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MsGood:
I'm a Pastor's kid and I don't see anything wrong with attending morning devotion or church services. It's challenging to wake up early for church (RCCG) but my major challenge was waiting for my parents go from meeting to meetings after service. It was annoying.
Another one is annoying people monitoring your life for any mistake to be able to say "she's a pastor's daughter o". I hate that statement and I'm always ready to snap at anyone who says it. I tell them " I am God's daughter and I'm not in anyway ashamed of making mistakes".

MsGood:
I'm a Pastor's kid and I don't see anything wrong with attending morning devotion or church services. It's challenging to wake up early for church (RCCG) but my major challenge was waiting for my parents go from meeting to meetings after service. It was annoying.
Another one is annoying people monitoring your life for any mistake to be able to say "she's a pastor's daughter o". I hate that statement and I'm always ready to snap at anyone who says it. I tell them " I am God's daughter and I'm not in anyway ashamed of making mistakes".

DrayZee:
You don't know why? Isn't that what the OP just explained?

awoo47:
see what a pastor daughter is saying...

shame on you....

MsGood:
I don't see anything shameful is what I wrote, bro. I'm always real and plain. I love God and enjoy my relationship with him.That's all that matters to me and that's what I'll teach my children. I'm now a teens teacher. I wake up early for church and attend church programmes willing.
P.S: Everything I said was in past tense because they happened when I was younger. I still don't like after service meetings though and I tell my parents.

awoo47:
Okay...

i see u hv grown from a baby to the full stature ..

but u hv a name to protect...

it's normal for everyone to judge u..
if we don't judge believers who will?

MsGood:
Chief Justice of the Federation, keep it up! You might get to assist Jesus on Judgement day.

awoo47:
lol

i don't Judge people ooo

but i meant if u are a pastor pikin u have to live with ppl judging u...

imagine someone correcting anoda person nd he himself can't keep his house in order...

it doesn't speak good atall

MsGood:
That doesn't make judging right. And what where you doing when you said shame on me?

awoo47:
i'm sorry about that

DaddyTechz:
This writeup is anti-Christian, intended to whip up more hatred towards pastors. We shall all reap whatever we sow.

DaddyTechz:
This writeup is anti-Christian, intended to whip up more hatred towards pastors. We shall all reap whatever we sow.

godliman:
Being a pastor's kid ordinarily should not pose any challenge if you are born again like your parents are. The nature of sin which is in you will recent the godly lifestyle of your parents. You have to make a choice either to cry out to God to change you to be born again or you will resort to pretentious living to please your parents and church members. Pretentious living is hard as you will have to be an actor every day. If you go hypocritical, you will be caught like the case of OP. The thing you call challenge is actually a yearning for liberty to pursue a wayward life. The case of the the pastor's daughter who left to stay with a man and got pregnant is a typical example. If you are born into the family of a pastor, you should count yourself lucky, God never makes mistake. You should seek God to save your soul and you will find it sweet flowing with your parents. However if you love sin alot and consider godliness dull and boring, and you are prepared to face the consequence -hell fire, dont stay in church to impregnate ppls daughters thereby destroying your fathers ministry, travel far like the prodigal and there waste your youth in sin. When you end up in hell you wont blame your parents but yourself.

godliman:
Being a pastor's kid ordinarily should not pose any challenge if you are born again like your parents are. The nature of sin which is in you will recent the godly lifestyle of your parents. You have to make a choice either to cry out to God to change you to be born again or you will resort to pretentious living to please your parents and church members. Pretentious living is hard as you will have to be an actor every day. If you go hypocritical, you will be caught like the case of OP. The thing you call challenge is actually a yearning for liberty to pursue a wayward life. The case of the the pastor's daughter who left to stay with a man and got pregnant is a typical example. If you are born into the family of a pastor, you should count yourself lucky, God never makes mistake. You should seek God to save your soul and you will find it sweet flowing with your parents. However if you love sin alot and consider godliness dull and boring, and you are prepared to face the consequence -hell fire, dont stay in church to impregnate ppls daughters thereby destroying your fathers ministry, travel far like the prodigal and there waste your youth in sin. When you end up in hell you wont blame your parents but yourself.

Budex40:
Menh....i can relate with this writeup like seriously....
I went through hell growing up as a pastor's child too.
The Temptations no b 4 here. Most times , its literally hard to keep up with the standards. To save my arse and protect my parents' image, I had to swear an oath of Celibacy to myself at 23.My mother doesnt know that i hacked my mind beyond the point of misogyny just to save myself from fornication. She keeps pestering me about marriage not knowing my mind is fvcked up beyond repair. Am literally going monk and still battling my Bodily desires.In other aspects , na oaths i dey take do shock absorber . ......

Budex40:
Menh....i can relate with this writeup like seriously....
I went through hell growing up as a pastor's child too.
The Temptations no b 4 here. Most times , its literally hard to keep up with the standards. To save my arse and protect my parents' image, I had to swear an oath of Celibacy to myself at 23.My mother doesnt know that i hacked my mind beyond the point of misogyny just to save myself from fornication. She keeps pestering me about marriage not knowing my mind is fvcked up beyond repair. Am literally going monk and still battling my Bodily desires.In other aspects , na oaths i dey take do shock absorber . ......

Lautechgossip:
Sons and daughters of gospel ministers are having hard times living up to the expectations of their lineage owing to a combination of psychological and societal factors with damning consequences, reports Sunday Oguntola

Amos Ige (not real name) is naturally a likeable, transparent personality. But he hides his parents’ identity much more than his net worth. He would rather tell people his financial worth than reveal the true identity of his parents.

“It’s supposed to be an asset that I am a Pastor’s Kid (PK) but I am not proud to disclose that side of me. If there is anything I guard jealously, it is letting people know that my father and mother are pastors,” the Information and Communication Technology (ICT) expert states.

But he used to be so proud of that heritage until few years ago. “Growing up, I was so all over town telling everyone I am a PK. I received special privileges and preferences, especially within the Christian community,” he confirms.

It all changed for him in 2014. “I dated a lady in church and before you could say Jack, she became pregnant,” he recalls. All hell was let loose. The poster boy of the church suddenly became a leper. Nobody wanted to have anything to do with him again. His parents felt so let down they almost disowned him.

Beyond pardons

For the first time, the pressure of being a PK got at him. “I felt so disappointed with myself. I started thinking I didn’t deserve such wonderful parents. I felt literally like the Devil. Till date, I haven’t gotten over big let-down. It occurred to me that PKs are expected to be so above board that our mistakes are unpardonable,” Ige shares.

The feeling of living beyond pardons has taken Ige out of the church and left his relations with his parents strained. “We talk occasionally but things are never the same with us again. They felt I destroyed their testimony and credibility as ministers. That is never my intention at all. I didn’t wake up one day with that in mind.

“But even if I did, I think I should have been forgiven and pardoned. I find it odd we preach so much forgiveness but hardly extend it to others when they commit seemingly unpardonable sins,” Ige states.

According to him, there are so many PKs in his shoes because they are subjected to higher standards. “I know we should be examples but we can also falter and when we do, we shouldn’t be written off. It appears everyone expects a PK to be so holy and without blemishes that when we falter, we should be crucified.”

Unrealistic expectations

A PK, who simply identified herself simply as Beatrice recalled how she lived a troubled childhood because of her parents’ status. She said: “I grew up in a mission house with my parents always telling me I must be different from others. My church folks also pointed out when I make mistakes that I shouldn’t because my parents are pastors.

“When I fought, they say ‘a pastor’s child shouldn’t do that’. Whatever I did, I kept hearing the same thing. Everyone expected me to be so different and holy. Living under that kind of pressure killed me off. I ended up withdrawing to my shell and living a pretentious life.” Beatrice, a single mother, said the unrealistic expectations placed on pastors’ children make many of them turn out bad.

Beatrice left the church as soon as she was out of home. She ended up with a man who impregnated her before she returned to complete her tertiary education. “At a point, I just told myself I couldn’t live up to the holy standards of a pastor’s child. I gave up completely and chose a different path from my parents. The pressure on us is enormous and many are buckling under them,” she laments.

Poor parenting skills

Marriage counsellor, Pastor Bisi Adewale, is worried with the trend of many PKs turning out bad. “It should call for concerns because it can be heartbreaking to have children working against what you stand for.”

Adewale attributes to the worrisome trend to poor parenting skills by most pastors. “You see parenting is a skill that must be learnt and practised consistently. Pastors’ children are not any different from others. They must be nurtured in the faith and trained well to take after their parents.

“But when parents don’t mirror good conducts or place undue pressure on them, they will certainly give in. Yes, the Devil works extra hard to fight their turning out well but I believe the buck of the challenge is on how they are brought up,” he states.

Religious impositions

Senior Pastor of Calvary Bible Assembly Lagos, Dr Caleb Andrews, believes many pastors overstretch their children to the point of irritation.

“There are so many religious activities we do that make our children associate Christianity with rituals. For example, most pastors force their children to wake up by 5am for morning devotion.

“Those kids will grow up resenting that practise because it deprives them of sleeping well. There is nowhere it is stated we cannot have devotions in the nights or afternoon.

“We impose church attendance on them too because we are pastors. There is the likelihood they will resent such imposition if we don’t attach benefits to them. We live in an age where children are resentful of impositions and religious rites. If we are not careful, we would lose them for life,” the graduate of psychology shares.

The founder of Good Heritage Ministry Abuja, Apostle Ekene Okon, urges pastors to live true to their callings, especially at home. “They have to be exemplary and model good conducts to the children. Once the kids spot any contradiction with what they preach and do, they will be tuned off.

“Besides, we must allow these kids to make mistakes and learn from them. I know it is tough but we should let people know pastors’ children can make mistakes and should not be condemned when they do. When we give the impression they are above mistakes, we are setting them up for a big fall,” he submits.

A teen minister, Korede Abolade, believes pastors’ children should be allowed to grow without undue pressure. “From my observation, many of them are already conditioned for a big fall. The church and their parents tell them to be so good without working on how to get that done. Many of them either pretend or grumble underneath. That is why they are so happy to leave home because they feel so choked,” she states.

http://kikiotolu.com/challenges-of-being-a-pastors-kid-travail-personal-struggles/

Lautechgossip:
Sons and daughters of gospel ministers are having hard times living up to the expectations of their lineage owing to a combination of psychological and societal factors with damning consequences, reports Sunday Oguntola

Amos Ige (not real name) is naturally a likeable, transparent personality. But he hides his parents’ identity much more than his net worth. He would rather tell people his financial worth than reveal the true identity of his parents.

“It’s supposed to be an asset that I am a Pastor’s Kid (PK) but I am not proud to disclose that side of me. If there is anything I guard jealously, it is letting people know that my father and mother are pastors,” the Information and Communication Technology (ICT) expert states.

But he used to be so proud of that heritage until few years ago. “Growing up, I was so all over town telling everyone I am a PK. I received special privileges and preferences, especially within the Christian community,” he confirms.

It all changed for him in 2014. “I dated a lady in church and before you could say Jack, she became pregnant,” he recalls. All hell was let loose. The poster boy of the church suddenly became a leper. Nobody wanted to have anything to do with him again. His parents felt so let down they almost disowned him.

Beyond pardons

For the first time, the pressure of being a PK got at him. “I felt so disappointed with myself. I started thinking I didn’t deserve such wonderful parents. I felt literally like the Devil. Till date, I haven’t gotten over big let-down. It occurred to me that PKs are expected to be so above board that our mistakes are unpardonable,” Ige shares.

The feeling of living beyond pardons has taken Ige out of the church and left his relations with his parents strained. “We talk occasionally but things are never the same with us again. They felt I destroyed their testimony and credibility as ministers. That is never my intention at all. I didn’t wake up one day with that in mind.

“But even if I did, I think I should have been forgiven and pardoned. I find it odd we preach so much forgiveness but hardly extend it to others when they commit seemingly unpardonable sins,” Ige states.

According to him, there are so many PKs in his shoes because they are subjected to higher standards. “I know we should be examples but we can also falter and when we do, we shouldn’t be written off. It appears everyone expects a PK to be so holy and without blemishes that when we falter, we should be crucified.”

Unrealistic expectations

A PK, who simply identified herself simply as Beatrice recalled how she lived a troubled childhood because of her parents’ status. She said: “I grew up in a mission house with my parents always telling me I must be different from others. My church folks also pointed out when I make mistakes that I shouldn’t because my parents are pastors.

“When I fought, they say ‘a pastor’s child shouldn’t do that’. Whatever I did, I kept hearing the same thing. Everyone expected me to be so different and holy. Living under that kind of pressure killed me off. I ended up withdrawing to my shell and living a pretentious life.” Beatrice, a single mother, said the unrealistic expectations placed on pastors’ children make many of them turn out bad.

Beatrice left the church as soon as she was out of home. She ended up with a man who impregnated her before she returned to complete her tertiary education. “At a point, I just told myself I couldn’t live up to the holy standards of a pastor’s child. I gave up completely and chose a different path from my parents. The pressure on us is enormous and many are buckling under them,” she laments.

Poor parenting skills

Marriage counsellor, Pastor Bisi Adewale, is worried with the trend of many PKs turning out bad. “It should call for concerns because it can be heartbreaking to have children working against what you stand for.”

Adewale attributes to the worrisome trend to poor parenting skills by most pastors. “You see parenting is a skill that must be learnt and practised consistently. Pastors’ children are not any different from others. They must be nurtured in the faith and trained well to take after their parents.

“But when parents don’t mirror good conducts or place undue pressure on them, they will certainly give in. Yes, the Devil works extra hard to fight their turning out well but I believe the buck of the challenge is on how they are brought up,” he states.

Religious impositions

Senior Pastor of Calvary Bible Assembly Lagos, Dr Caleb Andrews, believes many pastors overstretch their children to the point of irritation.

“There are so many religious activities we do that make our children associate Christianity with rituals. For example, most pastors force their children to wake up by 5am for morning devotion.

“Those kids will grow up resenting that practise because it deprives them of sleeping well. There is nowhere it is stated we cannot have devotions in the nights or afternoon.

“We impose church attendance on them too because we are pastors. There is the likelihood they will resent such imposition if we don’t attach benefits to them. We live in an age where children are resentful of impositions and religious rites. If we are not careful, we would lose them for life,” the graduate of psychology shares.

The founder of Good Heritage Ministry Abuja, Apostle Ekene Okon, urges pastors to live true to their callings, especially at home. “They have to be exemplary and model good conducts to the children. Once the kids spot any contradiction with what they preach and do, they will be tuned off.

“Besides, we must allow these kids to make mistakes and learn from them. I know it is tough but we should let people know pastors’ children can make mistakes and should not be condemned when they do. When we give the impression they are above mistakes, we are setting them up for a big fall,” he submits.

A teen minister, Korede Abolade, believes pastors’ children should be allowed to grow without undue pressure. “From my observation, many of them are already conditioned for a big fall. The church and their parents tell them to be so good without working on how to get that done. Many of them either pretend or grumble underneath. That is why they are so happy to leave home because they feel so choked,” she states.

http://kikiotolu.com/challenges-of-being-a-pastors-kid-travail-personal-struggles/

djon78:
let's not become judgemental. being a pastors kid is not easy. but the Bible says train up a child in the way he should go. we have had great men of God who had wayward children, but later turned a new leaf. example Franklin Graham bill Grahams son was a chain smoker and sinner then, but he was later arrested by God . Richard Roberts oral Roberts son backslided was even a musician but later became a great preacher.


The key is for men of God to commit their children to God. Only God can keep them. And even the bad ones later turn leaf.

Adetaiwoo:
This is one of those judgemental fellows who makes tough for PKs.

soberdrunk:
I am a pastor's kid and one of my biggest challenge is "THE MEMBERS"!! They are always so judgmental, Mans' will be enjoying his beer in the joint jejely and next thing one of 'the members' is greeting Mans' with that 'judgemental look', me i nor kuku send them!! Nor be me God call..........

Profayo:
The truth is all professions come with it's unique pressure. If you're the son a teacher,especially if you are the child of the principal,everyone expects you to be the best in your class,if you should not meet up,you will be hearing"and his dad is a teacher o".And if you are too excellent,they will say it's favoritism. If the son if a doctor should come down with diarrhea, everyone will be saying "and he is the son if a doctor o,how can he come down with diarrhea?If your mum/dad is a celebrity and you achieve something extraordinary,they will say " he is riding on his parent's fame. So everyone had their peculiar challenges and parents should help their children cope with the peculiarities