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Hi all,

I had a baby with my ex boyfriend. We were dating for 3 years and talking taking it to the next level when I got pregnant. He wanted me to get an abortion, I refused so he bailed on me.

I had no sign from him whatsoever for 18 months. I had to take him to court before he made a U turn and decided to be part of the baby’s life. It’s been almost a year and he is an OK dad. Since his “comeback”, he has been very insistent on getting back together. I still have feelings for him and would like my baby to have a typical family but I can’t get over the betrayal.

Lately, my mum has been staying with us to help me with my child. Since her arrival, he refuses to come home visit his daughter and will only call me on work hours when I’m not home.

My mum has always been very nice and welcoming to him. They never had any issues and even when he abandoned me pregnant, she never called him, tried to make a scene or reached out to any of his family members.

Now I see his behavior as another sign of the fact that he only wants casual “drives by” with his baby mama. He says he will “eventually” meet her but doesn’t feel ready to face her.

Am I overthinking this ?Should I give this a try ?

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Everyone wants a free pass with their babymama. Don't make the same mistakes twice, in fact, don't let him get a sniff of your panties else, you will be on a very long thing.

Please over think, over analyse sef. He hasn't met your mom? Imagine....infact just focus on your baby and forget love for now

could be he doesn't want any further commitment than he has committed already. so he tries to stay away from ur immediate family. again, it could also be that he doesn't feel comfortably with your mum around. i believe most men do not feel comfortable around their mother-inlaws.

Gcpc:
Hi all,

I had a baby with my ex boyfriend. We were dating for 3 years and talking taking it to the next level when I got pregnant. He wanted me to get an abortion, I refused so he bailed on me.

I had no sign from him whatsoever for 18 months. I had to take him to court before he made a U turn and decided to be part of the baby’s life. It’s been almost a year and he is an OK dad. Since his “comeback”, he has been very insistent on getting back together. I still have feelings for him and would like my baby to have a typical family but I can’t get over the betrayal.

Lately, my mum has been staying with us to help me with my child. Since her arrival, he refuses to come home visit his daughter and will only call me on work hours when I’m not home.

My mum has always been very nice and welcoming to him. They never had any issues and even when he abandoned me pregnant, she never called him, tried to make a scene or reached out to any of his family members.

Now I see his behavior as another sign of the fact that he only wants casual “drives by” with his baby mama. He says he will “eventually” meet her but doesn’t feel ready to face her.

Am I overthinking this ?Should I give this a try ?

Stop sleeping with him if you still are, don't take in again. He is either trying to be evasive because he abandoned you earlier or he is a coward who doesn't love you enough to wife you.