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DEAR BROKE LADIES...

This thread might trigger some broke ladies but the matured and made ladies won't make a fuss about it.



I want to address those ladies that like saying after they stood by their boyfriends when the boyfriends made it, they were dumped and they'll start wailing and calling men all sort of names.


My question is; when the boyfriends were working on their ambitions, doing all sort of jobs what exactly were the ladies doing

Because you're dating a broke guy who has prospects and ambitions doesn't mean you shouldn't work on yourself . That simply means you're waiting for him to get made so that you can become a liability to him.
To be sincere if I'm such guy I'll dump you...

If the guy is working on his prospects then, you as a lady needs to work on your prospect too so that when things turn sour later you won't wail that you were dumped after you stood by your bf when he was broke he dumped you after getting rich because you won't be broke either.


The "Behind every successful man there's a woman " clause is outdated.
We all know that's a big lie.


During the period Bill Gates was building Microsoft, there was no woman behind him. 

Steve Jobs -- no woman

Larry Ellison -- no woman. 

Larry Page and Sergey Brin -- no woman 

Aaron Levie -- no woman

Aliko Dangote -- no woman
Mark Zucherberg -- no woman

Elon Musk -- no woman

Femi Otedola -- no woman

Tony Enumelu -- no woman


Behind every successful man is a lot of determination, years spent suffering and the urge to succeed. 

I could go on and on

That clause is just outdated and useless.

Broke ladies are now using the "As a woman, especially in your prime you will attract men. It's inevitable" clause to comfort themselves.



Sometimes, I ask myself why ladies want to be with men at all. 


Why can't you hustle hard and make your own money and remain comfortable the way you want so you can attract even richer men?

A wealthy woman will always have broke men running away from her while she attracts her kind.



Y'all should leave the guys alone. Whether they have vision or not, it's not your life it's theirs. On a general level no human wants to be poor so everybody knows they have to make that money.

Please it's not a do or die affair. Everybody should focus on their own hustle. While your man is working to achieve his vision what are you doing for yourself?


Waiting for him to make it so you can tag yourself the "wife that waited". I laugh in Greek! 


I say to you girls/ladies, it's not about being with the man. If you both are working hard to better yourselves this lame mentality won't even come to your head. If you're also full with vision you won't bother about your man and you can easily move ahead if you discover that he's not serious but by then you've built your own life.

But what do we have today? ladies who would rather jump from man to man citing examples as "he's visionless" while they themselves have not carried out any serious plans for their own lives.

Any lady who is waiting on her man should also be doing something because even if you waited and he finally makes it you'd still be a liability to him.


Don't just sit down and wait for your man. Wait and hustle for yourself too. Who says a girl can't have visions?


huh!!!


As a woman you'll attract men but it depends on the kind/type/class of woman you are.


If you're a wealthy woman you'll hardly find a poor man who wants to go into a serious relationship come to you except you approach him yourself.

Yes women should hustle hard and make their money because there is a very high probability for them to attract another rich guy. If you want to marry a rich guy then also try to be financially capable yourself and not using your beauty to entertain the men.


When broke ladies say they want to be treated as Queens ,I usually take it for sarcasm or jokes.


"Does a queen work? Does a queen fight battles or hustle? No!"


The moment you ladies want to begin to feel like queens when you've not done anything that warrants a man to treat you like that then you're getting it all wrong.

If you're a lady and you're reading this you know your fellow ladies better than we guys. Ask yourself these questions...:
How many ladies in your circle are really looking forward to hustle hard to make it without thinking of using a man to get there?
How many ladies TRULY want to work hard at all?

How many girls want to go through the real stress of working hard and coming out successful?

If Nigerian girls are really serious why do they usually study useless and unatractive courses in school even though they know it'll be hard for them to be employed with such courses? ?

we know the answer to that..


Ladies please fulfill your lives first before coming to look for any guy at all. Guys are also Getting wiser.

Ok

In Nigerian schools, there's a saying. "Girls shouldn't be serious because they will eventually get married to a rich guy". You might not like it but that mentality is here to stay. In our society, the man takes care of the woman. The fact that some ladies try to take advantage of it doesn't mean it should be scrapped. As a man, you have to take care of your family ESPECIALLY your spouse



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The counter thread is about to start

Nice one

I doff my hat for you .

It is everyman for himself if you ask me.
Nobody should wait for anyone to carve out their destiny for them.

Time waits for no man.

Broke ladies go and hustle and stop being dependant on men,don't become liabilities become an asset.

Inner peace is priceless.

Op op have u checked those names again bf dry come bashing u. Are u sure they all Dont have women in their lives

This is a long one, Pls in essence what's d op saying? Coz I know Itz men dat run the world but women are the ones who ermmm....... I wld b back for update

Wow!

Edited

This tirade sure seems like a rant, LOL, and I dare say it's not out of place.

So one of my female friends who's not exactly in that category of rich independent girls put this on her Whatsapp story: "If your chic is high maintenance, stop complaining. Broke people should roll with broke people". That day we argued oh.

I'm not sure you can change what's happening in the society now. From my experience 1 out of 5 girls (girlfriends, close friends or whatever) 'won't mind' paying their own bills or atleast part of it on hangouts or get togethers.

Having said that, let's come to birthdays. It's a lad's birthday he's expected to spend for his gf, it's his girl's birthday, he also spends.

Sometimes, I can understand why it seems like the forces of men's sexual desires and women's materialistic tendencies in relationships seem to be in constant war.

The best you can do is attract who you want. There are still decent girls out there.

Broke ladies are coming after you

With FULL RAGE

Well, what can i say to ur loooooong epistle ?


Broke men and broke ladies SHOULD NOT BE DATING coz u only bring agony to the relationship...But NO! Those who are lazy & jobless are the one who are into multi-relationship or keep changing bf/gf..

If ur broke & jobless , why not concentrate first to find a job or develop ur passion/hobby to earn money at least rather than keep fvcking around & when into a deep shiiit all u want is to commit suicide?

Juz saying.

AmazonTopaz:
Nice one

I doff my hat for you .

It is everyman for himself if you ask me.
Nobody should wait for anyone to carve out their destiny for them.

Time waits for no man.

Broke ladies go and hustle and stop being dependant on men and turn yourselves into dependant beings.

Inner peace is priceless.

#A word is enough for the wise.

QueenSuccubus:


Well, what can i say to ur loooooong epistle ?


Broke men and broke ladies SHOULD NOT BE DATING coz u only bring agony to the relationship...But NO! Those who are lazy & jobless are the one who are into multi-relationship or keep changing bf/gf..

If ur broke & jobless , why not concentrate first to find a job or develop ur passion/hobby to earn money at least rather than keep fvcking around & when into a deep shiiit all u want is to commit suicide?

Juz saying.

did you read the whole article?

finish it before commenting.

Lemme add that nothing and i repeat..nothing would make a guy dump a woman that he cherishes if he finally made it in life. Imagine a situation a guy wey broke im girlfriend is always disrespecting him,making fun of him and comparing him with guys who are richer and successful. U think such a guy would remain with such a lady if he finally made it? So there are situations that make such guys to break up with such ladies. And yes i do agree that ladies should ambitious as well. Op about Bill Gates and Zuckerberg..from what i read about them..they met their wives while they were in college(university). Remember most whites tend to meet their boo while they are in high school or college. They are not like us who break up with our univ boo and start telling pastor to tell God to give us either husband or wife.

Hanseel1:
Luminouz, greiboy, AmazonTopaz, Lefulefu

Damn!!!
U nailed it bro!!!!

lefulefu:
Lemme add that nothing and i repeat..nothing would make a guy dump a woman that he cherishes if he finally made it in life. Imagine a situation a guy wey broke im girlfriend is always disrespecting him,making fun of him and comparing him with guys who are richer and successful. U think such a guy would remain with such a lady if he finally made it? So there are situations that make such guys to break up with such ladies. And yes i do agree that ladies should ambitious as well. Op about Bill Gates and Zuckerberg..from what i read about them..they met their wives while they were in college(university). Remember most whites tend to meet their boo while they are in high school or college. They are not like us who break up with our univ boo and start telling pastor to tell God to give us either husband or wife.

The main situation I was trying to address is Nigerian ladies always wailing and calling men all sorts of name after their broke boyfriends who're now made dumped them.

You're dating a broke guy with prospects doesn't mean you shouldn't work on your own ambitions.

When the guy was working on his prospects and ambitions what were those ladies doing??

waiting for the man to get rich so that they'll become liabilities?

trust me.. I'll dump such lady if I'm the boyfriend

TheBulusNotes:
Broke ladies are coming after you

With FULL RAGE

Let 'em come.....they will prove the OP right!!

Hanseel1:
Luminouz, greiboy, AmazonTopaz, Lefulefu

You have solid points there bro

Good piece.

Hanseel1:
The main situation I was trying to address is Nigerian ladies always wailing and calling men all sorts of name after their broke boyfriends who're now made dump them.

You're dating a broke guy with prospects doesn't mean you shouldn't work on your own ambitions.

When the guy was working on his prospects and ambitions what are those ladies doing??

waiting for the man to get rich so that they'll become liabilities?

trust me.. I'll dump such lady if I'm the boyfriend

most of those lazy girls u see around who fleece men financially are slayqueens. Any right thinking man who is hustling should avoid such ladies. I am not going to bash ladies who are broke cos i have seen young girls who don't have much and who come from poor homes hustling. Some are into hairdressing and other sort of jobs. Its the lazy ones who feel dat boyfriend must be giving dem monthly allowance and other sort of entitlement. Those are the ones u talking about i must believe. The ones who believe their destiny lies with a man who is rich.

luminouz:
Let 'em come.....they will prove the OP right!!

Got no time for kids.

Ok

Hanseel1:

check well oo

broke guys are the most faithful...Let them have money noww..except few.....Forget about ambitious guys..They pretend alot....

Good guys are rare....Love but dont love foolishly because if he bleeps up later you dont get hurt or broken...

if i get rich im definitely upgrading.

Bamz:
Wow!

Edited

This tirade sure seems like a rant, LOL, and I dare say it's not out of place.

So one of my female friends who's not exactly in that category of rich independent girls put this on her Whatsapp story: "If your chic is high maintenance, stop complaining. Broke people should roll with broke people". That day we argued oh.

I'm not sure you can change what's happening in the society now. From my experience 1 out of 5 girls (girlfriends, close friends or whatever) 'won't mind' paying their own bills or atleast part of it on hangouts or get togethers.

Having said that, let's come to birthdays. It's a lad's birthday he's expected to spend for his gf, it's his girl's birthday, he also spends.

Sometimes, I can understand why it seems like the forces of men's sexual desires and women's materialistic tendencies in relationships seem to be in constant war.

The best you can do is attract who you want. There are still decent girls out there.

There's an atom of truth in what you just said..

MISEDUCATIONS:
if i get rich im definitely upgrading.

#Word.

I don't know if it's the environment that conditions women over here to always play the second fiddle and accept the fact that men are the ones that should make it more and theirs is to get hooked to such men. I kept wondering why many women accept to do secretary, sales works in small establishments and earn as low as 15k monthly. i kept wondering whether that is all they planned to do with their life. Some spent so many years doing 15k - 25k jobs while hoping that a rich husband will come and bail them out. Amongst my friends from the university the guys are the ones doing well (ony 3 have good jobs and the others are hustling in one business or the other) while many of the ladies are either doing some underpaid jobs (very few got good jobs) and the others waiting for marriage.

Quiet.