid more violence. If she carry weapon, you sef carry weapon or hit her hard or there is bloodshed that leads to one of you dying (God forbid), wetin you go talk. People or Police no dey hear "na him/she first start"...why not think of the outcome of an action before taking the action......It has always worked for me. When a lady starts with her gra gra, I walk away. Find somewhere to go to. Na she go finally call dey beg after sometime....Then I talk sense into her head and we settle and that's all...

i can never use a weapon on a woman...i will make sure my two hands does d whole job of slapping nd punching in a way dat all her face will be swollen 4 like a month. so dat nxt time she wouldn't dear try to fight me...

egopersonified:
There is always something to love in people no matter how bad they are. Even the devil has followers. But the advantages of being with that person should always supersede the disadvantages.

The sex might be so good, Who knows? Or her cooking. Sometimes you wish you can cut some little part of your Exes and mix it with your current GF, but that ain't possible.

crismark:
i can never use a weapon on a woman...i will make sure my two hands does d whole job of slapping nd punching in a way dat all her face will be swollen 4 like a month. so dat nxt time she wouldn't dear try to fight me...

And while slapping and punching, you hit somewhere and she falls, hits her head and dies or while slapping and punching, she picks up a sharp object and stabs you and you lose blood and die.......what will happen my brother??.

It happens all the time......

Its so sad that you cannot hold a woman and her emotions down, whether by cajoling or otherwise. You ought to be more emotionally inelligent and matured than she is, whether she's 27 and you're 24 or she's 24 and you're 27. One of the very essential qualities of an alpha male is his ability to put everything in his relationship under control without having to belittle your woman. Anticipate these things even before they come through, the signs are there for you to see, cut them off even before they raise their head, pin her, down (a little painlessly) and talk some sense into her, make her understand that you can handle her and the whole temperament, but that you have chosen to remain silent and observe doesn't mean she should go on and on with the violence, make sure she's calm and then let go. If you cannot control her temperament, then I'm sorry, you cannot live with her as your wife, she would forever disrespect you and your decisions, she would forever see you as a weakling, and the actions of her mindset about you would hurt you so much, you could kill her the day you choose to react (more trouble for you). Cut things off before they get out of hand, do not let such love cloud your judgment. Women love men who can handle them, even when they tend to go excessively wrong. There's a man out there that can handle her without physically hurting her, you should be able to, and if you cannot, just walk away, you're not meant for her.

My 2 cents

oga what those master degree have to do with character..
dude you really stand make she break your nose and you nor fit give am back hand..
oga if you like nor commit from the relationship one day you go find yourself with your ancestors they drink

BuBuB:
Its so sad that you cannot hold a woman and her emotions down, whether by cajoling or otherwise. You ought to be more emotionally inelligent and matured than she is, whether she's 27 and you're 24 or she's 24 and you're 27. One of the very essential qualities of an alpha male is his ability to put everything in his relationship under control without having to belittle your woman. Anticipate these things even before they come through, the signs are there for you to see, cut them off even before they raise their head, pin her, down (a little painlessly) and talk some sense into her, make her understand that you can handle her and the whole temperament, but that you have chosen to remain silent and observe doesn't mean she should go on and on with the violence, make sure she's calm and then let go. If you cannot control her temperament, then I'm sorry, you cannot live with her as your wife, she would forever disrespect you and your decisions, she would forever see you as a weakling, and the actions of her mindset about you would hurt you so much, you could kill her the day you choose to react (more trouble for you). Cut things off before they get out of hand, do not let such love cloud your judgment. Women love men who can handle them, even when they tend to go excessively wrong. There's a man out there that can handle her without physically hurting her, you should be able to, and if you cannot, just walk away, you're not meant for her.

My 2 cents

Boss!!. You are too much....Chop better knuckle. .l

Taiwofait:
Hello everyone,

This is the 1st time I am posting something like this and it's because I don't seem to know what to think or do anymore and I strongly hope this get posted.

I am sorry, but the epistle is quite long. I just have to try and explain as explicitly as I can.

I am a 27 year old guy, a Bsc holder. I am in a relationship with a 24 year old lady who recently had her masters from my school as well.

We are both in love with each other however we have trust issues.

On my part I used to be a flirt but I immediately dumped that character immediately I met her. She became everything to me. Our 1st few months of our relationship I was very loyal, caring and I was everything I should be, unfortunately along the line I started discovering some irregularities and after some investigations I discovered she wasn't as clean as I thought. She's still decent though but truly it affected me because I had total trust in her.

I didn't exactly go back to my former ways but I did started trying to find an alternative should incase she disappears on me [something I later discovered was a bad move] because she kind of found out and that made her distrust me as well.

Consequently, we didn't trust each other anymore, but every other thing was in place. We loved and cared alot for each other.

Our relationship lasted a year with a whole lot of drama, so many break ups and make ups and very recently something happened and that is the reason I am here to ask for your help.

During one of our misunderstanding periods, I met a lady in traffic and gave her a lift, no bad intentions though, we got talking and became good friends. I told her about my girl and the issues we were having and she empathized with me, gave me some tips that can help us. She was just my friend, nothing else, as at that time.

I couldn't tell my girl about it because I knew she was just gonna assume she's another side chick [remember we had trust issues] unfortunately for me she found out about her and she fought me over it. Eventually she decided she was gonna break up with me again just because of the lady who in the real sense of it was actually my friend and not a side chick. It was painful though because even this time I was innocent.

I got pretty close to this my friend to the extent we more or less started dating. Unfortunately, I discovered this girl was best kept in the friend zone as I discovered some things I can't cope with as a man. Also I couldn't get my mind off my supposedly ex girlfriend. So I called her back up and tried to settle things with her.

I truly love this girl and I don't seem to be able to get away from her. I had quite a number of issues I was dealing with but then, I also understand nobody is perfect. She's someone I would love to spend my whole life with.

She came back and we picked up again, but this time, I determined not to try anyone else even if she's not being straightforward. I decided to put in my all once again, be faithful and loyal to her only. [although it was difficult to convince her about that because I have said that to her a couple of times before, meanwhile, I didn't mean it then, like I do now]

I told her about my friend and she supposedly forgave me. We have been doing fine for a couple of weeks now, no distractions, nothing, coz I cut communication with all other girls including friends. But sometimes she would just act up, insultively and at the end she would say she just remembered some of the things I have done to her in the past. I don't get angry, I always stay calm and I believed it was just a phase and I believed she would come around with time. And then the worse happened.

Today she was going through my gallery and she came across some of my pictures and videos with the lady, nothing erotic, just some playful pictures and videos together. Truly, I actually forgot I had it there. That probably got her really mad and before I knew what was happening, she was hitting me, repeatedly, it ranged from slaps on my face to real punches, she broke me nose, I even bled quite seriously. As I type this epistle I have pains all over my body.

Now, I am not a weak guy, I am quite a strong and muscular guy, I can take her down with just a punch,

But I did nothing, in fact I deliberately allowed her to hit me because I believe that would help her let her anger out. But she proceeded to pick up the pressing iron, she tried to destroy my phone, she even tried to pick up a bottle until my neighbor stopped her. She's been threatening to kill me. Now shes a masters holder, not the oshodi kind of girl so the reaction really baffles me. I knew she had anger issues sort of which is one if the things I have been battling with her.

Now here is my dilemma, with all the drama that has happened between us, I really don't know what to do. I truly love her and I wish I could have her, she's wonderful in many ways but this recent outburst is scary. I want her but at the same time, I have to be happy. We are just dating and we have all these dramas, what would happen when we get married?

As a lady, is it worth it, hitting till I bleed just because pictures reminded her of some girl I supposedly cheat on her with [Even though I already ended everything, weeks before now]??

Would you advise I still continue or should I just put on a bold face and walk away.

Please advise me, I am going crazy here and my nose and head is hurting badly.

Thanks in anticipation.

it takes maturity to let out ur own faults.. buh d ultimate of a relationship z happiness..decide wat u want for urself then examine if she fits in it..evrione has got an iota of anger issues in dem but to dat extent of threatening to kill..bleeding..of not jes anybody but someone u intend sharing ur life with...it z a NO NO...already sef trust is gone..so for me a relationship without dat z DEAD!!!!!

BuBuB:
Its so sad that you cannot hold a woman and her emotions down, whether by cajoling or otherwise. You ought to be more emotionally inelligent and matured than she is, whether she's 27 and you're 24 or she's 24 and you're 27. One of the very essential qualities of an alpha male is his ability to put everything in his relationship under control without having to belittle your woman. Anticipate these things even before they come through, the signs are there for you to see, cut them off even before they raise their head, pin her, down (a little painlessly) and talk some sense into her, make her understand that you can handle her and the whole temperament, but that you have chosen to remain silent and observe doesn't mean she should go on and on with the violence, make sure she's calm and then let go. If you cannot control her temperament, then I'm sorry, you cannot live with her as your wife, she would forever disrespect you and your decisions, she would forever see you as a weakling, and the actions of her mindset about you would hurt you so much, you could kill her the day you choose to react (more trouble for you). Cut things off before they get out of hand, do not let such love cloud your judgment. Women love men who can handle them, even when they tend to go excessively wrong. There's a man out there that can handle her without physically hurting her, you should be able to, and if you cannot, just walk away, you're not meant for her.

My 2 cents

ur head dey dia...u get mawt

Your ancestors will never forgive you if you let yourself die by the hands of a woman you supposedly love.

In faze's voice "Omo na mental case"

dingbang:
my brother , the op matter tire me sotey I no know wetin to type again. If you check on my timeline, there is never one day I posted any thread about my relationship life. Because any babe wey fvckup, I dey treat their matter there and then. Ah mean how can someone hit me so hard that I got injured on my nose and even smashed my phone and I come online to ask people what to do... Is it not madness that is worrying me?

Dem never beat that girl the way I go beat am o.

Lol @ dem never beat that girl the way I go beat am o.
But if the lady na ur wife nko? U go beat her? Scared of getting married sef.

as in she lift bottle?

forget masters

she is the oshodi kinda girl plus under bridge bae

You mumu button is so active. Isn't. It clear that the relationship is really an abusive relationship, if it doesn't kill you, it will destroy you totally. Don't let love fool you. No relstionship is worth fighting for if one person is making all the effort to keep it going. My bro. Walk out the door. She's so replaceable. Peace

You better walk away before she attempts to kill you and succeeds.

horlaa:
Lol @ dem never beat that girl the way I go beat am o.
But if the lady na ur wife nko? U go beat her? Scared of getting married sef.

no I won't beat her. I will just send her packing

Have u not heard of mrs sanda that killed her husband.. You broke the bro code bro, you don't ignore your friends because of ya girlfriend, Bros before hoes and that gave her the leverage and adaucity to behave the way she does, and again that relationship is one Sided, she don't love you like the way u love her, all she crave for is to be the call that calls the shot and she is really wining, dude search your heart truely, u don't love that girl, what u love is maybe the way she rides you, or maybe her sense of humor. One word bro
Ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuun for ya life, she stricks me like person that is capable of killing someone in their sleep. Put on ya thinking cap bro.

chidichuddo:
as in she lift bottle?


forget masters


she is the oshodi kinda girl plus under bridge bae

Even some so called clean babes are violent too. I once dated a pretty babe that works in Stanbic bank. This girl was very violent and jealous just like the op's girl. I ran away for my dear life o This is not the time to form hardman. Only people alive can claim to be hardmen

Bruh, just forget the emotional shiit/feelings u got right now, these are d future facts, if you eventually get married and got kids, believe me, u still gonna split no matter what!!

All the Oracles have spoken well, but i know people like the op, they will still go back to that girl and be claiming that she is now a changed person.

Tank God she didnt wait until u were asleep before she attacked you. Hell could ve been ur abode by now.

OP ur mumu don do

Hmm! Read all. Nice movie. I wish I could help. Are you still bleeding? Should I bring a tissue paper?

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dingbang:
my brother , the op matter tire me sotey I no know wetin to type again. If you check on my timeline, there is never one day I posted any thread about my relationship life. Because any babe wey fvckup, I dey treat their matter there and then. Ah mean how can someone hit me so hard that I got injured on my nose and even smashed my phone and I come online to ask people what to do... Is it not madness that is worrying me?

Dem never beat that girl the way I go beat am o.

I'm just looking atew.

This Guy has smoked osogbo weed. My GF held my collar tight and called me stupid, the way she later begged made her humble. That girl is dangerous, msc doesn't matter. walk away

Mariinee:
I'm just looking atew.

lol.. Hi sweetheart.. ah ah..what did I do?

You probably made a decision already and you are just looking for validation. Anyway, I don't know the lady's story but if your account is a true representation of all that happened, kindly end things before death/severe maiming do you part.
From your story, I don't trust you too, you will probably become friends with another lady someday and a knife will probably be the closest item to Aunty when she finds out.
She will probably get a good lawyer and spend just 4/5 years in jail while you are gone forever.
Let's avoid all that and stay alive OK?

Taiwofait:
Hello everyone,

This is the 1st time I am posting something like this and it's because I don't seem to know what to think or do anymore and I strongly hope this get posted.

I am sorry, but the epistle is quite long. I just have to try and explain as explicitly as I can.

I am a 27 year old guy, a Bsc holder. I am in a relationship with a 24 year old lady who recently had her masters from my school as well.

We are both in love with each other however we have trust issues.

On my part I used to be a flirt but I immediately dumped that character immediately I met her. She became everything to me. Our 1st few months of our relationship I was very loyal, caring and I was everything I should be, unfortunately along the line I started discovering some irregularities and after some investigations I discovered she wasn't as clean as I thought. She's still decent though but truly it affected me because I had total trust in her.

I didn't exactly go back to my former ways but I did started trying to find an alternative should incase she disappears on me [something I later discovered was a bad move] because she kind of found out and that made her distrust me as well.

Consequently, we didn't trust each other anymore, but every other thing was in place. We loved and cared alot for each other.

Our relationship lasted a year with a whole lot of drama, so many break ups and make ups and very recently something happened and that is the reason I am here to ask for your help.

During one of our misunderstanding periods, I met a lady in traffic and gave her a lift, no bad intentions though, we got talking and became good friends. I told her about my girl and the issues we were having and she empathized with me, gave me some tips that can help us. She was just my friend, nothing else, as at that time.

I couldn't tell my girl about it because I knew she was just gonna assume she's another side chick [remember we had trust issues] unfortunately for me she found out about her and she fought me over it. Eventually she decided she was gonna break up with me again just because of the lady who in the real sense of it was actually my friend and not a side chick. It was painful though because even this time I was innocent.

I got pretty close to this my friend to the extent we more or less started dating. Unfortunately, I discovered this girl was best kept in the friend zone as I discovered some things I can't cope with as a man. Also I couldn't get my mind off my supposedly ex girlfriend. So I called her back up and tried to settle things with her.

I truly love this girl and I don't seem to be able to get away from her. I had quite a number of issues I was dealing with but then, I also understand nobody is perfect. She's someone I would love to spend my whole life with.

She came back and we picked up again, but this time, I determined not to try anyone else even if she's not being straightforward. I decided to put in my all once again, be faithful and loyal to her only. [although it was difficult to convince her about that because I have said that to her a couple of times before, meanwhile, I didn't mean it then, like I do now]

I told her about my friend and she supposedly forgave me. We have been doing fine for a couple of weeks now, no distractions, nothing, coz I cut communication with all other girls including friends. But sometimes she would just act up, insultively and at the end she would say she just remembered some of the things I have done to her in the past. I don't get angry, I always stay calm and I believed it was just a phase and I believed she would come around with time. And then the worse happened.

Today she was going through my gallery and she came across some of my pictures and videos with the lady, nothing erotic, just some playful pictures and videos together. Truly, I actually forgot I had it there. That probably got her really mad and before I knew what was happening, she was hitting me, repeatedly, it ranged from slaps on my face to real punches, she broke me nose, I even bled quite seriously. As I type this epistle I have pains all over my body.

Now, I am not a weak guy, I am quite a strong and muscular guy, I can take her down with just a punch,

But I did nothing, in fact I deliberately allowed her to hit me because I believe that would help her let her anger out. But she proceeded to pick up the pressing iron, she tried to destroy my phone, she even tried to pick up a bottle until my neighbor stopped her. She's been threatening to kill me. Now shes a masters holder, not the oshodi kind of girl so the reaction really baffles me. I knew she had anger issues sort of which is one if the things I have been battling with her.

Now here is my dilemma, with all the drama that has happened between us, I really don't know what to do. I truly love her and I wish I could have her, she's wonderful in many ways but this recent outburst is scary. I want her but at the same time, I have to be happy. We are just dating and we have all these dramas, what would happen when we get married?

As a lady, is it worth it, hitting till I bleed just because pictures reminded her of some girl I supposedly cheat on her with [Even though I already ended everything, weeks before now]??

Would you advise I still continue or should I just put on a bold face and walk away.

Please advise me, I am going crazy here and my nose and head is hurting badly.

Thanks in anticipation.

dingbang:
lol.. Hi sweetheart.. ah ah..what did I do?

Water. So you want to beat a girl ahbi?