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Emytea:
facing dat kind of challenges bro, at times i even regret dating, i have catch her red handed upto 3 times and she will always have an excuse d funny part is after every thing she will still accuse me of wrong doing that is woman for u,,, but never d less i wount say u are at fault bcas u did notin wrong

Are u still with her?

little children.

buske, u have a beautiful relationship don't ruin it over trivial issues.

buske:
Thank you very much. You understand!

Like...I am very concerned about that her vulnerability. Sometimes... I can't even trust her wit herself.

Teach her how to be wiser in hee actions, in handling issues. She doesnt have to be dependent on ur advice all the time if she knows the right thing to do. As for the unconfirmed affair I will advice u to talk and sort it out without being over protective. Let her know the importance of wat u both have. If she values it she will act accordingly.

buske:
I have been dating this girl, since after my graduation from the university three years ago. Prior to that we've were very close friends.

Our relationship has been the type where we know very much about each other. we talk about everything. We practically know each other in and out.

She's the very soft time, in the sense that she finds it hard to say no or shout at people irrespective of what they've done. To give you a picture of what I'm talking about, with a very confusing episode...a man once collected her phone and practically walked away with it in broad daylight without any form of resistance. Another episode; The other day, after waiting for about 5 months to get the complete amount to purchase a phone, she took the whole sum and gave it to a person she hardly knows and we've been looking for him ever since.

While I'm the analytical type of person. This has its own downsides too as atimes, I tend not to know when to just let things go.

Okay..Let me give you the main gist of what transpired so you can tell me if I could have reacted or done things better or it wasn't my fault.

So yesterday, she called me and was like "emmh..baby, can you give me Rev. David's number, I want to pass it to a friend who needs spiritual counseling" (Rev
David is my bossom friend who just got out of the Seminary, They two are hardly acquainted due to obvious reasons.) "aaah... I should give you Rev. David's number??...Wait who is the person?...doesn't he/she have a church/pastor he/she can go to?" I was perplexed by the request. Since we share a lot, I was expecting at least an overview of the reason for the request. My girlfriend became defensive instead," Are you giving me the number or not? ".. At this point, my interest is hightened. So I ask her to at least give me minor details about the person or the situation at hand. It became a drag and led to a slight argument. She got angry and for the first time in many years..cut the call on me.

"aaaah....what is the problem, what is making this girl get all worked up like this?" I called and called back but she didn't pick up. I was mad and confused.
Now, like I said at the beginning, besides the fact that we talked about everything...she is also the type that can easily be defrauded. So this made me put up guard and she is ignited my interest in the case by her dodgy attitude.

So I sent her a text, giving her one last chance to pick my call and threatened to never call again if she failed to. So she called!

After dragging the issue for long and lying(something she's never done) here and there. I got to find out that it was about a guy whom I was suspecting she was having an affair with. (she never knew I was suspecting her though because I never showed it. I was looking for the perfect time to make a case)

I was mad!

After dropping the call. She texted me. Disclaiming having an affair with him, telling me that he had made her promise that it should be just between them.

See...This is a girl that tells me everything about her friends...from the friend who just had an abortion, to the one who almost had her womb removed, to the one whose parents are quarreling, to the one cheating on her boyfriend and so on. Why was this case so special that I couldn't even get a hint??.

I replied, telling her that I never believed her and told her I wasn't going to call her again and that she shouldn't bother calling me. Next thing I know, she turns it on me, accusing me of breaking up with her over the phone. She had repeated this accusation in the past. So I told her that since she's so 'eager' about us breaking up over the phone, her prayers had finally been answered today..I didn't reply any messages henceforth.

Now I'm confused, I don't know what to make out of this episode.

when you two settle back, you let us know

amen.

ebukaka12:
God bless you ��

dukeprince50:
are u talking about Brazil match? I think Brazil match is 1pm, Nigerian match is 6pm

What's this one saying now? Nigeria match is 4pm




Olodo!!!?

A lot of Sound minded people commented already. All I will say is, nothing is Perfect. Humans can only survive together through tolerance. Tolerate her and don't allow iota of a thing to cause what you've been building. You can never see a perfect Human. Appreciate her and Forgive her.

money over biitches

For her willing not to tell you anything sacrificing a 3 year relationship just because of this person means he's dear to her and she was suppose to be an open person. More reason you need to walk away. Let her experience the other side of the river.

udemzyudex:
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WA GBA Yi brother

Guy, just break up and go make money.

She wanted to quit the relationship but has been looking for the right time to strike. I dont think she was meant for you if you could not accommodate her weaknesses.

Nonetheless, give her some space or probably some time, she would definitely realize how relevant you are to her (that's if you are really adding any value to her life)

Finally get this in your mind, women are like precious material which every man prices. If you don't up your game very well, another suitor will snatch from you what belongs to you.

Iamdmentor1:
You should be 25 or older and you acted childishly You were very insecure and allowed your emotions get the better of you. You should have thought it through to the end.
You should have given her the number. If you think she's having an affair with someone, invite her over. Talk to her, and listen to her body language.

What's insecure about probing when someone is acting strange? Pls check out the meaning of 'insecure' and stop abusing that word

buske:
I have been dating this girl, since after my graduation from the university three years ago. Prior to that we've were very close friends.

Our relationship has been the type where we know very much about each other. we talk about everything. We practically know each other in and out.

She's the very soft time, in the sense that she finds it hard to say no or shout at people irrespective of what they've done. To give you a picture of what I'm talking about, with a very confusing episode...a man once collected her phone and practically walked away with it in broad daylight without any form of resistance. Another episode; The other day, after waiting for about 5 months to get the complete amount to purchase a phone, she took the whole sum and gave it to a person she hardly knows and we've been looking for him ever since.

While I'm the analytical type of person. This has its own downsides too as atimes, I tend not to know when to just let things go.

Okay..Let me give you the main gist of what transpired so you can tell me if I could have reacted or done things better or it wasn't my fault.

So yesterday, she called me and was like "emmh..baby, can you give me Rev. David's number, I want to pass it to a friend who needs spiritual counseling" (Rev
David is my bossom friend who just got out of the Seminary, They two are hardly acquainted due to obvious reasons.) "aaah... I should give you Rev. David's number??...Wait who is the person?...doesn't he/she have a church/pastor he/she can go to?" I was perplexed by the request. Since we share a lot, I was expecting at least an overview of the reason for the request. My girlfriend became defensive instead," Are you giving me the number or not? ".. At this point, my interest is hightened. So I ask her to at least give me minor details about the person or the situation at hand. It became a drag and led to a slight argument. She got angry and for the first time in many years..cut the call on me.

"aaaah....what is the problem, what is making this girl get all worked up like this?" I called and called back but she didn't pick up. I was mad and confused.
Now, like I said at the beginning, besides the fact that we talked about everything...she is also the type that can easily be defrauded. So this made me put up guard and she is ignited my interest in the case by her dodgy attitude.

So I sent her a text, giving her one last chance to pick my call and threatened to never call again if she failed to. So she called!

After dragging the issue for long and lying(something she's never done) here and there. I got to find out that it was about a guy whom I was suspecting she was having an affair with. (she never knew I was suspecting her though because I never showed it. I was looking for the perfect time to make a case)

I was mad!

After dropping the call. She texted me. Disclaiming having an affair with him, telling me that he had made her promise that it should be just between them.

See...This is a girl that tells me everything about her friends...from the friend who just had an abortion, to the one who almost had her womb removed, to the one whose parents are quarreling, to the one cheating on her boyfriend and so on. Why was this case so special that I couldn't even get a hint??.

I replied, telling her that I never believed her and told her I wasn't going to call her again and that she shouldn't bother calling me. Next thing I know, she turns it on me, accusing me of breaking up with her over the phone. She had repeated this accusation in the past. So I told her that since she's so 'eager' about us breaking up over the phone, her prayers had finally been answered today..I didn't reply any messages henceforth.

Now I'm confused, I don't know what to make out of this episode.

OP just give her time o. She will come around.

Men would b men. Bro, d deed has been done. Advise, show no weakness that is, dont call her to apologize. U did nothing wrong by asking her. Second of all, work on ur emotions, dont let her break you. If she hurts...let something else occupy her space in ur heart. Be a man and disease from that force that would make u wanna call her. Even if she calls,[b] chose your response carefully like nothing matters anymore and after d call, dont call her back even if it will take days weeks nor month dont call her back. Try dis n c d amazing result

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buske:
I have been dating this girl, since after my graduation from the university three years ago. Prior to that we've were very close friends.

Our relationship has been the type where we know very much about each other. we talk about everything. We practically know each other in and out.

She's the very soft time, in the sense that she finds it hard to say no or shout at people irrespective of what they've done. To give you a picture of what I'm talking about, with a very confusing episode...a man once collected her phone and practically walked away with it in broad daylight without any form of resistance. Another episode; The other day, after waiting for about 5 months to get the complete amount to purchase a phone, she took the whole sum and gave it to a person she hardly knows and we've been looking for him ever since.

While I'm the analytical type of person. This has its own downsides too as atimes, I tend not to know when to just let things go.

Okay..Let me give you the main gist of what transpired so you can tell me if I could have reacted or done things better or it wasn't my fault.

So yesterday, she called me and was like "emmh..baby, can you give me Rev. David's number, I want to pass it to a friend who needs spiritual counseling" (Rev
David is my bossom friend who just got out of the Seminary, They two are hardly acquainted due to obvious reasons.) "aaah... I should give you Rev. David's number??...Wait who is the person?...doesn't he/she have a church/pastor he/she can go to?" I was perplexed by the request. Since we share a lot, I was expecting at least an overview of the reason for the request. My girlfriend became defensive instead," Are you giving me the number or not? ".. At this point, my interest is hightened. So I ask her to at least give me minor details about the person or the situation at hand. It became a drag and led to a slight argument. She got angry and for the first time in many years..cut the call on me.

"aaaah....what is the problem, what is making this girl get all worked up like this?" I called and called back but she didn't pick up. I was mad and confused.
Now, like I said at the beginning, besides the fact that we talked about everything...she is also the type that can easily be defrauded. So this made me put up guard and she is ignited my interest in the case by her dodgy attitude.

So I sent her a text, giving her one last chance to pick my call and threatened to never call again if she failed to. So she called!

After dragging the issue for long and lying(something she's never done) here and there. I got to find out that it was about a guy whom I was suspecting she was having an affair with. (she never knew I was suspecting her though because I never showed it. I was looking for the perfect time to make a case)

I was mad!

After dropping the call. She texted me. Disclaiming having an affair with him, telling me that he had made her promise that it should be just between them.

See...This is a girl that tells me everything about her friends...from the friend who just had an abortion, to the one who almost had her womb removed, to the one whose parents are quarreling, to the one cheating on her boyfriend and so on. Why was this case so special that I couldn't even get a hint??.

I replied, telling her that I never believed her and told her I wasn't going to call her again and that she shouldn't bother calling me. Next thing I know, she turns it on me, accusing me of breaking up with her over the phone. She had repeated this accusation in the past. So I told her that since she's so 'eager' about us breaking up over the phone, her prayers had finally been answered today..I didn't reply any messages henceforth.

Now I'm confused, I don't know what to make out of this episode.

This type of girl is not good for u dude,u feel she s telling u everything but she is not,she's got skeleton in her cupboard.
Although maybe u've once hurt her cuz this type of girl will just play along till the right time to playback...
My take tho

ITbomb:
What time is the match

4pm Nigeria and Iceland,right?

tetula123:
relationship lately is starting to feel like a chore.

Hmmmmmmmmmm!

Khutie:
•••At this critical stage in yhur life, if yhur bank account ain't sending yhu monthly statement of 500k-1m quit that fvcking relationship bruh.

And don't tell me, life ain't all about money because that's the biggest lie of the century.

Lastly, don't even call that hoe again.

Show me the way to make the 500k - 1m naira. I'm ready to quit my own relationship...

Iamdmentor1:
You should be 25 or older and you acted childishly You were very insecure and allowed your emotions get the better of you. You should have thought it through to the end.
You should have given her the number. If you think she's having an affair with someone, invite her over. Talk to her, and listen to her body language.

I have no idea who is sounding foolish or stupid. So you’d give a gf of your phone # of who she can possibly cheat with. Nigga your brain need to be crucified.

Some people and their stupid advise self, as if their own relationship is better than others Op no one is perfect jare. Forgive her and continue your relationship

Allahu Akbar

buske:
If your glasses are really working and you can read behind the lines, you'd understand that it was only anger/quarrel. We haven't really broken up.

Are u angry? I thought u want some help on how tinz can be fixed

My dear, ladies are masquerades. They need to be guided always. If you are tired of guiding her, give her valid excuse. This one, I must tell you that you missed it.

opsyswagger:
Bro is she the only girl in the world I just broke up with my babe last week.. mehn.. life goes on.. people dey fine moneyy no be girl at this time.. if Money dey.. babe go show..... don't allow any babe to distract ur future.. bro..

For real bro, a broke guy shouldn’t even think of having a serious relationship because it is like you carrying load, you can’t move faster or go further until you get rid of it..
Money first oo

ITbomb:
What time is the match

4pm

Frankyboy1:
Rule number 1: never trust a woman! Seen.it all, done it all, banged countless girls whom their bf will swear on their lives re faithful! The longer a relationship the more boring it gets to a woman, women re more eager to explore as long as the bond of secrecy is enacted,due to judgemental societal pattern! Before ur docile gf can be this secretive about a guy, trust me the probability she likes him is 100%, that she has been banged 80%, except he is not a bad ass nigga.
Look bro, u re in line, never trust a lying bitch, never give a woman 100% of ur heart, once they ve it, they spill it, give her in.bits,nd watch her chasing for more, never gve her ultimate security, except she is ur wife! Lol, my friend just laying a babe in my apartment rit now ,whose wedding is next Saturday, nd u know wat, d bf is keeping her for d d day nit

nah.

even your wife.

no woman deserves to be trusted 100%.

Yes bro wen there is money lady will come #fact#

MrGift:
For real bro, a broke guy shouldn’t even think of having a serious relationship because it is like you carrying load, you can’t move faster or go further until you get rid of it..
Money first oo

buske:
Thank you very much. You understand!

Like...I am very concerned about that her vulnerability. Sometimes... I can't even trust her wit herself.

If u truly care about her, sit her down and talk to her. U might be the person who will eventually change her.

When the Bible says we should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers we say it's old school.

I mean, what is stopping anyone from sleeping around

Yours truly is only held back by the fear of God else I would have loved to screw any fairly okay lady that comes my way.

you have serious issues @poster