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correctbae:
Feminist Nkechi Bianze wrote a post on the women body changes during pregnancy.

-Pregnancy and body changes.
-Labour and/or CS.
-Having strangers check your vagina for contractions.“
-Episiotomy
-Membrane Sweep
-Breastfeeding

I’m NOT sorry to say.
But….
People should stop mourning and complaining about how there are several Mother’s Days and just one Father’s Day.

You can’t compare having sex and ejaculating to doing or going through at least three of those things listed.

For every one Father’s Day, it’s very fair and ok for us to have 100 Mother’s Days. It’s perfect like that.

I definitely want at least two biological children, and I’m dreading going through these twice.
I covertly and overtly pray for twins, so I can use a stone to kill two birds, and avoid going through these things twice.

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How did the world come to agree that a child should bear the father’s surname? Women clearly do more than 90% of the job of bringing a child to the world. So, how did the early humans make such decision?

I’m thinking something.

Me and the father of my children will have to discuss about surname. I’m gong to go through a whole lot bringing these babies to the world, and I deserve a little more.


However, in the comment section, Amaka White Ojinnaka said she won’t change her surname to her husband’s name. She also made mention that her children’s name will also be the combination of her name hyphen her husband’s name

She said “I was discussing this with a guy who was asking me out .. If I have our baby, we must name the child both our surnames hyphenated. No way I’m going through this shit and my baby wont take part of my name. He isn’t OK with it… I have asked him to walk.I am Not shifting grounds on that one. I ain’t even changing my name. Not even one name. I do not believe my name should be thrown away for any reason. He says it’s for easy identification… � I said fine… Why not change your name to mine so we can easily be identified… �Guess who thinks it’s ridiculous? � Same dude. I just told him to carry himself away from me. It obviously can never work.”

Replying to her comment, other ladies like Efe Osato Ehi and Nneka Angel also said that’s exactly what they will do.

Readmore: Ladies Agrees They Won’t Change Their Surname To Their Husbands’ When They Get Married https://correctbae.ng/2018/09/09/ladies-agrees-they-wont-change-their-surname-to-their-husbands-when-they-get-married/

Can someone help me ask these mumu what surnames are they bearing. Combination of their mother's and father's?
Strange things about this group is that, when a members brain is reset and contemplating leaving, she always will not tell her fellows until it would be too late for them

Shior!

Herrmes:
In the bible beginning...

ohh, sorry, as if I know someone will yet say "the Bible beginning" NL no dey tire for arguments

eph12:
Is she still bearing her dad's name?

Good question

Ivanmykel:
So funny
I wonder who even started this feminism radarada

I am a yoruba muslim, people say I be tribalist. Abeg can I send PM?

cvibe2:
If you are waiting to be influential before your wife can change her name to your's then she probably wears the trouser in your marriage.

Name changing has nothing to do with the trouser wearing bro, and you misunderstood that guy's post, some women are the bread winners and still bear their husband's name, tell me, according to you, who wears the trousers in that marriage?
Responsibility, that's what trouser wearing is about, to this age feminists, the name changing, has to be a thing of equality, and they also have a problem with patriarchy, which is okay...

openmine:
Your mummy adopted your daddy's name whether by choice or law is not important!

Please discus such with your "fiance" before you get married to him!

Don't stay and make assumptions only to quietly bear your future Hubby's name after all the online rants!

And besides,does a change of name take away your abilities or rights as a human being?

Would you say such if you were going to get married to dangote's son or otedola's son?

Why don't you also ask yourself that question. Would you ask Dangote's daughter to change her name.

Zahra is still Zahra Buhari Indimi... her husband didn't die. Choi! Power jam power. This is why the rich should marry among themselves.

Poor man issues dey too much

Debra911:
ohh, sorry, as if I know someone will yet say "the Bible beginning" NL no dey tire for arguments

Just keep it real.

Na them sabi.

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I love it.

They laid it all out on the table.

Blame the slowpoke that will go ahead and marry her.

Anyway...let them find husband first.

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IbrahimDamola:
I am a yoruba muslim, people say I be tribalist. Abeg can I send PM?

Lol
If you are truly what people say you are; No, thanks.

Uniquetani1:
Nice idea Good it was brought up Y should I forgo my Dad's name bcoz of marriage? My title changing from Miss to Mrs is enough. God doesn't support oversabi

See this low self esteem being. Am sure if It was Dangote, your mindset will change. Where will Dangote even meet you??

Bizibi:
exactly, do as you like in the end s the children that will adjust the name that will make things easy for them,that is why every man must work hard in life.

You can take a look at Caroline danjuma,she is divorced but kept the surname because she knows the bread it brings everyday.

never knew she was divorced

Yes I agree with them, I can never change my name to my husband name

Like for females
Share for male

This rubbish feminism agenda is another avenue females display deep seated hatred for the male gender.
Some have been hurt, heart broken and abandoned by the men they once loved, and can't seem to forgive and forget.
Very negative vibers
y'all can keep ur names and ur surnames, marry urselves, impregnate urselves and have ur own country if u wish.

These are the kind of people that usually shout HUSBAND SCARCITY

Ugosample:
well I have seen where a man gave all his children the wife's surname as middle name and his surname last.

but when they fill forms, it's the man"a surname that is filled alone

So their mothers name just stand as middle/other names

It was his choice so no wahala.

but all these confusion some women want to bring

They better be careful

The summary of this is, to each his own. There is this actress whose husband adopted her name. I think Zoe Saldana. They both took up each other's name.

I wanna believe this chick is just trolling or maybe she is not okay sef. The problem has to be the ladies taking her serious.

Ugosample:
never knew she was divorced

some said separated,some said divorced.but I know she is not with him.

Bearing both parents surname is not new in the world. It is done in Spain.

https://theculturetrip.com/europe/spain/articles/an-introduction-to-spanish-double-barrelled-surnames/

Amberon:
Nope, my comment was based on your premise which inferred that every feminist is mentally unstable. That notion is very very wrong. Those two I mentioned have no known history of mental illnesses as well as many other notable feminists.

Yes my point is Chimamanda Adiche is mentally unstable! Just because she is successful in her field doesn't mean she isn't!
A woman who takes offense at a man treating her like a lady eg (opening the door for her, complementing her physical looks)THAT WOMAN IS MAD

Tats:
Bearing both parents surname is not new in the world. It is done in Spain.

https://theculturetrip.com/europe/spain/articles/an-introduction-to-spanish-double-barrelled-surnames/

it's the same in Portugal

Tats:
Bearing both parents surname is not new in the world. It is done in Spain.

https://theculturetrip.com/europe/spain/articles/an-introduction-to-spanish-double-barrelled-surnames/

The Surnames are masculine abi? Then the feminists are daft.

Ivanmykel:
Lol
If you are truly what people say you are; No, thanks.

I am not a tribalist, I am a lovable and funny but misunderstood yoruba muslim guy. I'll make you laugh all the time.

I don't know why people are even bothered.

These feminists are highly mentally unstable set of humans.

Someone says she won't bear her husband's name when married but she still retains the name of her FATHER and not the name of her MOTHER.

She says her kids will bear her surname and her husband's name but both names are MASCULINE not the name of any female.

Meanwhile, these clueless people talk as if they will marry zombie for a husband or a mumu family I.e if they see any unfortunate man to marry them sef.

Feminists will continue to live life of misery, frustration and bitterness as long as they go on with this foolish thing called feminism

pocohantas:
Why don't you also ask yourself that question. Would you ask Dangote's daughter to change her name.

Sorry are you the lady I quoted?
Or are you her lawyer?
Please mind your business if it doesn't concern you!
Thank You!

pocohantas:
Zahra is still Zahra Buhari Indimi... her husband didn't die. Choi! Power jam power. This is why the rich should marry among themselves.

So what about the wealthy guy who married the daughter of the former governor of rivers state?
Don't just single out zahra as a reference for not adopting her Hubby's name!
Why didn't zahra choose to adopt her mummy's name instead of her dad's name?

Please use your head for once,you are more intellectual than this!

You don't know the reasons behind not changing her name after marriage!
So don't come on nairaland and make assumptions without any substantial evidence!

Its obvious your likes have reading or comprehension issues!
Can't you see where the lady you are blindly defending said she won't adopt her Hubby's name?

its a choice and a discussion between two adults....
So what about okonjo iweala?
or Hilary Clinton?
Were they fools to have adopted their Hubby's names?

So let's say Trump married a billionaire's daughter,would she want to be addressed in her father's name or Hubby's name who happens to be the president?

pocohantas....i may not know you personally but your posts previously implies that you are more intelligent than this!


Like i told the lady,if you dont want to adopt your future hubby's name,the sensible thing to do is discus such with him!

If he agrees,everyone is good....if he disagrees,then let him move on to someone who sees nothing wrong with such!

pocohantas:
Poor man issues dey too much

I laugh in Latin...
I wish you knew the one you addressed as a poor man....
So much for hidding under a nickname in a faceless forum!

Fariq:
Before why will you change your Surname to your husband name? It's illogical because you only have one biological father and it should remain so forever.

You married someone you change your name in court, pay newspaper for publication. And if he divorce you next year you will still change your name.

Finally someone has analysed this from a logical point of view.

Uniquetani1:
I can if I want to but that's not the point here

how does bearing your father name even after marriage offer equality to women, feminism should be all about promoting women ,, why not start with bearing ur mothers maiden name then even your dad will start taking you serious.


FIY ,,population of women out numbers men in naija ,,so we donnt mind if some of you choose to be useless, you can only escape marriage but cannt escape banging ask linda

pocohantas:
The summary of this is, to each his own. There is this actress whose husband adopted her name. I think Zoe Saldana. They both took up each other's name.

I wanna believe this chick is just trolling or maybe she is not okay sef. The problem has to be the ladies taking her serious.

Ahem ahem
cough cough

*clears throat


How can I miss a thread this juicy?

pocohantas:
Why don't you also ask yourself that question. Would you ask Dangote's daughter to change her name.

Zahra is still Zahra Buhari Indimi... her husband didn't die. Choi! Power jam power. This is why the rich should marry among themselves.

If you were exposed enough you'd have known that in Islam it is permitted for a woman to retain her surname after marriage if she wishes. Even at that a lot of them still take up Hubby name. It has nothing to do with class or wealth!

Meanwhile, Zahra still added "Indimi" to hers.

Poor man issues dey too much

I can vouch that you are a broke girl that is the only explanation for this.

Only poor people mock people on account of wealth that they wish to have.

openmine:
;
I laugh in Latin...
I wish you knew the one you addressed as a poor man....
So much for hidding under a nickname in a faceless forum!

My brother, everybody is "rich" on social media. I think that Lady is poor, hence, her narrative to use poverty just to target "broke guys". If you probe her you may be shock to realise that she lives off people (perhaps men).

openmine:

Sorry are you the lady I quoted?
Or are you her lawyer?
Please mind your business if it doesn't concern you!
Thank You!


So what about the wealthy guy who married the daughter of the former governor of rivers state?
Don't just single out zahra as a reference for not adopting her Hubby's name!
Why didn't zahra choose to adopt her mummy's name instead of her dad's name?

Please use your head for once,you are more intellectual than this!

You don't know the reasons behind not changing her name after marriage!
So don't come on nairaland and make assumptions without any substantial evidence!

Its obvious your likes have reading or comprehension issues!
Can't you see where the lady you are blindly defending said she won't adopt her Hubby's name?

its a choice and a discussion between two adults....
So what about okonjo iweala?
or Hilary Clinton?
Were they fools to have adopted their Hubby's names?

So let's say Trump married a billionaire's daughter,would she want to be addressed in her father's name or Hubby's name who happens to be the president?

pocohantas....i may not know you personally but your posts previously implies that you are more intelligent than this!


Like i told the lady,if you dont want to adopt your future hubby's name,the sensible thing to do is discus such with him!

If he agrees,everyone is good....if he disagrees,then let him move on to someone who sees nothing wrong with such!




I laugh in Latin...
I wish you knew the one you addressed as a poor man....
So much for hidding under a nickname in a faceless forum!

All this epistle. Triggered much?

Anyway, my point is simple. It works both ways. There are men who wouldn't want their wives to drop an influential name, same way some women would be quick to adopt an influential name. You dig?

I didn't call you a poor man o, I said poor man issue dey too much. That's general, not about you. I didn't support the idea of kids bearing multiple names either. Don't have a heart attack

Why will you call this frustrated women feminist?