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Please Your Advice Is Needed On This by tableshaker(op): 2:49pm On Jun 12, 2018
Good afternoon , I will try to keep the story short, a friend of mine got married few years ago (has only done the introduction) the woman is a Muslim and my friend is a Christian, they both go to church together with their baby girl fast forward to 2018, now she is pregnant and she just decided not to go to church again that she is going back to her religion which is Islam which the husband is not that cool with, the husband parent tried to talk her out of her plan of going back to Islam but she refuse, the husband father called her father to update him on her daughter decision which his not cool with, he got angry and told her daughter to come back home if the husband will not allow her to practice her religion and the following day she picked up some of her things and left for her father house with their daughter,without a word. Please pardon my typo error
What should the husband do
Re: Please Your Advice Is Needed On This by Kastonkastroll(m): 2:53pm On Jun 12, 2018
The husband should allow her practice her religion while he practices his own.

What's so difficult in this? It will be selfishness on the husband's angle if he wants to enter Jewish paradise and doesn't want his wife to enter the paradise she believes in. undecided
Re: Please Your Advice Is Needed On This by madridguy(m): 2:54pm On Jun 12, 2018
One of the reason I don't subscribe to interfaith marriage. Though we have many interfaith marriages working with understanding and cooperation.

I will suggest you tell your friend to think deeply if he really want the marriage, if yes, he should grant his wife liberty to continue practicing Islam and him too should start learning about Islam.
Re: Please Your Advice Is Needed On This by Olalan(m): 2:57pm On Jun 12, 2018
The girl was pretending all the while she was going to church, and it seems she tired of the marriage and wants to use this as an excuse to opt out. Smart girl she is
Re: Please Your Advice Is Needed On This by IamD18: 2:59pm On Jun 12, 2018
Her husband must not do anything.


If he's not cool seeing her practice Islam, he should let her marry her father.
Re: Please Your Advice Is Needed On This by madridguy(m): 3:02pm On Jun 12, 2018
I don't think she's tired of the marriage. She just don't blend with her husband religion anymore as early agreed according to the OP.

Olalan:
The girl was pretending all the while she was going to church, and it seems she tired of the marriage and wants to use this as an excuse to opt out. Smart girl she is
Re: Please Your Advice Is Needed On This by Nobody: 3:03pm On Jun 12, 2018
He is not her husband, she is not his wife, just cause they have a kid together and they have done introduction doesn't mean he can lay claim over her.

What does Amos 3:3 say? Can two walk together except they agree.

Dude should fix his relationship with God sef, his Christianity is still shaky.

He can't be a Christian and is cohabiting with a woman who is not his wife and enjoying marital entitlements.

I wonder how people define Christianity these days.
Re: Please Your Advice Is Needed On This by MrBrownJay1(m): 3:04pm On Jun 12, 2018
thats what happen when you expect/force/blackmail people to change for you....eventually they turn back to their natural self.
Re: Please Your Advice Is Needed On This by QueenSuccubus(f): 3:12pm On Jun 12, 2018
grin

Religion is number 1 hindrance for any couple who has a different beliefs..

Now this case arise.. She sacrificed her own religious belief juz to be with the guy.. Did she juz woke up one day & decided not to go to church anymore? undecided

Abeeeg, tell this couple to go back to their wedding vows.. Let hem recall what promises they made before they said "I DO"..
Re: Please Your Advice Is Needed On This by tableshaker(op): 3:17pm On Jun 12, 2018
kennygee:
He is not her husband, she is not his wife, just cause they have a kid together and they have done introduction doesn't mean he can lay claim over her.

What does Amos 3:3 say? Can two walk together except they agree.

Dude should fix his relationship with God sef, his Christianity is still shaky.

He can't be a Christian and is cohabiting with a woman who is not his wife and enjoying marital entitlements.

I wonder how people define Christianity these days.
you are right sis according to my friend the delay of doing the proper marriage is from the wife side
Re: Please Your Advice Is Needed On This by Nobody: 3:18pm On Jun 12, 2018
tableshaker:
you are right sis according to my friend the delay of doing the proper marriage is from the wife side
All I'm saying is, he cannot lead her to Christ if he's not even getting the way right.
Re: Please Your Advice Is Needed On This by tableshaker(op): 3:21pm On Jun 12, 2018
Pls la-la should push this to front page
Re: Please Your Advice Is Needed On This by tableshaker(op): 3:24pm On Jun 12, 2018
kennygee:
All I'm saying is, he cannot lead her to Christ if he's not even getting the way right.
that tru
Re: Please Your Advice Is Needed On This by 912(m): 3:29pm On Jun 12, 2018
Advice for those yet to be married:

lion doesn't eat grass

Goat doesn't eat meat

do not say "I'm in love with him or her so religion doesn't matter". Sooner or later you will only find out that you are deceiving yourself and no one else.
Re: Please Your Advice Is Needed On This by mrphysics(m): 3:31pm On Jun 12, 2018
The husband isn't doing the right thing. The right to religion is an individual decision to take, thus, the husband should not interfere with the choice of the wife.

Mrphysics has spoken
Re: Please Your Advice Is Needed On This by tableshaker(op): 3:36pm On Jun 12, 2018
912:
Advice for those yet to be married:

lion doesn't eat grass

Goat doesn't eat meat

do not say "I'm in love with him or her so religion doesn't matter". Sooner or later you will only find out that you are deceiving yourself and no one else.
please tell them ooo
Re: Please Your Advice Is Needed On This by OfficialLordK(m): 3:42pm On Jun 12, 2018
What should the husband do?
He should man up and take responsibility for his actions. By the way it just introduction abi na traditional wedding and not church wedding.
The only solution would be to align his self with the dictate of God.
Shikena!!!
Re: Please Your Advice Is Needed On This by tableshaker(op): 4:09pm On Jun 12, 2018
cc, lalasticlala
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