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UjuJoan2:
Men need to understand that women are not built to withstand financial stress . . . that is a fact!

Anyday I ask my husband for money and he complains of lack, the love I have for him drops some KGs . . . fact! If he surprises me with an alert, the love gains weight automatically. Needless to say, they balance each other out . . .

The same way we irritate you if we get fat and smelly after childbirth, is the same way a financially stable man, turned broke irritates his spouse.

our people say " . . . mma nwanyi bu agwa, mana mma nwoke bu ego" (a woman's beauty is in her character but a man's is his wealth)

She made a mistake, she's only human. It's a very selfish and self-centered act, but a mistake nonetheless.

An unrepentant cheat would never confess to you and even straff you on top, after rounds with the guy in the office, just so you won't get suspicious.

You married a good woman, find a way to forgive her and move on!!!

PS: Nobody should quote me biko, I'm a gold-digger, I accept!

someone like you would definitely cheats on your husband in time of financial distress, but I pray that God will sustain his financial status

Some women will just be complicating their lives for nothing.... smh

I don’t get why you guys are saying she is a good woman. She cheated on him for goodness sake! That is one of the biggest betrayal in relationship. I also believe she slept with the man. She did not tell him bc she was a good woman and wife, she told him bc the guilt was eating her alive, that was why she couldn’t sleep with him and was forced to tell him half the truth. Even if she only kissed him, she still cheated, that is a very hard pill to swallow especially on the husband’s ego. So I fail to see where she is a good woman.

She is not a good woman, bc of small financial difficulty, she went and fancied a man with more money. OP, this is totally your call, if you can forgive and truly let it go, then go ahead and work on the marriage. If not, then it is perfectly understandable.

I will advise you to tell her to go look for work in another organization, bc she might be tempted by this man again. Also, it will affect you trusting her again, if she continues to work in the same office with the said man.

walex2:
someone like you would definitely cheats on your husband in time of financial distress, but I pray that God will sustain his financial status

Not every man experience brokenness in their lifetime. The key is finding that man less likely to.

UjuJoan2:
Not every man experience brokenness in their lifetime. The key is finding that man less likely to.

You don return from the soak-away abi? I hear you dey find dirty news about me?

ForcefullBULL:
My wife and I sex life is almost dead as rejects my sex advances most times.

2 days ago i tried to have sex with her she refused again

So i insisted to know why she's rejecting my sexual she did not say anything different other than she's not in the mood. So I slept back.

Around 3am My wife woke me up and started to tell me what is really happening. she told me she stopped finding me attractive at a point and she founds it didfficult to have sex with me due to this
This was after we had some financial issues.
That she fell in love with a "financially stable" colleague at work and has kissed him a few times.
After a while she realised what she did was wrong and she ended the affair.
She however claimed she did not have sex with him.

*Edited*

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Pls no front page.

Could it be because of your username Mr. OP? This one that you are bearing "Forcefulbull", definitely must bear some resemblance to your previous sex-life with your partner.

Forget the pathetic excuse of you don't have money before.....enhance your bed-skills. No woman dares to ignore or reject an excellent performer in bed!

ForcefullBULL:
My wife and I sex life is almost dead as rejects my sex advances most times.

2 days ago i tried to have sex with her she refused again

So i insisted to know why she's rejecting my sexual she did not say anything different other than she's not in the mood. So I slept back.

Around 3am My wife woke me up and started to tell me what is really happening. she told me she stopped finding me attractive at a point and she founds it didfficult to have sex with me due to this
This was after we had some financial issues.
That she fell in love with a "financially stable" colleague at work and has kissed him a few times.
After a while she realised what she did was wrong and she ended the affair.
She however claimed she did not have sex with him.

*Edited*

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Pls no front page.

So your wife slept with her colleague and told you she "only kissed him"

By now they have an agreement on what to feed you should you ask any of them while they continue there coded affair.

Story for the re.tarded so all the while she was lovey dovey with said colleague she did not know she was married. Abi she is not mature enough to control her relation with another male until it progressed to s.ex kissing?

Let me tell you now. Your wife knows what she is doing. Just be careful so you don't raise another man's child as your own

Good day

I feel like calling the guy to congratulate him for successfully breaking a home.

ogunholla:
I don't think he will live long enough to see the "alot of tears" if he should try what you typed up there.


As for the OP, try and forget. it won't be easy but with time it will go. Then please verify all sort of suspicions too before taking any action.

Try and forget? Are you serious? Who forgets a thing like this?

ForcefullBULL:
I have a feeling she has slept with him already

Yes she has!

That's why she feels guilty sleeping with you

blaise26abj:
Lol. You are a clown . Funny woman . your husband didn't "davido" you , so u no find him attractive, yet you born 3 for him. How e take do am?

I disagree with the premise that it is very easy to kiss someone other than your husband when you have morals and value. For a regular joe and Jane with no moral compass, maybe. Kisses just don't happen. They are 100 percent premeditated ....you think about it, fantasize about it then put yourself in the right environment and situation to get it. Shikena

Thank you. It did not just happen!

She has been at it for a while now she is at the stage of manipulating the husband. This woman is no learner

ForcefullBULL:
I feel like calling the guy to congratulate him for successfully breaking a home.

call him, and tell ur woman that you wants to do DNA test for ur children(but bear it in mind that u just pulling her legs) you will see how she will cry her eyes out. and don't ever ask for sex from her again.

op you are an old fool for even bringing this topic here when her stuffs should have reached her father's house or the streets wherever. weak men everywhere. you and your wife can die for all I care. damn I hate dumb people.

ForcefullBULL:
It's difficult to forget.
Since she told me I have lost my respect for her. It's difficult to love a woman you have no respect for.
You know you have a husband yet you developed feelings for another man. While they were kissing definitely she would get wet. What if the guy just spiked her drinks and Bleep her?

This is a woman I love so much falling cheaply for a Bleep boy.
Maybe she hid his gifts. He didn't buy her anything not to talk of range rover.

Baba this is something you will never forget let's bet!

I hate when married couples cheat (man/woman) if you're not feeling the marriage anymore. Please save your partner the emotional trauma and move on!

You must be very brave sharing your story here.

ForcefullBULL:
I feel like calling the guy to congratulate him for successfully breaking a home.

If you like call him you are just wasting your airtime.

That man owes you nothing as his colleague's husband do you hear me, HE OWES YOU NOTHING

Your wife is the one who embarrassed you by sleeping with him. She presented herself as a cheap, easy-to-get lady who has no regards for her husband. You do not want to know what they must have discussed about you

After my first reply to you thread I did not want to comment further but I'd rather share my opinion now or never.

Pataki:
You don return from the soak-away abi? I hear you dey find dirty news about me?

Ooooohhhh my sweetheart . . . I missed you soooo much

You get gist for me?

johnkey:
op you are an old fool for even bringing this topic here when her stuffs should have reached her father's house or the streets wherever. weak men everywhere. you and your wife can die for all I care. damn I hate dumb people.

Thanks for the insults. Bringing it here has helped me confirmed my fears. I found it hard to believe her she didn't sleep with him. Guys here helped me confirmed this. So in not an old fool. Her days are numbered in my house.

Thanks everybody.

greyham:
Baba this is something you will never forget let's bet!

I hate when married couples cheat (man/woman) if you're not feeling the marriage anymore. Please save your partner the emotional trauma and move on!

You must be very brave sharing your story here.

It a marriage not a relationship, so they can't just part ways, they are tie down by their vows. All we need is God direction, hard times will pass and she will face the punishment God knows best

UjuJoan2:
Honestly I don't trust myself not to do ooh . . I'm only human you know

Besides I know that all that glitters is not gold, but nobody came to this world to suffer . . . and I'm ready to face the consequences of my actions. Besides oga knows he has failed in that aspect. Shebi my mates are driving Range ni? Why should my own be different!

Please ooh, I'm not saying it's right to cheat when your husband goes broke. But you people should try and understand us nah.

Some men will be broke and still be making mouth. What gave you the right to talk? If you are broke be humble, and don't annoy us too much.

LMAO! When u thought u ve seen the worst of HOES! Heartbreak awaits your husband.

Ezkid:
LMAO! When u thought u ve seen the worst of HOES! Heartbreak awaits your husband.

Na today?

Your life must be really boring and miserable for you to come on NL to make outrageous comments that you know deep down you will never dare do in your life, all in name of getting attention.

Na wa for you o

UjuJoan2:
Honestly I don't trust myself not to do ooh . . I'm only human you know

Besides I know that all that glitters is not gold, but nobody came to this world to suffer . . . and I'm ready to face the consequences of my actions. Besides oga knows he has failed in that aspect. Shebi my mates are driving Range ni? Why should my own be different!

Please ooh, I'm not saying it's right to cheat when your husband goes broke. But you people should try and understand us nah.

Some men will be broke and still be making mouth. What gave you the right to talk? If you are broke be humble, and don't annoy us too much.

OmoAlata1:
Your life must be really boring and miserable for you to come on NL to make outrageous comments that you know deep down you will never dare do in your life, all in name of getting attention.

Na wa for you o

And you know me so well to know I'll never do any of the things I mentioned?

And your life must be so exciting for you to be here poke-nosing in another man's business.

Anyway consider yourself ignored!

deransom:
It a marriage not a relationship, so they can't just part ways, they are tie down by their vows. All we need is God direction, hard times will pass and she will face the punishment God knows best

Says who?

Oga have you heard of divorce?

How am I poke-nosing? It is on public forum and he asked for advise. Abeg, go and educate yourself on the definition of pokenose.

We know your type very well. I bet you will not even dare raise your voice at your husband or even voice your opinions to him. But you want to come online and act like you are the queen bee.

Go and get a better hobby than to come online and make outlandish statements that you know they have not born you well to dare commit or else you will lose the title Mrs. that you have worked so hard for.

UjuJoan2:
And you know me so well to know I'll never do any of the things I mentioned?

And your life must be so exciting for you to be here poke-nosing in another man's business.

Anyway consider yourself ignored!

ForcefullBULL:
I feel like calling the guy to congratulate him for successfully breaking a home.

@OP Though I'm a single guy but I'll advice u to let it roll for the sake of the kids, this is marriage not some boys and girls relationship. Those advisers up there are taking this issue with a kiddos glove, there's a gigantic beast in every guy that detest a cheating partner, its better not to wake him cos if u do, you'll be on the tenth woman before u know what its going on. The bitter truth is she's probably sleep with him, u don't need to prove it cos there's never a more reliable evidence than the culprit's confession. Save your marriage for the future of your kids, I'm a product of a failed marriage and I know how its negatively affected my life.

PS: Let her family know about her confession to you and assure them you'll the marriage the moment u confirm she's cheating.

johnkey:
op you are an old fool for even bringing this topic here when her stuffs should have reached her father's house or the streets wherever. weak men everywhere. you and your wife can die for all I care. damn I hate dumb people.

Oga cool down.

If this happened to you I'm sure you would be tensed up. You will need to hear a lot of opinions before the next decision.

Cut the OP some slack. Not everyone is bold enough to share such an experience with complete strangers.

In the days before internet, you only hear this type of stories at beer parlours, somewhere between the fourth and ninth bottle

greyham:
Oga cool down.

If this happened to you I'm sure you would be tensed up. You will need to hear a lot of opinions before the next decision.

Cut the OP some slack. Not everyone is bold enough to share such an experience with complete strangers.

In the days before internet, you only hear this type of stories at beer parlours, somewhere between the fourth and ninth bottle

happen to me? maybe in my next life. that only happens to dumb people who make themselves vulnerable.

ForcefullBULL:
Thanks for the insults. Bringing it here has helped me confirmed my fears. I found it hard to believe her she didn't sleep with him. Guys here helped me confirmed this. So in not an old fool. Her days are numbered in my house.

Thanks everybody.

ONE LAST BULLET SIR

If you're going to keep your marriage, if you want to and if you can, do it for the sake of your children. (I want to believe they are yours anyway)

They deserve a mother and father figure in their life. You don't owe your wife anything. Focus on your kids.

About informing her family. I have nothing to say about it. I believe this can be handled by two of you alone.

It is not easy

johnkey:
happen to me? maybe in my next life. that only happens to dumb people who make themselves vulnerable.

Oga don't underestimate women.

Okay. If you were in OP's shoes (but I will change one factor). Financial distress, wife refusing sexual advances. AND SHE DOES NOT CONFESS. How will you know she cheated?

Even smart people will find this one difficult

greyham:
ONE LAST BULLET SIR

If you're going to keep your marriage, if you want to and if you can, do it for the sake of your children. (I want to believe they are yours anyway)

They deserve a mother and father figure in their life. You don't owe your wife anything. Focus on your kids.

About informing her family. I have nothing to say about it. I believe this can be handled by two of you alone.

It is not easy

I think pressure from her family will stop her from repeating the same misdeed cos its not mistake as its been mistakenly tagged.

greyham:
Says who?

Oga have you heard of divorce?

If that what you know marriage for then you've gotten it wrong, those two couples might turn out to be the best once they have been able to figure their challenge and work on it. Understanding is key, bros we have principles guiding us, if not for instructions given to us from God, many homes would have been ruined by devil with all this ups and down

I can't live with this if Na me