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OneSentence:
if this really is true then cherish her, protect her, give and do all you can for her. such ladies are rare nowadays.
to me there won't have been anything wrong if she had decided to call it off cos of a positive status. I mean that's a normal thing to do.
but that she went the extra mile is really something....

ControG:
This now unconditional love ooo.the kind we all seek.you got to hold on to her, respect her, belief in yourself,even as she believes in you; keep hustling,things will get better.

BianoJay:
Good morning guys.
I've been in a many relationships before now, and I wouldn't say I have had the best of experiences, but I have come to believe that there isn't anything like unconditional love, well, that changed, yesterday.

I will try to keep this short. I'm a graduate and since over 3years after graduating from one of the best Universities in Nigeria, and with a second class upper (largely overrated), I haven't been able to get a job. Being the kind of person I am, who believes that being in a relationship is all about responsibility, and also with the fact that I'm someone who loves giving a lot, I decided I wouldn't get into any relationship until I get a job and be able to meet some financial obligations as real man.

Well, have been that way until I met this very young girl. We started out as friends. She sings and I play the piano, so, it was a musical thing. One thing led to another and we became closer. She is very young but, emotionally and psychologically mature. Enjoyed talking to her a lot and with time, I forgot all about my vow not to be in a relationship, and I fell for her completely. I later got to know from her that she has always crushed on me for a long time, because she saw a big difference in me, that I was like no guy she has ever known (I took that statement as one of those things, but it really wasn't).

We have been cool, talking about future, marriage and all. I don't have a job, and broke, but this girl believes in me so much that it scares me. She is so proud of me and has never made me feel less a man that I am. Now, this girl isn't just any kind of girl: she is extremely beautiful, tall and exceptionally intelligent, and most times I feel like I don't even deserve her, rather, for reasons best known to her, she believes she isn't even good enough for me.

Two days ago, I decided to do a general lab test and know my health status, she encouraged me to. When I went yesterday to collect the test results, an idea came to my mind. When I came back home, I texted her and told her that the relationship can't work, that the lab results showed I was HIV positive. She called me immediately, was calm and asked me what I wanted to do. I said I wanted her to stay away from me and focus on her life and career, that we don't have a future together. She wouldn't hear that, she kept calming me and asking me not ever say we can't be together, that she could never live without me. I told her I didn't want to tell my parents about it, and wanted leaving town, but she said I should give her just two days to get her stuff and go with me, that she couldn't let me be myself. She was almost crying and I couldn't bear it anymore. Had to open up to her that nothing was wrong with me and that it was just a game.

The relief in her voice was even more touching than the concern she showed. I'm just so happy to have her in my life. I feel blessed every day.

This isn't a fictitious story, it's absolutely true.

gonkin:
Yeah thats the format used to get rid of a girl u dont love but she loves you more than her parents. Its really expensive though. In other words u dont really love her. Well you're lucky better hold her close and grow feelings. These days you only get oloshos and public toilet girl. They love u same way they love the other guy and the next guy. Thus 1 girl with 5 boyfriends.

ClassRep001:
Your papa.

Reason i stopped visiting this childish forum.

On my way to quora

BianoJay:
Bros, no be by force. Go through my posts, I don't post except it's very necessary. I don't do childish stuff. I just had to share my experience, which I know is rare.

ClassRep001:
Bleep off from my mention before i lay curse on you.

What do you take us for here?

Getaway!

BianoJay:
You don't get it, I was playing a game, I never even dreamt of leaving her or pushing her away. Just wanted to know what her reaction would be if something like that happened.

gonkin:
What if she left? Im just saying its too expensive.

Nesso:
Its a trap. Funny thing is she doesn't even know she is setting a trap for you. In a year or less, ur heart will be blown to smithereens, but u can retrace ur steps today, ur choice, jst don't come back here when it goes south.

BianoJay:
I understand...She surprised me beyond what I could imagine.

adaksbullet:
op am jus shaked mine too u ni...u her telled her u are haved hiv too a gilr and she his no shout...if she his hiv + nko? beta ask his hiv status kiakia

BianoJay:
Good morning guys.
I've been in many relationships before now, and I wouldn't say I have had the best of experiences, but I have come to believe that there isn't anything like unconditional love, well, that changed, yesterday.

I will try to keep this short. I'm a graduate and since over 3years after graduating from one of the best Universities in Nigeria, and with a second class upper (largely overrated), I haven't been able to get a job. Being the kind of person I am, who believes that being in a relationship is all about responsibility, and also with the fact that I'm someone who loves giving a lot, I decided I wouldn't get into any relationship until I get a job and be able to meet some financial obligations as a real man.

Well, I have been that way until I met this very young girl. We started out as friends. She sings and I play the piano, so, it was a musical thing. One thing led to another and we became closer. She is very young but, emotionally and psychologically mature. I enjoyed talking to her a lot and with time, I forgot all about my vow not to be in a relationship, and I fell for her completely. I later got to know from her that she has always crushed on me for a long time, because she saw a big difference in me, that I was like no guy she has ever known (I took that statement as one of those things, but it really wasn't).

We have been cool, talking about future, marriage and all. I don't have a job, and broke, but this girl believes in me so much that it scares me. She is so proud of me and has never made me feel less a man that I am. Now, this girl isn't just any kind of girl: she is extremely beautiful, tall and exceptionally intelligent, and most times I feel like I don't even deserve her, rather, for reasons best known to her, she believes she isn't even good enough for me.

Two days ago, I decided to do a general lab test and know my health status, she encouraged me to. When I went yesterday to collect the test results, an idea came to my mind. When I came back home, I texted her and told her that the relationship can't work, that the lab results showed I was HIV positive. She called me immediately, was calm and asked me what I wanted to do. I said I wanted her to stay away from me and focus on her life and career, that we don't have a future together. She wouldn't hear that, she kept calming me and asking me not ever say we can't be together, that she could never live without me. I told her I didn't want to tell my parents about it, and wanted leaving town, but she said I should give her just two days to get her stuff and go with me, that she couldn't let me be myself. She was almost crying and I couldn't bear it anymore. Had to open up to her that nothing was wrong with me and that it was just a game.

The relief in her voice was even more touching than the concern she showed. I'm just so happy to have her in my life. I feel blessed every day.

This isn't a fictitious story, it's absolutely true.

dayleke:
OP.....
Bia....

Did you see this guy's comment?
What is her own status?

Cc BianoJay

gonkin:
Good for you. Hold her close ok

kingxsamz:
Oya let me ask u.
What would you do if she also goes for test and the result shows she's Hiv positive, and you even see the result to confirm yourself? would you still stick with her?

BianoJay:
Hmmm.... Bros...abeg, I no pray for such scenerio o... It would be the most devasting moment of my life.

BianoJay:
Hmmm.... Bros...abeg, I no pray for such scenerio o... It would be the most devasting moment of my life.

BianoJay:
Good morning guys.
I've been in many relationships before now, and I wouldn't say I have had the best of experiences, but I have come to believe that there isn't anything like unconditional love, well, that changed, yesterday.

I will try to keep this short. I'm a graduate and since over 3years after graduating from one of the best Universities in Nigeria, and with a second class upper (largely overrated), I haven't been able to get a job. Being the kind of person I am, who believes that being in a relationship is all about responsibility, and also with the fact that I'm someone who loves giving a lot, I decided I wouldn't get into any relationship until I get a job and be able to meet some financial obligations as a real man.

Well, I have been that way until I met this very young girl. We started out as friends. She sings and I play the piano, so, it was a musical thing. One thing led to another and we became closer. She is very young but, emotionally and psychologically mature. I enjoyed talking to her a lot and with time, I forgot all about my vow not to be in a relationship, and I fell for her completely. I later got to know from her that she has always crushed on me for a long time, because she saw a big difference in me, that I was like no guy she has ever known (I took that statement as one of those things, but it really wasn't).

We have been cool, talking about future, marriage and all. I don't have a job, and broke, but this girl believes in me so much that it scares me. She is so proud of me and has never made me feel less a man that I am. Now, this girl isn't just any kind of girl: she is extremely beautiful, tall and exceptionally intelligent, and most times I feel like I don't even deserve her, rather, for reasons best known to her, she believes she isn't even good enough for me.

Two days ago, I decided to do a general lab test and know my health status, she encouraged me to. When I went yesterday to collect the test results, an idea came to my mind. When I came back home, I texted her and told her that the relationship can't work, that the lab results showed I was HIV positive. She called me immediately, was calm and asked me what I wanted to do. I said I wanted her to stay away from me and focus on her life and career, that we don't have a future together. She wouldn't hear that, she kept calming me and asking me not ever say we can't be together, that she could never live without me. I told her I didn't want to tell my parents about it, and wanted leaving town, but she said I should give her just two days to get her stuff and go with me, that she couldn't let me be myself. She was almost crying and I couldn't bear it anymore. Had to open up to her that nothing was wrong with me and that it was just a game.

The relief in her voice was even more touching than the concern she showed. I'm just so happy to have her in my life. I feel blessed every day.

This isn't a fictitious story, it's absolutely true.