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Should I wait until I’m 50? Abeg let me find now

omoharry:
that was well said..dont take in more than you can chew.

Yeah.

We all know the flaws we can or cannot live with.

Since everyone has flaws, we have to pick the one we can handle.

HeWrites:
So yes, my advice is to start prioritizing kindness in men early as a deal breaker. Do not settle for a man that lacks kindness, you will regret it later. �️�️

Kindness is perhaps the single most important quality in a lifetime companion. Do not accept anything less."[/i]

Here is the message and it is 100% correct, that kindness is key.

While you take your time and don't rush, if you're a man, use the time to read any of Joe Clef's relationship books. Start with ChatDicted 1.0 intro for free. See download link in my signature. Or click here www.wetclef.com/topic330.html

But the truth is that women have treated in the most terrible way men that were very kind to them. Infact it is these women by their actions turned many good men to beasts.
As a result many men don't send these days.

I've come to understand that in relationships especially marriages it's important for the girl to make certain your man loves you the most(that will save you from many challenging situation) eg. When family members comes for her head or life comes crumbling on them..Only a man that loves you will stay.

chiommy123:
our mothers and aunties should see this and stop pushing us into troubled homes where the lady receives different forms of beatings and insults and when you complain they tell you men are babies just pamper him and stop making him angry. for how long

Where did that terrible ideology come from?

BUY WOMEN BIG PHONE AND GUCCI, VARSACE, RECHARGE CARD FOR ETC...... FULFILLED THEY ARE. ARGUE WITH ANY STREET GUY.

HeWrites:
A Nigerian lady on Twitter has taken to the micro-blogging platform to advise women not to rush into a relationship until they are old enough to know what they want in a man.

According to what the lady identified as Odogwu wrote on her Twitter TL;
"Here's a slightly controversial opinion: I think that when women are younger, they tend to be unappreciative of kind men, because at that point in their lives most of them aren't really looking for long-term relationships, so emotional maturity isn't their priority.

Knowing what you want in a man comes with age and experience. This is why I will always encourage any girl I know to hold off until you've at least established a firm understanding of who you are, what your values in life are, before you make any long-term choices.

Tunde that you're dating at 21 because he has a nice job, nice car, ambition, nice face, etc, but lacks emotional maturity, uses abusive language, ghosts you when you need him, never takes responsibility for his actions towards you, makes you think you are the problem, etc...

You only know how to deal with the Tundes of the world with age. You do not want to end up stuck with an intransigent, gaslighting asshole at 21 because you rushed into it or didn't know any better.

So yes, my advice is to start prioritizing kindness in men early as a deal breaker. Do not settle for a man that lacks kindness, you will regret it later. �️�️

Kindness is perhaps the single most important quality in a lifetime companion. Do not accept anything less."[/i]

https://www.torimill.co/viral/9118/dont-rush-into-relationships-until-you-are-old-enough-to-know-what-you-want-in-a-man-lady-advises-women.html

I agree with the highlighted!

They have either Friendzone all the kind guys, Ignore them or turn him into a full time Maga ready at their call. But you will see them flocking around men that treat them like trash. The moment you show a woman you haven't settle down with too much attention and love then that's the end for you.

don't worry, I will treat you like a fairy-tale princess

chiommy123:
our mothers and aunties should see this and stop pushing us into troubled homes where the lady receives different forms of beatings and insults and when you complain they tell you men are babies just pamper him and stop making him angry. for how long

djon78:
But the truth is that women have treated in the most terrible way men that were very kind to them. Infact it is these women by their actions turned many good men to beasts.
As a result many men don't send these days.

She said it in her post, any woman that does such to you is young and doesn't know what she wants yet in a man. No true mature woman will see a diamond and opt out for bronze. BTW, are you Diamond? If you are, please continue, don't reduce your value because of anyone. Jesus did not say because his generation were full of perverts, he wouldn't die for them. He died for them regardless, now we are reaping the benefits. Keep doing what you do, you will be glad u did

Wow! She just made so much sense that am becoming to wonder how she came to realize this.

Assassin101:
don't worry, I will treat you like a fairy-tale princess

See your name and you want to treat her right? Abi u want to kidnap her if not kill her

When you show them love they think you have hidden agenda, some even thinks you are suffering from inferiority complex, Expecially if you are the humble type. The next thing they are with one careless ass niga who don't give a shit about them. When they turn 35. ( after much abortions for the dough bag), all of a sudden its a race to be married.

Next thing they are living with their eventual killer. Women that ended up having a very good married life are the ones that at very young age spotted the guy who's head over heels in love with them , they married him and lived happily ever after.

70% of them who thought they are too young to be married ended up miserable.

inoki247:
Sure Don't rush wait until dey change d advert at ur gate from beware of Dog to Buy your Recharge card here....

some set of evening News paper will storm Shilloh 2019 nd Prayer city for husband dey will now start seeing d kids of doz rejected guys... bkux iz too late nd d rush dey were running from will now rush dem wrong.. Nothing is sure in diz world Na only God sure pass.

u deserve some accolades

Very true. however there are many young girls with emotional maturity. They know what they want. Many young guys too usually are attracted to the wrong attributes. when life challenges come, they realise this. For some they may be married and it will seem too late.

She's made a great point, at the same time making sense

itsmeurLady:
She said it in her post, any woman that does such to you is young and doesn't know what she wants yet in a man. No true mature woman will see a diamond and opt out for bronze. BTW, are you Diamond? If you are, please continue, don't reduce your value because of anyone. Jesus did not say because his generation were full of perverts, he wouldn't die for them. He died for them regardless, now we are reaping the benefits. Keep doing what you do, you will be glad u did

Anyway sha I will agree with you. We need to still show kindness no matter what. Although God later surprised me. A woman came into my life then that was the one showering me with love. From her I learnt that good men are very scarce, even more than good women. So any woman wey get good man must value him so much.

Then the other one wanted to come back after her eyes Don open, but it was already too late. She is a big girl now, working in Vi but still no Love. Very very lonely. I pray she finds one, but she may never have that opportunity again for a man that genuinely cared for her.

medexico:
Girls want money and the other thing. everybody knows what women want.

according to femi adebayo the nollywood actor. He said and I quote there are only three O's that are solutions to women's problems.every other thing is secondary .so in order of priority they are:

OWO

OKO


OUNJE


once these 3 areas are satisfied, no problem

nice to see that most ladies agreed with their fellow lady

I c no reason a lady wil rush into marriage nd finally bcum a liability 2 d man nd by dat time dat mumu luv dy calm dy have wil fly 2ru d window my dear ladies marriage no dy run relax wrk on urself earn a living remember a supportive wife is lyk a cold water after a hard wrk

dreamwords:
They won't hear

Beats me, they wont hear at all. They innately want the bad guy. Treat them kind and you will be taken for granted.

itsmeurLady:
She said it in her post, any woman that does such to you is young and doesn't know what she wants yet in a man. No true mature woman will see a diamond and opt out for bronze. BTW, are you Diamond? If you are, please continue, don't reduce your value because of anyone. Jesus did not say because his generation were full of perverts, he wouldn't die for them. He died for them regardless, now we are reaping the benefits. Keep doing what you do, you will be glad u did

Its hard not to generalize about young ladies being this way at the moment but majority are that way, they want to flex with the bad eggs who dont treat them right and push away the kind ones. Infact i am tired of seeing such topics like this on a daily basis. So a kind guy should either be single or turn to a douchebag so as to avoid heart palpitations. Hmmm funny world.

why u dey worry on her behalf na?


na u be her mama ni?


don't worry, d baddest guys are always d cutest, trust me

itsmeurLady:
See your name and you want to treat her right? Abi u want to kidnap her if not kill her

BigSarah:
That's pure thrash, I know what I want right now if you are not a big God please give way .

Lolz,

I have a very big god o, he's always by my side, a very big god o, by my side, by my side...Stay there

Assassin101:
don't worry, I will treat you like a fairy-tale princess

fairy tale kwa no. I want real life

openmine:
Where did that terrible ideology come from?

but thats how they describe men's characters

SAMBARRY:
according to femi adebayo the nollywood actor. He said and I quote there are only three O's that are solutions to women's problems.every other thing is secondary .so in order of priority they are:

OWO

OKO


OUNJE


once these 3 areas are satisfied, no problem

please I know owo to be money.
What is d meaning of d other?

chiommy123:
but thats how they describe men's characters

Not all aunts and mothers say so ohh.....
...please ohh don't generalize!
one's level of information is as a result of their exposure!

ImaIma1:
Marry what you can handle.