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Re: Avoidable Things Couples Do Which Lead To Divorce by Nobody: 3:11pm On Jul 06, 2018
Swagahyk:
Married woman keeping male besties, In the mame of being social.


Such kind of women are just disgusting! I remember my lady then, she would sit in group of guys so careless, discussing inconsequential stuff. and I'm like which kind woman be this, visiting unmarried men, discussing and hitting them on the chest ehh!

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Re: Avoidable Things Couples Do Which Lead To Divorce by oobinna: 4:25pm On Jul 06, 2018
hisgrace090:
Let's love leads, according to Tb Joshua.

When you do, love will blind you.

When it get you blinded, both of you will stop seeing fault.
Love can only get you blinded during courtship. But trust me, marriage will certainly open the blindness.

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Re: Avoidable Things Couples Do Which Lead To Divorce by PropertyDeals(f): 5:24pm On Jul 06, 2018
Thank you for this.
Re: Avoidable Things Couples Do Which Lead To Divorce by Swagahyk(m): 6:23pm On Jul 06, 2018
unpredictedone:



Such kind of women are just disgusting! I remember my lady then, she would sit in group of guys so careless, discussing inconsequential stuff. and I'm like which kind woman be this, visiting unmarried men, discussing and hitting them on the chest ehh!

Its common among girls that get married early, they don't know what marriage is about.
Re: Avoidable Things Couples Do Which Lead To Divorce by bukatyne(f): 6:41pm On Jul 06, 2018
hisgrace090:
Let's love leads, according to Tb Joshua.

When you do, love will blind you.

When it get you blinded, both of you will stop seeing fault.

Hahahahahahahahahhahahahahahaha

Funny however true if both of you are blind together. If it is only one blind person; 'wahala dey' in p-square's voice.

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Re: Avoidable Things Couples Do Which Lead To Divorce by sammirano: 6:56pm On Jul 06, 2018
Any single or married lady that hasn't seen Acrimony 2018 film is not complete.
Re: Avoidable Things Couples Do Which Lead To Divorce by nemynely(m): 12:35pm On Jul 07, 2018
Trexnemesis:
Honestly, marriage sucks. If I had known, I would have stayed single and asked God for grace to sustain me.
A relationship that takes energy from you at every contact or interaction is not worth it. A relationship where ur partner cannot accept a fault or willingly say sorry to any wrong, is not worth it. A relationship where you add to your God-given roles and responsibilities what your partner should naturally and flawlessly take care of, is not worth it.
Things become more and more unbearable as you age, and resentment creeps in. The thought of continuing to do this till you die drives you crazy until eventually you explode and look for avenues of escape.
This is what so many homes particularly christian, where a partner confidently feels you are stuck with him or her and makes no effort at changing, face.
Regret.

Not entirely true dear. Marriage is beautiful for a hardworking, sincere, dedicated, trustworthy and mature couple. It is best amongst true Christians.let me give you a few reasons and instances:
Hardworking - means both are ready to make the marriage work, contributing their quota in whatever ratio, financially and otherwise to the success of their union.
Sincere - means both are open to hard truths from either partner with a bid to make amends, apologize, get better not even, in an atmosphere of love.
Dedicated - means the hard work, sincerity, trust, love is for as long as either partner is alive. It requires frequent appraisal with a view to do things better.
Trustworthy - means a partner can be in sokoto and the other partner in Lagos can go to sleep knowing that nothing will be done to tamper with the bond between them.
Mature - this is the summation of the successful marriage armamentarium. When kids get married, all you opined above and more are bound to occur. Please don't misconstrue age for maturity. It is a given that under 18 are minors. After 18, one is classed an adult. I have seen some 30's and 40's who behave like they are 16, both in reasoning and character.
It's maturity that makes each partner alive to their respective responsibilities and roles. With maturity, role swap can be carried out so long as both agree and it eases things up in the home.
It's maturity that makes room for 100% openness in all areas of the home including finances. A lot of issues arise when there isn't total financial transparency.
It's maturity that makes partners yield to each other, accept faults, apologize to one another, selfless, put the interest of their partner first, want to become better etc.
Finally it's maturity that makes a couple keep themselves in shape, attractive to each other, do those things they did while courting all in a bid to keep the fire of love blazing hot!
I do these and more, got married at 28 to my agemate. We are both 40 now and after 12 years and 5 children, it's like we just started"eyeing" ourselves yesterday.
Yes, there is a God factor but you have your part to play.
Marriage is wonderful dear.

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Re: Avoidable Things Couples Do Which Lead To Divorce by austinereds(m): 9:19pm On Jul 07, 2018
nemynely:


Not entirely true dear. Marriage is beautiful for a hardworking, sincere, dedicated, trustworthy and mature couple. It is best amongst true Christians.let me give you a few reasons and instances:
Hardworking - means both are ready to make the marriage work, contributing their quota in whatever ratio, financially and otherwise to the success of their union.
Sincere - means both are open to hard truths from either partner with a bid to make amends, apologize, get better not even, in an atmosphere of love.
Dedicated - means the hard work, sincerity, trust, love is for as long as either partner is alive. It requires frequent appraisal with a view to do things better.
Trustworthy - means a partner can be in sokoto and the other partner in Lagos can go to sleep knowing that nothing will be done to tamper with the bond between them.
Mature - this is the summation of the successful marriage armamentarium. When kids get married, all you opined above and more are bound to occur. Please don't misconstrue age for maturity. It is a given that under 18 are minors. After 18, one is classed an adult. I have seen some 30's and 40's who behave like they are 16, both in reasoning and character.
It's maturity that makes each partner alive to their respective responsibilities and roles. With maturity, role swap can be carried out so long as both agree and it eases things up in the home.
It's maturity that makes room for 100% openness in all areas of the home including finances. A lot of issues arise when there isn't total financial transparency.
It's maturity that makes partners yield to each other, accept faults, apologize to one another, selfless, put the interest of their partner first, want to become better etc.
Finally it's maturity that makes a couple keep themselves in shape, attractive to each other, do those things they did while courting all in a bid to keep the fire of love blazing hot!
I do these and more, got married at 28 to my agemate. We are both 40 now and after 12 years and 5 children, it's like we just started"eyeing" ourselves yesterday.
Yes, there is a God factor but you have your part to play.
Marriage is wonderful dear.

you deserve a bottle of Heineken. More simplified.
Re: Avoidable Things Couples Do Which Lead To Divorce by Veriton(m): 1:16am On Dec 23, 2020
Oh, this is a really good article and hope and helpful for somebody. Sometimes divorce is such an unavoidable situation and are periods that divorces get pretty ugly in the end. I have a friend that is in an unhealthy situation and I see that some of your bits of advice are relatable to her situation. She has the fear to tell her husband that she wants a divorce and I know this is such a big mistake. I want to help her and these days I looked online to find some info and I found this site where they speak mainly about how to tell husbands about divorce and it helped her get through this.
Re: Avoidable Things Couples Do Which Lead To Divorce by Dysaen(f): 5:21pm On Dec 30, 2020
Veriton:
Oh, this is a really good article and hope and helpful for somebody. Sometimes divorce is such an unavoidable situation and are periods that divorces get pretty ugly in the end. I have a friend that is in an unhealthy situation and I see that some of your bits of advice are relatable to her situation. She has the fear to tell her husband that she wants a divorce and I know this is such a big mistake. I want to help her and these days I looked online to find some info and I found this site where they speak mainly about how to tell husbands about divorce and it helped her get through this.

i am sorry for her, she is so brave !

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