Slapsticker:


It's called brain wash

joseph1013:

I follow your diary and may be cos I'm a contarian thinker, I disagree with some of your points but alas diaries are not for debates.

But at the risk of derailing this thread, let me point out the latest: issue of living far or close to workplace based on issue of transportation.

Though I stay close to my workplace, when I was younger, I stayed far away due to the cost of accommodation. I advised someone last week on this.

He works at CMS and lives at Ikorodu. He is a younger version of myself. The reason for saying this is very important. If you're not a focused hard worker willing to delay gratifications, my advice may not be the best option for you. If you have to come from a far place every weekend to club at Quilox, you may be better off staying in VI.

Anyway, in Agric, Ikorodu, he lives in a very good 1-bedroom apartment which costs 180,000 where he has prepaid meter, water supply and good security. Every working day, he spends between 500-800 on transport. For 250 working days, that's 125,000 - 200,000 per year.

A minimum total expense of (180,000 + 125000 =) 305,000. A maximum total expense of (180,000 + 200,000 =) 380,000.

If he chooses to stay around Surulere, Onikan, VI or Lekki, he would be looking at between 400,000 - 1,000,000 per year in a DECENT place.

If you have a family, it should not even be a debate.

My conclusion from observing young people is that they don't have a knack for numbers. Or let me say the quest for the easy life does not make them think critically of their options.

I used my commuting time to read, listen to audios and make plans. I looked back at waking up 4am everyday and not getting home until 11am with nostalgia. I was first to get to work, I was the last to leave the office. They said I was pushing myself too hard, but then is that not what a young man starting a career supposed to do?

oxonek:


You must be JOKING or deluded. Not all married men cheat! If you fear God, LOVE your spouse and respect your marital vows, you won't.

mirrakk:
a woman who will cheat in relationships will do so no matter how much you try for her. except in marriage anyway if you can't satisfy all her financial needs especially Nigerian girls, be sure she will Bleep your best fend. so if you still dey huzzle never get hurt when your woman cheats on you.

PaperLace:
* Women are polygamous.
* Some men start tying wrapper and wearing oversize boxers.
* Their husbands don't service them well. Some men do wuruwuru sex. No pre-intimacy...etc.
* They are wicked and selfish.
* Young boys don't allow them rest.
* Lots of Nigerian men develop potbelly after sometime. She becomes less attracted to him. Women are visual beings too.
* Lots of Nigerian men neglect their wives. Look around you, too many absentee husbands. They prefer to go and sit at bar.
* Temptation.
Etc

In all, it's 85% the fault of the man...Nigerian men should take care of their wives well, so that side-bobos won't snatch her.


Do you know what's double standard at all?

The double standard here, is you thinking a woman's cheating doesn't have justification like the man's own. They're both human, capable of falling to temptation (aka) adultery.

ayusco85:

You just nailed it. Are u talking out of experience

Youdoneymad:
Please explain more on your second point,cheers.





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Youdondeym@ad:
Please explain more on your second point,cheers.





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WORDSENSEI:


This is heartbreaking coming from a lady.
It means you also support the "one lock, one key" analogy. Shame on your ugly self.
Keep oiling the non existent egos of selfish men.

Liberator007:
Be like say dem don over bleep dis one tire o olosho

cold:
Hmmm..you need to take Okafor's Law of Congodynamics into consideration here. For the record, let me just state what the law states...

[b]Okafor's Law of Congodynamics
C 1 P = C ∞

It states that once a Congo has been shined once (C 1 ) , it can always be shined (C ∞ ) provided it was shined properly ( P) the previous times.(emphasis on properly). In other words, "....a woman once knacked, can be reknacked..."
Just like we say "water finds its level"
Which is not exactly how Achimedes narrated his contemplation, of all things floatation.
In scientific circles, opinion is divided as to whether it is actually a law or just a hypothesis. However, there is a large body of evidence to suggest that it is a law but there are others who think it is merely a hypothesis and does not take into account other variables such as M (marital status), O(opportunity) and F (Financial status) of either one or both of the parties.

In lay-mans term what the above jargons simply mean is that.
A hole once drilled, drilled properly even when closed up can always be found and can be drilled forever'
if u have been involved with a girl for a period of time and did a good job in and out of the bedroom (mostly in..), the belief is that u can always go to the girl at any given time and sleep with her again no matter what situation arises (breakups, different lover, etc[/b]..

* Women are polygamous.
* Some men start tying wrapper and wearing oversize boxers.
* Their husbands don't service them well. Some men do wuruwuru sex. No pre-intimacy...etc.
* They are wicked and selfish.
* Young boys don't allow them rest.
* Lots of Nigerian men develop potbelly after sometime. She becomes less attracted to him. Women are visual beings too.
* Lots of Nigerian men neglect their wives. Look around you, too many absentee husbands. They prefer to go and sit at bar.
* Temptation.
Etc

In all, it's 85% the fault of the man...Nigerian men should take care of their wives well, so that side-bobos won't snatch her.


Do you know what's double standard at all?

The double standard here, is you thinking a woman's cheating doesn't have justification like the man's own. They're both human, capable of falling to temptation (aka) adultery.

yvelchstores:
there is no excuse for a married woman to cheat.

Women are not polygamous. We should learn how to speak for ourselves. Because few silly ones cheat on their husband doesn't mean all cheat.

If a man is jobless they'd nag but few weeks or a month out of town isn't a reason for any woman to cheat on her husband. He's doing the both of you a favour by pulling the necessary resources needed to run a home, and such men shouldn't be repaid with cheating.

I can never cheat on whoever I marry, I rather do you the favour of not marring you.

If he has a potbelly, you could help him do stuffs to deflate it. That's if there's love in the first place.

Piercedclit:
I agree with the op.
The ratio at which married men to women cheat is almost at par. The difference is secrecy.
Women are more coded and would most times or never, flaunt it unlike a man who sees cheating with other women as a quest to conquer or some sort of ego thing.

I have seen things sha. Hmmmmm!