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Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by HerexG(m): 5:18am On May 01, 2018
As for me I'm of the opinion that "Sex before marriage" best suits our present age. I will use this short true life story to buttress my point. Please read this carefully and it should be a lesson to learn from, it's a true life story that happened to someone in my neighborhood just few months ago. The guy involved is a devoted church worker so he held strictly the church's "Sex after marriage"

It all started with "he's my brother in the Lord and she's my brother in the Lord". I got attracted to this my sister in the Lord Sis Funmibi, a devoted church worker as myself from the church but from another branch. So I thought to myself marrying a born again Sister from the church should be the best any man can ask for. After studying her character and her devotion to the church, I made my intention known to her. Sister Funmibi accepted my marriage proposal and fews days later we made our intentions known to our family and consequently the church. I was so excited that I have hit a jackpot for finding a lady like Sister Funmibi, as a church boy that I'm I must get married to her first before she can come into my house. So I kept fantasizing about our wedding night and her becoming my wife, so we further speed the marriage preparation up. I have always wanted to meet with my Fiancee's family church pastor for counseling but she will always stop me telling me that after all we are not getting there. To cut the story short, she chose a random church instead for our wedding. At this stage I have been blinded by her charms all I could think of is to bring her into my house.

Our wedding night wasn't as romantic as I thought it would be, we started making out kissing and carresing. I noticed each time I tried to press her left breast she she cry's out in pains saying " Please don't touch the left breast, you can touch the right one". I was like " waris happening here", she wouldn't even allow me to open the breast to see not to talk of sucking. We would have just sex without intimate pre-intimacy, I was thinking maybe it's because of her church background or that she's not yet used to me that's why she's behaving that way to me. She even finds it difficult to UnCloth or get dressed in my presence, I was like with time she should be able to change. Couple of months later Sis Funmibi my wife started falling sick, she will get better today but days later gets sick again. I will try to inquire from her Doctor what's exactly happening to my wife, he will mention one random common sickness. Until one day the doctor finally opened up to me that my wife has breast cancer. I was really devastated, I really felt cheated and deceived. She knew all these while that she has breast cancer and yet she kept it away from me. After battling to save her medically, spending the bulk of my resources to save her life, I finally lost her.

Now choose for yourself which is more ideal in our present world?

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by lalanice(f): 6:00am On May 01, 2018
Mtchwwwww..... So people should go committing fornication and adultery upandan because of lame excuse of stories like this abi? What about all the plenty and legit reasons why sex outside marriage is wrong undecided all the diseases, heart breaks and abortions angry

Allow devil dey use you dey lie to the ignorant you hear??

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Preshy561(f): 6:07am On May 01, 2018
lalanice:
Mtchwwwww..... So people should go committing funication and adultery upandan because of lame excuse of stories like this abi? What about all the plenty and legit reasons why sex outside marriage is wrong undecided all the diseases, heart breaks and abortions angry


They allow devil dey use you dey lie to the ignorant you hear??
haunty,are you innocent?

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Preshy561(f): 6:09am On May 01, 2018
to your tent,oh! Isreal.
I believe everyone has a choice to make in life,choice to sex life and so many others.

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by lalanice(f): 6:13am On May 01, 2018
Preshy561:

haunty,are you innocent?
Huncle why should I encourage what I don't practice

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 6:14am On May 01, 2018
Lol...

This is Hilarious. Her deceit has nothing to do with Sex before marriage.

I know couples go through a lot of tests, i dont know if they carry out tests relating to breast cancer.

Im sorry about your loss. Perhaps you should have prayed and asked God to reveal what your partner really is, before tieing the knot.

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 6:21am On May 01, 2018
Sex after marriage. Fornication issa SIN no matter how you put it.

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by ULSHERLAN(m): 6:37am On May 01, 2018
Whatever rocks your boat

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by HerexG(m): 9:40am On May 01, 2018
lalanice:
Mtchwwwww..... So people should go committing funication and adultery upandan because of lame excuse of stories like this abi? What about all the plenty and legit reasons why sex outside marriage is wrong undecided all the diseases, heart breaks and abortions angry

Allow devil dey use you dey lie to the ignorant you hear??

My Dear no Devil, we humans are the Devil's. Why would you want to spend your life with someone you are not sure if he or she is sexually OK. My Dear don't allow religion put you in a deep mess you can never correct in life.

https://wrealms.com/

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by HerexG(m): 9:42am On May 01, 2018
chivera018:
Sex after marriage. Fornication issa SIN no matter how you put it.

Be saying Sin there until you experience something like this

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 9:51am On May 01, 2018
Trash story

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 10:11am On May 01, 2018
HerexG:


Be saying Sin there until you experience something like this
if you are into fornication does not mean you should force it down my throat. Sex before marriage is called fornication whether you like it or not, it is a sin.

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 10:36am On May 01, 2018
lalanice:
Mtchwwwww..... So people should go committing funication and adultery upandan because of lame excuse of stories like this abi? What about all the plenty and legit reasons why sex outside marriage is wrong undecided all the diseases, heart breaks and abortions angry

Allow devil dey use you dey lie to the ignorant you hear??

Whether you have sex before or after marriage it doesn't change anything.

Some married people still abort, what can you say about that?

What if they divorce tomorrow, isn't that heartbreak? Will the girl undo the sex they had?

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by lalanice(f): 10:37am On May 01, 2018
HerexG:


My Dear no Devil, we humans are the Devil's. Why would you want to spend your life with someone you are not sure if he or she is sexually OK. My Dear don't allow religion put you in a deep mess you can never correct in life.
cheesy cheesy cheesy OK o, so all the "sexually compactable" couple wen done marry shouldn't ever have issues talkless of divorcing na, and our grand parents who didn't test compatibility should never have stayed in such marriages too.

Like I said, dey allow devil dey decieve you oo.

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by lalanice(f): 10:41am On May 01, 2018
ladiesreject:


Whether you have sex before or after marriage it doesn't change anything.

Some married people still abort, what can you say about that?

What if they divorce tomorrow, isn't that heartbreak? Will the girl undo the sex they had?

it does.

They never respected marriage so abortion is nothing to them.

grin cheesy its not about undoing sex

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 10:41am On May 01, 2018
Maychang:
Lol...

This is Hilarious. Her deceit has nothing to do with Sex before marriage.

I know couples go through a lot of tests, i dont know if they carry out tests relating to breast cancer.

Im sorry about your loss. Perhaps you should have prayed and asked God to reveal what your partner really is, before tieing the knot.

Each time I see comments about prayer for God to reveal your to-be life partner, the first thing that comes to my mind is Adam and Eve.


God created Eve for Adam, how did it end?

And Adam said unto Him " The woman you gave me tricked me into eating the fruit"

Church people are some of the worse people to even get married to.

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by TheUpsetGirl1(m): 10:44am On May 01, 2018
lalanice:
Mtchwwwww..... So people should go committing funication and adultery upandan because of lame excuse of stories like this abi? What about all the plenty and legit reasons why sex outside marriage is wrong undecided all the diseases, heart breaks and abortions angry

Allow devil dey use you dey lie to the ignorant you hear??


don't allow religion cloud your sense of reasoning..
I don't know if there are men that still wait till marriage before having sex... even if they wait, they only wait till traditional marriage not wedding crap.

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 10:51am On May 01, 2018
lalanice:
it does.

They never respected marriage so abortion is nothing to them.

grin cheesy its not about undoing sex

It's about what?

Reciting the bible?

Go through your bible, the Abrahams, the Isaacs, the Jacobs, the Davids, et'al.

All these hogwash of sex before marriage didn't stop them from fulfilling their purpose.

Am not in support of immorality, but sex is just a personal decision, it has nothing to do with religion.

Am chaste myself, but it has nothing to do with what the bible says or didn't say.

Sex is trash, too overrated!

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 11:06am On May 01, 2018
ladiesreject:


Each time I see comments about prayer for God to reveal your to-be life partner, the first thing that comes to my mind is Adam and Eve.


God created Eve for Adam, how did it end?

And Adam said unto Him " The woman you gave me tricked me into eating the fruit"

Church people are some of the worse people to even get married to.


Mr.

The fact that people go to church does not make them Christians.
If one claims to be born again, why not seek God's face and commit all your doings to him and ask for directions.

Did you not claim that he is your father? God does not make mistakes. The brother was carried away and thats it.

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 11:23am On May 01, 2018
Maychang:



Mr.

The fact that people go to church does not make them Christians.
If one claims to be born again, why not seek God's face and commit all your doings to him and ask for directions.

Did you not claim that he is your father? God does not make mistakes. The brother was carried away and thats it.


Miss (or Mrs), which ever one.

Marriage and issue of life partner has nothing to do with church or God picking him/her for you.

Know what you want and go for it.
Someone like me cannot marry from Kogi State, Never!

If the girl like make she be virgin Mary.

My point is, keep religion aside.
Know the characteristics you want to see in your ideal husband, like age bracket, his height, his educational background, his financial status, his state of origin et'al.

The one that fits the bill and you're happy with is your husband.

All those God revealed to me that he's my husband or my prophet said this or that na WASH

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 11:33am On May 01, 2018
ladiesreject:


Miss (or Mrs), which ever one.

Marriage and issue of life partner has nothing to do with church or God picking him/her for you.

Know what you want and go for it.
Someone like me cannot marry from Kogi State, Never!

If the girl like make she be virgin Mary.

My point is, keep religion aside.
Know the characteristics you want to see in your ideal husband, like age bracket, his height, his educational background, his financial status, his state of origin et'al.

The one that fits the bill and you're happy with is your husband.

All those God revealed to me that he's my husband or my prophet said this or that na WASH


You never sabi anything... just go sidon

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 11:44am On May 01, 2018
Maychang:


You never sabi anything... just go sidon
You think so?
By the way, are you Miss or Mrs?

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by lalanice(f): 11:47am On May 01, 2018
ladiesreject:


It's about what?

Reciting the bible?

Go through your bible, the Abrahams, the Isaacs, the Jacobs, the Davids, et'al.

All these hogwash of sex before marriage didn't stop them from fulfilling their purpose.

Am not in support of immorality, but sex is just a personal decision, it has nothing to do with religion.

Am chaste myself, but it has nothing to do with what the bible says or didn't say.

Sex is trash, too overrated!
you are just disturbed, by what - i dont know. The reasons I gave clearly did not include religion. When you make "personal decisions" you shouldn't careless what and who gets affected.

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 11:49am On May 01, 2018
ladiesreject:


You think so?

By the way, are you Miss or Mrs?
Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 11:51am On May 01, 2018
Maychang:

I suppose the "f" icon is beside my moniker
I de ask you whether you don marry now

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 11:57am On May 01, 2018
lalanice:
you are just disturbed, by what - i dont know. The reasons I gave clearly did not include religion. When you make "personal decisions" you shouldn't careless what and who gets affected.


Yeah, it didn't include religion.

But as a 9ja lady that you are, you must be religious to even be against sex before marriage.

The day I'll see one bad girl that believes in sex only after marriage, that girl will be my friend by force.

When I say bad I mean a girl that SLAYS

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 12:08pm On May 01, 2018
ladiesreject:


I de ask you whether you don marry now

Miss...
Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 12:14pm On May 01, 2018
Maychang:

Miss...
Alright cool
Location?
Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 12:47pm On May 01, 2018
ladiesreject:


Alright cool

Location?


We not doing this on this thread are we?

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Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by HerexG(m): 1:24pm On May 01, 2018
lalasticlala come help push this to the permanent sight, I think one should learn from this mistake.
Re: Sex Before Marriage Or Sex After Marriage? by Nobody: 2:41pm On May 01, 2018
grin

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