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zinnydan:
I love my father and I really appreciate him

alexistaiwo:
It is simply because most fathers don't care to establish any emotional connection with their children.

Only a mother will scold her child, spank him/her and in the next 20 minutes, she will find a way to draw the child close to explain why she had discipline to the child.

30 minutes later, the child has forgotten the beating, only the lessons remain in memory.





How many fathers can do that?

lalanice:
If a man wants to be more appreciated by his children he makes himself more available and approachable to his children, regardless of what their mother tells them, they will learn better from their fathers behaviour towards them.

Elder001:
One day you wake up and you are 65years old realizing
you've done absolutely nothing for yourself as a man but
slaved to satisfy others, most of which aren't even grateful
for the sacrifice.

eyinjuege:
Mothers are equally breadwinners.
Not only do they bring bread and butter, they also still meet the physical and emotional needs of their children.
They completely understand a child needs physical care, financial care, emotional care and go all out to do that.
If fathers want the same accolades as mothers, then new generation fathers shouldn't make the mistake their own fathers made.
Bath for your children, clean their bum after pooing, take them to school and pick them up, help them with their homework, pay their school fees, make their food and ensure they eat, take them out to the park, and take them to fun places where you can have fun together.
You are making memories in your children's lives

Icecreamy:
That norm of father going to work and mother always with the children doesn't exist anymore. In most families both parents go to work, if children don't appreciate their fathers, I don't think it has anything to do with him going to work, there are probably other reasons.

But I believe most children appreciate both parents.

Elder001:
Mothers are breadwinners ,care for kids financially in Nigeria or which country are you talking about?


Maybe you were trying to sound sarcastic.

Tonymario58:
Any house where the father is under-appreciated, the mother should be blamed in most cases

Elder001:
This is just the reality. Most sensible comment on this thread.

Elder001:
Mothers are breadwinners ,care for kids financially in Nigeria or which country are you talking about?


Maybe you were trying to sound sarcastic.

eyinjuege:
I am being serious.
Many mothers work hard and bring money home, ensuring their children are comfortable.
I know many mothers who do that. They do that and still do more looking after their children. You see them in banks, hospitals, civil service, in the markets. These women aren't just working to take vacations or buy the latest wrappers. The money they make is spent at home, on their children and husbands. These same women also physically look after their children, meet their emotional needs.
They should be appreciated, and all their hard work not downplayed

Icecreamy:
You are so funny.
The way Nigeria is today, you will hardly find a family where there is a single breadwinner, but couples combine efforts to care for the family financially.

Elder001:
You mean Nigerian women actually do those stuffs and things are still like this?

I doubt if you're really talking about Nigerian women maybe you're referring to American women.



This is sarcasm of the century!

zinnydan:
I love my father and I really appreciate him