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PrimadonnaO:
Oh, no. Y'all are too quick to tag a girl a cheat. Yes, there's the possibility that she could be cheating, but she might as well not be.

The truth is that, no one likes to be pressured. You awaken a counterproductive element in them. Exchanging passwords was just totally unnecessary. It's immature. Trust a person if you would and don't go all out looking for incriminating evidence of unfaithfulness. She'll either try to play smart to cover up her tracks or just allow you do your worse.

Some conversations don't mean anything. They are not necessarily leads to unveiling a cheat, but because you're human and intimately connected to this person, you're bound to get jealous and set alarm bells in your own head when you read such.

Stop forcing her to stop talking with her ex except they are outrightly having unwholesome conversations (in which case all you need do is break-up). If they aren't doing anything out of place, she'd find it difficult to just stop talking to him or giving him the awakward attitude. On what basis? Because she has a boyfriend, she's not allowed to stay friends with people she deems fit?

I've been there before. This your attitude won't help the situation. You'll just keep getting frustrated. Just don't snoop.

tell them, being an ex doesn't makes one an enemy

Sometimes it could be that she is just trying to avoid future drama. Besides it's best to not check your partner phone in as much there us trust. If ladies in hijabs get approached, what matters is each partner respecting what they share

punisha:
Get used to it, you're just a shareholder. Don't get yourself worked up over nothing. She ain't yours. May the odds favour you as you meet more ladies.

PrimadonnaO:
Vaseline...is it harmattan?

LOL
EVERYDAY IS HARMATTAN IN THERE.

mespusinglez:
me and my girl were arguing which later leads to us exchanging facebook password..so last week i decide to check on her chats since she said she has nothing to hide.
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i later found out that she was still in touch with her ex...
i told her i don't like her chating with her ex which she said she will try to stop....the next day she delete the chats
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this week again i saw a chat of her and a guy begging the guy to come and visit her in her school...some minutes later the chat was deleted
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i didn't tell her about this one that i saw...but later this evening i found out that all her chat's have been cleared...
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guys i'm really confused...i think she is hiding something..
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i really need guide on how to go about it.

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There may be a good reason for that...maybe she doesn't want d op to know she is still frnds with her ex.

Next2Bezee:
If she's deleting chats she doesn't want him to see, then she has stuff to hide.

Ex'es are just that for a reason. If she doesn't love the OP enough to cut chat with her ex, then he should run now.

She may not want him to see it, but it doesn't have to mean it's something bad itself.

PrimadonnaO:
She may not want him to see it, but it doesn't have to mean it's something bad itself.

That's just it, it's cheating.

She doesn't have to get penetrated before it becomes cheating. The fact that she has something to hide and it relates to her EX, then she doesn't value the op or their relationship anymore.

He should run.

You think??Hmmm my guy you deserve to be mugurised.

Next2Bezee:
That's just it, it's cheating.

She doesn't have to get penetrated before it becomes cheating. The fact that she has something to hide and it relates to her EX, then she doesn't value the op or their relationship anymore.

He should run.

It's just all about privacy.

PrimadonnaO:
It's just all about privacy.

There's nothing private to be having with an EX. I don't believe that you will stand your man hiding stuff with his EX from you.

She doesn't want the real zaddy to see it.
Owk honestly she has told sum1 she likes dat she is single

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PrimadonnaO:
Oh, no. Y'all are too quick to tag a girl a cheat. Yes, there's the possibility that she could be cheating, but she might as well not be.

The truth is that, no one likes to be pressured. You awaken a counterproductive element in them. Exchanging passwords was just totally unnecessary. It's immature. Trust a person if you would and don't go all out looking for incriminating evidence of unfaithfulness. She'll either try to play smart to cover up her tracks or just allow you do your worse.

Some conversations don't mean anything. They are not necessarily leads to unveiling a cheat, but because you're human and intimately connected to this person, you're bound to get jealous and set alarm bells in your own head when you read such.

Stop forcing her to stop talking with her ex except they are outrightly having unwholesome conversations (in which case all you need do is break-up). If they aren't doing anything out of place, she'd find it difficult to just stop talking to him or giving him the awakward attitude. On what basis? Because she has a boyfriend, she's not allowed to stay friends with people she deems fit?

I've been there before. This your attitude won't help the situation. You'll just keep getting frustrated. Just don't snoop.

Fact is, we all have different experiences and the fact that you have been there before doesn't make your write up exactly accurate. From your write up, my own experiences are exactly the opposite of what you have put down.

I think we should try to give advices without necessarily assuming that we know all especially if the poster's case is similar to our previous experience(s).

Next2Bezee:
There's nothing private to be having with an EX. I don't believe that you will stand your man hiding stuff with his EX from you.

I don't want to be checking up on every random discussion my man is having with his ex. He doesn't have to be reporting to me. That's what trust is about. But if he sees her, I'd want to know what the meeting was about and I'd take whatever he says.

Let me give you an instance of harmless privacy. So, let's say I'm still in communication with my ex. Because we've got history together, there'll be times when some events from the past would be topics of discussion, fond memories perhaps. If my current boyfriend sees such, he might begin to feel unnecessarily insecure. Now, those conversations don't mean anything, but his feelings of insecurity may cause ruptures in our relationship.

I understand though, that people and situations differ. There are grounds when it is totally necesaary to discontinue communications with an ex. Every man to his kettle of fish.

mapist:
Fact is, we all have different experiences and the fact that you have been there before doesn't make your write up exactly accurate. From your write up, my own experiences are exactly the opposite of what you have put down.

I think we should try to give advices without necessarily assuming that we know all especially if the poster's case is similar to our previous experience(s).

Yes. True.

Why should you be checking her Facebook messages, why are you like this?

Anyways, you have seen what you are looking for.

lol..smart bae..

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PrimadonnaO:
I don't want to be checking up on every random discussion my man is having with his ex. He doesn't have to be reporting to me. That's what trust is about. But if he sees her, I'd want to know what the meeting was about and I'd take whatever he says.

Let me give you an instance of harmless privacy. So, let's say I'm still in communication with my ex. Because we've got history together, there'll be times when some events from the past would be topics of discussion, fond memories perhaps. If my current boyfriend sees such, he might begin to feel unnecessarily insecure. Now, those conversations don't mean anything, but his feelings of insecurity may cause ruptures in our relationship.

I understand though, that people and situations differ. There are grounds when it is totally necesaary to discontinue communications with an ex. Every man to his kettle of fish.

Well concluded.

I believe that priority should be given to the current partner & not an EX. If the partner is fine with it, then that's different

If any situation causes negative feelings e.g insecurity..to your partner, I'd expect that you'd avoid it (even if it means cutting communication with an EX) because you love him and wouldn't want him feeling that way.

Again i agree with your conclusion, different strokes for different folks.

Your girlfriend is the neighborhood hoe

Chikita66:
Why should you be checking her Facebook messages, why are you like this?


Anyways, you have seen what you are looking for.

Better he finds out now and run than to go further with a liar/cheater.

Next2Bezee:
Well concluded.

I believe that priority should be given to the current partner & not an EX. If the partner is fine with it, then that's different

f any situation causes negative feelings e.g insecurity..to your partner, I'd expect that you'd avoid it (even if it means cutting communication with an EX) because you love him and wouldn't want him feeling that way.

Again i agree with your conclusion, different strokes for different folks.

. True...@bolded

The current partner certainly should be the priority.

@seun, we need more emojis; like a thumb-up, for instance.

PrimadonnaO:
Yes. True.

I am very glad you agree with me. I wish i could share my experience with you; bae was being seriously manipulated until i took drastic measures and eventually broke the guy's stranglehold. I still regret letting her talk to him in the very first instance because some people deserve to be treated like animals.

mapist:
I am very glad you agree with me. I wish i could share my experience with you; bae was being seriously manipulated until i took drastic measures and eventually broke the guy's stranglehold. I still regret letting her talk to him in the very first instance because some people deserve to be treated like animals.

I understand manipulation and how it could be subtly done most times such that things might have gone out of hands before the victim realises.

PrimadonnaO:
I understand manipulation and how it could be subtly done most times such that things might have gone out of hands before the victim realises.

Yes o, you are very right. My gf did not realise she was hurting her relationship; i wish i could write out the naive statement she made out here. It was at that point i made up my mind that ALL forms of contact with this one time fling must be eradicated regardless of the cost. I am very glad my efforts paid off in the end.

The yahoo boy still snoops around my profile on IG because he accidentally liked an upload of mine about 2-3 weeks ago. Lol.

mapist:
Yes o, you are very right. My gf did not realise she was hurting her relationship; i wish i could write out the naive statement she made out here. It was at that point i made up my mind that ALL forms of contact with this one time fling must be eradicated regardless of the cost. I am very glad my efforts paid off in the end.

The yahoo boy still snoops around my profile on IG because he accidentally liked an upload of mine about 2-3 weeks ago. Lol.

Lol. Snooping and slipping.

PrimadonnaO:
Lol. Snooping and slipping.

Don't mind the guy; he even had the audacity to send one clueless VN to her with an unknown number and till this day, i am still proud of the response he got. That's what you get when you do not have the word "stop" in your dictionary.

mapist:
Don't mind the guy; he even had the audacity to send one clueless VN to her with an unknown number and till this day, i am still proud of the response he got. That's what you get when you do not have the word "stop" in your dictionary.

Lol. I can imagine.

The bitter truth is that you need to be a man and make your decision and let her be