₦airaland Forum

Arondizuogu:
Why won't she have equal rights with the husband? Is she not a human being? Didn't she come out of her mother's vagina? Na mouth dem take vomit am?
The problem is you lots don't understand the meaning of feminism. Men and women are born equal unto God and man. Women might not be physically stronger than men per say, but believe me they are all round stronger than men.

Ok

Irresponsible society is d cause

Pavore9:
What is your personal definition of feminism?

A man who fathers a child and disappears from the scene because of fear of playing the role of a father to his offspring, what can you attribute that to?

fact....

Good morning boss, I need your info about something. please check your mail

Materialism.

BleSSedMee:
'cos some male folks toed the 'I'm not responsible' line.

...and the ladies in some cases does the right thing by keeping the innocent baby.

Blame the men as usual. Isn't the lady also responsible for what ever happens to her in life? What happened to safe sex? U ve no business having unprotected sex when u not married, that's hw I see it.

Women keep looking for an eldorado that does not exist anywhere .You marry a man you know fully well is a civil servant but yet you want to live like you are married to a pilot.Majority of women these days automatically become lazy once they are married even the ones that were hardworking before I don't know why very common with Nigerian women also family interference is another thing you force the man into doing an elaborate wedding he obliges after the wedding the woman's family will not still leave them in peace they keep coming around all the time .

Yhemit:
fact....

Good morning boss, I need your info about something. please check your mail

Will do that.

edoman2016:
No man will abandon a good and loving wife to become a single mother. Most single mothers are feminist. They are arrogant, rude and unsubmissive to their husbands. They are full of troubles in marriages.

Even Bible supports a man to run away from a troublesome wife and sleep peacefully on a tree.

No man?

felaismyhero:
yeah! good night ma,read this later then.very important: how about sensible,humble and,patriotic nigerians searching eachother out,noting eachother,strengthening eachother,encouraging eachother,sharing knowledge with eachother,maybe even helping eachother in any way(wit time and trust sha).together,we are empowered,able to show people the way.dont u think that can work wonders?(i observed dis things in religions-its wat makes them strong)

True but there is this belief that it is every man for himself and some people may see it as a competition with others hence the inability for some people to exhibit some of the things you highlighted.That would be a nice world.Good morning.

Provabz:
Please I've this thing that have been bothering me and I'll like the house to help me with some reasonable answers..
'Why do we have a lot of single mothers in our current society '?
Mods Abeg push to front page for better answers thanks

1. Most women marry without consent.
2. Some do not wish to be married, women liberation things in their mind, if they can't handle a man they will give birth to a son which they will command.
3. Failed mothers who can't keep their homes due to peer pressure they end up single and hunting.
4. Mango has gone, they are yet to discover mango park
5. Inability to secure a man for marriage so at old age they decide to get knocked and have an evidence of being on earth before woman o pause strikes.

6. This one would hurt high,high self esteem so all men are below standard, despite this her gate man has even rejected her advances

Pavore9:
What is your personal definition of feminism?

A man who fathers a child and disappears from the scene because of fear of playing the role of a father to his offspring, what can you attribute that to?

No a man who has decided the trauma Queen must not ruin him, and has decided to leave the marriage than die of heart problems

Some women/men are just so troublesome, tolerance is lost and it is what most marriage lack in this generation, most women are too expose to the wrong doings and at any misunderstanding they just want to divorce and get back slaying, as for the men, most men are too carried away with lifestyles of clubbing, drinking which distracts them from responsibilities of the family, family and third party interferance ; stop bringing families or friends into your secrets, stop sharing Ur daily lifestyles with them. Above all let tolerance and understanding take a good position in marriages

Mouthgag:
Because people like Manu1 's mother and sisters won't stop doing olosho work.

Lol

Provabz:
Please I've this thing that have been bothering me and I'll like the house to help me with some reasonable answers..
'Why do we have a lot of single mothers in our current society '?
Mods Abeg push to front page for better answers thanks

Over here in Uganda, u must atleast give birth to one child before u even think about marriage. It's their culture here. So Nigeria is still learning

Since women discovered that children are not given to the father but to the mother by the courts they have since upgraded their wayward behaviours towards the men thereby leading to serious divorce and the man just have to move on with his life when the woman uses the child or children to shakara for the man. In the days of our fore fathers because the child must stay with the father most women tend to behave but now that the reverse is the case the women are way too wayward.
Since the courts given women that right of a child to the mother it is now a case of who needs the ma. Other than to be paying bills after the divorce and she is now free to Bleep up and down with reckless abandone

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Naturally when I see a Girl/ Lady

With d feminism trait.. I just Lauff


My 1kb advise
If u have any of dt in you try as mush as possible to cut it down to Minimal, at d long run

It does no good!

godofuck231:
No a man who has decided the trauma Queen must not ruin him, and has decided to leave the marriage than die of heart problems

I have no issues with a man leaving a marriage that is threatening his sanity BUT should NEVER discontinue supporting his children, emotionally and financially irrespective of the woman's tantrums.

The truth is that some places in Nigeria doesn't see pregnancy outside marriage a thing of shame...especially in Lagos...the concept of a bastard child is allien and also co habitation is high ..I talk from my experience staying in Lagos...they don't see having child outside wedlock as a bad thing...maybe it's cultural

In Kano or Sokoto....they frown at it ! So it's cultural....in Igboland ...such child is disinherited so most girls wouldn't give birth to bastards knowing their fate


In some places of Niger Delta like Warri, itshekiri environs ..there is no big deal having an illegitimate child or bastard at home ...they don't see it as such

So it's cultural and it varies from region to region

The blame should go to both parties.

For men, some are only interested in sex, pretend as if they are in love. Once mission accomplished, they abort. Economic factor is also another reason making some guys run from financial committment.

For ladies, attitude is the main issue which centres on submissiveness and contentment. It's becoming rare to see a lady possess the mentioned traits as most due to societal prejudice hide under the wings of feminism to spite men.

If the word " they are feminists" is what irked you, probably we can lean towards a less potent situation by saying the single mums have feminist tendencies...Right?quote author=Ladyhippolyta88 post=67261742]Let us hear word are the men themselves ready to love their wives.Why the blame game so men do not contribute to the divorce rate abi? because na only women marry And it is only women that make a marriage work or is it only feminist that divorce?Coming with baseless statistics that majority of our single mothers are feminist.[/quote]

US case is somehow bro, from my own view, na too much comfort they worry them.

Laee:
Even right here in the States theres alot of Single women and has got 2 or more kids.


1. Both the baby father and mama doesnt want to live a responsible life and most women especially doesnt want to feel controlled by any man.

Bae, I hv been following your comments on issues here on NI and you hv the penchant of hitting your fellow ladies below the belt when it comes to societal values. Even your comment in response to lady who tried to excused a muderous lawyer and wife was apt and upper cut. I hope they won't call for your head with the guillotine sword

chillychill:
You just said my mind... U'll see dem arguing with you now cos dey it's d true. Y would a female think she has equal rights with her husband

Fuckyoumod:
if your a lady, please sis, having a rethink might just be healthy for you. Only a foolish man would be in a marriage where his wife does not listen to him (submission).

Except you have made up your mind to be a single mum.

There is nothing in my response that says women should not submit. Men should not expect a woman that will not ask questions especially if she is not treated right all in the name of submission.

Single motherhood exists basically for these 3 PROFOUND REASONS: (1) DEATH of the husband (2) DIVORCE/SEPARATION and (3) SEX between unmarried persons. No matter all we can argue to justify the last point with "make-shift" societal issues/phenomenums deep down inside us we will come back to this point

Shugavee:
gone are the days women go after dickks alone we r after money, wealth then a dikkk!!

Its happiness to them,

Thank you.

You still agree with me.

Sources of wealth today are terrible because of this trend.

Men go to kidnap, assassinate to make money to impress their women.

Sister, it's terrible.

I have to empower and encourage my wife to PhD level.

Now as a doctor of pharmacology(in pharmacy) and a lecturer, she has less to worry about the future.

Ladies should date more mature men who are ready to settle down instead of looking for young blood who are out to sample them, and who will not take responsibility.

Pavore9:
I have no issues with a man leaving a marriage that is threatening his sanity BUT should NEVER discontinue supporting his children, emotionally and financially irrespective of the woman's tantrums.

true sha, but some women make it so bad that the children are the casualties

edoman2016:
No man will abandon a good and loving wife to become a single mother. Most single mothers are feminist. They are arrogant, rude and unsubmissive to their husbands. They are full of troubles in marriages.

Even Bible supports a man to run away from a troublesome wife and sleep peacefully on a tree.

You forgot to mention the countless irresponsible men.

You can imagine a man abandoning his pregnant wife and cruising around town with ladies and lodging in hotels even with her money sometimes.

The lady blames herself everyday for not seeing the guy for what he truly was.

Even the guy's friends are ashamed for their friend and keep appealing to her.

Infact nobody is against her leaving because she has dealt with his excesses and nobody not even his mum can talk to him.

So please,it is not always about feminism or arrogance. Some men behave like they are the I am that I am.

You think money makes a family complete, it's far more than that, what time will you have to impart good morals on your wards? Raising a family is not something you do because you are getting old, it should be something you do when you are mentally ready and believe you should start a family.

Hanseel1:
take responsibility as in??
if the guys are providing foodstuffs and other necessities for the kids must they get married to the ladies??

or when did marrying a lady becomes a man's responsibility?

as long as he's providing for the kid then he's fulfilling his responsibility!!

The main question here should be "y will u sleep with someone u have no intention to be with in a long term.