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Danty37:
exactly what happened to me. Where I regret the most was I never fvcked her. I dated this girl while I was still in 200l uniben back then 2012. I invested my money, time and energy to see that everything worked fine. I also promise to marry her not knowing I was building my castle in the air. After wasting 6years of relationship, the next thing I got last two weeks was a whatsapp message and I quote " I know I have really offended you but you need someone better than me". " don't bother about me and take care of yourself ". that's the message I got from her. Thank God I have already a good job in a multi national company that always keep me busy.. I would have committed suicide. It's all for good sha..
thank God she left while things are working out for good.. I was deceived by love and the the girls name is LOVETH. Loveth will never know peace in her marriage and life endeavors. I keep having negative thoughts about her and she will meet her match on a good day. I never bleeped her all in the name of keeping myself till marriage. May God will surely punish her. I used a whole lot of money just to please her, yet she dumped me. As am writing this now, Loveth will have a bad marriage and family.. so shall it be IN JESUS NAME. AMEN

bro, I feel your pain but you've got to let go of the bitterness. Instead of nursing bitter thoughts about the girl, thank God for saving you from a relationship that's not meant for you. Since she left, God has obviously been good to you. The fact that you got a lucrative job (among other things)after she left shows you've definitely attained significant progress in life.
She's in your past bro.. Forgive her not because you're weak, but because forgiveness would remove the weight of bitterness off your shoulder and generally improve your quality of life.
Cheers bro.

oyelsj:
bro, I feel your pain but you've got to let go of the bitterness. Instead of nursing bitter thoughts about the girl, thank God for saving you from a relationship that's not meant for you. Since she left, God has obviously been good to you. The fact that you got a lucrative job (among other things)after she left shows you've definitely attained significant progress in life.
She's in your past bro.. Forgive her not because you're weak, but because forgiveness would remove the weight of bitterness off your shoulder and generally improve your quality of life.
Cheers bro.

wow.. I'm perplexed with your words of encouragement and wisdom.. God bless you abundantly..

alexistaiwo:
Hmmm...
Food for thought.
I will ponder on it.

Thanks bro

Don't mind him...

It's guys like him that changes girls to being bad will their very bad attitudes towards them. Yinmu

Danty37:
Yea.. Thanks.. It got to the point that I always use my monthly and feeding allowance for her.. I will buy clothes, she will take them all.. Took my ATM card to Justrite to buy whatever she likes all in the name of love... Tell me why God won't punish her.. And as for me Daniel, I thought I was in love..

Why I no dey meet una type

americanson:
Same girl who said I am not handsome...

Came back years later, stalking my facebook facebook account and told me the day I called her that I now look fatter (yeah I was skinny and Bonny) and more handsome.

In her mind she would think I am keeping in touch cos I like her or still have her in mind but me know it is for me to let her see my growth.

She wooed me many times to have me back...

She can't understand why I can't take her back or let the past go cos I was so clingy that she thought she can go and come back at will and I will accept her back with no question.

She thought that by having sex with me (same sex she denied me when I was a mumu and gave to another guy as a confession) will solve the whole problem. What she didn't know is that I am one of the very few guys who never bond with a woman via sex...

During the initial stage of her brain reset, I told her even if she nakeed in front of me, I will never take her back... She didn't believe her eyes while we were exchanging text lol cos I was in school.

Omo, she even find me come school (went back to school against all odds after the demise of my mum and only parent) twice and in one of those instances, she noticed I wasn't looking at her while we talked... She was looking uglier and I couldn't help it, had to use other pretty girls passing by to help my sight. She was at the park and came in from somewhere... Probably from one of those guys who fork her for money... Something I never did. She had to start begging me right there at the park. She as in my eyes so much fury. She could feel the anger was still in me. She was begging. I looked at her smiled (fake) and told her no problem.

It is a long story bro but I did well do some damages to her brain.

The day I knew my plans had worked was the day she begged me in God's name. This time around I was serving in Info for NYSC. She had begged previously but this one was a bit different. She said she doesn't know whether is the wrong things she did to me that is affecting her life... And beg me to forgive her.

My spirit broke that day.

She wasn't my first girlfriend. My first girlfriend didn't go well. I ended it with first when I discovered I am being used...

The issue is that she was my second that I opened up a lot and even let her meet my siblings. However when she was doing her evil, it was as if she had no soul, no conscience... No heart. I saw someone who didn't care if I died.

My mums burial she never asked me to send her money to come like she would ask me to send her money for other things. She only called me once during that period and never called to ask how preparation was going, the night before my mum was put to the ground and I called her... She asked "baby, you promised to buy me another phone" Jesus! I am talking about my mother's burial and you are talking about another phone. I bought the one she was using and she used that phone for over 3 years after we broke up...

So u can imagine how heartless she was. There are some kind of people I don't forgive... The devils among us are the ones I don't forgive.

Another reason why I don't take all her please is that if the life she chose then had favoured her, she would be the one laughing at me by now.

A lot happened, a lot happened.

Her Immediate elder brother even went to PH to see her in school and she told him lies.

Dude called me one day and spoke to me and I called him back and broke the whole shiit to him. He had to start begging me on her behalf.

The last one she did was when she asked to send her money to visit me and lodge, this was after burial. This girl called her ex, ask me to help her buy something in order 5o discharge me so she can go and meet him.

Well, one thing led to another she left with guy for whatever reasons.

I broke up with her next morning... All these while she always felt right and never apologiises for any thing she does.

It was 3 years later that she told me on phone that she had. Been wanting to tell me something.i told her what... She said she has been wanting to explain what happened at the hotel when left with the guy. I allowed her to talk and after talking, I asked her where is the guy now... She said he left the country... I laughed and asked her, why didn't he take u along if he cared so much. She could not say anything.

She said the guy wasn't happy seeing her at the hotel and that he was her ex(i knew he was when I met them). I asked her who called him, she said she did. Who invited him to the hotel and she said she did... So why didn't he take u abroad with him? No words.

I didn't even had sex with her all the time we dated lol cos I was young and naive...

Her sins too plenty my brother but my mission has yielded good result for me as far as this girl is concerned Na regret dey kill her now and anytime she thinks about me.

Now that you know she regrets bitterly are you now happy? yes she did wrong but know that she was also deceived too, have you not satisfied your urge to see her plead like hell to you? loose her number, let her be, let her forget you since you obviously do not ever want to have anything to do with her anymore

I was actually enjoying your comments until i saw this one, not cool bro, not cool

Danty37:
exactly what happened to me. Where I regret the most was I never fvcked her. I dated this girl while I was still in 200l uniben back then 2012. I invested my money, time and energy to see that everything worked fine. I also promise to marry her not knowing I was building my castle in the air. After wasting 6years of relationship, the next thing I got last two weeks was a whatsapp message and I quote " I know I have really offended you but you need someone better than me". " don't bother about me and take care of yourself ". that's the message I got from her. Thank God I have already a good job in a multi national company that always keep me busy.. I would have committed suicide. It's all for good sha..
thank God she left while things are working out for good.. I was deceived by love and the the girls name is LOVETH. Loveth will never know peace in her marriage and life endeavors. I keep having negative thoughts about her and she will meet her match on a good day. I never bleeped her all in the name of keeping myself till marriage. May God will surely punish her. I used a whole lot of money just to please her, yet she dumped me. As am writing this now, Loveth will have a bad marriage and family.. so shall it be IN JESUS NAME. AMEN

lol... because a girl dumped u.u r invoking causes.u nor get work.my friend get a life n move on.dats life.sometimes u Bleep people n sometimes u get fu**Ked.either way life geos on.if everybody behaving in d same way life will b very boring.dnt u think?

engrelvis:
lol... because a girl dumped u.u r invoking causes.u nor get work.my friend get a life n move on.dats life.sometimes u Bleep people n sometimes u get fu**Ked.either way life geos on.if everybody behaving in d same way life will b very boring.dnt u think?

that's true.. thanks bro.. it's now thing of the past as God has been faithful to me despite my unfaithfulness

SapphirePRINCEX:
Why I no dey meet una type

it is well.. the best is yet to come dear... it's just a matter of time

Danty37:
it is well.. the best is yet to come dear... it's just a matter of time

I hope so... Amen

,i did the breakings though.

doctorkush:
I guess I was lucky to have a beautiful and virtuous lady that truly loves me. But the sad part is that I watched and helped her walk down the aisle with another guy. That really broke my heart and I wish I had fought for her love when she begged me to.
Our parents knew we were dating tho her dad was a pastor, but he approved our relationship which lasted a whole 6years. She is a nurse and will always find time during routine or when busy to call me. When I wasn't paying her much attention anymore (I wasn't staying close but we see during her off days), she called to ask why I am distant from her.I lied that work takes most of my time But it was my side chick who won't let me be.
My babe broke up with me 2016 when she had enough proof I was seeing someone else (tho she suspected but she is a cool headed type that thinks before acting) and told me in quote " I don't share what I own" ...

I always wanted the best for her and I just wasn't ready for marriage then.

After our breakup, I was relocated to another state, but she still calls to check on me and will always tell me " when you are serious, you can come for me". But I love her so much I don't want to hurt her so I kept my distant knowing that if I still keep in touch, she might not date or get serious with someone else.

Not until late last year I went to see her in her dads house, her boyfriend (now husband) met me there. She acted cool and did a casual introduction but we both knew what's up (I really gave the guy a tough time as he started talks of his achievements and personal stuffs trying to intimidate me . naso I gist the guy another side of life wey he never see. That was how baba use style run comot leave me with bae) ...

When she came back, she just smiled and jokingly asked why I sent him aaway. I laughed it off and it was the best moment we have spent together in years. The feeling was heavenly and I just felt like proposing. She then asked when I plan on getting married, I replied her "if I want to, the lady is already taken. Then she said to me " if you truly want her, fight to have her back". And I replied " I love her but can't fight for her" ...

I wish I had done what she asked of me. She called to check on me few weeks to her weeding and I still promised to come home to see her. She only giggled and said " come home or it will be too late because you won't be able to see me again" I thought she was leaving the country.

But I was wrong. She is wrapped in another mans arm happily.

I get broken each time the image of her marriage flashes thru my mind but I'm happy I didn't hurt her feeling. I'm just sad I lost a true love. One I might not find again.

I actually am the cause of my own heart break, tho I did it for love ... Yea, I got the true love but I didn't return it.
I feel that emptiness in me whenever I am alone. I missed her voice tho

All because of side chick... so how do you cope with the loneliness of "I wish" and "had I known"

graciousify:
He asked me to wait for him cos he travelled to the USA. I waited for 3years and two months. missed many opportunities, made so many sacrifices and waited faithfully (God is my witness)because he kept reassuring me that he will be back in December 2017 for our wedding. in march 2017, he told me that his pastors said I am not the bone of his bones, lol. he broke up with me and blocked me everywhere... wow. OK, right now, I am stronger.

ekwensu romansi mami water!! Where is Amadioha and Sango when you need them the most? Chei!!

doctorkush:
I guess I was lucky to have a beautiful and virtuous lady that truly loves me. But the sad part is that I watched and helped her walk down the aisle with another guy. That really broke my heart and I wish I had fought for her love when she begged me to.
Our parents knew we were dating tho her dad was a pastor, but he approved our relationship which lasted a whole 6years. She is a nurse and will always find time during routine or when busy to call me. When I wasn't paying her much attention anymore (I wasn't staying close but we see during her off days), she called to ask why I am distant from her.I lied that work takes most of my time But it was my side chick who won't let me be.
My babe broke up with me 2016 when she had enough proof I was seeing someone else (tho she suspected but she is a cool headed type that thinks before acting) and told me in quote " I don't share what I own" ...

I always wanted the best for her and I just wasn't ready for marriage then.

After our breakup, I was relocated to another state, but she still calls to check on me and will always tell me " when you are serious, you can come for me". But I love her so much I don't want to hurt her so I kept my distant knowing that if I still keep in touch, she might not date or get serious with someone else.

Not until late last year I went to see her in her dads house, her boyfriend (now husband) met me there. She acted cool and did a casual introduction but we both knew what's up (I really gave the guy a tough time as he started talks of his achievements and personal stuffs trying to intimidate me . naso I gist the guy another side of life wey he never see. That was how baba use style run comot leave me with bae) ...

When she came back, she just smiled and jokingly asked why I sent him aaway. I laughed it off and it was the best moment we have spent together in years. The feeling was heavenly and I just felt like proposing. She then asked when I plan on getting married, I replied her "if I want to, the lady is already taken. Then she said to me " if you truly want her, fight to have her back". And I replied " I love her but can't fight for her" ...

I wish I had done what she asked of me. She called to check on me few weeks to her weeding and I still promised to come home to see her. She only giggled and said " come home or it will be too late because you won't be able to see me again" I thought she was leaving the country.

But I was wrong. She is wrapped in another mans arm happily.

I get broken each time the image of her marriage flashes thru my mind but I'm happy I didn't hurt her feeling. I'm just sad I lost a true love. One I might not find again.

I actually am the cause of my own heart break, tho I did it for love ... Yea, I got the true love but I didn't return it.
I feel that emptiness in me whenever I am alone. I missed her voice tho

Doctor how did the francophone parole with the bag of rice go??

Biglittlelois:
Now that you know she regrets bitterly are you now happy? yes she did wrong but know that she was also deceived too, have you not satisfied your urge to see her plead like hell to you? loose her number, let her be, let her forget you since you obviously do not ever want to have anything to do with her anymore

I was actually enjoying your comments until i saw this one, not cool bro, not cool

I understand how you feel. I am the wrongest person to treat like shiiit. I will never forget.

Did you hear that I beat her or hit her? I didn't harm her in any way. What I am doing is psychological...

Next time, she would learn never to take advantage of a genuine heart that cared.

Nobody deceived her... She led herself into it due to greed and bad company that she chose.

People who behave like they are no humans with a heart or soul do not deserve forgiveness or sympathy. If that life had favoured her, she would be the one laughing at me by now.

I had another one who stopped picking my call after first meeting in Benin 2 years after the girl I talked about.

I looked malnourished, unfed as I was still struggling to come out of the wreckage life dumped me.

Same girl called me when I was doing NYSC... Then by 2016, she called me again, asked where she was and she said Lekki. I told her I was there too. We met and she started forming lovey dovey! She also complimented my new look cos I had added lots of weight.

She was ready to offer sex cos she saw the house I was and also happy that she had found a friend in a neighborhood cos she was new then.

She sent me some of her pics in which she wore swim wears, pants and bra.

After that meeting, I made series of meeting and broke them. Never fulfilled anyone.

There are still some of us who are not moved by sex to be honest. I know guys would say I should have eaten her and clean mouth but sincerely, you got to break away from the norm and let these daughters of eve know they ain't worth your sperms.

Never look down, young lady!

americanson:
I understand how you feel. I am the wrongest person to treat like shiiit. I will never forget.

Did you hear that I beat her or hit her? I didn't harm her in any way. What I am doing is psychological...

Next time, she would learn never to take advantage of a genuine heart that cared.

Nobody deceived her... She led herself into it due to greed and bad company that she chose.

People who behave like they are no humans with a heart or soul do not deserve forgiveness or sympathy. If that life had favoured her, she would be the one laughing at me by now.

I had another one who stopped picking my call after first meeting in Benin 2 years after the girl I talked about.

I looked malnourished, unfed as I was still struggling to come out of the wreckage life dumped me.

Same girl called me when I was doing NYSC... Then by 2016, she called me again, asked where she was and she said Lekki. I told her I was there too. We met and she started forming lovey dovey! She also complimented my new look cos I had added lots of weight.

She was ready to offer sex cos she saw the house I was and also happy that she had found a friend in a neighborhood cos she was new then.

She sent me some of her pics in which she wore swim wears, pants and bra.

After that meeting, I made series of meeting and broke them. Never fulfilled anyone.

There are still some of us who are not moved by sex to be honest. I know guys would say I should have eaten her and clean mouth but sincerely, you got to break away from the norm and let these daughters of eve know they ain't worth your sperms.

Never look down, young lady!

You are advising against revenge but you're out for revenge thereby contradicting yourself, okay good for you!!!

Biglittlelois:
You are advising against revenge but you're out for revenge thereby contradicting yourself, okay good for you!!!

lol... I am not revenging in the way you assume. I am only saying... "hey, you look down on me years ago, look what God did with my image that you rejected"

I am just letting them see what I have become!

Jman06:
Never make the mistake the mistake of marrying a lady who is still emotionally attached to her ex. If you make such mistake, be ready to father offsprings sired by that ex of hers.
This is one of the reasons marrying a virgin remains the best.

At emboldened, May the Good creator of all creations bless you richly for that. I always say and pray never to even get serious feelings for someone who isn't one or with one with an unpleasant past.....hell no!

Hybridz:
At emboldened, May the Good creator of all creations bless you richly for that. I always say and pray never to even get serious feelings for someone who isn't one or with one with an unpleasant past.....hell no!

I have this question for you, are you a virgin? does being a virgin guatantee a blissful happy marriage?

Bibi294:
Chai! Check yourself, why are they all leaving after all you did to them? Just maybe, they are not the best for you.. Dont give up on love though..

Tamamam..Merci

Biglittlelois:
I have this question for you, are you a virgin? does being a virgin guatantee a blissful happy marriage?

not necessarily but just as women have preferences like tall, dark, handsome, rich, etc that's how some men prefer virgins. Those things girls list don't necessarily guarantee bliss in a marriage but they still won't settle for less. Some men can't imagine going down on their knees to propose to a girl that different guys have turned had but still didn't deem fit to put a ring on it. it's just all about preference. ladies shouldn't get worked up when guys say they prefer virgins. men don't care when women stare all these things cos more often than not it's only in their dreams...

My own heart break story plenty sha...

When i was in the university i once dated a girl, i was a bad guy, d kind of guy dat if a gal comes to my room in school and i dont fvck her is unless ders a very good reason maybe shes a born again or my sister or one good reason like dat. I lived in off camp my house was pimped i was d biggest boy in the lodge my gen was on 24/7 at least money wasnt a problem i am from at least a comfortable home.

I loved a girl she was a basic student normally uni boys see basic students as loot but this girl was different i really liked her i always encouraged her and all those things. She wud come to my house i wud buy her sammies and give her at least 1k for tp just back to school if she wants to make her hair if she told me i gave her money but we never had sex b4 because shes a V and i tot i had found a life partner.

If its her bday a gift is assured i never gave her a gift below 10k, we continued with this mumuism for years.

She went into modelling do u know dat this girl the moment i had small financial issues she stoped picking my calls or replying my chats. Infact she didnt tell me we were breaking up she just stopped contacting me one day i went to a club i saw her with a guy from my area she just tried to famz nd started telling me long time.

Am done with school i am at least comfortable i dont hv a gf coz i hv serious trust issues. If you are sm1 i like i dont put my emotions i dont even call you at all or spend money on you even if you want to die but i can tk u to a club nd get you high so we cud fvck so that if you bounce i wont feel like smbodi left.

OneSentence:
not necessarily but just as women have preferences like tall, dark, handsome, rich, etc that's how some men prefer virgins. Those things girls list don't necessarily guarantee bliss in a marriage but they still won't settle for less. Some men can't imagine going down on their knees to propose to a girl that different guys have turned had but still didn't deem fit to put a ring on it. it's just all about preference. ladies shouldn't get worked up when guys say they prefer virgins. men don't care when women stare all these things cos more often than not it's only in their dreams...

I get your point, but they make it sound like being a virgin is the next best thing than ice-cream like the hymen will never be cut, when reality sets in will they still be thinking of virginity, wont they move on to other things

Biglittlelois:
I have this question for you, are you a virgin? does being a virgin guatantee a blissful happy marriage?

It doesn't matter but I can guarantee you my 'sperm' iis thicker and richer than Naija unrefined 'oyel'
Nah! But it does reduce the tensions of a not so rosy one provided the parties involved respect each other.


Give me a virgin anyday,anytime,anywhere...i dont have time for any 'sexually generous' lass

Biglittlelois:
I get your point, but they make it sound like being a virgin is the next best thing than ice-cream like the hymen will never be cut, when reality sets in will they still be thinking of virginity, wont they move on to other things

Assuming the reality is favourable, yea,being a virgin is the best thing next to a respectful spouse.


Aren't you a VIRGIN?

alexistaiwo:
Protection is very importance na

yeah all the matches must be under 0.5 ��

alexistaiwo:
Protection is very importance na

yeah all the matches must be under 0.5

xxgig:
yeah all the matches must be under 0.5

Funniest thing is that my last two encounter with her was raw.

She's even coming today.

Lord save my soul.

alexistaiwo:
Funniest thing is that my last two encounter with her was raw.

She's even coming today.

Lord save my soul.

Amen! You should help yourself and save your life.

xxgig:
Amen! You should help yourself and save your life.

I will.
Thanks

Heart break is what some of you guys experienced, Mine was HEART BURN, I just cant start explaining but always thank God for your own and dont wish for mine... it's just the Grace of God that brought me back. And now that i'm back, i will maintain good relationship with all my ex(es) cos they will be in for serious TORMENT, just that my good brothers out there would have a lil share... hahahahakikikiki LOL