Alwaysking:
See that her forehead like Zuma rock

Shey na she marry the man abi na the man marry her? OK, them marry themselves.

jejemanito:
She will still kneel down in the night.

If you know, you know .

Fixed.

You come to Africa and claim to challenge cultural norms. What happened to politics, child traficking, racism, tribalism and even women and child violene/abuse. But u have chosen to challenge cultural values shared by all your kinsmen, u are a shameless slut. How many times have u chalenged cultural norms over there at the United States, no be ur mate dey do feminism, anti-racism. Nah for Africa una dey get strentght. Its not a matter of challenging cultural norms, its a matter of having a man who chose to lick ur ass above every other thing..so shamewful!

I'm sure she'll be kneeling down later to do a lot of other things.

So u happy u didn't kneel for ur hubby........But Whn u give birth 2mrw and ur daughter In law refuses u kneel for u, u would b angry....... Useless somebody like u.
This are the type of women that like kneeling in the other room to su*k her Man's smtyn...... KWASIYA

Preshy561:
lol.
NL guys are pained.

Fool

If she refused to kneel down properly, she will do it well ,when she enters labor room, God has made man master , it's normal norms that should be obeyed and cherished. If the man goes out and see a respectful lady and cherish her character, them you will be complaining, man don't talk much but lady always down with man's negative reaction.

pocohantas:
They are both cool with it, that's all that matters.

The problem is her coming out to loud it, seems like she'll be a stubborn individual. Anyway, I can see alphas are angry .

Very foolish girl imho. It's just a ceremony. Just kneel for 30 seconds and get it over with.if you're so particular, just do white wedding and leave archaic traditional wedding behind. This one will have plenty of issues in the workplace as she will be dragging on things that are irrelevant

On a different note, does she only give head lying on a bed as any other position is submissive?

Ha lemme read comments and see how Nl boys would wan!k on this. But wait fess o, my own feminism never reach this level o... Hehehehehehe

The way things are going I doubt people will be following traditions anymore. What's the big deal in kneeling down on your wedding day, a yoruba girl for that matter. She and hubby agreed fine( their issue ) why come out to brag on social media about it


No big deal in kneeling if you ask me.

hopefulLandlord:




Why are people making hasty conclusion?

what if the man too actually share the same opinion with the woman rather than him being influenced? what if he's even the one that influenced the woman and not the other way around? Not all men respect traditional protocols to things

Whether they influence each other or not kneeling is not something she will do for the rest of her life, its a tradition and not just something one will just ignore because she feels too big to do so, I bet her mum did it and heaven did not fall.

They are free to do whatever pleases them but I stand on following tradition.

but she kneels down when taking it from behind. if you know, you know. I hereby apologize on her behalf.

Mariinee:
Is that her own version of feminism or what? I wonder what that has added to her life; what's the point of putting it out there on social media?
Aunty, as long as you're kneeling to give him bloww job, you have no point. Please, swerve.

I remember kneeling down behind my friend in his traditional wedding before the brides' family. This happened in diaspora. In some cultures the groom prostrates, sometimes with his friends/people in his entourage.

We did not say we're not slaves to the girl's family. We didn't say my very eligible friend can easily get another girl so we cannot be kneeling down for anybody. We followed the tradition.

But I bet the guy knelt down to propose to her and she saw nothing wrong with it.

It is not by force to do traditional wedding. She should have done it full oyinbo wedding.

blingxx:


aunty its all about culture, what's the essence of paying bride price if you can't submit to your husband, according to the Yoruba tribe such marriage can't last.... even in the weatern world( whom she's trying to copy) their marriage rarely last ....... so wtf?

She might even have asked that bride price be not paid.

It doesn't make sense to me. There's no big deal in kneeling down for your husband on your traditional marriage. It doesn't make you his slave. She should have avoided the traditional marriage entirely then.

While accept some aspect of the yoruba culture when you can abandon culture in its entirety?

Your mates do ONLY registry (with no tradition).

The joke is on you and your husband especially - who I'm sure paid bride price and other traditional rituals to your family.

nazablossom:
It doesn't make sense to me. There's no big deal in kneeling down for your husband on your traditional marriage. It doesn't make you his slave. She should have avoided the traditional marriage entirely then.

Tor! It is not by force after all.

oyb:


Very foolish girl imho. It's just a ceremony. Just kneel for 30 seconds and get it over with.if you're so particular, just do white wedding and leave archaic traditional wedding behind. This one will have plenty of issues in the workplace as she will be dragging on things that are irrelevant

On a different note, does she only give head lying on a bed as any other position is submissive?

The husband agreed to it, so I believe they have their reasons. When I was a kid, still in primary school, my uncle married a Yoruba woman. He said he won't prostrate, it caused so much noise that day. Even as a kid, I was just looking at him like, "is this one okay?...sha dobale let's leave here". He didn't. They have been married for nothing less than 15yrs. Some people take little things serious.

What is head?

udemzyudex:


Whether they influence each other or not kneeling is not something she will do for the rest of her life, its a tradition and not just something one will just ignore because she feels too big to do so, I bet her mum did it and heaven did not fall.

They are free to do whatever pleases them but I stand on following tradition.

if you don't care who influenced who then why did you conclude the man is the type that would do anything just to "get there"?

tossie101:

Everything must not be about gender biko
I think the couple are actually stupid.
Most especially the Lady.
Imagine her saying "those knees didn't touch the ground",
She is just so arrogant I pity that man.

That's just a tradition, kneeling for ur hubby That very day doesn't mean anything.

Her business,their business.

the husby consented to it,why should i be pained by their decision? ?

There's every shade of wrong with this bride's thoughts on kneeling down. She is clearly mistaken about the concept of submission and slavery. The Yoruba tradition demands submission just like many others. Submission of wife to husband and submission of husband to the gods and society.

The female folks are taking this feminism of a thing too far and some weasly men folk are aiding them. Why would the Alagas agree to such a condition to contort harmless cultural and traditional norms just because of so called modernisation? These type of women don't want equal rights, that's not what feminism is all about. They want the man to be submissive, that is usurping the order of nature. Nature doesn't operate in a vacuum, it will always find a way to correct any anomalies.

Little wonder many western nations welcome immigration because their citizen population is dwindling. Men and women are just not procreating enough to fill the needs of the society. Marriages end in divorce in no time and child support bills stifle the man to near suffocation. If both sexes are equal as these wannabe feminists would want us to believe, why would the man alone bear child support bills? Why are the men almost always denied custody of the children?

Each sex is designed for particular roles, trying to modify it like these feminists do is always gonna bring a problem.
To all the young unmarried men out there, if you want peace in your life, forget class, forget social standing, forget beauty. These things trip men but act like a flash in the pan...they fade away. Go after a woman of virtue. If she is pretty on top of it, fine. Go after a woman who understands the concept of womanhood, loyalty and dedication. A woman who is there to support you and not compete with you. When you find her, youll understand. Not those fake pretenders.

Almost every culture, tradition and religion on this earth emphasize on submission of wife to husband and husband's obligations towards wife and children.
Nature has set its boundaries and when those boundaries are crossed, there's always a price to pay to restore normalcy. Time is always the biggest cost amongst others.

itiswellandwell:
Awon eyan feminist. Very dull feminist. Now, she done talk am out, husband go see am, husband family go see am, husband friend go see am, dem go talk to the husband to man up that this one go dey domineering ooo. Husband brain go burst, him go reach house and that's how parade go change.

Cheap s6 edge plus. Check my signature.

She will obey, otherwise your analysis will come true and family members will continue the thread for her.

If i may ask the new bride did ur hubby prostrate for ur family? if the answer is YES.That ws a sheet on the his own part let respect our culture. theirs value in it,if u can't kneel down for ur hubby in the present of both family it shows the kind of home you're from.

pocohantas:


The husband agreed to it, so I believe they have their reasons. When I was a kid, still in primary school, my uncle married a Yoruba woman. He said he won't prostrate, it caused so much noise that day. Even as a kid, I was just looking at him like, "is this one okay?...sha dobale let's leave here". He didn't. They have been married for nothing less than 15yrs. Some people take little things serious.

What is head?

Are you asking for real? Funkeeeeeee!

pocohantas:


The husband agreed to it, so I believe they have their reasons. When I was a kid, still in primary school, my uncle married a Yoruba woman. He said he won't prostrate, it caused so much noise that day. Even as a kid, I was just looking at him like, "is this one okay?...sha dobale let's leave here". He didn't. They have been married for nothing less than 15yrs. Some people take little things serious.

What is head?

Are you asking for real?

Your face whenever a Yoruba man says someone is beautiful.

IamHeWrites:
A Nigerian woman based in Toronto has told of how she challenged cultural norms by choosing not to kneel down for her husband during her traditional marriage, and that Nigerian men are mad about it.

The gorgeous Yoruba bride said she and her husband spoke to the coordinators (Alagas) ahead of the wedding and asked that they do not ask her to kneel for her husband. The wedding day came and it was the way the bride and groom wanted it. There was no mention of submission and she didn't have to kneel.

She said her sister also took a stand at her own wedding which took place earlier this week.

After she shared her story, some women who did the same thing came to share theirs. A few Nigerian men applauded her for challenging the status quo. But the majority of Nigerian men were angry and called her out. Some even insulted her husband for supporting her.

See reactions below;

https://www.torimill.co/viral/9559/lady-shares-how-she-avoided-kneeling-for-husband-during-traditional-marriage.html

African women seem to be the most confused species to walk the surface of the earth. An earlier thread was asking how much a man should be paying his wife every month and many women did not consider it a stupid question. In the western world, family responsibilities are shared proportionally to each person's income. If the woman earns more, she spends more in the home and vice versa. Talking about equality here makes sense. But in Africa, a woman expects the man to foot all the family bills and still expect some more for personal upkeep, even when sometimes they earn more than the man. Some expressly decide not to work and push EVERY responsibility, including that of the woman's maiden family, on the man. Yet they copy the western lifestyle of not submitting to men. I ask again...what do Nigerian women really want? You cannot have your cake and eat it. A man that pays all the bills would naturally feel like a boss, simply because he is one. Lack of respect for the woman which could lead to extramarital affairs is common.

AreaFada2:


I remember kneeling down behind my friend in his traditional wedding before the brides' family. This happened in diaspora. In some cultures the groom prostrates, sometimes with his friends/people in his entourage.

We did not say we're not slaves to the girl's family. We didn't say may very eligible friend can easily get another girl so we cannot be kneeling down for anybody. We followed the tradition.

But I bet the guy knelt down to propose to her and she saw nothing wrong with it.

It is not by force to do traditional wedding. She should have done it full oyinbo wedding.

I wonder oh.

9japrof:
Any couple might decide how they want to run their wedding, what to include and what to remove, which is their business.

Not kneeling in your wedding is your business, but there might be underlying attitude that this girl posseses which means she's in for more spoils, na her type dey make man believe she dey do him favour.

The truth is, there are no two captains on a ship, there are nonsenses girls of nowadays do that i just look at them, giggle, then laugh out loud, a very submissive and repective wife rules her home, she weilds more power than the husband self, the man subconciously cedes power to the wife, she's the prime minister while the guy is just a ceremonial head.

That's what our ladies don not understand. Seriously,they don't know the innate powers they possess.

tossie101:

Everything must not be about gender biko
I think the couple are actually stupid.
Most especially the Lady.
Imagine her saying "those knees didn't touch the ground",
She is just so arrogant I pity that man.

That's just a tradition, kneeling for ur hubby That very day doesn't mean anything.

is it not their wedding and marriage again? Alara ni ara o ro oun. Kiwani tie that you are crying more than the bereaved