| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by cococandy(f): 9:28pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Yea a new woman he can kick out when he feels like. Did to really say him asking her to pack out was no being deal? Fvcking irritating post CSTR1005:
Alright then.
At least she has a house to sell or lease to take care of her children and then hope some man somewhere finds her interesting enough to come in and play the role of a father for her children and a companion.
By then, the husband would have moved on, rent a new house, find a new woman he trusts to respect him and build a family with him.
Win -win. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by cococandy(f): 9:29pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
CSTR1005:
I hope the house in question is big enough to yield enough revenue to take care of the children by the time the husband use vex Waka.
Nobody will bear the responsibility or the consequences of your actions with you.
I am done with this thread. Being single is better than living with your enemy. The time when you threaten women into miserable lives with the fear of walking away is over. I’m sure if he ‘vex waka’, she will survive 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Physika(f): 9:32pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall:
The property only is in my name but we built it together
@Acidosis |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Opinionated: 9:34pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
A woman is entitled to property with her money. If your husband wants to live under "his own roof", let him get another home- either rented, built or bought. You can move with him there.
Let out your property. This man might kick you out the next time you have a disagreement if he has even partial ownership.
Not good for you or your children. 8 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by cococandy(f): 9:38pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
divinelove:
Calm down
Husband and wife ordinarily are supposed to be one, all these are caused by lack of trust and firm believe in oneness. The man married the woman and not the other way round. The husband is head to his wife n DTS not hard to figure out.
Any woman who cannot stay under a man should not consider marriage, after all marriage is not a must Your post is annoyingly disgusting. First of all there is no under or above in marriage. It’s a partnership.a partnership that requires investment and sacrifice from both parties not one person. Secondly, if she had used her share of the money to take care of her own family like he did, they wouldn’t have a home now for him to claim. Maybe that’s what she should have done to save herself unnecessary heartache. Her asking him to agree to 50-50 ownership is basically him getting 75% of the proceeds of the business (since he used his own 50% earlier). That’s actually very unfair to her and I think she’s very kind for agreeing to that. You want her to give away more because if she doesn’t appease his ego the marriage won’t last. Who wants that kind of life for themselves? And what kind of person thinks that’s okay? I’m utterly disgusted at the lot of you who see nothing wrong with that. You’re despicable. For a mature man to not plan for his future speaks a lot about they kind of person he is. Basically he’s annoyed right now because she has refused to give him 100% of the proceeds of their hard work together. In your demented minds, that’s what a woman deserves. 0% of the fruit of her labor in exchange for the title of Mrs? 23 Likes 6 Shares |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Evacroft: 9:39pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall:
Yes it is not a small money, his dad had an ailment he had to be flown out, he used the remaining to complete their house, he's the first born, now they think i'm evil cos of all he did for them, it's really saddening Let anybody think what they want to think, if u are their daughter and these happens they won't be there thinking bout money and how evil u are ,they will rather think of reuniting u guys. Once ur husband gets that house they will support him to leave u so don't give him. since he can't sort out his issues and he's letting money rule your home. Am sure if he built d house excluding ur name in it and u find out u won't just pack out of the house and abandon ur family, so stop feeling guilty. I pray he comes to his senses and come back home . 6 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by CSTR1005: 9:49pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
cococandy:
Yea a new woman he can kick out when he feels like.
Did to really say him asking her to pack out was no being deal?
Fvcking irritating post
Why can't you and I ever agree on a topic? 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 9:55pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Nigerian society has reduced women to nothing. U don't have a life without a ring.
Nonsense.
Babes are wiser these days. At the end of the day, It's the women that suffers more if marriage hits the rock or in some tradition when the husband is no more the family members will start opening their eyes in matters that doesn't concern them.
There is nothing like I love my spouse so much I can't use my sense while loving.
Some ladies names here are not included in the next of kin or in any property they have.
Hmm,pity is your name.
Men that are so unpredictable.
Okay o.
Back to the topic, madam, if actually the story is true and u want to change the name to Mr and Mrs, that's the first step. It will be fully Mr before the yr runs out. And since he is a proud man, he will still throw u out of the house with ur kids.
Sorry is ur name if u do that. 9 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 9:56pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
CSTR1005:
Why can't you and I ever agree on a topic?
U like her a lot. And love her outputs too. |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 10:03pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
tabithababy:
Sharp woman
Greedy thief used his own money for his family and wants to chop out of the woman's money too 
I don't even understand all these joint business in marriage sef cos most times, the woman end up loosing
Op, change the property name to his and watch him throw you and your children out without blinking an eye . Ur head is there my dear. That's how they will be using women's head all the time in the name of love. And the mumu woman will be doing love lovina while the man is busy strategizing. When U know that odds are against u naturally to start afresh like your husband and being a mother that will never abandon her kids, u will love with eyes wide open. Simple 4 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by CSTR1005: 10:03pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
sassysure:
U like her a lot.
And love her outputs too.
I think she is married though.
If not, I would have tried to woo her. |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 10:10pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
CSTR1005:
I think she is married though.
If not, I would have tried to woo her. I have been following your cat and dog fight anytime I'm online and I knew u like her very much Yea,she is married with a kid and another on the way. But,u love independent and sassy women so get one like her offline. They are actually softies and fun to be with. No bone except their sassy mouth. 1 Like |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by CSTR1005: 10:15pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
sassysure:
I have been following your cat and dog fight anytime I'm online and I knew u like her very much
Yea,she is married with a kid and another on the way.
But,u love independent and sassy women so get one like her offline. They are actually softies and fun to be with. No bone except their sassy mouth.
Truth 2 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Bluffly: 10:18pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
sholatech:
Change it to Mr & Mrs ABC. It is allowed. That way, it is now for both of you. No. Rather in a correct manner Mr so so so and Mrs so so so. |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Lomprico2: 10:19pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for
Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.
Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.
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If u do, he kicks u out! Its better u hold unto the house. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by DWJOBScom(m): 10:20pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall:
He doesnt want that, i suggested it he said no, he has to be in charge fully not jointly i don't know how to say it after seeing this one o and the realisation that he asked you to leave the house too.... Leave him alone o and take care of your children. The situation took for a turn because you begged but i also don't know what was traded during the misunderstanding as ladies eh, una words na bokoharam. Just encourage yourself and be strong, be there for your children and we all be praying for the situation and it will come around. should he call, be cool and polite but stick to the plans of MR AND MRS ABC! |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Lexusgs430: 10:21pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for
Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.
Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.
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Madam, it's very simple. Draw out an invoice detailing how much it fully cost you to build the house... Split figure both ways, when he pays the other half, add his name to the deed.... If he refuses to fully pay up, you don't add his name... Simple..... People never get accolades for remaining married..... 4 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by phreakabitoo: 10:21pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for
Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.
Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.
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Una build house together you register am for your name?
No be thief be this?
Na your type SARS and EFCC dey find for street. . .
You are lucky it's not me. Na lawsuit straight.
You go prison, I divorce you and get a new queen shikena. 6 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 10:21pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for
Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.
Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.
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If you change it to his name you are a fool, must you have a husband have you heard that husband or wife took anyone to heaven? Think about your kids here, if that house was in his name you and your kids will be in the street now with another woman reaping the fruit of you labor , Abeg watch out, who husband or wife help. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Imustreturn(m): 10:21pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for
Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.
Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.
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go on facebook.. Join ranthq and post this there now now |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Bluffly: 10:22pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for
Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.
Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.
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Please if you must adjust the name make sure it is in this order as that is when you can say that you are a co owner Mr Kunke Akin Adeniran and Mrs Bimbo Kemi Adeniran 5 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by sacramento1212: 10:23pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
phreakabitoo:
Una build house together you register am for your name?
No be thief be this?
Na your type SARS and EFCC dey find for street. . .
You are lucky it's not me. Na lawsuit straight.
You go prison, I divorce you and get a new queen.  |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 10:23pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Hey....
Don't ever change nothing.
You are a human being ad you have rights.
.
You deserve to own property in your name.
You deserve to be respected.
You deserve to live a good life.
.
That man must be seriously crazy to want you to change the details of that house.
He is your husband but not your God.
Don't get yourself killed or live in regrets because of marriage. It is not a do or die.
Walk out of it if you are not comfortable..
You are not his SLAVE.
If after you try to reason with him and it fails... File for divorce and take your life back.
Re marry biko.
Enjoy your life my dear.
My two cents 5 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Nobody: 10:23pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Property in my name, property in your name. Till we start seeing that there isn't happiness in these things, many relationships will struggle with having peace. Why would a man who has hustled with his wife find it easy to tell her to pack out? I think you ought to have avoided that argument with him. Don't argue with a man. Just let him be. When you don't, he realises his folly. However, I think it's very insensitive for him to have the guts to tell you to pack out. Don't beg him. let him work the transfer to whatever state. He will walk back home himself. 5 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Fsekillmonger: 10:24pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
LewsTherin:
Ok, got that.
Now like I said, normally, I am all for playing the fool in a relationship but your husband has set a bad precedent. First, he changed a joint agreement meant for your joint family in favour of his own family. Then he kicked you out of his house (as he thought it was). Then he insists you use your share of a joint decision, a decision that he reneged on, for his own benefit. Insisted on that twice ie before he knew it was in yiur name and after he knew it was in your name.
That is not good. Basically he has shown he is willing to abandon you and your kids if he “feels” like it. Sweetheart, no offense intended, but you don't have a good husband.
My advice to you and those in similar straits is
First, pray for your husband. Pray for God to change his person, to change his ways. If he claims to be a Christian, he sure as heck isn't showing Christ-like characters
Plan for your kids. Not to the exemption of your husband, but until he shows he can be different, plan to be able to live without him for your kids. I didn't say leave him. I said to be able to live without him. Different things.
Like you have been adviced, get an independent third party to mediate and see how that goes. I understand why you don't want to let your family know but it is dicey if they don't especially as he has involved his family from the beginning. I don't agree, but I understand. Maybe a compromise will be to tell your dad. Not your mum, not your sisters. Women by nature are very emotional and they can let their emotions overwhelm them. Tell your dad in confidence and ask him to keep it that way.
Finally, under no circumstances whatsoever should you add his name to that document. In mediations, the best you should do is to place the property in a trust for your children. Children! Not you, not him, not Mr and Mrs. Put it in the names of ALL your kids with a caveat that it cannot be sold by any one until all kids are above 18 years old.
Most of all, seek mediation and pray a lot for him.
My own advice. Nuff said bro, madam your husband is not trustworthy, instead of him to be throwing such childish tantrum as to want to transfer and blackmail you emotionally not even thinking of the effect on the kids of such a move, you better go to God, claim your innocence , leave the case for HIM to settle and move on with your life with or without him,as it is...your kids should be uour pre-occupation now not some one who is ready to kick you out on a whim. 7 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by KingTom(m): 10:24pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Eketem:
I am confused as to why you are begging him.
You both got paid from a business
He used his own share for his parents, you used your own to build a house now he got angry and decided to kick you out of your own house, you told him it wasn't possible.
He gets angry and moves out
Let him stay out, he is a wicked man that would have been happy to see you out on the streets with your kids begging him up and down.
I don't understand why you are now begging him.
I don't know why Nigerian women are so desperate to keep wicked men I swear I just don't understand 7 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by TheKingIsHere: 10:24pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for
Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.
Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.
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If you love your life and that of ur children do not change it. His plan was to get rid of you after he used his own money for his parents. You will be the most fo0lish person on earth if you change it 7 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Imustreturn(m): 10:26pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall:
When he told me he wants to use his share for his parents, we agreed my share would be used for get a property then we start to build from there and that's what i did, i expected he knows i would use my name cos i keep the documents, now he is saying he wants his own name only not jointly, who says that pls, at least i compromised for jointly, that guy has a plan. Trust me he has. If u change it, ur life will remain miserable. 4 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by mimimile93: 10:26pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Give him time he is coming back home. Na shakara him dey do for u. All these mommy boys.. Him mama dom over pamper ram spoil. Wen toto hungry am he go come back.. Relax jare.. Sissy husband |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by Bluffly: 10:28pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
dingbang:
How did you manage to put your name as the owner or the house without letting him know? You are a snitch Why not ask her too why she allowed him to use her own money alone to build the house when he has his. Is he a dunce, Obviously he wasn't that involved in the building process. 4 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by ruffhandu: 10:28pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
HEseesall:
I
Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house,
He cant expect me to change it to his name.
His attempt to throw you out, whether he meant it or not, speaks volumes. let me advise you, listen very carefully: As much as you can, remain faithful and submissive to your husband. Whatever you do, ensure you don't change the name to his full name. The worst you can do is change it to both of you, as in, mr x a kkk and mrs p. o. Heseesall. pls don't change to mr and mrs x a kkk because if he picks up and marries another woman, himself and the other woman are also mr and mrs x a kkk. You have been sufficiently advised. 9 Likes |
| Re: My Husband's Pride Wants To Ruin Our Home by marylandcakes: 10:28pm On Jul 14, 2018 |
Don’t change the name on the property, your husband didn’t build the house why must he have sole ownership? A man who was about to put you and your kids on the street. I think there are too many underlying problems here that need to be resolved. 5 Likes |
