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Respect55:
Recently, wives kill their husbands more. Hope u know that

912:
Beating your girlfriend or wife shouldn't be condoned by any lady that has self respect and should never be done by a man that is responsible. There is absolutely no excuse for it whatsoever. Whether you are drunk or sober you should never lay your hand on a woman. Worse case if the atmosphere is tensed walk away and sort it out later. Yes you guys can have heated arguments but a real man must never beat up a woman. That's just wrong. And any woman who would forgive such behaviour doesn't know what she is getting into. So my advice to any lady that is in a physically abusive relationship is: if you still have any self dignity, RUN!!!!!!!!

Respect55:
Sometimes, people will just post rubbish to garner likes. Now take this for an instance. There is this my neighbour who gave birth not quite long. So customarily, the man's mum was brought from the village for Omugo. The man works. So one day, he went to work only to return and found the woman almost unclear. The wife beat up this woman and tore her clothes. To her she is messing up the house. Out of anger the gentleman beat up this woman (his wife) so well that she passed out. She later regained consciousness in the hospital. She with her people went to court claiming domestic abuse.


It's a long story sha.

Toks2008:
I could not hold back tears after i saw this thread on frontpage...https://www.nairaland.com/4394781/congolese-man-beats-wife-death

If there is one thing I'm most certain about,it is the fact that the signs have always been there but this lady probably ignored them.

Many ladies have been advised to stay with a violent husband for the sake of the children or to avoid what people will say but I see this as a very dangerous advise that may cause the lady her life.

If you are a lady in an affair with a man whether dating or marriage and he raises his hands to hit you and he apologizes please forgive him and assume it's a mistake if that is his very first time but if he does it again please run cos it is a habbit he may never stop.

If he comes back begging and you are not yet married to him please forgive him but don't risk it but if you are already married to him please make him sign an undertaken in any human right center or police station that he will never raise his hands to strike you again.Dont allow foolishness in the name of love make you stay with a violent man cos your life is far worth more than a miserable union.

No woman should disrespect her husband or man in anyway but no man has any reason to raise his hands to beat any woman because it is an act of insanity and any man who does that is a beast that should not live among humans but in the jungle with wild beasts like him.

And same goes for the violent ladies who are fond of destroying items or threatening with knives or dangerous object whenever they are angry...Any man faced with this type of woman should also run as far as he can if she exhibits such act repeatedly.

I hope this makes sense.

Toks2008:
I could not hold back tears after i saw this thread on frontpage...https://www.nairaland.com/4394781/congolese-man-beats-wife-death

If there is one thing I'm most certain about,it is the fact that the signs have always been there but this lady probably ignored them.

Many ladies have been advised to stay with a violent husband for the sake of the children or to avoid what people will say but I see this as a very dangerous advise that may cause the lady her life.

If you are a lady in an affair with a man whether dating or marriage and he raises his hands to hit you and he apologizes please forgive him and assume it's a mistake if that is his very first time but if he does it again please run cos it is a habbit he may never stop.

If he comes back begging and you are not yet married to him please forgive him but don't risk it but if you are already married to him please make him sign an undertaken in any human right center or police station that he will never raise his hands to strike you again.Dont allow foolishness in the name of love make you stay with a violent man cos your life is far worth more than a miserable union.

No woman should disrespect her husband or man in anyway but no man has any reason to raise his hands to beat any woman because it is an act of insanity and any man who does that is a beast that should not live among humans but in the jungle with wild beasts like him.

And same goes for the violent ladies who are fond of destroying items or threatening with knives or dangerous object whenever they are angry...Any man faced with this type of woman should also run as far as he can if she exhibits such act repeatedly.

I hope this makes sense.

912:
Beating your girlfriend or wife shouldn't be condoned by any lady that has self respect and should never be done by a man that is responsible. There is absolutely no excuse for it whatsoever. Whether you are drunk or sober you should never lay your hand on a woman. Worse case if the atmosphere is tensed walk away and sort it out later. Yes you guys can have heated arguments but a real man must never beat up a woman. That's just wrong. And any woman who would forgive such behaviour doesn't know what she is getting into. So my advice to any lady that is in a physically abusive relationship is: if you still have any self dignity, RUN!!!!!!!!

donstan18:
The major problem is that partners of these days no longer pay attention, learn and observe the necessary things they are suppose to observe from their partner while courting and dating.

They date with misplaced priorities, they don't put to test to dictate some possible unforeseen trauma.

davillian:
Men that are jealous and quick to anger
Ladies should stay away from them but they won't listen .
Probably because of the huge dick they enjoy,the guys money they enjoy and the fact they have been bragging about him to their friends
Shame will not let them go anywere .
They will be chopping beating up and down and claiming they fell from bike

Constantiney:
Please ladies and gentlemen,
Dont mind these idiots and animals talking about second chance, if it happens once, please leave, if you don't, i assure you it'll happen again.

If a woman hit you, the best thing is to run from that scene as soon as you can, if you listen to these van dammes on this thread n hit her back n she dies, you will end up in jail alone, thats reality.

For the menfolks hitting ladies at the slightest provocation and to the idiots talking about second chances, using god as an example, you are not a god, you are an animal and i hope you hit someone that would get you arrested n sent to jail where you idiots would be raped endlessly.

Morons.

samir101ng:
Chop Knuckle jare. No man turns into Mike Tyson overnight. The symptoms must have been there. But of course, our new crop of nigerian women have different priorities. A good example is the daily stories of yahoo boys and their victims making the news daily. Shebi, you want Ferari and Dubai trips !!! Be prepared to pay for it with your soul. Whoopi Goldberg made a good argument for men retaliating when being physically abused by their women. If a women hits you, hit her back. Shebi, feminists are saying men and women are equal. So, why should men be boxed into a corner and made to accept both verbal and physical abuse and not retaliate because it's a woman doing it. Just imagine the hypocrisy. No one advocates that men should be beating their wives but what is good for the goose is also good for the gander. Do me I do you. Shebi, we are "equal" partners in the marriage. Love, respect and honour me and I will do the same. But physically and verbally assault me and I will dish it out to you also. I won't start a fight but I will definitely finish one. Nobody should condone abuse of any kind to any member of the sexes. Both women and men should be held responsible for their attitudes and manners in a relationship.

AsianLoyalist:
A man can't hit a woman but a woman can hit a man? Can you even hear yourself?.

If a woman hit you, you have every right to hit her back.

You've no right to hit someone unless he/she hit you.

As long as the man didn't die when he was hit by the woman, the woman won't die if she's hit in defence by the man.

Pussywhipped assholes everywhere

912:
Beating your girlfriend or wife shouldn't be condoned by any lady that has self respect and should never be done by a man that is responsible. There is absolutely no excuse for it whatsoever. Whether you are drunk or sober you should never lay your hand on a woman. Worse case if the atmosphere is tensed walk away and sort it out later. Yes you guys can have heated arguments but a real man must never beat up a woman. That's just wrong. And any woman who would forgive such behaviour doesn't know what she is getting into. So my advice to any lady that is in a physically abusive relationship is: if you still have any self dignity, RUN!!!!!!!!

Bianda24:
This reminds me of a lady I was dating in 2008-2010. She was a very good girl to me, homely, caring and loving. On my own side, I loved her too. I wanted to marry her until she showed me the stuff she is made of.

I had concluded my national youth service and was looking for job, when the job was not forth coming, I decided to further my study. I met this lady shortly before I picked the form, so I think I was giving her all the attention but when the program started fully, I had to face my study while she was not getting the much needed attention.

The next thing is that this lady started misbehaving and suspecting that I had another lady on campus. I tried to explain to her the challenge in postgraduate studies but all my plea fell on deaf ear.

One certain day, we had a quarrel over the same matter, the next thing I saw was that she dashed into my kitchen and brought a knife, I was afraid while my cousin who was with me at that time helped me to collect the knife from her, we bundled her outside and my cousin locked the door while I was with her.

While with her outside, she was vituperating and saying all sort of things before I say Jack, she picked one of the louvers we removed from the window during renovation and wanted to throw it at me. I started begging her, thinking about it later, I have to thank my star that she did not throw that louvers that day.

I was begging this lady with what I have, eventually when her anger subsided, she left. Since that day, I knew I will never marry her. She came begging but I stood my ground.

Such lady is capable of inflicting injury or even kill.so I took a drastic decision, thank God that I did.

912:
Beating your girlfriend or wife shouldn't be condoned by any lady that has self respect and should never be done by a man that is responsible. There is absolutely no excuse for it whatsoever. Whether you are drunk or sober you should never lay your hand on a woman. Worse case if the atmosphere is tensed walk away and sort it out later. Yes you guys can have heated arguments but a real man must never beat up a woman. That's just wrong. And any woman who would forgive such behaviour doesn't know what she is getting into. So my advice to any lady that is in a physically abusive relationship is: if you still have any self dignity, RUN!!!!!!!!

zedman1:
Let me tell you a long story. Sometimes you never know how these things happen until it happens to you. I could swear on papa's grave that I'd never raise my hand on a woman but unfortunately I once did! I would'nt put the blame on alchohol cos I was fully conscious of my action, I had downed just a bottle. We had known each other when we were still very young. It was one hell of a relationship that I made several attempts to leave but I could'nt, she would'nt let me- yes, I was so soft hearted that I forgave her for every crap she did whenever she came back. She was like a demond sent to torment me to death, extremely beautiful she was, very very pretty,not just in my eyes. Maybe that was what blinded me. At that moment it happened, even as I raised my hand in an attempt to give her a very dirty slap, I realized when my open palm was mid-way to her face that I had messed up big time so I tried to hold back and ended up pushing her face a little. We were both shocked! I apologized IMMIDIATELY and left the scene. That night, knowing what I had done, the intent alone was killing me, so in my misery I sent her a text that we could no longer be together, but insead she came back two days letter begging again! After some thoughts I forgave her but
the next three weeks after that event was like hell, it was like she turned up her evil volume to the max. Anyway, we broke up when I went to see her but met her absence. She had requested some cash to go to the hospital that she was a bit under the weather but little did I know she needed the money for transport to Lagos to go meet some big guy who claimed he loved her ( I knew about this guy) and wanted to marry her. I called her, she told me the details bluntly and as I ended the call, I never called again, niether did she. To cut the long story short, between them there was an introduction, an engagement but the marriage did not hold. That was about three years ago. Until today as I type she's still trying hard to find a way to get back to me but that fence I built while she was away cannot be pulled down anymore. Do not judge cos you might be in the same situation some day. Im not justifying wife beating but sometimes it might be a mistake that warrants forgiveness, perhaps just once as the OP suggests.Sometimes it's even the 'good guys' that end up being wife beaters. Pray you never fall for a pretty lady with a very bad character( I was told most of them have that), I did'nt pen down the uncountable and unthinkable things she did to me here. And pray you never loose your cool. Thanks.

KinzyeWriter:
E be lyk say you don see a perplex first time beating before abi?

Well, I understand your view though..


If the beating is too much for the first time... Just run

But if it a back hand slap... Ladies ruuuuuuuuun

If it is Mike Tyson know upper jam... Just die there

Toks2008:
I could not hold back tears after i saw this thread on frontpage...https://www.nairaland.com/4394781/congolese-man-beats-wife-death

If there is one thing I'm most certain about,it is the fact that the signs have always been there but this lady probably ignored them.

Many ladies have been advised to stay with a violent husband for the sake of the children or to avoid what people will say but I see this as a very dangerous advise that may cause the lady her life.

If you are a lady in an affair with a man whether dating or marriage and he raises his hands to hit you and he apologizes please forgive him and assume it's a mistake if that is his very first time but if he does it again please run cos it is a habbit he may never stop.

If he comes back begging and you are not yet married to him please forgive him but don't risk it but if you are already married to him please make him sign an undertaken in any human right center or police station that he will never raise his hands to strike you again.Dont allow foolishness in the name of love make you stay with a violent man cos your life is far worth more than a miserable union.

No woman should disrespect her husband or man in anyway but no man has any reason to raise his hands to beat any woman because it is an act of insanity and any man who does that is a beast that should not live among humans but in the jungle with wild beasts like him.

And same goes for the violent ladies who are fond of destroying items or threatening with knives or dangerous object whenever they are angry...Any man faced with this type of woman should also run as far as he can if she exhibits such act repeatedly.

I hope this makes sense.Yes. it really make sense to me

Toks2008:
I hope lalasticlala beams this.

sisisioge:
At least you didn't hit her. At least you knew it was a screewup. At least you were sane enough to understand the toxicity of the relationship... Some people would rather kill or be killed in the name of staying together. One eddiot sef on NL once opened a thread to justify why he beats his gf! Ultimately, may God bless us with fair people.

BluntBoy:
Don't mind those ones

Some elderly men even give younger men such advice: "When your wife annoys you, don't eat her food or refuse to have sex with her". Disrespect just can't be ruled out in relationships. It would happen, except when one of the partners is a robot. No one is perfect and our imperfections would always reflect in our relationships with one another.