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Our Ideology (don't Miss This) by Nobody: 12:53pm On Feb 27, 2018 |
A friend shared this with me on
whatsapp
African Kids.
When I was about nine years old,
one Saturday morning, my mom
travelled and my siblings weren't
around, it was only me and my Dad
that were at home.
I decided to do something great,
first to make my Dad happy and
second to make my mom ask who
did this when she returns.
I decided to mop the house. To
make the places clean. I took the
rubber bucket in the house while
my dad was in his room, put some
water and was carrying it to clean
the room. Suddenly the bucket
slipped from my hand and broke.
The bucket broke. I was sad. But I
felt bad more because I couldn't
fulfil my dream of making my Dad
say "you are a good boy", that
statement that always made me
high inside. I had to first clean the
spilled water and report my mistake
to my Dad.
So when my Dad came out and saw
the splashed water and broken
bucket, I was still explaining how I
wanted to mop the house and
then... He was getting a whip and
he flogged me.
I wept and more so bitterness filled
my heart. Oh this is a man I wanted
to make happy, did he really see I
was trying to be a good child, doing
a job without being asked? I went
to the back of the building and
cried bitterly. As I was crying, I
vowed that I will hate back, do evil
and even leave that house.
Revenge is what I wished.
Though little time cleansed the
resolution but the experience is still
here even after two decades.
Most of our African parents due to
poverty, transferred aggression and
impatience kill the genius in their
kids.
They flog out the problem solver in
their kids.
When the child would take one
week to figure out how to Make an
electric car with woods, how his
parents would be called the parents
of the one that invented a car...
Just as he is about starting the
construction, the mother would use
a whip and format his brain.
"is it the expensive firewood that I
bought that you are cutting, have
you washed all the plates in this
house it's now car you want to
build, car builder, do you know how
much firewood costs and do expect
me to cook the food you and your
brothers will eat with my hair?"
Each statement is sandwiched with
a slap.
Such kills thinking and morale. It
makes kid very bitter.
The African child has no support to
be adventurous.
The African kid's innovation is killed
when he's still trying to start.
The genius in him gets a stupid
mockery.
His actions are judged and not his
intentions.
Even if you have a mischievous
child, causing problems
everywhere, be careful with that
little child. Be careful enough to
separate when he is being unruly
and when he's being innovative.
Ask him questions, if he starts
crying before talking or if he keeps
quiet, give him confidence to talk.
When he takes scissors and cut
your clothes because the tailor in
him is shacking his head, the action
may leave you furious at first such
you can't remember his/her good
intentions, you can scold him but
the next day, make sure you go to
the market and get her pieces of
clothes to practice with. Tell her/
him to sew all he wants.
A dream suppressed in a child may
never rise again.
The African child do not have
access to the best of schools, he
doesn't have access to the best
enabling environment, he lacks the
best of teachers and resources. He
is naturally disadvantaged to be an
innovator, the last thing he needs is
for his mind to be shut from
exploring that equal advantage of
thoughtfulness.
Meanwhile my Dad is a great man,
just an African parents who can
make decision catalyzed by
poverty, many of our parents are
great, but we the younger
generation should be better. We
should let our kids evolve. |
Re: Our Ideology (don't Miss This) by Nobody: 1:03pm On Feb 27, 2018 |
Let's dialogue this, What's your ideas and opinion on this ? Moderators kindly move to front page. Gucciqueen38, Cadec007, SapphirePRINCEX, Parismoore, Collinometricx, Chii8, Amiable212, Wes50, Let's begin..... |
Re: Our Ideology (don't Miss This) by Nobody: 5:21pm On Feb 27, 2018 |
Wes50: You are right bro, dat why our own generation have to learn from their mistakes to bring out the best out of our kids. Thanks for contributing !!! 1 Like |
Re: Our Ideology (don't Miss This) by SapphirePRINCEX(f): 5:28pm On Feb 27, 2018 |
I grew up wanting to be Chinue Achebe. I enjoyed drawing and writing story books from my Primary school days till one day, my mom gathered all my work and my paintings and burnt them, said I must study Pharmacy... Now, Freelancing is what keeps food on my table. No matter how you try to suppress Destiny, it's always indelible. 2 Likes |
Re: Our Ideology (don't Miss This) by Nobody: 5:56pm On Feb 27, 2018 |
SapphirePRINCEX: Thanks for sharing your story, I hope this will make our parents and we the upcoming generation to adjust.... |
Re: Our Ideology (don't Miss This) by Nobody: 1:18am On Feb 28, 2018 |
some beatings are not appropriate but sometimes, its is needed. a child always tearing his school notes to make inanimate objects need a little flogging after d first correction |
Re: Our Ideology (don't Miss This) by Nobody: 9:20am On Feb 28, 2018 |
gloria34: You are right !!! We are in Africa where we flog our children when they do misbehave, but we should not forget their are still kids, not everything a child do deserve punishment, sometime we can sit them down and tell them the situation of things.......... This sometime is painful than flogging (Some can relate to this) Note: Am not against flogging of our children. Thanks for your contribution 1 Like |
Re: Our Ideology (don't Miss This) by Nobody: 1:24pm On Mar 27, 2018 |
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Re: Our Ideology (don't Miss This) by Plaitex(f): 1:47pm On Mar 27, 2018 |
I can totally relate to the op's story. How an initially intended good act of yours just to please your parents turns into a disaster. In the end, you just regret why you ever made an attempt in the first place. Our parents must understand that verbal abuse goes a long way in the upbringing of the child. Hopefully, we wont have to make the same mistakes our parents made. But I must sincerely appreciate the support i received from my mum. She always assisted and supported me in every crappy idea I had, even to the extent of walking through the length and breath of the market searching for raw materials. In the long run, it made me believe in myself and saw the need for self development. 1 Like |
Re: Our Ideology (don't Miss This) by Nobody: 3:15pm On Mar 27, 2018 |
Plaitex: ''Some parents and their ideology'' Whao, Your mom is awesome. 1 Like |
Re: Our Ideology (don't Miss This) by Nobody: 9:30pm On Apr 09, 2018 |
Our African parents should try to learn from their mistakes |
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