The only problem I see here is abandoning his family, that is if true. The story is always sweeter when heard from one side. A man can marry as many wives as he can take care of, it is the culture.

Similar thing happened to my aunt who's also in US with her hubby. And the woman is a nurse too. They came home for Xmas one certain year and immediately they got to my aunt's father's house(they will pass her father's house before they get to the husband's house) the man told their driver to stop and he came down and brought down my aunt's luggage and told her to go back to her father's house without prior notice which was strange to my aunt because she said they had a normal conversation when they were inside airplane and even when they got to lagos and from lagos to the village and she never suspecting anything until they got home. The woman's kids are grown expect the last child who should be in secondary now. Two of her kids are in the university now in the US and the man is no longer living with them cos every thing our family did to reconcile them back then didn't yield positive result. The man went back to US without his family that year, it was later that my aunt travelled back with her children and they are presently living without their father. The man even got a divorce papers from US last year and brought it home to the parish priest in our parish in the village to dissolve their marriage but the Rev father refused on the basis that he didn't contact his wife before filing for divorce and also the reason for the divorce is not tangible enough.
Their problem started when he heard that the woman's mother(my grandma ) was telling people that it was her child(my aunt) that was taking care of their family in US and that she was the person that built their duplex in the village, so when the man heard the rumour he became angry and didn't say anything about it until they got home for Xmas that year.

Note: my grandma said she knew about all these when she went to US for omugwo.
Right now the husband have gotten married to another woman from mbaise in Imo state last year after the Rev fr refused his plea for divorce, he went ahead to marry another woman without even informing my aunt but he didn't travel back to US with the new wife cos he's afraid the new wife may get to US and wise up or open eye like other women.
My aunt have moved on with her life long time and she even got a better job in a big hospital there in the US. Right now she's not even bothered about the husband again.

It appears to be a normal story in those climes.

I don't understand how some men will just wake up and scatter a beautiful family

Note i am not supportive of the man's action but the fact must be said. Many Nigerian women abroad misbehave a lot and their husband only endure considering the fact that they are not financially ready and when they do they just abandone them because the feel they have suffered enough. I even know of some one who is complaining of what he is passing through currently in the hands of his wife and will do the needful when he is ready. I encourage Nigerian girls to remember that we haven't culture that tend to preserve our marriage they should not allow western culture to take over their indigenous way of marriage a little bit of this a little bit of that.

Amberon1:
The way you people bash Twitter stories one would you have personal grudges against them. Look, twitter stories are more credible than nairaland stories.
Twitter is not an anonymous platform like nairaland. More often than not while reading through the comments on Twitter you will see people who actually know the handle in real life and can verify the story.

Moreover this is the norm with Nigerian men living abroad. I know a man who had a Japanese American wife of over 22 years and 3 kids. Yet he approached me saying he wanted to marry me and that his wife is a foreigner hence he doesn't really feel like he's married. These things happen everyday and is not a new thing.

My dear, the man's legacy ends there in Yankee with such a woman. She ain't never coming back to Nigeria so the man's lineage is as good as dead. I know over ten relations and friends that have married foreign women and the family relationship ends as soon as the man is dead...that is if they've not divorced by then.
Our men know this, that's why they want someone who will continue the family line back here in Nigeria. Those born and bred in the west rarely ever have any interest back home. We are Africans and we live a communal lifestyle, we practice the extended family system. These people don't. It's me and my family mentality over there. You can't blame a man for sticking with his roots.

The man in the Twitter story knows that if he dies, he has no seed to carry on with his lineage back home. He has American kids who from the story reluctantly follow him home every year. He tried to get his kids rooted back home but when he probably found out it wasn't working, he had to do something. I'm not holding brief for him because I don't have the full facts of the story, but just reeling out possibilities.
Your average American kid will never settle in Nigeria for any reason out of their own free will. Only a negligible percentage will if ever. I have not seen it happen though.

deliveryboy:

You are totally correct, most stories of violent divorce involved a Resident nurse who came from Nigeria to the U.S. I sure think there is something wrong with their thinking process, they never thought they would attain such a status (common nurse). Guys stay away from nurses local or international because they are hurtful beings. Most nurses are philanderers, everywhere, the difference is in Nigeria they do it secretly (with doctors and patients) while in the U.S. where they have a perceived feminine gender advantage they do it with less fear, knowing they have financial strength they might not be scared to loose the man's financial contributions to their lives (after all he has finished paying her nursing school tuition he's now like a piece of toilet paper), they do it openly, the man goes crazy when he sees her with different hunks, she calls the police, the man gets evicted from the house he paid mortgage for years. She gets the children and they collectively write the story in which they portray the man as the villain. Such stories have been replicated a countless times.

hmm are u serious?

Blakjewelry:
I dey read am dey gently until I come see at truly Nigeria man fashion, so e get how Nigeria man dey behave

Please rewrite your post in English for us to understand what you are trying to say!

observing

The wife get small blame o

She ought to have traveled down to Nigeria to see the husband o.
The juju may be too strong on him till he sees his wife
How can a man abandon his family and career for an 18 years girl in a backward country like Nigeria?
The wife needs to see him so the juju will clear

so bad.

Permit me to say that you, madam, are this aunt of yours and your mother is the “grandma” that has just recked your home.

Mankosi:
Similar thing happened to my aunt who's also in US with her hubby. And the woman is a nurse too. They came home for Xmas one certain year and immediately they got to my aunt's father's house(they will pass her father's house before they get to the husband's house) the man told their driver to stop and he came down and brought down my aunt's luggage and told her to go back to her father's house without prior notice which was strange to my aunt because she said they had a normal conversation when they were inside airplane and even when they got to lagos and from lagos to the village and she never suspecting anything until they got home. The woman's kids are grown expect the last child who should be in secondary now. Two of her kids are in the university now in the US and the man is no longer living with them cos every thing our family did to reconcile them back then didn't yield positive result. The man went back to US without his family that year, it was later that my aunt travelled back with her children and they are presently living without their father. The man even got a divorce papers from US last year and brought it home to the parish priest in our parish in the village to dissolve their marriage but the Rev father refused on the basis that he didn't contact his wife before filing for divorce and also the reason for the divorce is not tangible enough.
Their problem started when he heard that the woman's mother(my grandma ) was telling people that it was her child(my aunt) that was taking care of their family in US and that she was the person that built their duplex in the village, so when the man heard the rumour he became angry and didn't say anything about it until they got home for Xmas that year.

Note: my grandma said she knew about all these when she went to US for omugwo.
Right now the husband have gotten married to another woman from mbaise in Imo state last year after the Rev fr refused his plea for divorce, he went ahead to marry another woman without even informing my aunt but he didn't travel back to US with the new wife cos he's afraid the new wife may get to US and wise up or open eye like other women.
My aunt have moved on with her life long time and she even got a better job in a big hospital there in the US. Right now she's not even bothered about the husband again.

People will start insulting the man now without knowing what really happened. My dear I leave in Europe and I can tell you that this kind of story happens all the time. You said the man is 70 now, which means he is a pensioner, he might have told the wife that they should go back home after retirement and the wife will say I am not moving an inch here and he decides to go alone and been at home he can't been alone, now he got himself wife and the story changes, he's a bad man.

The probability this story is true is less than 0.1.

From her twitter handle to how the story was reported ,it is easy to know why she concluded that way.

murmee:
Please rewrite your post in English for us to understand what you are trying to say!

are you a Nigerian? if no then I will repost but if you are a Nigerian, then learn your fathers tongue lol

ojdollars:


Have you ever lived abroad?

What has that got to do with a man who not only abandon his wife, abandoned his own legal kids? He Did not care about their welfare, did not care about their emotional welbeing, did not care about their sustenance, refused to at least attend their wedding just to show some kind of support, nothing. Living abroad or in the village is reason enough to abandon your kids in such manner abi? If you don't want your wife anymore fine for you, but which right thinking man does that to their own blood, their kids? No make me vex o. I'm suspecting you are exactly like the man in question.

Trapnews:
Keep judging the man without hearing his side of the story, we all know how women abroad misbehave and will never try such in Nigeria, thumbs up to the man for not committing suicide or going to jail because of their disrespect, these women in diaspora can be frustrating most times

i second you bro. Crazy women abroad acting crazy. Any man who wants to live long should run from them.

rOsy247:



What has that got to do with a man who not only abandon his wife, abandoned his own legal kids? He Did not care about their welfare, did not care about their emotional welbeing, did not care about their sustenance, refused to at least attend their wedding just to show some kind of support, nothing. Living abroad or in the village is reason enough to abandon your kids in such manner abi? If you don't want your wife anymore fine for you, but which right thinking man does that to their own blood, their kids? No make me vex o. I'm suspecting you are exactly like the man in question.

You know nothing. The government takes care of a divorced woman in the western world and they get more money single than when they are married so there is no way the children will suffer.

The more l read such stories about marital issues/problems the more apprehensive l get.l know times have change also with the level of civilization that we have now is more than the days of our parents and parents' parents but l stop to wonder how did our parents of old cope and get along because they also had issues/problems too in those days.

Me wey never marry l dey wonder whether l go marry again because omo e don dey too much .

IamHeWrites:
A man abandoned his family abroad and returned to Nigeria to take a new young bride. Now, his family abroad are having their revenge and the man can't seem to stand it.

Read the tweets below;



https://www.torimill.co/viral/9482/lady-narrates-how-man-abandons-family-abroad-to-take-a-young-wife-in-nigeria.html

We are just spectators for now.

Let us hear the neighbours versions before we give judgment.

otherway:


You know nothing. The government takes care of a divorced woman in the western world and they get more money single than when they are married so there is no way the children will suffer.

Where in my post or in the narrator's post did anyone suggest that the children lack funds? Secondly, the emotional or psychological support that a father gives to their children, will the government also supply that? Thirdly, when the first child that got married wanted their father to be there to show his support, which is normal, yet he refused to honour it, did the government stand in place of their father? Fourthly, has the divorce taken place already, to entitle them to that right? It's obvious you lack sense while thinking you know it all. You lack understanding as well. No matter what Government does they can't fill the vacuum of a father in the life of any child. Get that into your skull. Same kind of cowards supporting their type.

Amberon1:
Go to her page and ask people who know her directly and they will confirm this story. The man's kids are also on Twitter.

Oh really ... I've seen such stories happen this.... but these twitter people and fabricated stories won't just allow us believe the real ones.

sterlingD:
The more l read such stories about marital issues/problems the more apprehensive l get.l know times have change also with the level of civilization that we have now is more than the days of our parents and parents' parents but l stop to wonder how did our parents of old cope and get along because they also had issues/problems too in those days.

Me wey never marry l dey wonder whether l go marry again because omo e don dey too much .

Baba near me make we take selfie!!!!

Sh1g1d1:
Permit me to say that you, madam, are this aunt of yours and your mother is the “grandma” that has just recked your home.

I am not disputing it. I told them that but u know as a member of the family they didnt expect me to speak against our family so they started seeing me as if I am an outsider. But truth must be told.

Trapnews:
Keep judging the man without hearing his side of the story, we all know how women abroad misbehave and will never try such in Nigeria, thumbs up to the man for not committing suicide or going to jail because of their disrespect, these women in diaspora can be frustrating most times

This is not a matter of judgement.

Let's assume the wife was a monster; he has remarried and should move on.

They invited him for all the weddings and he did not show up. Now, his son wants to walk his sister down the aisle, he is fidgetting.

bukatyne:


This is not a matter of judgement.

Let's assume the wife was a monster; he has remarried and should move on.

They invited him for all the weddings and he did not show up. Now, his son wants to walk his sister down the aisle, he is fidgetting.

So you believe all those cooked up stories hook line and sinker abi? Travel abroad and see the abominable things Nigerian women do to Nigerian men in the name of civilization.

If you see nurse home and abroad runaway. They all think the same.

rOsy247:



Where in my post or in the narrator's post did anyone suggest that the children lack funds? Secondly, the emotional or psychological support that a father gives to their children, will the government also supply that? Thirdly, when the first child that got married wanted their father to be there to show his support, which is normal, yet he refused to honour it, did the government stand in place of their father? Fourthly, has the divorce taken place already, to entitle them to that right? It's obvious you lack sense while thinking you know it all. You lack understanding as well. No matter what Government does they can't fill the vacuum of a father in the life of any child. Get that into your skull. Same kind of cowards supporting their type.

You are just ranting like a pained woman.

My point is that some women are the cause of their own troubles and from the stories we read every day, most of these ladies who were brought overseas tend to turn crazy and when the man dumps their ass they will start playing the victim card.

Most of these western ladies are so single with little hope of ever having a man to themselves all because of their crazy attitude.

So before you judge wait and hear the other side of the story and it may shock you what you will gather.

Awon were obinrin.

otherway:


You are just ranting like a pained woman.

My point is that some women are the cause of their own troubles and from the stories we read every day, most of these ladies who were brought overseas tend to turn crazy and when the man dumps their ass they will start playing the victim card.

Most of these western ladies are so single with little hope of ever having a man to themselves all because of their crazy attitude.

So before you judge wait and hear the other side of the story and it may shock you what you will gather.

Awon were obinrin.

So because a woman does all of that you'll abandon your children? See why I said you lack sense. Maybe you were abandoned that's why you can't think properly. Olodo rapata.

maursatt:
People will start insulting the man now without knowing what really happened. My dear I leave in Europe and I can tell you that this kind of story happens all the time. You said the man is 70 now, which means he is a pensioner, he might have told the wife that they should go back home after retirement and the wife will say I am not moving an inch here and he decides to go alone and been at home he can't been alone, now he got himself wife and the story changes, he's a bad man.

The wife in this case is obviously not a pensioner, and is still very much working.
It also states in the story they still have children they are supporting through college.
If the wife moves back to Nigeria where she can't practice, and they still have children in the university, how will they pay their school fees? They obviously still had a mortgage she was responsible for. Will she just leave without paying off her mortgage, and lose the chance to get an inheritance for her children abroad?
The man in question abandoned his children when they needed him, and he did it in a most bizarre manner.
A good husband would have waited till his wife retired, and gets her pensions sorted before asking them to relocate because he's no longer working.
It's a different thing if they're both retired. He treated his wife of many years badly, simple as abc. He obviously also felt she didn't even deserve an explanation from him, after spending many years together with him through thick and thin.
Anyway, in this case, they have both moved on with their lives. Goodluck to them