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PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by AreYoudone: 12:23am On Sep 04, 2018
Hello to everyone and thanks for your advice in advance....

I met this young girl over a year ago, she’s 19 and I’m 23 and I really loved her because I see her to be responsible and know what she wants, she was a virgin when we met and I saw her as someone I was willing to spend the rest of my life with if possible but this was all because of the way I see her and how responsible she was and she loves me so much as well, that I knew of for sure.

So after 7 months of being together we had sex because she said she was ready then, prior to that, I’ve been trying to have sex with her but being finding it had to penetrate cause she was a virgin unknowing to me that she doesn’t wanna do it yet. It was someday when I tried having sex with her that I asked her why she’s always like that and she said to me it’s because she ain’t ready yet.

We spoke for about 3 hours about why, she said she doesn’t see herself having sex with more than one man and I understood her and promised not to worry her about it again which I did although it was hard. After some weeks, she said she was ready and we eventually had sex and I promise never to disappoint or leave her.

I broke up with her few months after having sex with her but that’s cause she was disturbing me too much and always wanna be around me... After one month of the breakup, I went back to her and apologised for what I had done and I said I wanted her back that I was just mad and didn’t know why I broke up with her in the first place.

We got back together and I visited her which lead to us having sex. She later told me over the phone that she had sex with someone else 3 weeks after our breakup and I was really disappointed at her because that would be the last thing I would’ve thought she would do cause of the way she carries herself... Like saying stuff like I don’t have time for boys, I don’t see myself having sex with no one else etc... and after 3 weeks, she went ahead and do that cause we broke up. And to be honest, we only had sex a few times before we broke up as we don’t see each other often like that. Definitely less than 10 times.

She said she needed to get over me and that why she did what she did and that it didn’t mean anything to her.

I’ve sacrificed a lot for this girl, I mean a lot, cause I help her out with all her academics work, give her advice whenever she’s going through any tough time especially at home... I basically treats her like a princess when I was with her which is obviously why she likes me that much...

I would like to know what you people think about this and what I should do, should I just forget about her and move on or should I stay and try to work things out with her, tbh, I loved her mainly cause I thought I found a girl different from every other girl out there...

Thanks in advance
Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by Tonnexy: 1:30am On Sep 04, 2018
Who else dislike all these boyfriend and girlfriend sex stories?
Op apart from this your story getting me annoyed, another thing that annoys me is that, am not the guy who bleeped your babe and am probably not going to be the next guy to bleep her

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Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by Alejoc(m): 1:32am On Sep 04, 2018
You left her high and dry..... What were you expecting?


Did she meet you a Virgin?

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Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by Yemike(m): 2:01am On Sep 04, 2018
For her to tell you about it simply means she's not happy/proud of her actions either.



But, you should find out if she's still seeing the guy she had sex with. If yes, I can say it's complicated if no,
just get over it and make her yours because there are lions out there waiting to devour any stray/unguarded sheep.

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Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by OneCorner: 3:16am On Sep 04, 2018
You, the girl, d virginity and d virginity breaker are all mad

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Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by mikkyjagga1(m): 3:34am On Sep 04, 2018
Bro you forgot to add the other guy, such vital mistakes are not good!
OneCorner:
You, the girl, d virginity and d virginity breaker are all mad

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Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by Gaspardd(m): 4:05am On Sep 04, 2018
Advice gbu gbuo gi dia sad angry

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Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by Nobody: 4:09am On Sep 04, 2018
Please stop disturbing us with this your stvpid story. If you are not yet man enough to handle situation like this in a relationship, then don't go into one. Stvpid kids!

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Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by FrostyButter: 6:44am On Sep 04, 2018
Just look at these irresponsible individuals...

At 19, look at how a girl is spending her youth smiley

And they want to be like Dora Akuyili, they want to change the world smiley you lie.

And you too OP, a full grown man smiley spending his youth, begging a girl for her virginity... Then coming here to look for advice...

smiley

You are on the right path to success...

Virgin Master!!!

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Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by ozodigboo(m): 6:46am On Sep 04, 2018
Nonsense....you need to be stoned.
you had sex with her, and promised not to break up.
after sexing her a number of times, you ran away after a minor quarrel because u hv had enough.
you claimed it's because she always wanna be around u.
is it a crime for ur babe to want to be around u ?

now, after some months, konji don holo you.
you went back, expecting her to remain the way you left her.
the gold u rejected has been polished by another person

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Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by ednut1(m): 6:49am On Sep 04, 2018
U broke up with her. So if u did not get bk with her she shud have kept waiting ba. U not a serious person.just carry ya wahala and go

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Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by Nobody: 6:55am On Sep 04, 2018
Tonnexy:
Who else dislike all these boyfriend and girlfriend sex stories?
Op apart from this your story getting me annoyed, another thing that annoys me is that, am not the guy who bleeped your babe and am probably not going to be the next guy to bleep her
im hating nairaland itself.it has a way of doing more damages to readers in the long term than good
Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by Nobody: 7:41am On Sep 04, 2018
What is wrong with some of you lots above? Can’t you kids just read and pass of nothing meaningful to comment? How will Nigeria get better if we cant help each other with little things like this?

@ op, I can see your still naive and so is the girl, I understood your reason for breaking up with her. Young girls of 18 to 22 have a lot to learn, even when they claim to know it all, she had sex with another guy to get over you and claimed it meant nothing to her, that’s how naive she really is. Take her back and get things back to how it were! Make her understand you don’t like her clingy and limit the sex things, una neva strong reach that level. As it is now she needs you around her, needs to learn a lot from you, else she might find it difficult to stop. Take her back! Bottom line, you two have a lot to learn. But Na small small!

Don’t mind those negative advice up there, Na kids then be!
Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by CAPSLOCKED: 7:49am On Sep 04, 2018
AreYoudone:
I loved her mainly cause I thought I found a girl different from every other girl out there...

MAYBE YOU FOUND A GIRL DIFFERENT FROM THE REST, BUT YOU DISSAPOINTED HER BIG-TIME. SHE ONLY DID WHAT SHE DID CUS SHE NEEDED SOLACE, AND TO FORGET YOU. I DON'T BLAME HER AT ALL. I WOULD DO THE SAME IF I WAS HER. IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT PUSHING PEOPLE AWAY LIKE THAT BECAUSE YOU FEEL THEY'RE DISTURBING YOU, AND WHEN THEY MINDING THEIR OWN BUSINESS YOU CLAIM THEY DON'T HAVE YOUR TIME.
IT'S JUST SEX. NOT LIKE SHE CHEATED, YOU ABANDONED HER AND SHE MOVED ON.

MR MAN IF YOU TRULY EVER LOVED LIKE YOU CLAIM GO BACK AND APOLOGIZE.
ONLY THE HIGHEST OF FOOLS WILL ACCEPT SOMEONE LIKE YOU BACK ANYWAY. YOU DON'T DESERVE GOOD THINGS.

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Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by QueenSekxy(f): 7:56am On Sep 04, 2018
I go with the poster above me. he said it all.
Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by Nobody: 7:56am On Sep 04, 2018
bullshit happens, I don't consider it cheating and you shouldn't too, you guys had separated before it happened. move on no relationship is perfect.
Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by HarunaWest(m): 8:24am On Sep 04, 2018
AreYoudone:
Hello to everyone and thanks for your advice in advance....

I met this young girl over a year ago, she’s 19 and I’m 23 and I really loved her because I see her to be responsible and know what she wants, she was a virgin when we met and I saw her as someone I was willing to spend the rest of my life with if possible but this was all because of the way I see her and how responsible she was and she loves me so much as well, that I knew of for sure.

So after 7 months of being together we had sex because she said she was ready then, prior to that, I’ve been trying to have sex with her but being finding it had to penetrate cause she was a virgin unknowing to me that she doesn’t wanna do it yet. It was someday when I tried having sex with her that I asked her why she’s always like that and she said to me it’s because she ain’t ready yet.

We spoke for about 3 hours about why, she said she doesn’t see herself having sex with more than one man and I understood her and promised not to worry her about it again which I did although it was hard. After some weeks, she said she was ready and we eventually had sex and I promise never to disappoint or leave her.

I broke up with her few months after having sex with her but that’s cause she was disturbing me too much and always wanna be around me... After one month of the breakup, I went back to her and apologised for what I had done and I said I wanted her back that I was just mad and didn’t know why I broke up with her in the first place.

We got back together and I visited her which lead to us having sex. She later told me over the phone that she had sex with someone else 3 weeks after our breakup and I was really disappointed at her because that would be the last thing I would’ve thought she would do cause of the way she carries herself... Like saying stuff like I don’t have time for boys, I don’t see myself having sex with no one else etc... and after 3 weeks, she went ahead and do that cause we broke up. And to be honest, we only had sex a few times before we broke up as we don’t see each other often like that. Definitely less than 10 times.

She said she needed to get over me and that why she did what she did and that it didn’t mean anything to her.

I’ve sacrificed a lot for this girl, I mean a lot, cause I help her out with all her academics work, give her advice whenever she’s going through any tough time especially at home... I basically treats her like a princess when I was with her which is obviously why she likes me that much...

I would like to know what you people think about this and what I should do, should I just forget about her and move on or should I stay and try to work things out with her, tbh, I loved her mainly cause I thought I found a girl different from every other girl out there...

Thanks in advance
Imagine a fornicating dude looking for an honest chick. This world is finished..So when you broke up with her,you have d license to flex buh she doesnt...your a morafvcker dude..keep dreaming

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Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by pacino26(m): 9:09am On Sep 04, 2018
23-19 grin grin grin grin Perfect combo for disaster.

Let me take this one at a time;
1- You opened her Pandora's box cool cool cool
That's a big moral responsibility. At your age I could dictate the pace of things in my relationship. I don't know about you though but girls tend to be wild fires after their first experience. That explains her being all over you, and if you're not principled enough then you be ready to be a father. You lost it thinking she's loose and letting her go. Bluntly it is YOUR FAULT she slept with another guy. That is if you're honest saying you do love her.

The way forward;

You forgive her and take her back.
You start listening to her and show her love without making love all the time. Be her brother if need be. Cuz you just taught a child how to eat candy. Be there to control the appetite.
There's need for some sex education too. Understanding her push-to-start buttons and the need for some other mental training.
Keep checking on her at home, class and all over.
You may need to break some Bro codes by telling her lines and antics that could land her in someone's bed.
List out compromising places and situations she ought not to be with other guys (if you truly want to keep her)
Lastly, you pray for forgiveness and focus on being a better young man. Having a good girl is OK, your age gap gives you a head start to build a life for both of you.

Best of luck.

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Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by richyfunky(m): 9:28am On Sep 04, 2018
pacino26:
23-19 grin grin grin grin Perfect combo for disaster.

Let me take this one at a time;
1- You opened her Pandora's box cool cool cool
That's a big moral responsibility. At your age I could dictate the pace of things in my relationship. I don't know about you though but girls tend to be wild fires after their first experience. That explains her being all over you, and if you're not principled enough then you be ready to be a father. You lost it thinking she's loose and letting her go. Bluntly it is YOUR FAULT she slept with another guy. That is if you're honest saying you do love her.

The way forward;

You forgive her and take her back.
You start listening to her and show her love without making love all the time. Be her brother if need be. Cuz you just taught a child how to eat candy. Be there to control the appetite.
There's need for some sex education too. Understanding her push-to-start buttons and the need for some other mental training.
Keep checking on her at home, class and all over.
You may need to break some Bro codes by telling her lines and antics that could land her in someone's bed.
List out compromising places and situations she ought not to be with other guys (if you truly want to keep her)
Lastly, you pray for forgiveness and focus on being a better young man. Having a good girl is OK, your age gap gives you a head start to build a life for both of you.

Best of luck.

Well said
Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by Les: 10:22am On Sep 04, 2018
Tonnexy:
Who else dislike all these boyfriend and girlfriend sex stories?
Op apart from this your story getting me annoyed, another thing that annoys me is that, am not the guy who bleeped your babe and am probably not going to be the next guy to bleep her
very annoying eh, mentally immatured peeps having sex upandan! cheesy

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Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by Nobody: 10:30am On Sep 04, 2018
You're must be very daft and immature for posting this trash here.

Men are scum indeed. The only thing on your mind is sex. undecided
Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by QueenSekxy(f): 10:31am On Sep 04, 2018
Hanseel1:
You're must be very daft and immature for posting this trash here.

Men are scum indeed. The only thing on your mind is sex. undecided
Why can't you make a comment without insulting people?was that how you were trained?
Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by Nobody: 10:39am On Sep 04, 2018
She owes u no explanations after all you broke up with her. She's still a good girl though. Most of the fuckboys and girls started out as innocents...

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Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by hahahahahaha(m): 10:59am On Sep 04, 2018
QueenSekxy:

Why can't you make a comment without insulting people?was that how you were trained?


Pent up sexual frustration. Basically an Incel (Involuntary Celibate)
Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by IamPlato(m): 11:03am On Sep 04, 2018
...

I Dont See Any Love Her.

Just lust and Fvcking

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Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by jeff1607(m): 11:52am On Sep 04, 2018
awww

kids say the darnest things
Re: PLS Help.virgin Girlfriend Had Sex With Someone Else Few Weeks After We Broke Up by GrammarNazi1(m): 12:27pm On Sep 04, 2018
FrostyButter:
Just look at these irresponsible individuals...

At 19, look at how a girl is spending are youth smiley

And they want to be like Dora Akuyili, they want to change the world smiley you lie.

And you too OP, a full grown man smiley spending his youth, begging a girl for her virginity... Then coming here to look for advice...

smiley

You are on the right path to success...

Virgin Master!!!
...her...

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