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tenmariner:
I am a living example of a victim of TWO powerful heartbreaks..
First one; I was serving and she was in her penultimate year in d uni..The love was boiling in me like an active volcano.. In short, the love I had for her was more than the one expressed by Ramsey, Jim iyke, and mike ezeronye combined together. Along the line, her dad died and she wanted to drop out of sch. I had to take up d responsibility of EVERY of her schooling expenses.Also placed her on a monthly salary even while serving cos I was working in a ministry and in a private hospital at the same time..her rent expired and I rented a new apartment for her, furnished it in my own little way.. am a living example of a victim of TWO power
First one; I was serving and she was in her penultimate year in d uni..The love is boiling in me like an active volcano.. In short, the love I had for her was more than the one expressed by Ramsey, Jim iyke, and mike ezeronye combined together. Along the line, her dad died and she wanted to drop out of sch. I had to take up d responsibility of EVERY of her schooling, registered her in an event and decoration training school during her holiday..still, I never knew she was dating one guy and even invited him to the house I rented and he spent 3 days there. Everything was revealed to me wen I stumbled on her Facebook in box..her Fone got damaged so I collected it and gave her mine. It was until I repaired the Fone that everything got revealed.. How she got pregnant for the guy and arboted it. How she joked with the guy that I am her ATM card..I screenshot the info and sent it to her..she felt like dying.
I left the relationship without saying a word..Her brother begged me, her mum did the same..I didn't tell them what their daughter did
Last year, we got chatting again and I asked her abt the guy, she said he usually beat her, he borrowed all her savings, sold his uncle's office and use the proceed to travel to Libya thru Niger.. Currently she complained to me that her new boyfriend hardly show care to her..she is 28 now and her mum has started mounting pressure on her to get married..




Second lady was a year after I left the first one..
It took me time to start a relationship with her.. We were so close but I was scared of a relationship. It got to a point I asked her out and she after some time succumbed. After a month, I noticed she wasn't into the relationship so I backed off immediately.. Then she met me and pleaded for acting that way..I explained to her what I experienced and I donnot want a similar one..She promised and gave assurance..
After a year, she started acting cold. I was transferred to Abuja from LAGOS..I will take flight to go see her every weekend, give her up keep cash, got her into a computer training school, got her a laptop to quicken her learning, Sometimes, take night bus to lag..until her friend revealed to me she was already dating one guy in the company I helped her secure a job..I felt devastated.. She wasn't remorse.. I remember taking a bottle or jact Daniel weeping like a child all because I wanted to love and care..
I lost so many things in time and value during this period. Some I haven't been able to recover.
I wish dem well, but I have learnt a GREAT lesson in life.

Bros, Your story is heart touching especially that first girl you had to take up her responsibilities. I was hurting reading your story. Sorry for what they put your through bro...Stay strong and devise a new strategy to relationship.

Make your next girl a baby mama before you invest in her, computer training, money for upkeep or whatever. I noticed you too emotional vulnerable and always want to make your girl comfortable in life. You only treating them like a wife when they only a girlfriend and can opt out at any time.

Take heed bro, Impregnate the next girl you fall in love with before deeper commitment comes into play otherwise you would keep wasting resources and keep getting betrayed.

americanson:
thanks. One bastard derailed my thread, insulted me and when I retaliated, he called the mods to ban me.

Thanks. I already got the necessary information from nairalanders. The thread later hIt front page, which was what I wanted and loads of tips were fielded.

Young received my text but didn't reply. No need bugging him about it anymore. Just tell him 2sexy send his regards to him.

Young hasn't been available for 4 months. He isn't like that. Sorry dear.

SoapQueen:
Young hasn't been available for 4 months. He isn't like that. Sorry dear.

Is he okay health wise? He didn't sound so well the day I called him. His voice quaked and sounded husky. I do know about his other health issue and we even talked about mine and his in 2016 November. I have lots of respect for that dude... so much zest and inspiration!

TheUpsetGirl1:
God will never forgive you for this sin you're about to commit

wat sin hanty,,,hope I read my quote from the beginning,,,can't really wait,,wanna use it as her birthday surprise,come may 25

doctorkush:
how old are you? And is she the one on your dp?

ayam 22,,yes she's d one

americanson:
Is he okay health wise? He didn't sound so well the day I called him. His voice quaked and sounded husky. I do know about his other health issue and we even talked about mine and his in 2016 November. I have lots of respect for that dude... so much zest and inspiration!

He is now. You know Young can be eccentric, but very attentive. That dude was there for me when I was depressed years ago, he would call and just listen to me cry for minutes. The quaky voice Na front jare, Na flexing guy. Very good cook too.

I'd tell him about you when we see tomorrow.

The greatest heartbreak of the century is when someone you expect to utter wise words and act maturely speaks absent thought and behaves absent caution!

I guess I was lucky to have a beautiful and virtuous lady that truly loves me. But the sad part is that I watched and helped her walk down the aisle with another guy. That really broke my heart and I wish I had fought for her love when she begged me to.
Our parents knew we were dating tho her dad was a pastor, but he approved our relationship which lasted a whole 6years. She is a nurse and will always find time during routine or when busy to call me. When I wasn't paying her much attention anymore (I wasn't staying close but we see during her off days), she called to ask why I am distant from her.I lied that work takes most of my time But it was my side chick who won't let me be.
My babe broke up with me 2016 when she had enough proof I was seeing someone else (tho she suspected but she is a cool headed type that thinks before acting) and told me in quote " I don't share what I own" ...

I always wanted the best for her and I just wasn't ready for marriage then.

After our breakup, I was relocated to another state, but she still calls to check on me and will always tell me " when you are serious, you can come for me". But I love her so much I don't want to hurt her so I kept my distant knowing that if I still keep in touch, she might not date or get serious with someone else.

Not until late last year I went to see her in her dads house, her boyfriend (now husband) met me there. She acted cool and did a casual introduction but we both knew what's up (I really gave the guy a tough time as he started talks of his achievements and personal stuffs trying to intimidate me . naso I gist the guy another side of life wey he never see. That was how baba use style run comot leave me with bae) ...

When she came back, she just smiled and jokingly asked why I sent him aaway. I laughed it off and it was the best moment we have spent together in years. The feeling was heavenly and I just felt like proposing. She then asked when I plan on getting married, I replied her "if I want to, the lady is already taken. Then she said to me " if you truly want her, fight to have her back". And I replied " I love her but can't fight for her" ...

I wish I had done what she asked of me. She called to check on me few weeks to her weeding and I still promised to come home to see her. She only giggled and said " come home or it will be too late because you won't be able to see me again" I thought she was leaving the country.

But I was wrong. She is wrapped in another mans arm happily.

I get broken each time the image of her marriage flashes thru my mind but I'm happy I didn't hurt her feeling. I'm just sad I lost a true love. One I might not find again.

I actually am the cause of my own heart break, tho I did it for love ... Yea, I got the true love but I didn't return it.
I feel that emptiness in me whenever I am alone. I missed her voice tho

SoapQueen:
He is now. You know Young can be eccentric, but very attentive. That dude was there for me when I was depressed years ago, he would call and just listen to me cry for minutes. The quaky voice Na front jare, Na flexing guy. Very good cook too.

I'd tell him about you when we see tomorrow.

Oh great. I thought as much too. I hope to see him someday and give him a big brotherly hug. much respect. No dey cry again o. but how come your handle is very recent if you have known young for so long? Did you change moniker?

americanson:
Oh great. I thought as much too. I hope to see him someday and give him a big brotherly hug. much respect. No dey cry again o. but how come your handle is very recent if you have known young for so long? Did you change moniker?

I registered my first nairaland account, 1,January, 2011..

Tonalphs:
I pray for those struggling with love n how to break out. God will heal you. It's challenging when ur in love alone. Brandy in her music said "there's nothing worse than being in love alone".... Been ages I experienced this. First love n after that I've been reserved. Watching n all. Sometimes I lie to ppl that I'm in a relationship just to save my head yl sometimes I come clean. But I don't think I love anyone as much as I love my family, my bed n my job. Yes o. I believe it takes two to tango. Back out whenever ur the only one putting effort into the relationship. Get distracted n super busy. Sometimes I get vulnerable n crave for a partner. But most times I sleep on it. Sometimes I say "dear God just hold me tight ". Mehn it's not easy but it's better than trying to keep someone who doesn't wanna b kept.
I hope I made sense

You made super sense.

doctorkush:
I guess I was lucky to have a beautiful and virtuous lady that truly loves me. But the sad part is that I watched and helped her walk down the aisle with another guy. That really broke my heart and I wish I had fought for her love when she begged me to.
Our parents knew we were dating tho her dad was a pastor, but he approved our relationship which lasted a whole 6years. She is a nurse and will always find time during routine or when busy to call me. When I wasn't paying her much attention anymore (I wasn't staying close but we see during her off days), she called to ask why I am distant from her.I lied that work takes most of my time But it was my side chick who won't let me be.
My babe broke up with me 2016 when she had enough proof I was seeing someone else (tho she suspected but she is a cool headed type that thinks before acting) and told me in quote " I don't share what I own" ...

I always wanted the best for her and I just wasn't ready for marriage then.

After our breakup, I was relocated to another state, but she still calls to check on me and will always tell me " when you are serious, you can come for me". But I love her so much I don't want to hurt her so I kept my distant knowing that if I still keep in touch, she might not date or get serious with someone else.

Not until late last year I went to see her in her dads house, her boyfriend (now husband) met me there. She acted cool and did a casual introduction but we both knew what's up (I really gave the guy a tough time as he started talks of his achievements and personal stuffs trying to intimidate me . naso I gist the guy another side of life wey he never see. That was how baba use style run comot leave me with bae) ...

When she came back, she just smiled and jokingly asked why I sent him aaway. I laughed it off and it was the best moment we have spent together in years. The feeling was heavenly and I just felt like proposing. She then asked when I plan on getting married, I replied her "if I want to, the lady is already taken. Then she said to me " if you truly want her, fight to have her back". And I replied " I love her but can't fight for her" ...

I wish I had done what she asked of me. She called to check on me few weeks to her weeding and I still promised to come home to see her. She only giggled and said " come home or it will be too late because you won't be able to see me again" I thought she was leaving the country.

But I was wrong. She is wrapped in another mans arm happily.

I get broken each time the image of her marriage flashes thru my mind but I'm happy I didn't hurt her feeling. I'm just sad I lost a true love. One I might not find again.

I actually am the cause of my own heart break, tho I did it for love ... Yea, I got the true love but I didn't return it.
I feel that emptiness in me whenever I am alone. I missed her voice tho

Eyah! So the funny man also have a story to tell.

tenmariner:
I am a living example of a victim of TWO powerful heartbreaks..
First one; I was serving and she was in her penultimate year in d
I lost so many things in time and value during this period. Some I haven't been able to recover.
I wish dem well, but I have learnt a GREAT lesson in life.

Brotherly.... This your own strong o. You don make me dey fear 'Love' so..

xarm:
As a chairman of stingy guy association, i have not been able to involve in any relationship.

Boss. e be like we dey dis association together. Its better than heartbreaks sha...

SoapQueen:
I registered my first nairaland account, 1,January, 2011..

ahan... i talk am say there is no way u can be a new member here lol. cool to know.

tenmariner:
I am a living example of a victim of TWO powerful heartbreaks..
First one; I was serving and she was in her penultimate year in d uni..The love was boiling in me like an active volcano.. In short, the love I had for her was more than the one expressed by Ramsey, Jim iyke, and mike ezeronye combined together. Along the line, her dad died and she wanted to drop out of sch. I had to take up d responsibility of EVERY of her schooling expenses.Also placed her on a monthly salary even while serving cos I was working in a ministry and in a private hospital at the same time..her rent expired and I rented a new apartment for her, furnished it in my own little way.. am a living example of a victim of TWO power
First one; I was serving and she was in her penultimate year in d uni..The love is boiling in me like an active volcano.. In short, the love I had for her was more than the one expressed by Ramsey, Jim iyke, and mike ezeronye combined together. Along the line, her dad died and she wanted to drop out of sch. I had to take up d responsibility of EVERY of her schooling, registered her in an event and decoration training school during her holiday..still, I never knew she was dating one guy and even invited him to the house I rented and he spent 3 days there. Everything was revealed to me wen I stumbled on her Facebook in box..her Fone got damaged so I collected it and gave her mine. It was until I repaired the Fone that everything got revealed.. How she got pregnant for the guy and arboted it. How she joked with the guy that I am her ATM card..I screenshot the info and sent it to her..she felt like dying.
I left the relationship without saying a word..Her brother begged me, her mum did the same..I didn't tell them what their daughter did
Last year, we got chatting again and I asked her abt the guy, she said he usually beat her, he borrowed all her savings, sold his uncle's office and use the proceed to travel to Libya thru Niger.. Currently she complained to me that her new boyfriend hardly show care to her..she is 28 now and her mum has started mounting pressure on her to get married..




Second lady was a year after I left the first one..
It took me time to start a relationship with her.. We were so close but I was scared of a relationship. It got to a point I asked her out and she after some time succumbed. After a month, I noticed she wasn't into the relationship so I backed off immediately.. Then she met me and pleaded for acting that way..I explained to her what I experienced and I donnot want a similar one..She promised and gave assurance..
After a year, she started acting cold. I was transferred to Abuja from LAGOS..I will take flight to go see her every weekend, give her up keep cash, got her into a computer training school, got her a laptop to quicken her learning, Sometimes, take night bus to lag..until her friend revealed to me she was already dating one guy in the company I helped her secure a job..I felt devastated.. She wasn't remorse.. I remember taking a bottle or jact Daniel weeping like a child all because I wanted to love and care..
I lost so many things in time and value during this period. Some I haven't been able to recover.
I wish dem well, but I have learnt a GREAT lesson in life.

That is how they are wired... they hardly appreciate the good ones... HARDLY. All you have to do is love yourself more than these ladies. Give sparingly ONLY.


READ THIS: https://www.nairaland.com/396243/how-maintain-control-woman

Rangojack:
Eyah! So the funny man also have a story to tell.

We all have. But just don't dwell in your past...

ShyCypher:
You were 15 in Jss2?

What the?!

Nigga, I passed out of sec school @ 16 & no, I'm not indomie generation.

If you're not at least 40, then you must have been raised in the village cuz those are the only factors that can cause late education.

who ask u? I graduated from secondary school at 13, so what is the big deal?

chidichuddo:
who ask u? I graduated from secondary school at 13, so what is the big deal?

Meaning you were in JSS1 @ age 7. Just say you didn't finish secondary school my brother.

Concentrated lies might just drive me out of Nairaland for good.

Temzygold:
He didn't buy me Brazilian hair

u must be stupid.. Brazilian hair kor, Benin republic hair ni... Hoe-losho omo ale jati jati

simafem:
thats true motherfucker. I am currently in your shoes.

I don't have a heart to love, I donated my own blood for my gf mother and my life savings to safe her from sick bed but....... If I should continue, I will curse the daylight out of the biitch

AstroG:
AM SORRY TO SAY THIS
Women(except The Good Mothers out there) are the worse beings ever created by God.How will a Guy Devote his time, energy,resources and attention just to make you Happy but u in turn destroy the Guy's heart,emotions and feelings. No need to say my own side of the Story..These days I don't go into relationship, I go out with u on a date nite,I chop u,clean mouth.tomorrow u won't ever see me again..LOVE ISSA SCAM.Girls don't need to Be Loved Anymore...


THESE DAYS,I BUY PU**IES BECAUSE OF WHAT GIRLS HV DONE TO ME...
I BARELY GIVE A Bleep ABT ANYTHING CONCERNING THEM..
NEXT TIN,NA TO TURN LIKE 3IDIOTS INTO BABYMAMS...


Bleep LOVE,
Bleep RELATIONSHIP,
Bleep MARRIAGE..

. That's my niggar... Lol... Wicked boy

doctorkush:
How does it feel knowing someone is fuccking her now now...
Oh! She is even begging him to go faster

seriously u are mad....lol... Wicked somebody... Console a brother nah..lol

Divay22:
He has gotten over it abeg
Danty you'll find a better bae that will not lead you on alright.

Abegi... All you girls are the same, were in gbogbo yin

summerflame:
Abegi... All you girls are the same, were in gbogbo yin

All girls are the same right
Then it's only fair for me to say, all guys are scum including you.

SoapQueen:
Your story reminds me of a song, "Him and I".. Bittersweet romance. Smiles.

I love roll it by psquare

Divay22:
All girls are the same right
Then it's only fair for me to say, all guys are scum including you.

cos ladies like u taught me to be ... What else do u have to say ?

tenmariner:
I am a living example of a victim of TWO powerful heartbreaks..
First one; I was serving and she was in her penultimate year in d uni..The love was boiling in me like an active volcano.. In short, the love I had for her was more than the one expressed by Ramsey, Jim iyke, and mike ezeronye combined together. Along the line, her dad died and she wanted to drop out of sch. I had to take up d responsibility of EVERY of her schooling expenses.Also placed her on a monthly salary even while serving cos I was working in a ministry and in a private hospital at the same time..her rent expired and I rented a new apartment for her, furnished it in my own little way.. am a living example of a victim of TWO power
First one; I was serving and she was in her penultimate year in d uni..The love is boiling in me like an active volcano.. In short, the love I had for her was more than the one expressed by Ramsey, Jim iyke, and mike ezeronye combined together. Along the line, her dad died and she wanted to drop out of sch. I had to take up d responsibility of EVERY of her schooling, registered her in an event and decoration training school during her holiday..still, I never knew she was dating one guy and even invited him to the house I rented and he spent 3 days there. Everything was revealed to me wen I stumbled on her Facebook in box..her Fone got damaged so I collected it and gave her mine. It was until I repaired the Fone that everything got revealed.. How she got pregnant for the guy and arboted it. How she joked with the guy that I am her ATM card..I screenshot the info and sent it to her..she felt like dying.
I left the relationship without saying a word..Her brother begged me, her mum did the same..I didn't tell them what their daughter did
Last year, we got chatting again and I asked her abt the guy, she said he usually beat her, he borrowed all her savings, sold his uncle's office and use the proceed to travel to Libya thru Niger.. Currently she complained to me that her new boyfriend hardly show care to her..she is 28 now and her mum has started mounting pressure on her to get married..




Second lady was a year after I left the first one..
It took me time to start a relationship with her.. We were so close but I was scared of a relationship. It got to a point I asked her out and she after some time succumbed. After a month, I noticed she wasn't into the relationship so I backed off immediately.. Then she met me and pleaded for acting that way..I explained to her what I experienced and I donnot want a similar one..She promised and gave assurance..
After a year, she started acting cold. I was transferred to Abuja from LAGOS..I will take flight to go see her every weekend, give her up keep cash, got her into a computer training school, got her a laptop to quicken her learning, Sometimes, take night bus to lag..until her friend revealed to me she was already dating one guy in the company I helped her secure a job..I felt devastated.. She wasn't remorse.. I remember taking a bottle or jact Daniel weeping like a child all because I wanted to love and care..
I lost so many things in time and value during this period. Some I haven't been able to recover.
I wish dem well, but I have learnt a GREAT lesson in life.

Bleep!
I'm so sorry.

summerflame:
cos ladies like u taught me to be ... What else do u have to say ?

Lol
All my heartbreaks ain't that painful to me anymore, cause i just had to prepare myself for whatever may come..
But i can't generally say all guys would behave like my ex..
So as much as it hurts, what's not yours must go for what's yours to come..

Divay22:
Lol
All my heartbreaks ain't that painful to me anymore, cause i just had to prepare myself for whatever may come..
But i can't generally say all guys would behave like my ex..
So as much as it hurts, what's not yours must go for what's yours to come..

nice story, sorry, it was written by who?.... Bleep fake love... In fact, Bleep love

Adetola kemi, my beautiful full figure 8 ex - here is my prayer for you - u shall know no peace in any of your relationships, your mother will dwell at your misfortune cos she has always been supporting your evil and flirting ways saying it's because u are still young, sorrow will be your portion and u will never find a man who will love u and care for u like me in Ogun's name .... I know if I use God or Jesus, they can reconsider.....

summerflame:
nice story, sorry, it was written by who?.... Bleep fake love... In fact, Bleep love

Lol..
Take easy on yourself or you might get hurt again.