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I Have been seeing this undergrad student for a while now. I got intimate with her a few times at the initial point of knowing her but I decided to stop because she will accuse me of making her do things that makes her feel guilty afterwards. I decided to show her a different side of me, one that doesn't focus mainly on sex and romantics by showering her with love and attention, I even stopped touching her but it seems that the more care I gave the less it's appreciated.

She's churchy and goes to church almost on daily basis now the problem is that there is a guy in her Lodge which I am convinced (I have proofs) is messing around with her, funny enough the guy does nothing for her, I buy her provisions and try to give support to her whenever I can, I am aware she doesn't have much But this girl in question seems confused, immature and doesn't really know what she wants yet. Bae hardly call me on phone. Gets angry easily and Lies alot and thinks she's deceiving me.

I am an entrepreneur with moderate income and what I spend on her counts as nothing to me although I have been feeling hurt by her attitudes recently and I am pondering walking away. What I feel for her is love and empathy.

My question is "would it be right for me to collect back my gifts and the recent cash I gave her and then walk away from her without looking back or should I be patient and give her a chance to change (the neighbor she messes around with graduates from school in few weeks time)

Matured advice needed

Hahaha girls don't want who care for them and give them attention. Go date a mature lady dude and yes collect your gifts, nor be she work the money for you, so you have all the right to. Dump that bitch, except you are someone with low self esteem who wants to beg for love (eew)

I don't know your temperament though but I'll advice you send a despicable message to her followed with beautiful curses for her actions..or if u have a babalawo, u can invoke curses. Then leave her.

I'm surprised though that despite reading here how unwise girls are and don't know what they want, you still keep putting ur mind on them. Well I guess experience is d best teacher sha. I've been thru it too..i know a girl already who won't have peace in all her relnshps based on this. I'm certain abt that except I wasn't loyal to her

Go for girls around age 30, they're better. But be careful not to date the ones that have curses following them like this one I cursed. Curses may be responsible for their delay to dat age or even infertility or miscarriages. Even without curses my brother, karma is real.

Girls generally are overrated. A man's best wife is his career, women comes next. For some unreasonable women, even side chicks come before them.

Date a mature girl bro. Leave all these students to fool themselves. I have closed the chapter of dating uni girls

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Airforce1:
Never ever over pamper a woman ...

Treat them like a gangster would treat his girl and watch her love you forever .

[/s] You don't know anything!

Onye oma Emeka
continue

Receive sense now.....

You are the maga...the other guy is the real dude she likes even though they might not be dating....

Walk away now...

Airforce1:
Never ever over pamper a woman ...

Treat them like a gangster would treat his girl and watch her love you forever .

So you don't over pamper your woman?. Some guys can sha like to claim "strong man" online but in real life are the opposite. lol...

Would you give her the time and 'body' you have taken away from her too?


Bro, what is gone is gone. Count your losses and move on to something more beautiful and promising. Only 'immature' and those who are not strong enough to move ahead seeks to get what they have done when they feel hurt and unappreciated.


Do things because it is what you want to do and it is the right thing to do.

coolh3ad:
So you don't over pamper your woman?. Some guys can sha like to claim "strong man" online but in real life are the opposite. lol...

Uncle, I don't!

Maybe when I find "the one" I will start doing the "pampering" you infer.

decatalyst:
Uncle, I don't!

Maybe when I find "the one" I will start doing the "pampering" you infer.

You already said it. "when u find the one".....You call that lady "your woman"..Or do you call all babes including your fwb your woman?

Undergraduate girls with the same problem.

Op what exactly do you want to collect from her?

Do yu want to collect all the provisions you gave her? or the total sum of money spent on her?

Just let her go, Na sex you for collect las las.




By the way, Na those church girls dey sweet pass

1StopRudeness:
Receive sense now.....

You are the maga...the other guy is the real dude she likes even though they might not be dating....

Walk away now...

So the churchy and outward religiosity portrait is all a charade?

This isn't a question of if she likes the guy or on if am a maga . Most girls don't really know what they want and it's quite pathetic and childish.

Show a girl who isn't your wife care at your own peril, I just smile whenever a girl cry that a guy used and dumbed her. Truth is, she deserved it.

Why lie and try to deceive someone who is been honest with you. To what end exactly.

I believe one of the reason for the existence of religion is to purify character, church in Nigeria almost a joke. why would a girl collabo with her neighbor who is a fellow church member to use a guy as Maga ( and still attend church on Sunday with a clear conscience. It's appalling though

coolh3ad:
You already said it. "when u find the one".....You call that lady "your woman"..Or do you call all babes including your fwb your woman?

The crux of the talk here is "you do not have to 'spend' or "pamper" a girl before and during dating as you infer earlier".

Thank you.

As painful as this is OP you need to move on from her, she simply not committed to the relationship.
BTW don't feel you lost from spending on her.........karma will surely come if you were sincere in the relationship.
I still don't know why girls who guys spend so much on mostly cheat on the guy, most stories of sponsoring a girl through school has ended in betrayal

Airforce1:
Never ever over pamper a woman ...

Treat them like a gangster would treat his girl and watch her love you forever .

Wicked man! una knw who una go treat like shit & she still stays in live with u. nor bi me Wey my heart torn 4rm me & smashed in d floor & stomped upon, na im go stay eat d slightest shit 4rm any man.

I How childish & unmanly. D gifts u gave her were 4rm ur hearts, y take them back? she didn't force u 2 give them. Y don't u let her be & try ur luck else where.

Airforce1:
Never ever over pamper a woman ...

Treat them like a gangster would treat his girl and watch her love you forever .

Treat someone like me like that and watch me dump your ass.

Walk away since the love is not being reciprocated and don't think of collecting the gift back, be a man.

You wanna wait for her cos d n!gga wld soon graduate,this is d dumbest thing v heard all day n to think that what u spend on a gal whom doesn't care x nufin cos u blv yuh making enough x plain stupidity, until u sit down n calculate d expenses then u would understand that sometimes in life setback doesn't necessarily come from d village,buh from within oneself...

Colourich:
Treat someone like me like that and watch me dump your ass.

Even if the sex is soooo good ?

Airforce1:
Even if the sex is soooo good ?

Which sex! go find seat, I'm not moved by sex.

newdawn2017:
Wicked man! una knw who una go treat like shit & she still stays in live with u. nor bi me Wey my heart torn 4rm me & smashed in d floor & stomped upon, na im go stay eat d slightest shit 4rm any man.

The bolded got me

Colourich:
Which sex! go find seat, I'm not moved by sex.

But you're moved by eating his money while ffucking another guy ba

don't ever thing of taking her back, as for the money and gifts, just forget it, they say experience is the best teacher, she will surely learn the hard way,. cause karma is a bitch..

don't ever spend on a girl that is not your wife or fiancee,......

Orbot012:
So the churchy and outward religiosity portrait is all a charade?

This isn't a question of if she likes the guy or on if am a maga . Most girls don't really know what they want and it's quite pathetic and childish.

Show a girl who isn't your wife care at your own peril, I just smile whenever a girl cry that a guy used and dumbed her. Truth is, she deserved it.

Why lie and try to deceive someone who is been honest with you. To what end exactly.

I believe one of the reason for the existence of religion is to purify character, church in Nigeria almost a joke. why would a girl collabo with her neighbor who is a fellow church member to use a guy as Maga ( and still attend church on Sunday with a clear conscience. It's appalling though

Churchy or no churchy... A girl knows where are heart is....u can't force that...she might string u along cos of what she's getting just like we guys can string a girl cos she's giving us regular sex.. but u will notice if she truly likes u...there's no faking here

Colourich:
Treat someone like me like that and watch me dump your ass.

Who go even pamper u

futuregovernor:
Who go even pamper u

A lot, I assure you.

decatalyst:
The crux of the talk here is "you do not have to 'spend' or "pamper" a girl before and during dating as you infer earlier".

Thank you.

You welcome. what I saw before I did quote him na "over pamper your woman" not girl and no one was talking about before, during or after dating.....you fit recheck am bros.