From; Amagitesblog.com

A Nigerian pastor, Michale Matthew has revealed she dumped her marriage after suffering several years of domestic violence.

Read her story as she shared on Facebook below...

"My personal experience with domestic violence and it’s abuse!

To the ladies out there, I have never spoken openly on social media about the abusive marriage that I was in for so many years primarily out of respect for my children but seeing the deaths on both the men and women’s side, am making an exception with the hope of encouraging someone who is in such a space. I pray my writing this will help some one take the decision to leave an abusive and violent marriage. I married as a church girl, young, innocent and shielded but entered a home that violence and abuse was the order of the day. Another days story.... but back to the point.

I know death to be terrible and so final and as such I pray women or sometimes even men have the courage to leave an abusive marriage. It took me over 13 years to gather the courage to finally close that door. I am a Pastor, I thought to myself. I am the last child of a large family. What will people say. She must have been the problem. I grew up a bit sheltered but I felt people will criticize me for not making it work, so I tried harder, served harder, it was met with more scorn and pain. Thank God for my family. Today the rest is history. I am happy, finding balance daily and grateful for friends and family who said it was okay to leave. It is never worth it to take a human life. I was so hurt by the meanness and violence and I was getting cowed so much so I contemplated hurting him if he ever laid hands on me and only grew angrier when he did and I did nothing but I knew I had to leave when I was grievously wounded a couple of times and found myself seeking ways to revenge but I did not want to die, I was given various forms of advice, some good and some absolutely devilish and I had many questions with no clear answers, who will take care of my children as well I would if I got harmed but I was despairing and still wanted to make the marriage work as a Senior Church Pastor concerned, lol! God doesn’t place those burdens on us, we do so with our people pleasing attitude and holier than thou behavior, please know two must make it work. It’s never one person’s responsibility. Thank God for my family again and good friends. Today the rest is history. It is never worth it to take a human life. I was so hurt and angry and to be frank it was so I did not harm him or by extension myself that I eventually left as I felt if he hit me again I could harm him but I did not want him to die or me too and hurting someone particularly when it is premeditated is purely evil. Eventually I gathered the courage and ran. I am so glad I did. If you are in that situation run. It’s never worth a human life. Every life matters.

Fast forward to some years later, I am glad I made this choice, I live with my truth and I pray that God helps him but I am free and getting healed emotionally. The fact that I can dare write this amazes me. I am quite private but I think our silence doesn’t help sometimes as people just need support when they are in such a place so it’s no longer about me but about helping others and in so doing I find my healing and more joy too.

Girl! You deserve better. Don’t allow society or your own fears hold you in bondage and fear. Every one is special. I survived and I thrive and you will."

https://www.amagitesblog.com/2018/06/nigerian-pastor-reveals-why-she-dumped-her-marriage.html

Cc; Lalasticlala

Nothing is ever worth your peace of mind. Especially marriage.

Ok it seems marriage is a hell on earth kind of situation..

Let everybody just remain single so we all can have peace of mind.


And if you dare quote me telling me marriage is a good thing, and I catch you on another thread bashing the idea of marriage, na Me and you go put leg for one trouser.. Nonsense

Cutehector:
Ok it seems marriage is a hell on earth kind of situation..

Let everybody just remain single so we all can have peace of mind.


And if you dare quote me telling me marriage is a good thing, and I catch you on another thread bashing the idea of marriage, na Me and you go put leg for one trouser.. Nonsense

#Teamsingle

My mama is already disturbing me, at 25 years

Archangel15:


#Teamsingle

My mama is already disturbing me, at 25 years

give girl belle na.. When she born, carry the baby give your mama make we carry since she want grand child

Cutehector:
give girl belle na.. When she born, carry the baby give your mama make we carry since she want grand child

Hahahaha

Archangel15:


#Teamsingle

My mama is already disturbing me, at 25 years

@25??
What will she now do when u reach my age

This woman can't be a pastor.

Only a wife who longs to become an olosho will walk out of her marriage just because of mere domestic abuse.

W

God will help us!

Hmmmmm. This marriage thing again! Didn't she prayed about it before dabbling into it as a senior pastor ? Was she given a wrong revelation? Is she insinuating that we shouldn't trust pre marital revelations anymore? What? What? What? Am just confused with this marriage palava.

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She no even fine sef

This woman can't be a pastor.

Only a wife who longs to become an olosho will walk out of her marriage just because of mere domestic abuse.

In as much as divorce is not an option in Christianity I think separation is desirable if the situation is life threatening.

It is better, before people start preaching it is the will of God to die avoidable death.

We need to hear other party's own story first before judging but however it is good she moves out before asking for husband's story.

Smh. These fools would tell u prayers answers all tins. Before marriage seeks gods face bla bla.Till shit happens to dem u go know say all na wash. See yeye okotie and oyakilome. Hypos

Leetunechi:
She no even fine sef

Shebi she resemble you na

thank God ure alive to tell thy story...

It is unbiblical for a woman to be an ordained pastor. No woman has the right to be in church leadership

NwaAmaikpe:



This woman can't be a pastor.

Only a wife who longs to become an olosho will walk out of her marriage just because of mere domestic abuse.

Hian, you have started again with your burukutu analysis

GOD HELP OUR MARRIAGES!!

Sorry o, WOG, it's a till death part us something o, please don't forget

Hmmmmmmmm
No words

handsomeclouds:
A pastress that can't keep a home is not worthy of pastoring in the first place.

The combined effort of the husband and wife, keeps the home healthy, if she can't continue with the abuse and releases through killing the husband, won't you have asked why she didn't walk away?

By the way, anyone can claim to be a pastor in Africa.

Every married ashawo using domestic violence as an excuse to go chop fresh preek these days

No matter how this so called woman pastor twist this story, the bottom line is that any pastor that can not hold his or her marriage and make it work irrespective of the storm is not worthy to be called Pastor. What are you teaching to the public. Abeg park well, make we hear word. Pastor this, pastor that.

And she couldn't pray about it? Imagine meeting this pastor for counselling about challenges in ur home...

What will be her response? Ur guess is as good as mine..

I wouldn't be judgemental here, but let's review what the holy scripture says, it says and I quote "if a man's way pleases God, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him"... So I think before we do anything we should make our ways right with God... I have not said that I 'm holy, it is a general truth from the scripture I just said..

" Be not wise in thou own eyes, fear the Lord and He shall direct thou parts"

Hmm