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Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Innobee99(op): 9:47pm On Feb 23, 2018
Hi RomanceLander,
I need ur candid opinion about this issue. I have a gf whom i have been with for 2yrs now. Things have been working out as i thought not until i started perceiving some fowl smell. Am the type that takes good care of my woman sometimes even at my own detriment (guys dnt try dat).
She complained of a better phone which i got for her as her Val gift and a pair of sneakers. During the Val night, she wanted to upload her pictures she took during the day, but her network was very poor. So she decided to login her facebook account on my laptop. After that, the network became very poor that we could log out before she went the following day.
Fast forward to the main gist, few days after she's gone, i decided to login into my facebook account but discovered her account was still logged in. I was tempted to check her chats (mind u, i dnt normally do that). Lo and behold, i saw eritic conversations between her and two particular guys, already falling for one of them and even planning of inviting one of the guys over to her place in school(she just got admitted into poly). And the other guy was a younger brother to a guy she's dating. Cuz the guy was wishing she finally married his senior bro. I was shocked and different thoughts running through my head like ''this babe a bought a phone for not even up to a week?''
I did a screen shoot and sent to her and asked why she would pay me back after all my devotion into the relationship.
She never felt remorse over the incident but based her point on the fact that i checked her mails. She never called to say sorry and am not ready to say sorry to someone cheating on me. Reported her mum cuz the family knows me well and this babe was spitting rubbish even in the presence of her mum.



Where Did i go wrong?
Matured Minds Please!
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Innobee99(op): 9:48pm On Feb 23, 2018
Ur candid opinions pls
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 9:53pm On Feb 23, 2018
Go and sit down

Which kind report to her mum

How old are you because you are too young to have or keep a girlfriend
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Innobee99(op): 10:02pm On Feb 23, 2018
amani63:
Go and sit down

Which kind report to her mum

How old are you because you are too young to have or keep a girlfriend
I shouldn't have done dat right?
Confusion can push to do anything.
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Olalan(m): 10:03pm On Feb 23, 2018
Your lover cheats on you without remorse and you still want advice on what to do?
I know its pretty hard to let go some one lives but for your own happiness you need to let her go and find love elsewhere
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Stevengerd(m): 10:05pm On Feb 23, 2018
Women sha...told mine today if she is not ready to hear the truth, she should never tell me i love you again. Op just move on bro, you have seen it already.
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Innobee99(op): 10:05pm On Feb 23, 2018
Olalan:
Your lover cheats on you without remorse and you still want advice on what to do?
I know its pretty hard to let go some one lives but for your own happiness you need to let her go and find love elsewhere
Thanks so much
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Nobody:
She never felt remorse over the incident but based her point on the fact that i checked her mails. She never called to say sorry and am not ready to say sorry to someone cheating on me
What do you want us to say again?
This is a very simple case.

Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by ItzPrinceIB(m): 10:07pm On Feb 23, 2018
Well....

Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 10:08pm On Feb 23, 2018
All girls issa Hoe


Nothing you can do
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Innobee99(op): 10:08pm On Feb 23, 2018
AntiBrutus:
What do you want us to say again?
Was i wrong checking her messages? That's the part left to be answered
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by CAPSLOCKED: 10:10pm On Feb 23, 2018
Innobee99:
I did a screen shoot and sent to her and asked why she would pay me back after all my devotion into the relationship.
She never felt remorse over the incident but based her point on the fact that i checked her mails. She never called to say sorry and am not ready to say sorry to someone cheating on me. Reported her mum cuz the family knows me well and this babe was spitting rubbish even in the presence of her mum.




Where Did i go wrong?

YOU'RE EVEN ASKING WHERE YOU WENT WRONG, MEANING YOU SUSPECT THAT YOU WENT WRONG SOMEWHERE.. BY ACTUALLY BUSTING HER SECRET.

SHE'S NOT APOLOGIZING CUZ SHE KNOWS YOU'RE A FOOL.

SHE'S ANGRY THAT YOU CHECKED HER MAIL CUZ SHE KNOWS YOU'RE SOFT AND WOULD APOLOGIZE TO HER IF YOU FIND OUT SHE CHEATS ON YOU.


YOU EVEN BOUGHT HER A PHONE LAST 2 WEEKS SO SHE COULD BE ABLE TO EXCHANGE MORE NUDE PICTURES WITH HER GUYS ON FACEBOOK ON WHATSAPP.

I'M SORRY FOR YOU.

YOU'RE BEING MANIPULATED BY WOMEN JUST LIKE THE REST MALE POPULATION.
YOU CATCH HER CHEATING BUT SHE MAKES IT YOUR FAULT FOR
1. LEADING HER TO CHEAT DUE TO YOUR FINANCIAL OR SEXUAL INCAPABILITY.
2. CATCHING HER IN THE PROCESS.

SHE BUYS YOUR PITY BY BLAMING YOU, AND INVOLVING TEARS AND EMOTIONS UNTIL YOU'RE CONVINCED YOU'RE THE BAD PERSON IN THE MIDST.



OGA YOU BETTER WAKE UP FROM YOUR SLUMBER BEFORE YOU GET A HEART ATTACK FROM LOVING A LOW LIFE GIRL WHO PROBABLY DOESN'T CARE ABOUT YOU OR ANYONE, EXCEPT FOR WHATEVER SHE STANDS TO GAIN AS A COMMON LOVE PEDDLER. undecided
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 10:12pm On Feb 23, 2018
Innobee99:
I shouldn't have done dat right?
Confusion can push to do anything.
I will not blame you for doing that

So days are like that

I will tell one thing you need to know

Every woman is meant for everyone but the one she love she Stay with

A woman may have 10 boyfriend but make sure you love her more than the 10 does.
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 10:13pm On Feb 23, 2018
Innobee99:
Was i wrong checking her messages? That's the part left to be answered
Your problem is that you checked her message?
So, if I say you were wrong, you will apologise or what?

I'm not a person to snoop into my partner's phone, but in this your case, I will say your snooping paid off. Whether you were wrong/right is relative and currently irrelevant.

Your girl's cheating should be your concern.
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 10:14pm On Feb 23, 2018
amani63:
I will not blame you for doing that . So days are like that
I will tell one thing you need to know
Every woman is meant for everyone but the one she love she Stay with

A woman may have 10 boyfriend but make sure you love her more than the 10 does.
Just imagine the fuckery.
Them done use toto-lin finish this one.
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by OneCorner: 10:16pm On Feb 23, 2018
your girl is a stupid girl... u did d right tin

if she talk nonsense again, slap her face!
have you forgotten you're a man? cool
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 10:17pm On Feb 23, 2018
AntiBrutus:
Just imagine the fuckery.
Them done use toto-lin finish this one.
quote me when you have senses
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 10:19pm On Feb 23, 2018
Innobee99:
Hi RomanceLander,
I need ur candid opinion about this issue. I have a gf whom i have been with for 2yrs now. Things have been working out as i thought not until i started perceiving some fowl smell. Am the type that takes good care of my woman sometimes even at my own detriment (guys dnt try dat).
She complained of a better phone which i got for her as her Val gift and a pair of sneakers. During the Val night, she wanted to upload her pictures she took during the day, but her network was very poor. So she decided to login her facebook account on my laptop. After that, the network became very poor that we could log out before she went the following day.
Fast forward to the main gist, few days after she's gone, i decided to login into my facebook account but discovered her account was still logged in. I was tempted to check her chats (mind u, i dnt normally do that). Lo and behold, i saw eritic conversations between her and two particular guys, already falling for one of them and even planning of inviting one of the guys over to her place in school(she just got admitted into poly). And the other guy was a younger brother to a guy she's dating. Cuz the guy was wishing she finally married his senior bro. I was shocked and different thoughts running through my head like ''this babe a bought a phone for not even up to a week?''
I did a screen shoot and sent to her and asked why she would pay me back after all my devotion into the relationship.
She never felt remorse over the incident but based her point on the fact that i checked her mails. She never called to say sorry and am not ready to say sorry to someone cheating on me. Reported her mum cuz the family knows me well and this babe was spitting rubbish even in the presence of her mum.



Where Did i go wrong?
Matured Minds Please!
just let the lady go.and save urself the headache it's so sad that one can't find a faithful partner this days
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by CAPSLOCKED: 10:24pm On Feb 23, 2018
amani63:
I will not blame you for doing that

So days are like that

I will tell one thing you need to know

Every woman is meant for everyone but the one she love she Stay with

A woman may have 10 boyfriend but make sure you love her more than the 10 does.

I SEE WHY YOUR FATHER TRIED TO SELL YOU AS A CHILD, BUT FAILED BECAUSE NOBODY WANTED A LUNATIC CHILD LIKE YOU.
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Innobee99(op): 10:27pm On Feb 23, 2018
CAPSLOCKED:

I SEE WHY YOUR FATHER TRIED TO SELL YOU AS A CHILD, BUT FAILED BECAUSE NOBODY WANTED A LUNATIC CHILD LIKE YOU.
Ur sense has finally been CAPLOCKED!
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by CAPSLOCKED: 10:30pm On Feb 23, 2018
Olalan:
Your lover cheats on you without remorse and you still want advice on what to do?
I know its pretty hard to let go some one lives but for your own happiness you need to let her go and find love elsewhere

I WAS IN THAT CONDITION A FEW MONTHS BACK.

I FORGAVE, THINKING THINGS WILL GET BETTER, BUT THINGS GOT WORSE.

I JOINED HER IN BLAMING THE DISTANCE BETWEEN FOR BEING THE MAJOR CAUSE, BUT BABE'S OWN WAS DIFFERENT.

WAS CHANGING BOYS LIKE SHE DOES UNDIES, AND WOULD BLAME ME FOR FINDING OUT ABOUT HER SHIIT.

HAD TO LET IT GO WHEN I SAW BABE'S WASN'T REPENTING CUZ DIK SWITCHING IS HER WAY OF LIFE.. I LET IT GO.

I THOUGHT I WAS GONNA DIE FROM THE CHEST PAINS THAT YEAR cheesy
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 10:30pm On Feb 23, 2018
CAPSLOCKED:

I SEE WHY YOUR FATHER TRIED TO SELL YOU AS A CHILD, BUT FAILED BECAUSE NOBODY WANTED A LUNATIC CHILD LIKE YOU.
if you quote by this time tomorrow I will use you for ritual purpose

Thunder fire that your mouth into million of atom
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by MhizAJ(f): 10:31pm On Feb 23, 2018
You guys were cool all along until you trespassed...You violated her privacy and you expect her to apologise??

Reading someone else's messages without their permission is a major breach of trust

Please learn to respect people's privacy, it doesn't matter whether she's your wife/girlfriend

You need to apologise to her and address whatever issues you have head on

If i were in her shoes,i wouldn't feel any form of remorse too
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by CAPSLOCKED: 10:32pm On Feb 23, 2018
amani63:
if you quote by this time tomorrow I will use you for ritual purpose

Thunder fire that your mouth into million of atom

AMEN
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by CAPSLOCKED: 10:32pm On Feb 23, 2018
MhizAJ:
You guys were cool all along until you trespassed...You violated her privacy and you expect her to apologise??

Looking at someone else's messages without their permission is a major breach of trust

Please learn to respect people's privacy, it doesn't matter whether she's your wife/girlfriend

You need to apologise to her and address whatever issues you have head on

If i were in her shoes,i wouldn't feel any form of remorse too

NOBODY SHOULD LOOK ANY FURTHER FOR THE RING LEADER OF CHEATERS AND DISLOYAL PEOPLE, BECAUSE HERE SHE IS.
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Nobody: 10:35pm On Feb 23, 2018
CAPSLOCKED:

AMEN
You get sense bro

Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Innobee99(op): 10:40pm On Feb 23, 2018
CAPSLOCKED:

YOU'RE EVEN ASKING WHERE YOU WENT WRONG, MEANING YOU SUSPECT THAT YOU WENT WRONG SOMEWHERE.. BY ACTUALLY BUSTING HER SECRET.

SHE'S NOT APOLOGIZING CUZ SHE KNOWS YOU'RE A FOOL.

SHE'S ANGRY THAT YOU CHECKED HER MAIL CUZ SHE KNOWS YOU'RE SOFT AND WOULD APOLOGIZE TO HER IF YOU FIND OUT SHE CHEATS ON YOU.


YOU EVEN BOUGHT HER A PHONE LAST 2 WEEKS SO SHE COULD BE ABLE TO EXCHANGE MORE NUDE PICTURES WITH HER GUYS ON FACEBOOK ON WHATSAPP.

I'M SORRY FOR YOU.

YOU'RE BEING MANIPULATED BY WOMEN JUST LIKE THE REST MALE POPULATION.
YOU CATCH HER CHEATING BUT SHE MAKES IT YOUR FAULT FOR
1. LEADING HER TO CHEAT DUE TO YOUR FINANCIAL OR SEXUAL INCAPABILITY.
2. CATCHING HER IN THE PROCESS.

SHE BUYS YOUR PITY BY BLAMING YOU, AND INVOLVING TEARS AND EMOTIONS UNTIL YOU'RE CONVINCED YOU'RE THE BAD PERSON IN THE MIDST.



OGA YOU BETTER WAKE UP FROM YOUR SLUMBER BEFORE YOU GET A HEART ATTACK FROM LOVING A LOW LIFE GIRL WHO PROBABLY DOESN'T CARE ABOUT YOU OR ANYONE, EXCEPT FOR WHATEVER SHE STANDS TO GAIN AS A COMMON LOVE PEDDLER. undecided
I thought u were spewing trash until sounded a bit welcoming below
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by olac21(m): 10:42pm On Feb 23, 2018
You people go extra length to satisfy a woman at your own detriment because you're a man or what??I don't pity you and have no advice for you neither! Good night!
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Innobee99(op): 10:44pm On Feb 23, 2018
CAPSLOCKED:

I WAS IN THAT CONDITION A FEW MONTHS BACK.

I FORGAVE, THINKING THINGS WILL GET BETTER, BUT THINGS GOT WORSE.

I JOINED HER IN BLAMING THE DISTANCE BETWEEN FOR BEING THE MAJOR CAUSE, BUT BABE'S OWN WAS DIFFERENT.

WAS CHANGING BOYS LIKE SHE DOES UNDIES, AND WOULD BLAME ME FOR FINDING OUT ABOUT HER SHIIT.

HAD TO LET IT GO WHEN I SAW BABE'S WASN'T REPENTING CUZ DIK SWITCHING IS HER WAY OF LIFE.. I LET IT GO.

I THOUGHT I WAS GONNA DIE FROM THE CHEST PAINS THAT YEAR cheesy
God blessu Bro. Even some guys with worse cases will come here and be pretending to be oga boss.
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Innobee99(op): 10:46pm On Feb 23, 2018
MhizAJ:
You guys were cool all along until you trespassed...You violated her privacy and you expect her to apologise??

Reading someone else's messages without their permission is a major breach of trust

Please learn to respect people's privacy, it doesn't matter whether she's your wife/girlfriend

You need to apologise to her and address whatever issues you have head on

If i were in her shoes,i wouldn't feel any form of remorse too
Ure a serial cheat too.. Just listen to urself
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by Perfectnumber6(m): 10:52pm On Feb 23, 2018
MhizAJ:
You guys were cool all along until you trespassed...You violated her privacy and you expect her to apologise??

Reading someone else's messages without their permission is a major breach of trust

Please learn to respect people's privacy, it doesn't matter whether she's your wife/girlfriend

You need to apologise to her and address whatever issues you have head on

If i were in her shoes,i wouldn't feel any form of remorse too
. Ha na wa for Nigerian girls these days oo, a girl he's investing on cheated on him and you said because he violated her privacy the guy should apologize haba, so you mean the girl has the right to cheat right. Thumbs up to you. No wonder they keep saying that Nigerian girls are just for fun nothing more.
Re: Is Checking Your Partner's Inbox Right Or Wrong? by MhizAJ(f): 10:53pm On Feb 23, 2018
Innobee99:
Ure a serial cheat too.. Just listen to urself
Men like you are always too quick to conclude and secondly you guys are always right with bloated ego
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